I want to get married with my boyfriend, and the man s family doesn t pay a bride price of 10,000 yu

Updated on society 2024-07-21
33 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-13

    Anyway, your boyfriend's ability is also a bit problematic.

    It's not discrimination, if you haven't saved money from your job until now, and you still owe money, is it owed in ** and used in?

    It's certainly your business to organize your little family, but there's an old saying that is always true.

    Poor couples mourn everything.

    Financial capacity directly affects the intimacy of the couple.

    I started by this because I thought it was the point.

    Even if it wasn't his father's 20,000, the part he owed was enough. If you want to say that you owe 40,000, I may support you a little, thinking that he is good to you, after all, people are not perfect.

    I know what you're trying to get for this question.

    Even if his father is willing to give, what if he is not willing to give? The difference is that if you are willing to give, you will be finished, and if you are not willing to give, you will be finished.

    You also said that according to his situation, it is possible to transfer money to his father, and if it is given by his father, isn't that also a loan? It's not that you have to pay it back, plus the debt mentioned above, how many years will it have to be repaid? Will you be responsible for the family's expenses in the future?

    Are you responsible for paying the mortgage? So he counts as living in your house for free? Your little family will only get poorer and poorer, and there is no sign of getting better.

    If you have children, you will be poorer, unless you don't want children in the last ten years.

    I'll assume that his father didn't give it, and in the end he didn't borrow money to give it. The two of you are still together, but his father will be old and he won't have to raise him?

    His father's son who remarried, when your father is old, must that son still be at the age of schooling, do you rely on him to support him? He didn't even have the ability to work himself. It is possible to ask your boyfriend to contribute some money to support him.

    He is now bringing a lot of burdens to marry you, sincerely it is not recommended to live with such a person, there are many cases, if a girl marries a boy in a "poverty alleviation" style, most boys will not cherish it, and they will not feel guilty that the other party has suffered with them. After all, the self-esteem of a big man is there, and if he bows his head, he will appear incompetent. What's more, you're so much different in age.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-12

    and boyfriend are getting married, if the man's family does not pay a bride price of 10,000 yuan, it depends on your feelings, if you really love each other, then these can not stop your feelings, but from the mother's point of view, I hope to ask for a bride price of 10,000 yuan, is to make your life better, that is to say, he asked for a bride price, he will not fall down at all, if you will, he will definitely be used as a gift, to marry in the past, so these things have to be told to the man, directly make it clear, None of this is what it feels like.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-11

    Hello, you said that you want a bride price of 10,000 yuan for the man's family, and the man's family doesn't even have a bride price of 10,000 yuan, in fact, you still have to think about your marriage in such a family, just to see if the man's family can afford you, the man's family doesn't even have a bride price of 10,000 yuan, which shows that you don't know the unknown in the man's house, so you should think about it.

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-10

    Since both of them are in difficulty, and now they have taken out a loan to buy a house, and the house is written in your name, so what are you concerned about? Think about it, if he didn't have this father, where would he go and ask for a bride price? The marriage law doesn't stipulate that there must be a bride price, does it?

    You are a single parent, and your mother will definitely be with you when you get married, and his father has remarried, so you will not live with his father. So aren't you looking for a son-in-law? Wouldn't it be nice for two people to work together after marriage, earn money to pay off the loan, and take good care of your mother together?

    Don't worry about the bride price, he probably won't be able to take it, otherwise he will take one of them.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-09

    It's not a sky-high bride price, if the man really cares about you, it's impossible to get 10,000 yuan. It is better to negotiate and settle it, and be cautious about marriage.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-08

    The child of a single-parent family lacks love, especially his father and a new family, and he doesn't want to give money to his son, if you have a good relationship, it doesn't matter if you give a bride price or not, the main thing is that your boyfriend is good to you, and the future will be the two of you, you don't care about the 10,000 yuan bride price, you should get married, get married, and live a good life after marriage!

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    I don't think you can count on it, and you still expect his father to give you a bride price in this situation? Your boyfriend owes money on his credit card, and it's also a nuisance. When you get married, you will also pay it back together.

    After getting married, it is impossible to divide it again, and you say that yours is his. It is advisable to think twice. If you are really going to get married, his credit card must not be available.

  8. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    In fact, even if you get married, you will not be very happy, because after marriage, it is oil, salt, sauce and vinegar, and your financial ability is not very good, your boyfriend owes too much, and you have a mortgage, which makes your economy even worse, not to mention having children, milk powder money, children's clothes and supplies, etc., and more importantly, the man does not want to pay a penny, I hope you can understand and think about it carefully before getting married. Marriage is not the same as the future. Thank you.

  9. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    I feel that in this case, you can't marry him, a man like this is not worth marrying him, and now this kind of society can't pay a bride price of 10,000 yuan, then your life will be very hard in the future, you can't say social reality, but at least your own parents raise you so much to give some, 10,000 yuan bride price is not much at all.

  10. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    You said that you want a bride price of 10,000 yuan for the man's family, and it is not more than 100,000 or 200,000 yuan, and even 10,000 yuan of the bride price, in fact, you still have to think about your marriage in such a family, and you want the bride price just to see if the man's family can afford you, and the man's family does not even pay a bride price of 10,000 yuan, which shows that your unknown in the man's family may be average, you should think about it.

  11. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    The bride price of 10,000 yuan is not much, and most people will follow this custom, since they want to get married, they can't care about this money, but his economic conditions are not good, and he can't count on his family, so it's best to negotiate with him and come up with some money for emergencies.

  12. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    If the man's family conditions are not good, he can charge less, but 10,000 yuan, if he really wants to marry you, he can't give up 10,000 yuan? Even if you spend 10,000 yuan, it's okay, it's not that you have money or not, you can live, but marriage is also consumption, 10,000 yuan, I think it's okay, just buy you a wedding gift.

  13. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    Hello, my boyfriend and I are about to get married, but the man's family doesn't even pay a bride price of 10,000 yuan, which means that the man's family doesn't pay attention to you at all, and you should consider whether to get married or not.

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    It is difficult to do anything as a single parent, but according to your description, this problem between the two of you is not too radical, the house is already in your name, which shows that he is sincere to you, and you seem to love him very much.

  15. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    Analyze the reasons why the man does not pay the bride price, if there is no money, it can be understood, but if there is money, it is another problem, at least not enough attention and respect, analyze the reasons, and then see through the essence of the problem.

  16. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    After reading your description, I feel that your boyfriend is very picky, marriage is a major event in life, you ask your boyfriend to give 10,000 dowry, he doesn't want to pay, he is a little too stingy, now giving 10,000 dowry is not much, giving a little dowry is also a heart, if he really doesn't want to give, you have to think about your relationship.

  17. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    If you really like him, don't worry about the bride price, after all, he doesn't have a good relationship with his father, and his father has formed a new family, and he doesn't care much about him, he is already very bitter, you should think about it from his point of view, there are things he really can't do.

  18. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    It doesn't matter if there is a bride price or not, and a bride price of 10,000 yuan can't buy any big gifts, so why bother? The key is that he should be good to you, caring and considerate of you is the happiness of marriage.

  19. Anonymous users2024-01-26

    It's not 10,000 yuan, this wife picked it up for nothing, if he owes so much money and you don't care, do you care about this? Another point to consider clearly, it is best to make a property agreement after marriage, otherwise you will have to bear the arrears together, and it will even affect the house.

  20. Anonymous users2024-01-25

    His family is just too poor. If you cherish and like him, get married, and don't worry about this money. It's easy to earn after marriage. Difficulties are temporary. You have to understand him.

  21. Anonymous users2024-01-24

    Is it very difficult to marry your boyfriend without 10,000 bride price, this depends on the family situation, if you can, it should be out, and this is also the two of you mother's family generally give back.

  22. Anonymous users2024-01-23

    There is no bride price, it is indeed unlucky, how many points, it is also a meaning, even if you borrow it, you don't want a dozen or two hundred thousand, just 10,000 yuan, alas.

    Maybe your boyfriend's family really can't come up with this 10,000 yuan, we outsiders, we don't know the situation of his family, and it's really not good to say anything, I just hope you can have a good chat, don't make too much trouble because of money.

  23. Anonymous users2024-01-22

    The two of you have a special family background and are not financially well-off, but you can only understand each other, be tolerant and considerate, and be good! The main two parties have feelings, slowly work hard, study, will change life, happy!

  24. Anonymous users2024-01-21

    The key is to look at the feelings of both parties, as long as the relationship is good, the bride price is secondary, and what you want to live is feelings, not money.

  25. Anonymous users2024-01-20

    This kind of firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea after marriage is to live a life, and you still owe so much, there will definitely be contradictions in the future! If you think about it, it doesn't matter! Husband and wife live a good life together! It doesn't matter if his dad is there, doesn't he have a son too?

  26. Anonymous users2024-01-19

    Now 10,000 yuan is not much, if the man can't take it out, then it means that the man is really in difficulty. Thank you for your understanding.

    People grow old and want their children to help them through their old age. Please don't say anything ruthless.

  27. Anonymous users2024-01-18

    My boyfriend is married to 10,000 yuan, the bride price is not out, this needs to depend on how the family is, 10,000 yuan should be paid is not much, this is symbolic of the south should be.

  28. Anonymous users2024-01-17

    This question should vary from person to person, and the general situation is that if the man has good conditions, the woman will not ask him for money, and ask for a bride price. Most of them are men, who are not in good condition, and are afraid that life will be difficult after marriage. If this is the case, it means that the man's ability is not enough, and even if he gives a part of the bride price, he will not have a good life in the future.

    If the man is very capable, he will not give it. If you don't give a bride price, you can live a good life in the future. So the bride price is not an important issue.

    Sometimes the bride price is more than just money. It is more respectful, caring and precious. What do I use to express my determination to spend my life with you?

    By mouth? No kidding. It's not a feudal society now, as long as you're willing to work hard, it's just a matter of more and less money.

    There's nothing wrong with getting married later. If you have struggled, you will cherish it more if you work hard.

    Believe me, girl, most of the things that are too easy to get will not be cherished. Loving you is not the only criterion for measuring the sincerity of a man, but it is the most direct criterion. If it really embarrass him, then embarrass him.

    If the man has money, but does not want to pay the bride price, he may not love the other person enough, then you should carefully consider leaving. If the man's family is not financially wealthy, and he still has a lot of bride price, then does the woman really love the man, the man borrowed a lot of money to marry you, gave the bride price, and finally got married, not the two of them have to pay it back together.

    In fact, I think the bride price should be given, and the specific amount should depend on the actual situation of the man's family. Since the two really love each other, it would be good if the bride price money meant it, and the specific amount should be discussed between the two or two families. It would be a pity if it ended up because of the bride price.

    The bride price is just a show of respect for the woman during the marriage process, and it is enough to mean it appropriately. If the parents of the woman want to encourage the man to struggle by asking for a bride price, I don't think it's necessary, after having a family, the responsible man will naturally work silently.

  29. Anonymous users2024-01-16

    You can choose to communicate with your family, and after your boyfriend's situation is explained, your family will need less bride price.

  30. Anonymous users2024-01-15

    You can go to communicate with your father and mother about the key liquid, and you need some bride price appropriately, or you can also tell your boyfriend that you want to take out a loan first, and the two of you will repay it together later.

  31. Anonymous users2024-01-14

    Personally, I think that if this is the case, then you can negotiate with your parents and ask them to lower the standard of bride price.

  32. Anonymous users2024-01-13

    You should have a good talk with your parents, and you should also ask your parents to reduce some of the bride price, and you should make some efforts.

  33. Anonymous users2024-01-12

    My boyfriend's family is very poor, and I can't get the bride price of 60,000, as long as two people really love each other, they should decisively choose to marry each other, after all, true love will break through all obstacles.

    Although my boyfriend's family is very poor now, it doesn't mean that he will be in this situation in the future, not to mention that a good material life needs to be created by himself. In the past, fathers used to improve their living conditions through their own efforts, and now life is much better than in the past, so you should believe that the other party will bring you happiness, and don't give up on the other party because of the bride price.

    Nowadays, most people will be unhappy because of the bride price when they get married, but as long as two people really like it, they should cherish the opportunity to be together, so that they will be happy in the end. Two people who love each other will overcome difficulties, will change the bad environment through their own efforts, and don't give up on each other easily because the other person is poor, which will definitely make you regret it. When you get married, you should choose someone who loves you and the person you love, so that you can be satisfied in this marriage and let yourself be used for true happiness.

    A person's background cannot be changed, and the boyfriend's family is very poor, which was brought to him by his parents, and he cannot be changed, and he must learn to accept it. If you love someone, you should learn to accept and respect each other's family and life, since you are about to get married, it means that you love each other enough, at this time, you should think more about each other, and do not disagree on the issue of bride price. Although 60,000 is not very stressful for most families, it cannot be generalized, and if you like a person, you should accept everything from the other person.

    To love someone, you should learn to accept each other's family background, and don't give up on each other when you get married, so that you will not be happy. To love someone, you should learn to tolerate and understand each other, so that the other party will know how to cherish yourself more and let yourself and happiness be firmly grasped.

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