Why do people think that the original couple is good?

First of all, most of the original couples are in their twenties and thirties when they get married, and most of them get married because of love. We know that marriage needs to be run-in, and if there is no initial love, it is difficult for people to tolerate.

Second, the original husband and wife have children, and they fight for their children and the family, and they have a common goal. Second marriage and third marriage are not bad, but we have indeed seen some bad cases, such as the case of Ms. Lai from Hangzhou, where the husband's son is not the wife's own, and the wife herself has a daughter. Then there will be two hearts between husband and wife, and the goal of struggle will not be unified.

In China, many people regard their children as a kind of spiritual sustenance, and if the object of spiritual sustenance between husband and wife is not unified, it is easy to cause conflicts. Why is the issue of the distribution of property among the rich always a big one? It is because each has its own selfishness that its goals and directions are not uniform.

Third, most of the original couples have been together since they were young and know each other well. Halfway out of the couple, it may take more time to get to know. What kind of character, what kind of living habits, etc., are unknown.

It is good to meet good people, and if you meet non-people, you may pay a considerable price.

1. We all know each other and are easy to communicate.

A friend of mine got divorced after his second marriage, and finally remarried his original partner. He said that after all, he and his ex-wife have been in love for almost 20 years now, and they know her personality, temper and other aspects very well. The two of them don't have to hide when they are together, they just say what they have, and they are not tired.

It is true that many divorced people only think about the benefits of each other after losing each other. When they are together, they always look at each other's shortcomings, and when the other party leaves and enters a new relationship, they find that everyone has different shortcomings. Because they haven't been together for a long time, they can't communicate together, and they can't even communicate, and they are even more unhappy with each other, and there is no happiness at all.

Some people also understand that divorce is just an escape from marital problems, and the real solution to marital problems is to communicate and exchange well. And the original partner has been with him for many years, and he knows and understands everything well. They are more honest with each other, and they invest less in time and emotional costs than getting to know each other again, so many people will feel that they are still a good match.

Many people feel that divorce is a relief for themselves, and when they want to divorce, they say that their original partner is very bad, and they can't wait to leave early and choose a new one that really suits them. However, after the real second marriage, you will find that there will be more troubles after the second marriage. For example, the problems of the children, the problems of the elderly of the two families, these things will appear soon after the second marriage.

After the second marriage, it is difficult to treat the children brought by the other party as their own, and if they are not handled well, there will be conflicts and affect the relationship between husband and wife. People who are married for the second time have experienced a marriage, they will be more realistic with each other, and they may also be careful about the treatment of the elderly on both sides, and if the old man does not approve of the daughter-in-law or son-in-law of the second marriage, it will be more troublesome to deal with family problems. As the saying goes, "the embankment of a thousand miles is destroyed in the anthill", contradictions are accumulated bit by bit, and after a long time, there will still be problems in marriage.

For the original partner, these problems basically do not exist, and what the two sides need to solve is more of some small contradictions in the past, and even the differences in personality complement each other. None of these problems are major obstacles to rebuilding the marital relationship.

Third, the original partner is more willing to share weal and woe.

The original husband and wife have been together for a longer time, and in the years they have lived together, the relationship between the two can be said to be deep-rooted. Even if something leads to divorce, it is difficult to forget each other in each other's hearts. Not long ago, I saw a news item on the Internet.

After a man made money, he couldn't look down on his original wife, he thought she was rustic and couldn't get on the stage, so he found a young and beautiful lover outside. When the original wife found out, she persuaded him to leave his lover on the grounds that the lover only took a fancy to his money and had no real feelings for him.

It must be the original couple!

After years of running-in between the original couple, they can trust each other, understand each other, care for each other, and tolerate each other, and the original couple also have their own children and joint property, which are not available to halfway couples.

Therefore, it is better to say that the husband and wife are still the original match.

It is said that young couples are old companions, and the reason why the original couple is good is because the age of the original couple is just right when they get married, and it is the time to talk about marriage, people's feelings are the most sincere in their 20s, and the two generally have experienced an unforgettable love, and then they walked into marriage hand in hand, and the relationship is naturally harmonious!

Why do people think that the original couple is good? This question is very simple, the original couple from acquaintance, love to marriage is the first time, even the first kiss, the first time to have sex are deeply memorable, it can be said that the original couple is the other half of your life, has been fused with your blood. The original husband and wife live together after marriage, have children, whether they are poor or rich, they are in the same boat through thick and thin, heart to heart, and run this family together, it can be said that the husband and wife have become one, regardless of each other, a high degree of tacit understanding, a look and a movement can know what the other party means, what is said directly, never distracted, even if there is a quarrel, do not hold grudges, and lie down in the bed.

A hundred years of cultivation can be crossed in the same boat, and a thousand years of cultivation can be cultivated to sleep together, the original husband and wife are the fate of the past and present lives, and everyone should cherish it. Now the new generation of young people are pampered and raised, can't bear a little hardship, can't stand a little grievances, regard marriage as child's play, divorce without a word has become a social phenomenon, for people who are married for the second or multiple marriages, the happiness after marriage is different from your first marriage, the bitter and sweet only you know, so everyone should cherish their marriage, be responsible for love, family, children and themselves, and try not to take the road of divorce and remarriage. Except, of course, in exceptional circumstances.

1.Affectionate and deep.

Meet the best person at the most beautiful time, and the marriage at this time only considers the emotional factor, and will not be affected by external factors. Even if the two parties are not in the right household, they will be desperate for love, maybe it is best not to be consummated, but from the point of view of feelings, it is the purest.

2.Mutual children.

Children are the bond of the family, an indispensable and important factor in the relationship between the Vichy couple, and the cornerstone of a family's harmony and stability. Many couples who look like each other will make do with marriage for the sake of their children, and want to give their children a complete family without divorce. Such a situation may seem pitiful, but it is not unreasonable.

Sometimes couples are prone to impulsiveness when they quarrel, maybe the reason for the quarrel is very small and insignificant, if it is a couple or a couple without children, maybe they divorce on impulse. But having a child is different, for the sake of the child will tolerate each other, in fact, you should thank the child, because the divorce under impulse is not necessarily a heartfelt thought.

3.A common goal.

The children of the original husband and wife are common, and they will not have any selfishness when they love their children, and halfway couples want to be better for their children. The elderly on both sides are also more recognized, especially from the perspective of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, reasonable mother-in-law will pay more attention to the original daughter-in-law, because after all, she is the child's own mother.

Therefore, the original couple has the best emotional marriage foundation, as long as they live a good life, no halfway couple can compare to the original partner.

In this era of higher and higher divorce rates, there are more and more cases of discord in marriage, and many couples choose to divorce after getting married, and then find another person to choose a second marriage. In fact, it is very easy to decide to divorce, and it is very simple to find a second marriage, but many people may find that after the divorce and then choose a second marriage, they often always think about the good of the original couple, and over time, their second marriage family is not particularly happy. So why is the husband and wife still the original match, let me analyze them one by one!

1. We have experienced a lot together and understand each other better.

The original husband and wife must have gotten along with each other when they were young, understood together, and came over step by step. The person I recognized when I was young must have my own reasons. That's a person who has experienced ups and downs together, and a person who has always been with him in times of adversity, how can he be willing to give up easily?

Even if he remarries, the other party has not really made friends with him, and the person who really has a heart with him is still the original partner.

Second, preconceived thoughts, always think of each other in some things in the future.

Most people actually have preconceived ideas, and remarriage is never the original match. People who have lived together for so many years, suddenly change a person, they will always feel uncomfortable, the two have experienced so many things together, maybe I don't know which little thing accidentally evokes my memories, and I remember all kinds of times with the original partner. No matter how unhappy the two were before the divorce, but after a long time, after leaving each other, only each other's good can be remembered.

When the family with the original partner is established, the living interests of the two people are always one, whether it is the living expenses of the two people, or the social circle of the two people, they are gradually integrated. Imagine if you take each other to see your former friends again after your second marriage, that kind of scene feels embarrassing to think about. It's not just friends, if two people still have children, then because the life of the two children is inseparable, the child flows with the blood of the two people, connecting the father and the mother, just raising the child, it is impossible for the two people to completely break off the connection.

Even if it's for the sake of the child, it should be the original match.

It is undeniable that many people always pay and invest the most in the first marriage, and many people should hope that their marriage can have a result, and no one wants their marriage to be divorced. In fact, many times when marriage comes to an end, it is not that two people don't love each other, but that two people don't know how to manage this marriage.

In fact, this problem is not very difficult, for example, why many people are hard to forget a truth about their first love, the reason why people think that the original couple is good is actually more that many people's first time is experienced with the original partner of him (her), such as the first engagement, the first marriage, the first time and another person who is not related by blood to establish a family, etc., these experiences are unique and difficult to replace, regardless of whether the two of the original couples go to the end with each other, The other half will be an indelible mark on your life!

1.Most of the first marriages are shadows of their future marriages.

Some people may wonder why after I broke up with my first boyfriend, every person of the opposite sex I met after that, especially the opposite sex that I had a crush on, had more or less similarities with my ex? Because your own personality traits are fixed, and the other party can make you interested, it must be that the other party has some special shining points that will attract your attention, so after many people come out of the first marriage, most of the marriage partners they are looking for will have similar things in common with their original partners.

2.Some people are very chic when they get divorced, and they only feel the pain after the divorce.

First marriage is like first love, since you can come together, the other party must have some advantages, when you fall in love, your eyes are full of each other's shining points, it seems that you can't find fault, but after marriage, a long time to get along, plus the firewood, rice, oil and salt of married life, as well as various contradictions and conflicts, resulting in many couples impulsively choose to divorce, but divorce is not only a temporary relief, the choice made under impulse, many people will regret it after calming down, But adults must bear the consequences of their choices, and since they have chosen to divorce, many times even if they regret it, there is no room for recovery.

3.The relationship is more complicated than the second marriage and the first marriage.

Many people who have experienced a second marriage will complain that life after marriage has become a mess, it is good to have no children in the first marriage, if there are children in the first marriage, most of them will not have the time and energy to take care of the child in the first marriage after the second marriage, if the child is not brought with him, this child is no different from the child of "other people's family", because he has re-formed a family, and it is very likely that he will have his second child in the future, whether he wants to or not, no matter how much he feels indebted to the child, Not being able to be there for your child has become an unchangeable fact.

4.Will a marriage that is about to be made for the sake of children really be happy?

Many people will persuade you when you choose to divorce, the husband and wife are still the original match, and if you have children, don't choose divorce easily, otherwise the children will be very pitiful, but the people who persuade you don't know what your life is like, and they don't know what you've experienced, they can't empathize with you, if a marriage makes you tortured, you can't feel happiness and warmth, just for the sake of the children and hard support, this is irresponsible for your own life, you can't love yourself, who else can you expect to love yourself? I am not happy in a marriage, and it is difficult for my children to grow up happily in this atmosphere!