In love, why is it said that women can t be too proactive?

In love, why is it said that women can't be too proactive? Girls, you should be subtle, shy, don't act as if you have read countless people and know everything, no matter how much you love someone, don't show it, because girls should look like girls. Girls are too active, will make boys think that they are masters of emotional intelligence, and label you too cheap, men have an innate desire and responsibility to protect others, if you behave more directly than him, and simply, it will scare him.

If a girl is too active, it will make a man you are not worthy of letting him be so good to you, things that are too easy to get hold of, often will not be cherished, if he loves you, he will do everything to be good to you, knowing that it is not easy to get you, it will cost a lot, and it will definitely hurt you twice as much, so that you feel warm and happy!

Although now men and women are equal, love, to speak out loud, girls take the initiative and there are many happy cases, but I still don't approve of women being too active, because psychologically speaking, girls mature a little earlier than boys, sometimes, or let boys experience it, what you want to get, you must work hard. In short, no matter how much you love, girls should not have no dignity and no bottom line, you must let men take the initiative to show their love for you, but you, don't be too proud, you must know how to cherish the contribution of any party! Sometimes mature women have to take the initiative, for the fleeting opportunity should be shot when it is time to shoot, 26-year-old he just divorced bored and listless, he decided to travel to the capital to play a trip to relax, rural children did not bring much money to set off, the Great Wall, the old Summer Palace and other attractions for a few days, because there is not much money on the body, ready to go home to the station to buy a ticket, on the way to meet a child kneeling on the side of the road lost both arms, about 14 to 5 years old, he moved compassion, but he was shy.

While looking at the poor child while walking, walking past the old luck and looking at the child, and finally turned back and put it in front of the child in front of the begging bowl for two yuan before walking away, at this time a woman behind her witnessed the whole process, saw that the young man was a good person, and then followed up and walked up for a while and asked the young man to go there, the young man said to go to Shijiazhuang The young man asked you to **, it just so happened that we were on the same road and I also went to Shijiazhuang, you showed me the bag and I went to buy some East The young man said yes, just where to wait for you After a while, the two went to buy tickets. The two of them took a train and left each other a way to communicate and got off the train and broke up, and after returning home, the two of them got married, and the husband and wife had just divorced, and saw that this young man was a sympathetic and compassionate person, and he asked him to look at the bag to confirm that the young man was an honest person, if he didn't take the initiative, could he do it.

In this way, you can see the other person clearly, you can have a correct cognition, and you can also make the other party care about you very much, so that you can feel loved.

Because in love, women are too active, but it will make boys feel annoying, and boys don't like women who are too active.

Because if the girl takes the initiative, then let the boy take the initiative, and the boy will feel that you like him very much and will not cherish the relationship.

Because it's easy to lose value if you're too active.

1. Take the initiative or bury the skin to beg the man to love himself and not leave.

Love is never begging, which will only make your beloved him more disgusted. Even if you can move him one day, being together is not what you want, the so-called love!

2. Take the initiative to invite men to travel (and the like) in order to get along.

Being alone is a good time to warm up and develop the relationship, but if you go out for a long trip before you establish a relationship, it is easy for a man to think that you are frivolous, and don't let a man think that you are a very casual person.

3. Circling around him twenty-four hours a day, listening to his arrangement.

Don't go around a man every day, he will be annoyed with you, and he will feel that your time is worthless, that you have lost heart to him, and that he will feel bored with you. Don't listen to his arrangement in everything, have your own thoughts, learn to refuse, and have your own principles.

If you want to not be cheap in the relationship, you have to give him a little response in a timely manner, but you must have your own principles, your own independent space to do something to improve yourself, only excellent women are more attractive to men, because they know how to be self-disciplined.

Learn to improve yourself, make yourself radiant, and don't be a yellow-faced resentful woman who is grinded by life. To learn to grasp the number will invest in yourself, improve your own inside, only in this way will men cherish more, and every time you get along, increase the degree of love for you, love can be stronger!

Girls in love should take the initiative, but not humble. It's not easy to meet a man you like, life is short, and you shouldn't let go of a rare opportunity. The men that girls take the initiative to chase are all men who meet their own conditions, and they can show their strengths and give men a hint, but they should keep an appropriate distance.

Girls in love should not take the initiative, and taking the initiative in love is almost equal to a price drop. It is difficult for a woman to post upside down, and the reputation wheel will have a good end. Being too direct will not only easily hurt your own face, but also make the other party unable to get off the stage.

Unilateral initiative, the other party's passivity, can not be called falling in love. Girls in love should take the initiative, but not humble. It's not easy to meet the man you like, life is short, and you shouldn't let go of a rare opportunity.

The men that girls take the initiative to chase are all men who meet their own conditions to open letters, you can show your strengths and give men a hint, but you have to keep an appropriate distance. Girls in love should not take the initiative, and taking the initiative in love is almost equal to a price drop. It is difficult for a woman to end well.

Being too direct will not only easily hurt your own face, but also make the other party unable to get off the stage. Unilateral initiative, the other party's passivity, can not be called falling in love.

Nothing is absolute. If the man is deeply in love with the woman, no matter how active the woman is, it will not have any effect. But if the man doesn't like the woman, it just so happens that this stuffy person is not a righteous person, and this line of work has always taken the initiative, which is a moth to the fire!

In a relationship, if a person behaves too actively, it will make the other person lose his sense of cherishing her. This is because people tend to value things that require effort to get and less likely to value things that are easy to get.

## 1.Being too proactive reduces the sense of mystery.

When a person behaves too proactively, some of the mystery can be lost. He or she may become too easy** or too easy to obtain, thus depriving the other person of the joy of exploration and discovery. In this way, the other person may feel that there is nothing special about the person, and thus reduce the sense of cherishing her.

## 2.Being too proactive will make the other person take it for granted.

If a person behaves too proactively, it may make the other person feel that it is taken for granted. The other person will think that the relationship is not important or valuable to them because they are not putting in much effort. In this way, the other person is less likely to have much cherishing of the relationship.

## 3.Being too proactive will make the other person feel uncomfortable.

When a person behaves too proactively, it can leave the other person feeling overwhelmed. He or she may feel like they don't know how to respond to the person's actions and may even feel overwhelmed by their suitors. In this way, the other party does not have enough space and time to think about whether the relationship is really important or valuable, thus reducing the sense of cherishing the relationship.

## 4.Summary.

In short, in a relationship, being too proactive can make the other person lose their sense of cherishing you. Therefore, before starting a relationship, you need to think carefully about how you behave and make sure that you don't take the initiative too much. Only in this way can the other party see your value and charm, so that the other party can cherish the relationship more.

I think taking the initiative in love will seem cheap, especially for girls, the person who takes the initiative is not really good to pay on the knife edge that the other party needs, just like a help, the other party you give may not want it, it may not be needed. Second, too active will make the other party feel that everything is too easy, we all know that the more difficult to strive for, the more precious it is, just like the color Wang Xihong that appears after the wind and rain will also make people feel better, of course, it is not excluded that the rainbow colorful colors, I think there is also wind and rain to support it is more beautiful, anything comes too easily, will make people subconsciously bury the word general, people will be particularly precious to their efforts to get something. Third, in fact, some people don't really feel cheap, but the enjoyer knows that this kind of initiative has a certain amount of insurance and will not disappear, so it is very casual and does not pay attention to it, such as family affection, we are always more polite and polite in front of strangers, and it is easier to release all their emotions in front of relatives, a man's pursuit of a woman is actually a hunting process, the prey that is directly sent to his mouth, he definitely does not know how to cherish, because he did not enjoy the process of conquest, on the contrary, he spent a lot of time and energy to get the prey, He will be reluctant to eat, hard-won gains.

Let him know how to cherish it more often, and a smart woman will not always be stupid and good to men, because this will not be cherished by the other party, you only need to be good to him occasionally, such as commemorative days, it is best that when he is most vulnerable and sick, you will never abandon him and take care of him, enough for him to remember you for a lifetime. Therefore, I think that the initiative in love will show that Xunling is cheap, especially girls!

Most of the girls are still more reserved filial piety brigades. In the relationship, if the girl is too active, it will make the boy too complacent, and the stool shape will never forget that the girl also needs love and care. Spring.

Why don't girls take the initiative in love? If he doesn't take the initiative, he is often not interested in you.

The girl takes the initiative to appear to be cheap.

Women are cheap if they are too active.

I don't think taking the initiative in love doesn't seem cheap. For example:

1.A woman who takes the initiative will not become "cheap".

In a relationship, anyone has the right to pursue love, and any person can work hard and pay for their own happiness.

So why do women who feel that taking the initiative become cheap?

Of course, we can stop the Lord from giving and take the initiative to pursue, but others also have the right to refuse us, so, women, when you meet true love, pursue it bravely!

2.Not everyone deserves to let go of their "reserve"!

We can work hard for our love and let go of everything, but not everyone is worthy of our initiative and our "reserve"!

Around all of us, there will be some "Sea Kings", regardless of men and women, these people are used to the bright lights and the opposite sex around them.

Therefore, no matter how much you pay for him, he will not be touched in the slightest.

3.Learn to be in the right place!

Many times, after some girls meet the boy they like, they will pursue each other desperately.

Thinking that you should take the initiative and should consider each other everywhere.

As everyone knows, this is a big mistake.

We should know that taking the initiative to pursue the other person does not mean that we need to think about everything for the other person.

So, everything has boundaries, and after becoming friends, you have to start trying to understand each other, and also take the initiative to intervene in each other's lives, so that the other person can also understand you.

Any relationship needs a foundation, especially love, and it needs two people to understand enough.

When you feel that two people have enough understanding foundation, you can take the initiative to express your feelings.

It has been said, "Kindness and love are free, but not cheap." But if your kindness has no edge, and your love is not rational enough, then what awaits you in the end is only endless pain. ”

Every woman who falls in love should keep this sentence in mind, and she should also protect her feelings with sharpness and reason. Only in this way will the woman not end up with a scarred end.

Sadly, although many women understand this truth, they do not do it, but lose their minds in their feelings, blindly and impulsively.

In order to make men feel their love, women will change their reserved appearance and become very active.

Women always feel that only if they take the initiative can the love story between two people continue beautifully, but is this really the case?

All kinds of deeds show that the initiative brings not only benefits, but also disadvantages. In some ways, women who are too proactive can make themselves cheaper.

Everything is two-sided, and if you can only see one side, it's easy to take a detour.

In order to avoid this situation, Xiaojing hopes that women can understand that in a relationship, a woman's three initiatives will make men feel cheap.

It has been observed that many women will change themselves in their relationships. Women see this change as proof of love, but men don't.

When a woman becomes unrecognizable for the sake of affection, your attraction to a man will decrease day by day. When you become a completely different person, there is no attraction in the eyes of your man.

The reason why a man is with you is because he is in love with you for what you really are. The most real you he likes, but you buried his love with your own hands.

If you have been taking the initiative to change for a man, even if you love him deeply, he will only think that you are cheap.

Since men are not asking you to change yourself, you should be generous with yourself. Only by attracting men with the most true self can you really retain the hearts of men.

Giving up work is a woman's own choice, but many women put the responsibility on the man, thinking that the man's love prompted them to give up.

When a woman does this, not only can she not protect her feelings well, but it will also make men think that you are cheap.

Taking the initiative to give up a job for a man is not a manifestation of loving a man, but an increase in the burden on men. Even if a man can take care of your life, he will look down on you because of it.

In order to completely retain men's hearts, many women began to accept the power of money and tried to use money to meet men's material needs.

Although it is not a bad thing for a woman to spend money for a man, if a woman is taking money to stick to a man, the final result is destined to be unsatisfactory.

When managing relationships, women can take the initiative, but they can't take the initiative in everything.

There is nothing wrong with taking the initiative for love, but it is also necessary to divide the situation, talk about strategy, and not be too impulsive.