When children ask questions about life and death, how can parents not make their children sad?

When a child asks a parent a question about death, such as "Will I die?" "Are you going to die? "We want to give our children the truth, and we can tell them" that will be a long time later.

When children are afraid of death or disaster, this is also a normal way for them to adjust their mindset, and parents do not need to be too anxious. If parents are too anxious at this time, it will increase the child's stress, and the uncontrollable serious consequences of the matter will increase the child's worry and fear.

If parents contempt or even ridicule their children's worries, they will prevent their children from expressing and venting their normal emotions, and even misunderstand them as their parents' neglect of them, resulting in a lack of sense of security, resulting in a large number of behavioral problems and emotional problems. Because the children's understanding of death is not clear and mature enough, they only regard death as a temporary parting, or even reciprocating, but the resulting dependence on true love and their concerns about the sense of security of love will confuse their hearts for a long time, and even affect their life and emotional development. When children touch death, they express their worries and doubts with worry and sobbing.

Therefore, showing children thought-provoking scenes of death or disaster is equivalent to watching a thriller movie, which will have a significant impact on the child's young heart, and even hinder the normal growth of the child's thinking. Parents should help their children to relieve their restlessness and fear. When a child is agitated and frightened in response to death or disaster, parents should carefully soothe their child's emotions.

Parents should pay attention to the expression of feelings when expressing worry and fear, such as holding the child, patiently listening to him express his emotions, and resolutely and firmly informing the child that no matter what happens, parents will be with you, never leave behind and never give up.

When children receive an unquestionable response from us, even if they can't completely clear their worries, they can be soothed, their sense of security is enhanced, and the negative effects will diminish over time. The sincere and valued communication we have with our children will not only help them truly understand death, but also help them to have a clear mind. When children grow up and can thoroughly understand the definition of death, they are better able to understand and face the process of life.

Gradually, children will understand that life is full of care, and that they should be brave and tenacious. Because death is a part of life, life is more worth cherishing, and feelings are more worth cherishing.

Parents can make up a beautiful fairy tale and tell their children that the dead have become stars in the sky, so that the children will not be very sad.

Parents can tell their children that even if they are dead, they will not leave their children, they will become air or become a star to accompany their children, and they will always be with their children.

Parents can tell their children that they have gone to a far away place after they died, and that place is also very beautiful, and comfort them with some stories.

In this case, parents should actively guide their children, and at the same time, parents should also tell their children the truth about life and death, and they must be direct, so that children can face the problems of life and death, and cultivate children's good three views.

There is no need to deliberately guide this, some children are just curious about death and do not understand the meaning of death.

Don't avoid talking about it, but talk to your child about the topic of death and death, and you can also find some cartoons to be with your child**.

When a child asks what death is, as a parent, teacher, or other elder, you should give a positive explanation, that is, tell the child that everyone's life has a beginning and will eventually end. This is a normal process. This is the law of life.

But we should not be afraid of children having this reaction, nor should we let them talk about the topic, or tell them about it. If so, the child's understanding of life is incomplete, incomplete, and even biased. When children encounter related problems in the future, they often choose to avoid or overdo it.

My wife and I combined the science picture books he had read before and told him that all living things on earth – plants, animals, including humans, are part of nature. As long as it is a living being, it will suffer from birth, old age, sickness, and death. Although they die, their lives will be changed into another form.

For example, in Grandpa's orchard, a small grass was eaten by grasshoppers, grasshoppers were eaten by chickens, chickens were eaten by wild cats, wild cats grew old, sick and died, and their carcasses were eaten by decomposers and turned into soil.

Human death is sometimes like falling leaves. Every year, countless leaves grow, fall, and turn into dirt. But one of the leaves, rot is rot, and the same leaf will never appear in the world.

Therefore, if we are leaves, we must cherish the sun, the wind, the rain and more. Everything in the strong season. When children are very young, they don't have a deep understanding of death.

In Chinese education, adults have always paid little attention to children"Death education"。I'm sure every child asks questions about death when they are young. Adults tend to answer children in this way.

They just fell asleep or left us to go far, far away. In fact, it is quite normal for children to be curious about life and death. As parents, before answering our children's questions, we must first clarify our views on death.

This question is actually easier to understand and easier to talk to your child。For example, the reason why children come into this world is because of the joint efforts of their parents, which is commonly said to come out of their mother's womb. If some parents are ashamed to express this question, then other examples can be used to explain it, such as the breeding of some animals, so that the child can understand the origin of life.

At first, the monster was a tangible, destructive, and aggressive monster, but after Ultraman's intervention and battle, eventually the monster became invisible and ceased to exist. It may be easier for the child to understand death in this way.

In order to prevent the child from fearing death, we can also tell the child that some of the trees we have planted are still alive and well, but some have not continued to grow due to some factors and have died and withered. In these ways, children can also understand what death really means. In the beginning, some of the trees we plant or some of the plants that we plant, its death is tangible, it will become dry, it will not continue to grow, and over time, these small numbers will decay and differentiate, and eventually become the nourishment of some other plants, engaged in the news of this world.

In this way, children can also learn about death.

Look at the age of the child, if he is too young, you can tell him like a fairy tale, if the child is sensible and knows more or less these things, talk to him like an adult, but don't say it too scary, you can be tactful.

Parents can honestly tell their children that this is bound to happen, but it will be a long, long time later. It is precisely because of death that we should cherish the time we spend with our family and friends, and we should do things that we feel are meaningful. It is not bad to recognize the finiteness of life.

When you go out, you can tell your child more stories about it, and your child can let him express it in a way that he is willing to accept.

<> when children ask about life and death, parents should not show excessive nervousness and make children think that death is a very scary thing. If the child shows worry and sadness about death, the parents do not have the correct guidance, then the child will think that the parents ignore his feelings, causing the child to lose sense of security, and then there will be more emotional problems and psychological problems, the child is not able to have a clear understanding of death when he is young, they will think that death is only a temporary separation, if the parents will not guide the child correctly, then it will be troubled the child's mind for a long time. Even later in daily life and emotional development, anxiety and confusion can manifest.

It will even affect their daily life and emotional development, and will express their anxiety and confusion with worry and crying, so parents should guide their children reasonably.

When the child shows fear and anxiety in the face of death, parents should appease the child's emotions in time, parents can help the child understand the meaning of death through the withered and rotten fruit of the leaves, the child may be very sad about death, but let the child understand that this is the natural law of life, parents should not directly present the terrible death scene to the child, which will make the child feel afraid or even afraid of death in the face of death and even cause a shadow to the future life. In the face of death, parents should help soothe their children's emotions and let them understand that the real meaning of death is not to leave, but to live in everyone's hearts.

When children grow up and can understand the concept of death, they will truly understand that death is a part of life, because life is only once, so time will be more precious, and the feelings between people will be more cherished.

You can create a beautiful fairy tale for your child, telling your child that these dead people have become a star and will watch everyone in the sky, so that the baby is not very sad and can also answer the baby's questions.

Parents want to tell the baby that if he dies, he will become a star, and when he looks up, he can see his dearest person, which can make the baby have a thought.

To answer this question patiently, to strengthen life education, we must let children know that life and death are not terrible, this is something that everyone will experience.

We can choose to tell our children in a complete way that people will go through it, and tell them that they do not choose to leave, but only accompany them in another way.

What should parents do if ignorant children ask questions about life and death? Personally, I believe that this kind of issue should respect traditional culture, especially for the next generation of young children. As elders, they should have philosophical wisdom on issues of life and death to inspire their children.

Li Lun": The burial is decorated with the living, like the living is sent, death is like life, death is like survival. The ancient Chinese believed that after death, people still live a life similar to the underworld.

The dead should be treated as the existence of things as if they were dead. Therefore, the mausoleum's grounds, underground structures, and everyday objects should be modeled after the world's model.

<> pay attention to the child's problems first, don't pass the buck to him, give the child enough patience, listen to the child repeatedly, don't have any judgment when listening, try to guide the child to describe his inner fear in words, and repeat it after the child has finished descripting. His native language resonated with him, "Oh, Mommy knows you're scared, what about you?"

You're afraid of death, you're afraid you'll never see your mother again.

At the same time, you must give the child physical comfort and let him feel the deep love of his mother for him at this time. It is to accept children's emotions and guide them to express their inner feelings. Let the child's sadness, sadness, loss and other emotions be vented, and do not put the pent-up emotions on the shelf, otherwise it will affect his future life.

My approach is to guide children to recall the loss of things, write an essay or poem, and read it aloud to express their nostalgia.

This can really be embarrassing for our parents. For example, there are two scenarios. One is that this death may just be fictional.

Our children hear from ** or other people's affairs. In this case, it may be easier for parents to explain. You can tell him that death is an end, that is, he will never move or speak again.

Probably this kind of death, the child will be summarized into many things, such as some small pet, even a flower, or even a person, then you can tell him, what he asks you, you will tell him. For example, the child may ask, can this dead thing still be made? You just tell him he is or isn't, and that's enough.

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Children under 3 years old.

For a child under the age of 3, the mind is limited to what he can see and touch, and without this range, he will not pay attention anymore. Therefore, the best way is to tell him that "this person or puppy is gone", because children at this age do not have a deep sense of life and death, and it is difficult to understand what death is.

Children aged 3-6 years.

At this age, children can only grasp these concepts superficially, you can say: "Just as in nature, the leaves of a tree turn from green to yellow and then wither, when a person's heart stops beating, he dies and his body stops moving." He will no longer move, he will no longer feel, he will not feel hunger, heat and cold; He will no longer walk, breathe, talk, or eat.

Parents should also tell their children that death is a very dangerous thing and irreversible, and they should cultivate their children's safety awareness.