Is it okay to go to the man s house for the New Year before he gets married?

Updated on society 2024-04-23
34 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-08

    Very good, it is considered to know the parents of both parties in advance, familiar with the family situation and family members of both parties in advance, I personally think this is a very necessary thing, if you find out that the other party's family is not as good as you imagined at this time, it is still too late to regret, if you wait until you get married, it will be too late!

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    I don't think it's good to go to my boyfriend's house for the New Year before I get married, even if it's the kind that I've been dating for many years and is about to get married, because after all, I'm not married, it's not officially settled, and it's good to go to the New Year's greetings after the New Year.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    If you are in the countryside, it is best not to go to the man's house for the New Year, because there may be gossip, and if you are in the city, it is okay to go to the man's house for the New Year.

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    I don't think it's good to go to the man's house for the New Year before getting married, because I still pay attention to etiquette during the relationship.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    I think there are both advantages and disadvantages to going to the man's house for the New Year before I get married, the advantage is that you can understand them better, and the disadvantage is that it is easy to be said bad things by others.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    Personally, I don't think it's good, you can choose to go in the New Year, so you can also get to know each other's family, and you won't let people gossip, after all, if you are not married, you still have to accompany your parents for the New Year!

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    It's not good, if you don't get married, pay attention to self-cleanliness, how many people don't even have a bride price because they live together first.

  8. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    It's not good, it will be looked down upon by the man, don't live in the man's house before you get married, don't live in the man's house even if they keep you, you want to leave, you can go to his house more to understand his family's character, observe the environment of his home more, girls still love themselves, in fact, the man's parents wish you didn't live in his house before you got married, and it won't damage their reputation, they have more than one son's girlfriend, but the girl is different, the price drops.

  9. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    Personally, I think this is normal. Because you always have to see your parents before you get married. This can also allow the woman to learn more about the situation in the man's family, after all, marrying is a lifelong problem, so I think it's okay to go and see the information in advance.

  10. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    It's not good, it will be ignored by the man's parents, and if you get pregnant, your mother-in-law and father-in-law won't pay attention to it, and it feels like you're in a hurry to get married, and it's sad that women still have to love themselves, and they can have sex before marriage, and they can't live in the man's house.

  11. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    It doesn't feel good, girls should be reserved, or accompany their parents on the pre-wedding festival, your parents are the people who love you the most in this life, after all, you have less time to accompany your parents after marriage, and many are still only children.

  12. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    If you are not married, don't go to the man's house for the New Year, so as not to be looked down upon by the man's family and relatives.

  13. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    Don't go to the man's house for the New Year if you are not married, if you want to know the situation, you can go after the New Year. I went on the fourth day of the first month and came back on the seventh day of the first month. It can be regarded as understanding the economic situation, customs and sophistication of their hometown.

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-26

    It's casual, I've been there. Later, my son and girlfriend came over for the New Year, the same family. Bringing her back for the New Year proves that she is recognized. I don't think there's anything wrong with that.

  15. Anonymous users2024-01-25

    It's okay to get engaged. Otherwise, it's a bit rash and vulnerable.

  16. Anonymous users2024-01-24

    If you are not engaged, don't go to the man's house for the New Year, you will only be looked down upon by the man, thinking that you are in a hurry to post upside down.

  17. Anonymous users2024-01-23

    Of course it's not good, if the name is not right, people will look down on the woman, and think that the woman is in a hurry to send it to the man's house.

  18. Anonymous users2024-01-22

    Go once to see his family's living habits, as well as his relatives and friends at home, after all, things gather people in groups. Good for yourself.

  19. Anonymous users2024-01-21

    If you don't get married, go to a fart, the New Year is a day for family reunions, what are you doing with a bar, besides, you have to help his mother with her work in the morning for the New Year, when do you want to get up at home, when is it not fragrant at home? Besides, the seven aunts and eight aunts in the family come and go during the Chinese New Year, are you not awkward or informal? Are you in a hurry to ask for a red envelope, it's not necessarily that you are engaged, your boyfriend and girlfriend will go to someone else for the New Year, what do you think.

  20. Anonymous users2024-01-20

    Even if you get married, you can accompany your parents for the New Year, and you can go to visit the New Year in the first month.

  21. Anonymous users2024-01-19

    It's okay to get engaged, otherwise don't go, there are always messy people who like to gossip.

  22. Anonymous users2024-01-18

    What a ghost, why should you go, why doesn't the man go to the woman's house for the New Year? The man is superior to others?

  23. Anonymous users2024-01-17

    I haven't gotten married and got a license this year, so I won't go if I am asked to go for the New Year.

  24. Anonymous users2024-01-16

    Whether it's good or not, what others say is useless, it mainly depends on what you think!

  25. Anonymous users2024-01-15

    There is a previous rule in my family, after getting engaged, I will go to the man's house for a year.

  26. Anonymous users2024-01-14

    You can go to the man's house to visit for the New Year, but you need to pay attention to the following points.

    1: You have to have money to go back, after all, you are just boyfriend and girlfriend, in a sense, there is no obligation and responsibility, so the necessary precautions still have to be had. At least I can see that the situation is not right, and there is a fare to go back, so I won't be particularly embarrassed.

    2: Prepare a little politeness according to your financial situation, never slap your swollen face and become fat, and don't go empty-handed, after all, it is the first time to go.

    3: Observe the living situation of the other party's house, if you can't be assigned a suitable bed, only live with your boyfriend, it is recommended not to spend the night at their house, and leave politely after eating.

    4: You and the man's family are equal, carefully observe the state of his family, and even have the conditions to record audio and video recordings appropriately, and take them back to their parents to analyze, the financial situation of the other party's family, cultural literacy, family atmosphere, and the personality of the future in-laws are all important indicators of whether to get married in the future. Don't be stupid.

    In fact, this is also a two-sided investigation, as long as you do: polite, enthusiastic, it's fine, no need to be careful to accommodate, after all, the right shoes are the most comfortable, otherwise, even if you deliberately shrink, the future may not be happy, or even more painful.

    Girl, show your courage, you are not a little pitiful begging for help, go to his house to inspect it generously.

  27. Anonymous users2024-01-13

    Approaching the Chinese New Year, many young couples in love will discuss whether to go to each other's house to pay New Year's greetings because they don't want to separate, and some want to leave a good impression on each other's parents in advance, but the two are not married after all, and some people wonder whether it is appropriate to go to the New Year. So if you are not married, should you go to the man's house for the New Year, and if you are not married, should you go to your boyfriend's house for the New Year?

    If you don't get married, you go to the man's house for the New Year, which actually depends on the situation. It is generally not recommended, because girls have hard work to raise themselves before they get married, whether it is in the Spring Festival or Mid-Autumn Festival, which means family reunion, they should be accompanied by their parents.

    After all, under the influence of traditional customs in our country, girls go to the man's house before they get married. Even better, the parents of both parties meet and have a definite relationship before they can decide what to do next. If the two parties are already engaged, going to the man's house to pay New Year's greetings during the New Year is also out of respect for each other, but try to avoid spending the night at the other party's house, and at the same time, prepare some hand gifts to avoid embarrassment.

    In the end, any relationship is a family affection, and only reasonable management can make this relationship go longer.

  28. Anonymous users2024-01-12

    I think it should still be, after all, after getting married, it will be a family, and it is also appropriate to go to the man's house, you are not married yet, go to the man's house, the man's parents will not say anything about you, after all, you still have to respect you, but if you go to the man's house, you must pay attention to politeness, don't talk nonsense, after all, it is the first time to go to the man's house, don't leave a bad impression on the man's house.

  29. Anonymous users2024-01-11

    It is best not to go to the man's house for the New Year if you are not married, but you can go to the New Year's greetings and walk around.

  30. Anonymous users2024-01-10

    It is best to spend the New Year at your own home, and after getting married, you will go to the man's house to celebrate the New Year.

  31. Anonymous users2024-01-09

    No.

    The importance of the sense of ritual lies in the fact that the parents officially meet to talk about marriage, and then they are justified, otherwise, the man's family still thinks how impatient you are. After all, I haven't gotten married yet, so my parents know how sad it is, and my daughter can't go home for the New Year, so it's not appropriate to go to her boyfriend's house for the New Year.

  32. Anonymous users2024-01-08

    As a person who has come over, my personal opinion is that it should not be.

    You can choose a few days to visit your boyfriend's house during the Spring Festival, but don't spend the New Year at his house, especially the Chinese New Year's Eve and the first day of the new year, don't stay at his house, it's not good. Although there is no special saying for this thing, it is a conventional thing, and girls who are not married should still spend the New Year at home with their parents.

    In fact, the most important thing about the New Year is the day of the Chinese New Year's Eve, which is the day of every family's reunion, and you should spend it at home with your parents. After the first year of junior high school, you can choose a day for your boyfriend to pick you up at your house and then visit him together.

    One thing to keep in mind hereBe sure your boyfriend comes to your house to pick you up

    This has two purposes: one is to let your parents take a look at your boyfriend, they are all from the past, and their ability to recognize people is stronger than yours, and you can see at a glance whether the boy is reliable or not; The second is to reassure your parents that their daughter was taken away by this boy and went to his house, and the safety of her daughter was entrusted to him, and there was someone to find if something happened or there was any problem.

    After doing these two things, you can go to your boyfriend's house with you and stay at his house for a few days to meet his parents.

    Although the distance between the two places is relatively long, it may take a lot of time to go back and forth on the road, but remember that try not to spend more than three days at your boyfriend's house, it is best to get to know each other on the first day, simply walk around the neighborhood on the second day, and thank his parents for their hospitality on the third day and go home.

    One more thing to keep in mind:No matter how far you and your boyfriend have developed, don't go to his house and don't share a room with him.

    This is a girl's minimum self-esteem and self-love, so that her future in-laws will not look down on you. Once you behave too affectionately and look reluctant to part with your boyfriend, then the future in-laws will think from the bottom of their hearts that you identify with their son and will no longer value you. If you run into that kind of unclear man's parents again, maybe they will start to calculate you from the bottom of their hearts from this time, and the bride price, ceremonies, etc. when they get married in the future will be perfunctory to you.

    Finally, the girl who is the subject is relatively simple at first glance, and she has not considered the human feelings involved in this matter at all. Of course, maybe your parents have been more fond of you since you were a child, and you don't understand this. So,It is recommended that you talk to your parents about these things first to see what their opinions are, and then it is not too late to make a decision.

  33. Anonymous users2024-01-07

    If you are not married, you can also go to your boyfriend's house for the New Year, but since the two people are not in the same city, you can agree that you can spend the New Year at your boyfriend's house, and then after the New Year, you can go to your house to visit the New Year, in this way, it can not only stabilize the relationship between the two parties, but also allow the two families to increase their communication.

  34. Anonymous users2024-01-06

    It depends. All of this is related to the man's three views and family quality, and it is also determined by the environment in which the man is located. If the man is from the countryside, I advise you not to go to the man's house for the New Year before you get the certificate, after all, the rural thinking is relatively old-fashioned, and you care a lot about the reputation of women.

    If you go without a license, people will think you are frivolous. If the man is urban, then it doesn't matter. After all, the city is more open-minded.

    If it is appropriate to be already engaged, if it is only in the love stage, it is recommended to go around the New Year, not on the same day. After all, Chinese New Year is a day of family reunion. Although you are a lover, you have not been through the door after all.

    He will treat you like a guest. And it's not just that you don't know it. His family was also uncomfortable.

    How can a relative in the family introduce you? I spent the New Year at my boyfriend's house before I got married. What others will think of you.

    Think you're frivolous and casual. So I'm not in favor. If you want to check it out.

    I went to see it once a year ago, and then came back.

    Question: I've been in love with my boyfriend for a year, and I want to go to my boyfriend's house for the New Year, but the concept of the rural family is problematic and I don't agree, unless the other party pays 10,000 yuan in bride price, so they have face. The boyfriend is temporarily more difficult, and if he can't take it out, the family will not agree, or even threaten, what should I do.

    It was the first time he had brought his girlfriend home, and his family and relatives and friends were eager to see me. And we already have plans to get married, but age is not enough. And the family is only willing to release the bride price when the money comes.

    What should I do if I have an outdated concept in my rural family, no one supports me, and even wants us to break up.

    Our children still have to listen to the elderly, and there is often a sentence that says that if you don't listen to the elderly, you will suffer in front of you, so you must listen to the parents first, and then develop the feelings of the two of you, and slowly persuade the parents.

    Question, but I think this kind of behavior has violated the law, they all say that they are free to fall in love and marry, not to mention that they are not allowed to extort money through marriage, and they cannot be connived at this kind of behavior.

    If you rely on them this time, there will only be more excessive demands in the future.

    When I am an adult, I should have my own judgment of behavior, and personal freedom cannot be restrained.

    Hello, your point of view is actually very correct, the collision of traditional concepts and new ideas at home, you now have to do a good job of calming the emotions of your family, their traditional thinking for a lifetime, will not be easily changed, but your boyfriend has to maintain it, now is not yet the age of marriage, I suggest that you can not meet this year, 10,000 yuan is not too much, and when you save enough 10,000 yuan, you can meet again next year. Hope it helps.

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