How can universities refuse to have dinner parties that they don t really want to go?

One. Sick. Being sick is like taking time off work for anything, so college students have dinner and other things, and being sick is probably one of the best reasons.

Because no one has to force an invitation to a dinner party when they have already said that they are sick, it will be difficult for the student union to be strong. After all, sometimes you don't need someone to be there for a dinner party, like those at the bottom of the student union.

Take the student union of the senior college as an example, there are quite a lot of dinners. And the senior's roommate happens to work in the student union again, but he is just an ordinary officer, and every time he has a student union dinner, he will excuse himself from being sick, until he says the reason for his illness more than a dozen times, and the student union dinner has never invited him again. So if you don't want to go to the dinner, you can say you're sick

Two. There's something going on at home.

Come to dinner. I have something at home and need to go home, and I can't go there. Because it is at the university, it is necessary to use it as little as possible for the reason that there is something at home, after all, some students' homes may be far away from the school.

In fact, the department dinner of the student union is like a company dinner after work. If you go, you may not even be able to eat a meal, and there are many reasons: first, students will inevitably drink alcohol at dinner parties, and some people are still quite disgusting when they are advised to drink!

Secondly, it is necessary to hear a group of student leaders brag about themselves during the dinner. In the end, you may not have enough to eat in the end.

Just like the senior, because the roommate didn't want to attend the student union dinner, and said that he had something at home, he asked the senior to go to the student union dinner instead of him. After this time. The senior even dispelled the idea of joining the student union.

The senior, who has never participated in a student union activity, never thought that the student union dinner could be so annoying. In the past, I thought that the student union was all seniors and juniors, tolerating each other and having fun. After attending a student union dinner, I learned that after joining the student union, I don't know how many people slander you behind your back.

Three. Dinner in the dormitory.

It may not be a good idea to explain that you don't go to the student union because of the reason for the dormitory dinner, but if you really can't think of a reason, this reason is okay. After all, there must be a reason why you don't attend the dinner, right? At least give the student council some connections, right?

At the end of the day, you don't want to attend a student union dinner because you hear too many things you don't want to hear. Instead of that, why go to a dinner party by looking at other people's faces?

Four. No money. When you say you don't have the money to attend a dinner party, maybe some of the old members of the student council already understand what you mean.

It is estimated that the student union will not invite you to participate in any more dinners in the future. It's simple, because it's not because you don't have money, it's because you don't have money to show that you won't go to a student party.

In fact, many students refuse to have a student union dinner, and the reason they find is just a tactful expression to the student union, "I don't want to go to the dinner." Generally speaking, many seniors in the student union can understand. So it doesn't matter what the reason is, it's important to have a reason!

Now that you've said no, it's at least a sign that your relationship with your roommate isn't as good as wearing a pair of pants, and in that case, it's definitely not okay to say that you don't go, and it will make the gap between you even greater. If you want to reject them, you can keep yourself busy, or you can make them feel that you are busy, if you have the ability, you can participate in more school activities, because the subject did not make it clear whether he is a college student or a junior high school student, I will see it as a college student, there are a lot of activities in the university, and I personally recommend not to participate in any student union or the like (simple personal advice), and the rest of the competitions held by the colleges, as well as the competitions held by the Ministry of Education, are all a handful, if you have the ability, Why not take a few more? Try to stay in the dormitory as little as possible, the dormitory is generally a grave of college students' willpower, go out and see if it is beneficial or harmless for you, and there is also a volunteer team, which is usually less than usual, only once or twice a semester.

So when you want to reject someone, you can say that I have some such and such activity tonight, I can't go, you guys can go, and then go to the library to read a book, walk around the campus, go to the playground for a three-kilometer run, and then go back to the dormitory to take a shower, aren't these all good?

1.First of all, if you want to have a good relationship with your classmates at school, and if you want to make more friends, you must go, if you don't go many times, you may have the impression of being unsociable in the minds of your classmates, but if you really don't want to go, it's okay, just find a good reason.

2.If it is a boy, he says that he wants to go back to date his girlfriend or go shopping, so that he can not only politely refuse, but also establish a warm image of a man in front of his classmates.

3.If you are a girl, you can also use the same reason, saying that you are dating a boyfriend or going shopping with your girlfriends, etc.

4.If the classmates have said hello in advance for the dinner, it is a dinner party after leisure, just say that they have not finished the work at hand, they can't delay, and they need to work overtime to complete it, otherwise the dinner party will be absent-minded, I believe you will still understand.

5.In addition, it can also be said that one of my classmates is passing by casually to find her, and he has to pick her up at the train station after work, so he can't go to dinner.

6.In the end, if you really don't want to go, you will say that you are a little uncomfortable and inconvenient to go, which is also the most direct reason.

First of all, you have to pay attention to your attitude, if you really don't want to go, then just refuse, I'm sorry, I'm going to self-study, and I say it directly with an excuse like this.

Secondly, it depends on who the person at the dinner is, there are generally two kinds of best not to refuse, the relationship is particularly good with you, the relationship is particularly good, the relationship is not difficult, and there is no pressure to go; For example, the class leader and guide you use, the relationship between private messages and dinners will be much closer, and many things will be easier to do.

Finally, if you just don't want to go, and your personal feeling of "not wanting to" is particularly strong, then don't go, valuing your feelings and putting them into action is the beginning of being yourself, and the sooner you are yourself, the better.

1. Euphemistically said that he didn't want to go because there were things around him that he couldn't leave. According to your own situation, and explain your situation to others.

2. Euphemistically said that his parents are here and there is something urgent. Birthdays of family and friends.

3. Euphemistically indicate that you are sick and cannot participate in the activity.

4. Girls can say that they have their periods and it is inconvenient to participate in activities.

5. Euphemistically show that your work is not completed and you need to complete your work.

Saying that he didn't finish his homework, or that he would go home if he could get out of school, or that he had no appetite for the past two days.

Since you are sure not to go, you will block the other party with one sentence. Just say that there are other important things to deal with, I think you should be able to solve this, so I don't need to say more!

Let's just say that there is no time, college students have the ability to control their own time, if they continue to ask what you are doing, if you don't want to say it explicitly, then you say that you have homework to write, and you are not feeling well.

The dinner party between classmates can be directly informed, and it is easier for peers to communicate. There is no problem in refusing other dinners for the sake of studying.

You can directly refuse, or you can euphemistically say that you have an appointment before or for some other reason that you can't go.

There can be many excuses, such as a mess of being depressed lately. Have friends who need help etc.

You can't have time and look forward to getting back together next time.

The university doesn't want to eat with others, so it's good to politely refuse, saying that you still have something to do and can't eat together.

If you can't reject others cleanly and directly, then learn some skills, how to refuse others decently, such as in the face of some unreasonable requirements of the leader, the leader said, this month we are pushing a big ambush type of activity, at this time you are very tired, and you have other tasks to complete. Don't say it, I'm tired and have no energy, and at this time, the leader will definitely criticize you for not being self-motivated.

The spirit of struggle is not enough, and so on.

You can say, okay, in a few days I will seriously prepare specific implementation ideas to communicate with you, or rather, my hand work is full, if you transfer someone to me, we will run in, I think we can get started. The purpose of saying this is to change the goal for the leader, and in essence, it is to turn the unreasonable demand into an opportunity for rationalization. Call to change the goal, not the plan.

You can also use one, not to change the goal, to change the plan, which means to give the other party a new plan and show a constructive attitude, for example, the husband asks his wife to accompany him to socialize out of face. However, my wife doesn't like to socialize, and at the same time, I'm very tired, so I don't want to go, but the relationship between boyfriend and girlfriend, we can't just say no, or refuse directly.

However, you can say, I won't accompany you to dinner, and when you are almost over, I will drive to pick you up, so that you can play boldly and rest assured, or drink, and I will send you a gift for your friends by the way, and you can tell your buddies that my wife will come to pick me up later, so that you can have both face and chic.

Divide what the party is. Sometimes the party of the whole class may only be once a semester or even a year, so most people go, and as a chance for friendship and communication between classmates to increase feelings, you can go, if you don't go, it will also have a certain impact on the relationship with your classmates, and it will be very rusty.

But there are some club gatherings, or hometown gatherings, which may not have any substantive content, just for the sake of eating, drinking, and relaxing, then there is no need. After all, time, energy, and money are limited, so let's not take the unnecessary moral kidnapping of the so-called "not going to the group" to heart.

After all, college is a process of slowly transitioning from campus to social person, and you need to exercise yourself well, so this is also one of the ways to exercise, but pay attention to a degree, don't socialize for the sake of socializing!!

Personally, I don't think it's necessary, I can only say that university gatherings are a good place to make friends, but in fact, study still comes first.

If you don't want to go to some unnecessary occasions, you can find a suitable reason to refuse, but this consequence may be that others will never call you again in the future.

If it's a class or an organizational party, try to go if you can, because this stage is the time for you to meet people socially, don't say anything about useless socializing, if you don't go, how do you know that this is useless socializing? The class reunion is to make the classmates more familiar with each other, so that the friendship between the classmates is deeper, don't go, a few people are familiar, know who is who, you don't know any of them, when a familiar stranger, when the class does activities or needs to have something in the future, are you sure that others can think of you?

In addition, the organization of the party is to go, especially the school organization, in this party you can not only know the seniors, but also may communicate with the relevant tutors, whether it is the teacher or the seniors can give you a certain learning experience and life experience, after a long time, meet friends with your own interests (including seniors), wouldn't it be better.

In short, it's better to go to a party than to be alone in your dorm room with nothing to do.

There's no need, as long as you don't want to go, just say no, no reason is needed.

Since I don't want to, I'm not happy to go, what's the picture? Do you want to maintain a roommate relationship?

Your living expenses are not given to you by your roommate, and you will probably not see each other for the rest of your life after graduation, everyone is an independent individual, and if a relationship is built on the premise of ignoring your own feelings to satisfy others, it is meaningless.

If someone defines you just because you haven't eaten a meal, this kind of person is not worth touching at all. In short, if you like it, you can go generously if you want to, and if you don't like it, you can refuse it directly, there is no need or need, just be happy, and refusing will not hurt anyone.

Don't start. If you don't go again, it will hurt your feelings.

If you really don't want to go, then spend yourself by reading, studying, or working ,......In short, others see that you are busy with serious things, and they are embarrassed to force you harder.

Hello, just say it directly, it's nothing, it's not gone, hope.

The easiest thing in the world to find is an excuse, just find a reason, and if you don't go, you won't go.

Then stay at home, how comfortable it is to stay at home on such a hot day!

First of all, you don't have mental illness, don't think about yourself all day, you should go out more and make more friends. Sometimes friends can bring you a lot of joy, and you should try to socialize with people. You are not a special person, don't take your every move very seriously, in fact, few people care about you.

There is also a sense of accomplishment in raising a dog with the money you earn. You are not young and should find a partner of the opposite sex. I wish you a speedy success.

This is currently the biggest problem in student dormitories. It is recommended that you check your own living habits first, what do you not get along with your roommates? If you think they affect your sleep at night, it's not their fault, it's the fault of group life, you don't fit into group life!

If it's a hygiene issue, it's not their fault, it's that you're asking too much. The reason is the unfair division of labor in sanitation. If it's their physiology, it's not their fault, you have to be patient, it's a learning process ...... itselfIn short, I believe that the group life of the university is a process of learning and training in itself.

Don't worry, it's nothing when you get used to it.

You can go out less often.

But don't go out.

Always at home words.

You're going to get sick.

Case-by-case analysis. If it's just because of some small things, I don't think we need to move, and maybe there will be a solution to it. If the personality is really incompatible, it is recommended to move out and live.

They should take turns on duty, as it should be.

You can say this as much as you want, what's so difficult, what's there to worry about? You are the only one who can deeply understand and understand. There are some things that not everyone will have the same experience. Communication between people is important. It's good to understand each other.

My dear, your heart has consumed a lot of energy for this so-called Cold War, right? Mood affected all the time? But let me tell you a secret, all the people who have stayed in the house have had the experience of being awkward with their roommates!

The gap is only a difference in magnitude and approach. Let's take a look at the past, I think I've had similar feelings before, right? Can you still remember the cause and effect of that incident in the past?

Do you still feel the need to continue to hate and continue to struggle? I guess you can't remember those details clearly, maybe you only remember that there was one thing, there was one thing.