How do I refuse to travel with my roommates? How do I refuse a roommate s request?

I think you can respond to your roommate's emotional statement with the same half-joking, half-serious, like, "I was in a hurry this time, and I will have a chance to go with you next time." Or maybe this time it's a friend who tells me that he has something to discuss with me in the past, and that next time we'll go out together and so on. Everyone is an adult and has their own freedom of movement, if you are willing to share your activities with them, it means that you have a good relationship, but it does not mean that you have to report to them what you go to.

On the premise of not hurting the other person, just do your own thing and make yourself happy.

You can explain to her that your recent situation is not particularly good, that you have no financial means to travel, or that you don't have time to travel together, or you can politely refuse her.

If you want to refuse to travel with your roommate, you can explain the situation to your roommate, saying that you don't have enough money, your family is financially poor, and you don't have the conditions to travel.

If you don't like to travel with friends, feel inconvenient, or don't want to go, just say that you can't spare time because you've been too busy with work lately, and you can just do it.

If you don't want to go on a trip with your roommates, the best thing to do is to say no, and if you refuse by lying, you'll be found out one day, and it will become embarrassing.

The best way is to go home, and at this time, you can not travel with your roommates. Or maybe you made an appointment with your classmates, or maybe I don't want to go where you're going.

You can politely refuse him for other reasons, such as when you're going to travel and you're going to have a reunion with your classmates, or if you're going home to see your parents.

If you don't want to travel with your roommates, it's very simple, just talk about what you have to do, you can't go, you don't have to go, without you, everyone is unhappy, just talk about it.

When I have something to do, and my roommate asks to travel with me, I often say that I have something, after all, the truth is a sign of respect for my roommate. But I think it's an unwise choice to refuse to travel with your roommates when you don't have anything to do.

I didn't want to travel with my roommate, and I didn't think I could tell her directly. You can slowly and appropriately explain to her the reason why I don't want to travel, and don't hurt my feelings.

How to skillfully reject a roommate is actually a college question, because everyone is under the same roof and spends a lot of time togetherIf the rejection is too direct, it will make it awkward for both people to get along; But if you blindly don't refuse, then others will think that you are easy to talk to, and you will continue to trouble you in the future, and it will also affect your daily life.

Then you might as well try the following methods to decline your roommate's request.

1.Make the right excuses

If you don't know how to say no head-on, then you must learn how to make the right excuses. An excuse doesn't have to mean lying. It's that you know, that's not the real reason.

A good excuse can not only make it reasonable for you to decline your roommate's request, but it will not ruin your relationship. You have made excuses to refuse many times, and you are silently telling her: you don't want to, don't trouble you in the future.

2. Explain the reason for rejection

When rejecting others, you must simply explain it to the other party, and don't be vague, otherwise it is easy to cause misunderstanding among others, or it will make others feel that there is room for things and do not hesitate to ask again.

If she lets you give it to herBring riceand you tell herYou don't go to the cafeteria or don't go back to the dorm after you go to the cafeteria.

IfShe calls you out to playYou can talk to herYou don't have time to prepare for something very important or you have made an appointment in advance, and you will go with her next time.

The most important thing about rejecting others isClear and directDon't drag your feet and make others think you're making excuses or hesitating.

3. Learn to refuse tactfully

When rejecting someone, if you can tactfully explain the reason and refuse with a tactful attitude, they will understand your sincerity.

So when you refuse, be able toBe smiling and dignified, so that others can feel your respect and politeness to herEven if you reject it, you can accept it gladly.

When your roommate asks you to do something, you can apologize and say, "Thank you for the invitation, but it's inconvenient right now." or"I'm sorry, I've been a bit busy lately and I can't help"。Then after rejecting the roommate,Give her some help in other ways to show your self-cultivation.

Conclusion:

Although it is difficult for many people to say no to others, they will feel embarrassed or embarrassed, butRejecting others is a compulsory course for everyone, after all, life is one's own, and no one is wronged. Your kindness is not the reason why others bully you!

In the dormitory, some roommates will ask others for all kinds of invitations, can you help me bring a meal? Can you help me get a takeaway? Can you help me get a courier?..

You want to refuse all kinds of requests, but you don't know how to refuse, so let me tell you how to refuse various requests from roommates in the dormitory?

This method, for most people, actually isNot very applicableIt is very unfriendly to social terrorists. But outright refusal isA very quick and easy way to do it, so to be able to reject that outrightBe sure to refuse outright

Be brave and learn to say no, there's nothing to be ashamed of, it may be a little difficult the first time, but it's good to experience it

I don't like to be a good personDon't force yourself！If you've been too embarrassed to refuseEvery time, I help others with an unhappy mood, that to yourselfNo benefit at all, not only no good, but also ifYour words have been helping them, they'll thinkThese are the things you should do, it willInch by inchAnything will come to youand your help every timeNot even once in exchange for their gratitude, soLearn to say no

Remember, you don't need to please everyoneMaybe if you are nice to them, they will say bad things about you in private！So don't please everyoneIf you are asked to do something you don't want to do, say it

And he said to them:I'm sorry, I don't really want to help you, you can find someone else！If they still want you to do it, you still stick to your own ideasDon't be soft-hearted and say yes

That's allSay no a few more times and they won't let you help again

Here's an example: you're going out and your roommate asks you to bring food.

Then you can lie to her, what to sayI don't have any money for my meal card, so you let someone else bring itbar. Or ratherI probably won't go back to my dorm or something.

This approach is specialApply the social phobia styleI don't recommend it this wayIf you want me to say, it's the method aboveIt is very good to refuse outright.

How did it feel to live with your classmates and college roommates? Did your roommate make any unreasonable requests to you? But you are too embarrassed to refuse others, so you can only bear it silently.

Next, the senior sister combined her own experience in college dormitory life to help the students summarize a set of methods. In this way, everyone will not offend anyone, and they will be able to refuse the unreasonable request of their roommate!

Don't always be so strong in front of your roommates. We need to learn to pretend to be weak! Why do your roommates come to you first whenever something happens?

It's because of your strength! Anything, you can do it. For example:

You will always be able to do the homework assigned by the school teacher very quickly. Some roommates, in this case, will refer to your homework, or copy it. If your student is having any of the above problems, you can tell your roommate that you haven't done your homework either.

Or rather, you're having something wrong in something and can't continue.

When your roommate asks for help, you will be embarrassed. You have to reassure him, otherwise it will be difficult for you to refuse. Now, you can talk to him!

You do things for him, and he will do things for you. If he won't help, you can also refuse.

If the other person speaks again, you will change your mind, which will only give you more choice, and you will not be responsible for you or others. On the contrary, it will affect their work and leave a bad impression on them. We often say no to other people's requests on the grounds that we need to think about it.

He did this in order to stall for time and make it difficult for his opponent to retreat. If you are not willing to say no to your face, then you must clearly tell him how long it will take to show your sincerity.

Summary

Senior sister wrote three methods above, all of which were summarized by my daily contact with my college roommates. If the roommate is really in trouble, we can help him within our means. But some roommates have the ability to do it themselves, and they have to seek help from others.

Sometimes, helping him will delay your own business, and I think you need to think about it!

As we all know, in the process of going to school, there are often situations where roommates trouble themselves, and they will also kidnap others with morality and ask themselves to help him do a lot of things. Therefore, you can directly refuse with words, or you can resist with words, so that you can effectively express your attitude. So what should we do to avoid our emotional friction and get along better with our roommates, I will give a few suggestions that I feel are more reasonable.

1. Speak out loud about yourself and your inner thoughtsLearn to say no

Precisely because you don't dare to directly refuse your roommate's request,So roommates will often ask you to bring meals and do other things often, and they won't even appreciate you for your actions。I think it's a very unfortunate thing, if you can't be confident, your relationship will not be equal, which means that your relationship itself is not as good as you think, and you don't have to help someone who won't thank you many times.

Second, find more things to make your time sufficient(This can directly dispel their unreasonable thoughts).

Don't always stay in the dormitory, do more activities in the dormitory, such as going out for self-study, sports, and parties in your spare time. In this way, you don't have the time and excuse to be used by others. If you're afraid that your relationship with your roommate will be too stalemate, you can invite them to join you so that your roommate relationship won't be too awkward.

Three,Learn to be independent(College is not like elementary school, a lone wolf goes alone).

No matter how you get along with others, there will always be people in this world who like you, and there will also be people who hate you. I think you need to be more courageous in your interpersonal interactions, and you don't have to suffer from these little things.

You must know that everyone's personality is different, so it is normal that there will definitely be some friction or things in the process of getting along with roommates during the boarding period. Because roommates need to run in, if they don't run in, then they can't get together。Even if you say no, it is nothing more than that others have not asked for help from you, which is also a result that you are more inclined to see.

Hello, I would like to share my views on how to say no to my roommates.

For students who have just come in from high school and are not very accustomed to the social circle of college, you may quickly adapt to the needs of others to the point that you can't help but say yes and respond in this direct, reflexive way. This process can happen so fast that you don't even realize that you don't have the time, the will to fulfill. Then you may feel like a suffering person, full of resentment towards the other person, and at the same time angry at yourself for blindly giving in.

So how can you tactfully refuse someone else's request?

First, see your rights clearly, we are all college students, there is no need to force others to owe anything, when you take care of all the activities, you may be in a state of "inferiority". As a result, being tacitly regarded as a very pleasing person, many freshmen are often invited by seniors to do all kinds of chores in our school, but everyone does not always have leisure and patience, and we must be optimistic about whether they have the conditions to work, and know it in our hearts. Is it important to understand this at the moment, will it be the best way to help, or can it really be mutually beneficial?

Second, make decisions objectively. Indeed, we inevitably feel pressured to make demands or reject others. Although most of the time, I don't take care of myself, and I have the right to ask or refuse, but when it comes to the end, I can't open my mouth, as if I have done something unseemly, and I am worried that I will be embarrassed to meet in the future.

I often say when I am recommended to coach in the training room: Coach, I'm sorry, I want to ask, if I want to try to change to another coach, will you mind? Of course, when someone asks you to bring something you can say, now I'm not available, if you don't have time to go, will you mind?

1: You can directly state your position. For example, if your roommate asks you to help him take the garbage, but he asks you to take it even though he doesn't take it himself, you can tell him directly that he has something to do and let him do it himself, and if he says that you will do it, you can just ignore him.

2: Don't be a "good old man" in the dormitory. For example, if you always do the hygiene of the dormitory or help them bring food and express delivery, it is reasonable to do it once or twice, but don't let yourself do this kind of thing excessively, you can directly tell them that they can't take their things, and they will work hard to get it themselves, don't worry about what your roommate will think of you, presumably your roommate will also know what you mean.

3: When you don't offend the interests of others, be yourself and live your own way!