What parents call their children affects the level of his emotional intelligence, what will a smart

If a mother is grumpy, unhappy, not very satisfied with everything, or cranky after giving birth to a baby, the mother will form a depressed parenting design style in the long run, and her child will naturally be entangled by a depressed mood, showing low emotional intelligence personality traits such as lack of self-confidence, negativity, and rejection, and the situation will also lead to the child's social disorders. As the first person encountered in the child's social development life, the mother plays an important role in the development of the child's personality, and the sorrow and happiness on the mother's face are directly related to the baby's emotions, thus affecting the cultivation of the child's personality.

Many unpleasant, restless and unhappy daily life are digested by themselves or at least hidden in front of the child's eyes, giving the child a proactive, cheerful and positive brand image, and each child has the essence of their own growth of power, ability and order, a pleasant parent-child interaction atmosphere is more likely to trigger the child's inner growth "good" needs, this kind of "good" needs stimulate the child's getting along, tolerance and giving the driving force, and the good quality is easier to produce in such a situation.

The experience of a child's growth requires a good environment, and the living environment here refers to the natural environment and ecological environment. In particular, the natural environment is more critical, because the people have the characteristics of social animals, children must get along with people in order to grow up physically and mentally healthy and happy, and the child's initial learning and training starts with the people around him, so from the moment the child is born, it is necessary to create a good educational circle for the child. The educational circle here is not cultural education in the narrow sense, but cultural education in the broad sense.

It includes the people that children come into contact with every day, the friends who play together every day, the living environment of daily life, and the parent-child early education, kindergartens, and colleges that they go to every day.

Every child has its own specialities, the mother should know how to find the child's talent from the child's daily speech and behavior, and pay close attention to this talent, if it has continuity, then it is necessary to cultivate, in this process, the mother should find the most reasonable way for the child's cognitive ability, this method to guide the child's learning and cognitive ability, if the mother uses the right way, the child's learning and training is fast and accurate, and the mother drives the child to easily save effort.

No matter how much the mother cherishes the child, she must remember a principle, unconditional love for the child, but this does not mean that everything must be used to the child, unconditional love and 100% obedience to the child is not the same thing, the mother's love is unprincipled, no matter how the child must love her child, but if there is a condition, the child is a piece of jade, and it must be carefully carved by the mother to become a tool. All in all, the child's dependence on the mother is relatively deep, the mother is happy that the child's cheeks will be filled with sweetness, the mother is unhappy, the child will be anxious, and the heart is insecure, so the mother's emotions have a great impact on the child, only a happy and happy mother can raise a child with high emotional intelligence.

1. He will be called by his full name in public.

In public places, especially when there is a parent-teacher conference, not only should you have contact with teachers and classmates, but also sit with the parents of your classmates, and mothers should pay special attention to what they call their children. It is best to call out the child's full name when speaking, so that the title not only respects the child, but also respects the other person's parents, and it is very formal.

2. In front of relatives or friends at home, you can directly call the child's name.

3. In private, parents can do everything they can to give him nicknames and endearments.

If you want your baby to have high emotional intelligence, it is very important to call your child, generally in public, she will call her full name directly, and she will also call her child's name in front of relatives and friends, but in private she will give him a nickname and a nickname.

A smart mother will tell her child well at any time, and she will teach her if she doesn't understand something, and she is always very enthusiastic about taking care of her child, and has a certain amount of affection.

Smart mothers usually call their babies positive for this phenomenon, which can better stimulate their children's emotional intelligence.

At present, many children's milk names are very cute and playful, such as "crystal dumplings", "green mang" and "lime", because these names sound very good, but it is not suitable to call children in public places. Especially in front of the children's eyes, calling the child's milk name like that will make the child very faceless and feel ashamed. It is very easy for children to be nicknamed by students and made fun of by others.

During the Chinese New Year, relatives and friends will get together, at this time, the child is still growing up, when interacting with the family of the elderly, parents can not call the child's full name, can get rid of the surname, so it sounds close and comfortable.

In addition, after hearing the parent's name, relatives and friends will also call the child by name with the parent, which can enhance the relationship between the child and relatives and friends and reduce the sense of alienation.

The child's milk name is from the parents, only the child's parents and close people understand, so there is no outsider phenomenon in private, parents can call the child's milk name, so the child will feel very close. If the child is sad and sad, parents can call the child by their name, which will also reduce the child's negative emotions, and the child will feel safe and dependent on the parent.

Every child will do something wrong, and when they do something wrong, parents should not call their children by their names or nicknames, which will make children not squeeze their sense of urgency. Parents should call their children by their full names and let them know the serious consequences of this incident, so that the next time the child is incorrect, the parent calls the child by his name and the child knows that he has already made a mistake.

The title should be "plastic arts"; The elderly in some areas like to call their children "little girl", "girl", "girl" and "boy", although this title sounds very kind, but it is likely to have a certain adverse effect on children. Many children find this title to sound cheesy, especially in front of outsiders. Therefore, when parents call their children, they should try to be "plastic arts", and they really don't know how to call them, so they can directly call their children by their nicknames.

I usually call the child by his nickname or manuscript baby at home, and call the child by his name when he is fighting outside. Parents with high emotional intelligence will call their children by their favorite names, and they will not call them casually depending on the occasion, giving their children self-confidence.

It is generally called the full name of the child's sweet potato. In public, it is more appropriate to call the full name; In front of relatives, call the child by removing the surname; In private, you can call the child's milk name; The child Shenzhou Hu made a mistake and called the child by his full name.

The main thing is to call the child's name and the baby's name. Parents with high emotional intelligence will call their children by their first names in front of outsiders and praise them appropriately.

Kiki has a 4-year-old son, the little guy is not only cute, but also has a very sweet mouth, and can make people laugh every time, and the favorite child is Kiki, because the child calls her "goddess mother" every day, every time I hear the child introduce himself like this, Kiki's heart is like a flower, and the smile is called a brilliant ah. Someone is curious about the relationship between Kiki and her son and asks her how she did it. Kiki said that because when she sent the baby to kindergarten, she called the child by her full name instead of her milk name, and the child began to call her a goddess.

To be honest, if the child can call the mother goddess from the heart, it means that the mother's emotional intelligence is not generally high, in fact, as long as the mother knows how to change the way to call the child on different occasions, you can become a goddess in the child's heart in a second.

1. Use nicknames in private

Mothers often give their children a nickname, some are very cute, some are funny, no matter which one it is, it is out of love for the child, it is to treat the child as the most unique baby in the world.

If you are called by your mother's nickname on some formal occasions, it may make your child's self-esteem frustrated, and it is more useful to call your child's nickname in private.

2. Titles without surnames

In some less formal occasions, the mother can directly call the child's name, but it does not have to be called by the first name and surname, so that the people present can leave an impression on the child's name, and secondly, it will not make the child feel uncomfortable.

3. Call the baby by his full name

In the hearts of many people, the most feared thing is that their mother will call their full name, because only when their mother is angry, they will call themselves like this. But in some cases, it is still necessary to call the child's full name, such as when going to the kindergarten to pick up the child's socks, the children rush out, just like the small spring shoots after the rain, so much to look at, at this time shouting the child's full name, you can let the child know the location of the mother. And if the child's nickname is called, it will make the child lose face in front of his classmates, and the whole class will know the child's nickname.

Calling the full name in public is called a child on the street, others will not care, this is called the name or the full name is actually not much to do, but the rent is when the contact with outsiders, the title should be paid attention to, such as the mother to the school to hold a parent-teacher conference, and the child's teachers and classmates when talking to the child's classmates to call the child, it is best to say the full name so that it will appear more thoughtful and more like the morning balance, the child will also feel recognized and respected, the child will be happier in his heart, will love his mother more, and from the behavior of the mother scum, Children will also know how to get along with others, and saying different things on different occasions is conducive to cultivating children's high emotional intelligence.

If it is in front of relatives and friends, it does not need to be so formal, but this sedan chair is not suitable for too intimacy at a time, and it is most appropriate to call the child's name. If you take your children to visit relatives and friends, it will not be too unkind and disrespectful, and everyone can adapt to Cong Qi very well.

Different lead imitation family Acacia diss call the baby by different names. For example, calling a child's full name in public. Call the child's name directly in front of relatives and friends. In private, he uses all kinds of endearments. than laughing, like a baby, a child, a good daughter, a baby, or something like that.

1.In families where both parents are timid and introverted, children often have low self-esteem and introverts. 2.

Families who often quarrel and vent their emotions indiscriminately often bring mental pressure to their children, and their children's personalities will also be irritable and extreme. 3.Parents who withdraw and like to shirk their responsibilities will also become timid and afraid of things, and will only evade.

Parents like to complain and blame others, parents like to swear, and parents always interrupt others, these three characteristics will make children learn to imitate.

I think that first of all, both parents are more timid, and then they often quarrel in front of their children, and they like to push the blame when they encounter things.

We often say: "The hand that pushes the cradle is also the hand that pushes the world", this sentence is not reasonable, the role of the mother to the child is irreplaceable, looking at the world, every successful great man has an excellent mother behind him, without exception, no bad mother can cultivate excellent talents.

That day, grandpa was sitting in the shade to rest, a child accidentally fell, grandpa quickly helped him up, unexpectedly the child not only did not express gratitude, but also yelled at him: "I don't want you to pull me, you are dirty, it's really annoying." Hearing the child's shouting, his mother hurried over, and the child hurriedly complained to his mother, "Mom, he helped me up, you take me home quickly, I want to take a bath."

The old man hurriedly explained that the boy's mother didn't even say thank you, glared at his grandfather and muttered, "It's true, fake positive."

I obviously saw that my grandfather's face was full of loss, in fact, I knew that grandpa was not a "dirty person", although the work content had to touch the garbage, but grandpa's clothes were always clean, and even in summer, he would not smell the sweat on his body. Obviously, the reason why the boy dislikes his grandfather is inseparable from his mother's attitude. We often say that the mother is the mirror of the child, and only when the mother has a correct view of the three things, the child will not go astray.

The story of "Mengzi's Mother Three Moves" is a good interpretation of this truth, Mencius died when he was very young, and his mother took care of Mencius alone, at the beginning, the mother and son lived not far from the cemetery, Mengzi's mother found that Mencius always learned to bow down and cry and mourn, so Mengzi's mother took Mencius to move to the vicinity of the market, but Mencius learned to bargain with the surrounding merchants, and even learned to kill chickens and slaughter geese, Mencius felt that this place would not help Mencius, so they moved again, this time, they moved near the school, Mencius began to understand politeness and knowledge, and Mengzi's mother finally settled here with peace of mind.

The reason why Mengzi's mother is willing to move her family for the sake of her children is so that Mencius can be a person who loves to read, and it is precisely because of Mengzi's mother's persistence that Mencius has become a generation of literary heroes and has been famous through the ages.

The interaction between the two generations is not only to cultivate feelings, but also to guide children to understand the world and treat the world in the right way, which is the capital of their world.

The three views are correct and the conduct is correct, which is the most lofty bearing of people walking in the world. It is the happiest thing for a family to have a mother with three positive views, no matter what life is like, they always have a positive attitude, and this is already success. Therefore, if you want your child to become an excellent person, as a parent, you must not stop learning, constantly enrich yourself, and success will move closer to you step by step.