What kind of life do boys who lack the company of their fathers often have when they grow up?

In daily life, we will always see many families full of fathers are very strict with their children, especially for boys in the family, will be more strict, in fact, everyone knows that this is actually for the good of children, but many children are still young, do not understand their father's good intentions, they feel that their father is fierce, sometimes, this kind of love of the father is difficult to understand and accept, children usually prefer to be intimate with their mothers, and their fathers have been distancing, if such things can not be changedWith the continuous growth of the child, the relationship between father and son will only become more rusty, endangering the relationship between parents and children.

1. Lack of security.

Children who lack the company of their fathers since they were young feel that they are different from others and are not as good as others, and they will always be careful when they are with their fathers, for fear that they will not do well enough and anger their fathers. Even if you are bullied by others outside, you don't dare to let your father understand when you go home, for fear of being noisy by your father, after a long time, the child's personality is easy to become more and more silent, unconfident, lack of self-confidence, and also has very little guts, and even communicate with others will be very passive.

2. Lack of sense of mission.

Although in most cases, the mother is the first to educate the children, but the father also has to participate, and not only to increase participation, but more importantly, to let the boy learn from the father what is the responsibility, if the child is young, lack the company of the father, but also rarely experience the effectiveness of the father, let alone the responsibility of the father. When children grow up, it is very easy to lack these aspects of themselves.

3. Harmful ways of thinking.

There is a big difference in the way of thinking of children who are close to their fathers and those who are close to their mothers, and because the ways of thinking of women and men are very different, there is also a big difference in the way of cultural education of children. Some boys belong to the typical "treasure mother" men, who like to stay with their mothers when they are young, and many of their own things are solved by their mothers, so that boys lack the exercise they should have, and their temperament will become very soft, and even some weak, they will lack the independence and robustness that boys should have, and they may also have the characteristics of many girls.

Generally, children grow up insecure and have no sense of responsibility, and at the same time, children will become inferior.

If you lack the company of your father, you may be very insecure when you grow up, you will lack a sense of responsibility, and you will lack courage when you encounter some things.

Summary. A boy who has been without his father's company for a long time needs his father's company, and the material aspect is not very important, but such a boy needs his father's time to spend time with him.

Hello, glad to answer for you. A boy who has been without his father's company for a long time needs his father's company, and the material aspect is not very important, but such a boy needs his father's time to spend time with him.

I just want to know what's missing in his heart.

He's an adult now.

And I wondered what the effects of that childhood would have on his whole psyche.

Not necessarily, he lacks father's love, some people will be more withdrawn, sometimes they will be more inferior, but this depends on the person.

Not everyone has psychological defects, but children who are not accompanied by their fathers tend to be more withdrawn.

In fact, when he grows up, he still needs his father's love. Have time to spend more time with him.

Lack of basic judgment about feelings.

Without the guidance and education of father's love, boys grow up alone in the process of growing up, and it is easy to lose their sense of responsibility and responsibility. Boys don't even have a basic judgment about the opposite sex, and they don't care about the people they really like. Girls lack fatherly love, and when they grow up, it is too easy to teach their hearts, and they like to find men who are older than themselves, and it is best to be as mature and stable as their fathers.

Girls will lose their minds in their relationships, and when they meet someone who is good to them, they don't even care about the basic requirements, they are very humble, and they beg to love in vain. Once you meet a scumbag, you will fall into a relationship and become a victim without knowing it. Girls don't know how to distinguish the opposite sex, and in the end, only themselves will be hurt.

Affect the child's own personality.

Father's love is as important as mother's love, and now the role of fathers in the family is playing an increasingly busy image, and many fathers are busy with work and forget to accompany their families. Fathers can influence the character of their children. Boys will be less masculine if they don't have their father's play and education in life, they will stick to their mothers, and they will lose their masculinity.

Girls who lack fatherly love will be special little girls, afraid and afraid of everything. There is also the possibility of becoming a female man-like personality, who can do everything by himself and does not need a boy. This will affect the child's determination to fall in love and enter the palace of marriage in the future.

Children with father's love will be able to face everything more bravely when they grow up, and they will not be afraid to do things when they think of their father's encouragement.

Exhibits social phobia.

Children who lack fatherly love will have a social phobia mentality because they are not used to being different from others. The little friends are all in a happy family, and the child will think that he is the only one in such a situation, and he will automatically draw a line with others. Children are afraid to establish friendly relationships with others in their hearts, and they will have a scared mentality.

Children will have no sense of trust in people, it is difficult to make close friends, and they have a strong sense of defensiveness and defensiveness. When such a child grows up, life is very hard, once he is betrayed, he can't stand the blow, and he feels very distressed to see it. There will even be a desire to attack, which is caused by the shadow of the child when he was a child.

Indifference in heart. Some people look like ordinary people, and they can communicate with people quickly, but they are wearing thick armor inside, and no one can walk into their hearts. On the outside, he looks very enthusiastic, but on the inside, he is extremely indifferent, he doesn't care about other people's feelings, he thinks that other people's things can't do with him, and he has a very negative attitude towards his feelings. This is due to the fact that when I was a child, I didn't have my father's company, and when I grew up, I didn't think I needed my father's love.

Such a person has a strong heart and looks very strong, but he lacks some warmth and human touch. Everyone wants to be a pure and kind person, but childhood experiences will affect people's lives, and what is hidden in the heart cannot be erased.

Lack of father's love will lead to timidity, cowardice, low self-esteem and sensitivity. Because the father is the decisive factor in the sense of responsibility and pattern of this family.

Children who lack the company of their fathers from an early age are prone to defects such as being overthinking, lacking responsibility, having a cowardly personality, and lacking a sense of security. Thoughtfulness is due to the absence of a father to set an open-minded example for the child, and insecurity is due to the child's psychological perception that his family is flawed.

Without father's love since childhood, these children are particularly lonely. Maybe it's a lonely personality and it's not easy to get along with.

Sissy ......Easily irritable and selfish.

The father plays a dignified image in the family. The masculinity of a family lies in the man, and if the family has no father, it is easy for the child to develop a sissy nature, like to play with girls, and is afraid of rude games.

My mother said that the one in the family who sings red face and the other who sings white face is usually the father, and if the family does not have a father, the child has no one to deter him. Because the mother is ashamed of the child, she will give the child endless doting, causing the child to be irritable and selfish.

The role of the father in the family is often to earn money to support the family, while the mother is more to accompany the children and take care of the family, so many children grow up in the company of their mothers, and their first reaction when they encounter things is their mother. Many fathers do not have time to spend with their children even at home, they would rather look at their phones or computers than spend more time with their children. Such a lack of father's love in the family will actually have a certain impact on the child, and the child will more or less have some abnormal phenomena when he grows up, which is manifested as follows:

Children who are weak and do not have their father's company will be weaker in character, because they spend most of their time with their mothers, and their interests and hobbies will also change, they will not like the sports that boys usually like to play, such as basketball, football, models, etc., but will be very interested in the picturesque paintings and handicrafts that girls like. There is no boy's spirit in character.,When you encounter difficulties, you choose to escape.,There's no boy's resolute character.。

Some children do not have contact with their fathers for a long time, but with their mothers, so they will like their mothers more, and in their subconscious they will feel that their mothers are the best, so they will exclude all men, and even do not want to have too much communication with men. Some children are serious and even develop a mother-love complex, believing that their mother is the best person in the world for them.

The influence of marriage and love This situation will also have a certain impact on the children's view of marriage and love when they grow up, and they will not have too much sense of responsibility for the family under the influence of their fathers, and they will not take the initiative to care about their children when facing their children, but attribute all this to the responsibilities and obligations of the wife.

In short, parents are indispensable and important people in the growth of their children, as parents, in addition to work, you should find more time to spend with your children, after all, companionship is priceless.

Children who don't have their father's company grow up different, because every child's personality and experience are different, and the environment is important. For example, some people will instill in their children that a father is working hard to earn money for the family, and the child will love his father carefully, worship his father, and take his father as an example. There are also children who have become distorted because of the lack of their father's company.

Five-year-old parents still spend more time with their children, because only by accompanying them can they know that the child corrects him when he is wrong.

Usually these children are insecure, the whole person is very inferior, and the personality is more introverted, which still has a great impact on the children's hearts.

More independent, such children are more likely to face difficulties, will not be easily defeated, and have a masculine heart.