It s always going to be a mess of relationships, what s wrong?

It's always going to be a mess of interpersonal relationships, is there a problem?

There is a saying in China that "the mouth is cheap, but the power is loved". I don't know if I offend people by talking nonsense, and if you want to have a good relationship with people, you must be cautious about what you say. If you want to take advantage of others every day, it is impossible to be recognized.

Therefore, the second point is to be generous, to suffer more and lose less, to be active in work, and to help people as much as possible. Say more positive things, words that are conducive to unity, and happy topics. You are good to people, you respect people, you can't offend people, you make people happy and relaxed, do you say that interpersonal relationships will be bad?

The most taboo thing is to help people keep chattering and being angry, and these gangs have also offended people in vain. There are also many explanations for knowing that he was wrong and not admitting it. Therefore, you must also help sincerely, and actively bear the mistakes if you are wrong.

I helped people get three salaries on New Year's Day, and two days ago she took the initiative to help me go to work on the third day of the new year. I didn't lose any money for my work, and she still owes me favors, do you think she will not like a colleague like me? Will a person with a little conscience make you suffer?

The force is mutual, how much you give to others and how much people give to you, interpersonal relationships are not in people but in themselves. If you are good to people, they will be good to you. Plant melons and get melons, plant beans and get beans, have you ever seen a melon and get beans?

Therefore, it is true that Buddhism has cause and effect, but many people do not understand it, and they do not want to do it. Therefore, the six ancestors said that blessing is created by the heart, and if you don't change your mentality, you won't be able to change your interpersonal relationships. If I know that there is a problem and am willing to change it, I believe that fate can also be changed.

If a person's interpersonal relationship is always problematic, then this person is really a problem, usually there will be a little friction between friends, as long as there is a party more magnanimous, laugh at each other, the problem will be solved, if the interpersonal relationship is old and problematic this person has to reflect on it, you must have a problem yourself, you must change the bad side.

How to solve this problem? That is empathy, treat you as the other party, compare the other party to you, and you will suddenly realize that interpersonal relationships should get along like this!

Personally, I think it may be because of my personality, and I can try to write down my strengths and weaknesses on paper for an internal analysis and subsequent correction.

I think it may be due to the fact that you never trust others, you are always very suspicious when you get along with your friends, and you will not give your whole attention to your friends, or your communication skills are too poor and you are not very good at talking, and sometimes the words you say may cause your friends to be disgusted and thus become more and more alienated from you.

It may be your own thoughts, as well as the tone of your speech, your attitude, the logic of your language, and there is something wrong with your personality.

This is because the way I get along with others is not quite right, which is why this happens.

<> "Why I always put people together.

Bad relationship? The root cause of the problem is that you want too much from interpersonal relationships, you want to have a wide range of interpersonal relationships, but you don't have the excellent ability to attract others and create what others need, so the relationship will only become more chaotic.

Others want to be able to interact with very strong ability and strength, so as to improve themselves, and you can't provide these, so most people want to keep a distance from you, don't want to have too much to do with you, nod and say hello to the relationship of Lu Ji, but you want to be good to others, want to use your kindness to impress others, in your eyes it seems to be a good thing, in the eyes of others it is a troublesome thing, because others don't need your care, don't need your kindness, All your performance is a nuisance to others, in this case others will not treat you well, maybe belittle, ridicule you, ridicule you, sarcastic you, very impolite, will make you feel very annoyed, that is, the difference between subjective and objective. Subjectively, you feel that you are good to others, others should also appreciate and be good to you, objectively in the eyes of others you are a trouble, your existence is a trouble, your good to others is a trouble, you don't feel that you are a trouble, but other people's feelings are very sensitive, because others do not infiltrate the things they need to be in trouble, do you think about whether you need the care of the leader? Need.

Do you need the care of a beautiful woman? Need.

People who don't have any benefits to you care about you are very annoying, they want to scold people, they want to talk about their, and they come to ask questions, which is often the case in this society.

Why is there no good retribution for kindness? This kindness is just what you think is kindness, others don't think so, you care about others, others may think that this is gossip and chew your tongue, you are good to others, others feel that it is a burden to owe you favors, because you are not worthy of owing favors, so others are very annoyed and even hostile to you.

Can your kindness really produce good results? Not necessarily. Many things are supported by strength, leaders care about others because leaders can provide good jobs and better remuneration for others, and your concern for others will only increase the troubles of others, which is a simple thing.

Being good to yourself is always right, and being good to others is mostly incorrect, because you never know what others need, and even others themselves don't know, how can you be sure that others need your good? This is how relationships are handled.

To take yourself as the core, you must improve your business ability, improve your personality charm, earn more money, dress up more in your image, and let others take the initiative to deal with your relationship, so that this relationship can be handled well. Take the initiative to deal with relationships with others, and deal with them badly.

The logical relationship is clear, interpersonal relationships are usually like this, and if the interpersonal relationships are straightened out, the next thing is good.

<> "Ten Behaviors to Rotten Relationships."

Rotten the relationship:

1.Like to refute others: What is rebuttal? Refuting You must first deny his point of view before you can refute it, and these relationships of yours are all based on yourself to say that they are not necessarily suitable for the other party at the moment.

2.Speaking too straight: Speaking too straight is easy to offend people, it is not an exaggeration to say that it may be because of one of your words, others will hate you because of this, and speaking too straight is sometimes easy to destroy interpersonal relationships.

3.Complaining: No one wants to be with the person who complains, if you always talk about your misfortunes, the injustices you have encountered, the miserable dissatisfaction of life, and treat others as your emotional trash can, who wants to deal with you?

4.Greedy for cheap: always want to be greedy from friends, and feel that others should be good to him, this kind of person is selfish and does not know how to be grateful. Who wants to have a deep relationship with someone who is greedy for their own cheapness?

5.Criticizing others: pointing fingers at others' words and deeds, having no ability to distinguish between right and wrong, and jumping to conclusions, pointing at others' opinions, and criticizing others is very damaging to interpersonal relationships when the problem has not been clarified.

6.Too much talk: Any relationship is intimate, and self-righteous humor is actually a lack of basic respect for people. Too much talk is easy to offend people's bottom line and taboos, speak in proportion to the occasion, can't think of anything, but the brain is casually thrown out.

7.Don't talk about credit: people who don't talk about credit are also invisibly destroying interpersonal relationships, a person who doesn't talk about credit is not worth too much contact, just imagine who wants to stay with a person who doesn't talk about credit all day long, and people who don't talk about credit are first of all a person who is more selfish and selfish.

8.Disrespect for others: In the final analysis, true friendship is more based on strong respect, deep, long-lasting, strong friendship or friendship based on principle, respect, admiration and respect.

9.Make inappropriate jokes: Some people like to make jokes about others, but sometimes it is easy to hurt the self-esteem of others if they don't pay attention.

10.Excessive desire to control: Some people have a strong personality, but also more stubborn, like to dominate other people's thoughts and behaviors, do not consider the needs of others, and always ask others to do things with their own ideas and standards.

There is a sense of oppression towards others, and this kind of person is also easy to destroy interpersonal relationships.