is getting married, and the man s family is preparing a banquet for 60 tables, but my father disagre

This is negotiable, mainly depends on how you grasp the scale, you can talk about your thoughts with your father, and also talk to your father's thoughts with the man's family, to see how it can be appropriate, so it's good, the lights are not lit, the words are not clear, put everything on the table and discuss it together, or the man is worried about the woman, and the woman is worried about the man, then nothing can be done.

Hehe, like your father's situation, I really don't have anything to say, I can't say that money is wrong. The problem lies with your dad, why should people give you more money, and what the customs are, if your dad just wants to get you back more benefits, I think you really have to think about it.

Ay! Is there a need to hold so many banquets? If you have the ability to do it, what is your father worried about, the bride price was said before the bride price, and it was given before marriage, why are you worried about not giving the bride price, does your father think that the bride price money from the man is less.

Talk to your husband about the situation and let the parents of both parties negotiate, because marriage is not a matter of two people, but a union of two families.

Your question is simple. A matter of values. Once in a lifetime. What about the loss point. I'm too embarrassed to talk too much about anything else.

Have a good talk with the old people on both sides, and I believe they can understand.

Go and say to your father, "Do you only have money in your eyes and don't have me as a daughter?"

If you have the ability, you can come out by yourself, and it is not easy for your parents to bring you up. Depending on the situation, it is usually done by your parents, but if you have the financial ability, you can do it yourself, and my parents came out at that time.

If you are a man, you need to know the experience strength of your parents, if your financial strength is very good, don't care about it, theoretically it should be your parents.

It depends on your own economic situation, if you have money, you can do it yourself, if you don't have money, let your parents take it up, and when you have money, you will honor them!!

Are you a man or a woman?

Whoever has it is out, it's best not to gnaw at the old.

Then don't do it, it won't affect anything.

I've known my boyfriend for 4 years, and he was chasing me at the beginning, and I wasn't interested in him at that time, but I couldn't bear his constant pursuit, and I also felt that this person was very honest, so I agreed to him. This promise is four years.

I just graduated from college this year, and my parents often asked me to get married after college. I also told my boyfriend about the marriage, and he said he came home and told his parents. His parents said that it was okay, the children were not young, so let's end it.

Later, the date of discussion was set to get married on this year's National Day, and when it came to the bride price, there was a problem, and their family said that they could only take out 30,000 yuan as the bride price, and his brother was also preparing to get married on the National Day (saying that his brother's girlfriend's family must ask to get married on the National Day), and said that when the time came, he would only do his brother's banquet, and my boyfriend and I would not do it, saying that it would save trouble.

Actually, it's not that I don't know about his family's situation, his younger brother went out to work after graduating from junior high school, and he is just 20 years old this year, and his family still has some savings. His parents just took out all the money for his brother's marriage, which was not fair to me and my boyfriend at all.

So of course I'm not happy, and I've never heard of getting married without a banquet, unless it's two people eloping, and I haven't eloped with my boyfriend. In the end, I told my boyfriend that it was okay not to hold a banquet, and I asked my parents to do it at my house at that time, but later said that the bride price was only 20,000 yuan. Now I have been arguing with my boyfriend's family over the bride price.

It's a mockery, on such a matter of principle, as soon as you retreat, you will retreat again and again. The other party didn't know to accept it when he saw it, and the bride price of 30,000 yuan was said to be good, but seeing that I was willing to compromise without a banquet, I thought I was easy to handle, and now the already pitiful bride price has been discounted.

The man's family banquet is to show that he attaches importance to his daughter-in-law, if the banquet is saved, then they are spying on your bottom line. You have to show a resolute attitude: if you want to get married, you have to have a banquet! Otherwise, you will fall into passivity like me and let others bully.

Then don't marry him, he can't even give you the basics, and you won't be happy in the future, besides, the banquet is a sense of ceremony for marriage, and it is indispensable.

The banquet must be held, this is a symbol of your marriage, it is a very important ceremony, if your boyfriend has no money, then you also need to borrow money to hold a banquet with you, which is related to your future family status.

If you want a banquet, you must insist on holding a banquet, if their family is not even willing to pay for the banquet, you will be wronged in the future.

How normal it is to get married and not hold a banquet now, as long as the two of you love each other, you can both live a very happy life with or without a banquet.

Then don't do it, as long as two people can get married happily, other things are not important, don't care too much about these things.

In this case, you should communicate with the man well, discuss the solution, and if you can't reach a consensus, don't get married.

Then you won't marry him, marriage is a lifelong event, and you can't afford to do this kind of thing, so how will you live in the future.

It's understandable that you don't have money, if you're looking forward to the wedding party, then pay for it yourself, but if you don't look forward to it, it doesn't matter, if you don't do it, you won't do it.

Then don't do it, the banquet is just a superficial form, which is a waste of money and energy, it is better to keep this money for you to live a good life.

That's definitely not going to work, because people get married just once in their lives, and they have to hold a grand banquet.

It is best to be present, marriage is a very grand and happy event, both parents can come to show that they attach importance to this matter, and relatives and friends will also feel the hearts of their parents.

Are there a lot of banquets?

I don't know your wedding customs, but our local banquet is the most formal on the wedding night, and the parents of both parties are present. At noon, the bride and groom eat at the hostess's house, and the man's parents do not need to be present.

Of course, I learned from my friends that some places will put the main table at noon, and the banquet in the evening will be more casual.

In summary, the presence of both parents is only required at the formal banquet, and the requirements are not so strict at other times.

Are you going to get married? Congratulations.

When you get married, you have the most important day in your life, and your parents are the most important people, so you must come to every banquet. In the past, the mothers of married women did not need to go to the man, but now they do not exist, and their presence means recognition and blessing to both parties!

According to the local rules, follow the local customs, in principle, it should be like this, and the parents of both sides express their gratitude to the guests who have arrived.

According to my understanding of your words, it means that you don't invite your relatives and friends to celebrate the banquet, and you will be given 50,000 yuan directly.

Personally, I think it's better to set up a banquet and feel respected.

3 Of course, you should consider the man's family, even if you don't think about it, you should also consider your boyfriend's feelings and empathize with him.

Personally, I think that the wedding is not the more money, the better, the more beautiful, don't be too vain, the wedding values warm and romantic feelings. It is recommended that both sides discuss and discuss harmoniously.