How to deal with the problem of difficulty and loneliness of older single men to get rid of singles?

The topic of the difficulty of finding a partner for older single young men is highly valued by many **, and the ratio of men and women is seriously imbalanced.

One: After thinking about it, I just can't find the reason. In fact, in my opinion, it is not because you are not good enough, but because your vision is too high, and you have always wanted to find an excellent woman who can enter the kitchen in the hall, no one is perfect, everyone will have advantages and disadvantages, if you really like it, her shortcomings will also become advantages in your eyes, if it is a one you don't like, her advantages will also become disadvantages in your eyes, of course, if you really want to find a person who will accompany you for a lifetime, don't be too picky, when true love comes, you open your hands to meet it.

Love must be pursued bravely.

Two: Now there is a kind of older young men will not engage in objects, at this time it is necessary to inherit an old rule of "blind date", some people have experienced the process of blind date, according to the survey, there are now many older young men and women working in other places to go home for the New Year will go on a blind date, because there are fewer girls, some individual girls can go on a blind date 4 to 5 boys a day, and now girls are more sought-after, so as far as blind dates are concerned, many older young men are rarely matched successfully. As long as the woman is willing, some older young men can find some younger girls on a blind date.

Blind dates must know how to be flexible.

Three: now there are sky-high bride prices in many places, due to the influence of luxury in many places in recent years, the rural wedding bride price customs are gradually changing. Regardless of whether the family can afford it or not, it has to be done in a big way.

The bride price is even higher, and gold and silver jewelry is just the beginning, new houses, new cars"Indispensable"。The phenomenon of sky-high bride price mostly occurs in underdeveloped rural areas.

From a national point of view, sky-high bride price has been very common, such as Pingliang, Gansu, where the bride price ranges from 5 to 200,000 yuan; Shandong and Hunan cost about 100,000 yuan; In Xichuan, Henan, the starting price of engagement in some rural areas is 300,000. "After decades of hard work, he returned to the poverty line after marriage"。Many families get married and the whole family is in debt, and a wedding in the countryside makes more families"Sigh at the sight"。

Sky-high bride price"It has become an obstacle to the marriage of men and women in rural areas.

Feelings, I haven't seen or experienced it, I've made do with it, and it's probably easy to find a partner. But once I met someone I particularly liked, I couldn't bear to live a normal life. "I am an older single leftover man in the eyes of others, I used to love a person very much, and I made every effort to be with him.

Before, I never understood why some people could make a living, but I couldn't. It wasn't until later that I realized that a simple person who pays to another person may not be rewarded, in this case, why not make yourself happier, and finally searched for a bionic doll to buy it to accompany you, which can be regarded as self-enjoyment.

This is already a relatively serious problem in China, but in fact, personal problems still have to be solved by themselves. If you have a profit or make more money, or you can always find someone who is more considerate.

Now it is not that it is difficult for older men to get off singles, but that it is difficult for older men and women to get off singles. Although there are many reasons, the main one is that both men and women nowadays are too materialistic, and there are too many desires and requirements for marriage.

Now it's not just men who are single, but also a large number of women. In fact, most of the singleness is chosen by oneself, because now people will consider high-quality singleness, or get used to a carefree life, or say that many things will change after getting rid of singles, and the more people are demanded. Loneliness and loneliness can only be said to appear in the eyes of others, and you have to know what it is.

Even if singleness becomes a social trend, people may still feel lonely and lonely. The feeling of loneliness is not only brought about by being single, but is a deep feeling in one's heart. Everyone's feelings and experiences of loneliness are different.

Being single may not cause negative emotions for some people, because they or they have a strong self-identity and a rich social circle, and they can find their satisfaction in friendships, careers, independent living, etc. However, some people feel the loneliness of being single even more profound, perhaps because they have dreams that need to be shared, or they want someone to share the bits and pieces of their lives with them.

Overall, being single is not the only cause of loneliness. Many factors can contribute to loneliness and mental health issues, such as life stress, poor intimacy, lack of a sense of meaning, and more. When faced with the problem of loneliness, we can actively explore our own dependence, explore the joy of life, expand our social circle, and seek professional psychological support.

I feel that when singleness becomes the mainstream of society, there should be a feeling of loneliness when you are alone, and only two people who love each other are the happiest when they live together, and they will not be lonely and lonely.

1.If you are lonely, most of the time because you like someone, you dare not confess, so you feel sad, because you have a desire for a person, you can't ask for it, the other party reminds you of the beautiful life after marriage, makes you think of happiness, so you will feel very bitter in your heart, there is bitterness can not be said.

2.And secondly, the reason why you will be unhappy, you will be extremely miserable, is also because you have illusions about love, and you are not able to realize such illusions. It's because you used to believe in love and you were hurt, and now you obviously have thoughts about love, but you're afraid that you will be hurt again, so you're conflicted and lonely in your heart, so you're sad.

In either case, your antidote is only love, and your liberation is only love and happiness.

3.If you are single, your loneliness will become more and more intense, you will change a little because of it, you will become eccentric, and you will gradually lose your yearning for love. And when you really regret it, when you think you can face happiness, you can't go back.

But you won't have a chance to love anymore, and others won't love you now. You don't want to regret it for the rest of your life.

4.I think that if you love someone, you will love with your heart, and liking someone is joy from the heart, not like Ye Gong Haolong, who is inconsistent and hypocritical.

True love can make you forget yourself, true love can make you involuntarily, true love can make your brain and heart full of love, true love can make you pay everything, and it is not a pity, true love is contained in the bones, and the expression of true love cannot be pretended.

5.It is enough to have a true love for a lifetime! It is lucky to meet a person you like in your life, many people do not have this opportunity, if you have it, don't hesitate, love well, cherish it, that happiness and happiness will always belong to you!

There are many reasons why older young people are reluctant to socialize, such as home, introversion, low self-esteem, getting used to loneliness, and strong desire to be single......and many other reasons, all of which are reasons why older young people are reluctant to associate with the opposite sex. However, it is difficult to find someone who suits you if you continue like this, so it is recommended to change your life status, such as going out more often, and maybe you can meet the right one.

For example, I know an older young woman, the reason why she didn't find a partner is that she is more homely and introverted. I don't usually go out much, and I have fewer friends. Almost all of them are at home, plus they are introverted, and they don't know what to say when they see the opposite sex.

So the older age didn't find a target either. Therefore, being homebound and introverted is the reason why older young people are reluctant to associate with the opposite sex.

But life is long, and you need a companion so that life will not feel boring and lonely.

Therefore, it is recommended to change this status quo and get out of the house and make more friends, such as going out for a walk, maybe you can meet the right person. Meeting the right person is one step closer to getting rid of singleness, sometimes fate is so simple, when you go out for a walk, you will meet someone who is destined, and then become friends, and it is also possible to become the right person.

Of course, some people can't find a partner because they are home. Some people have a greater desire to be single than to get married.

There may be people who are more afraid of marriage and don't want to get married, so they are too lazy to get close to the opposite sex, and they don't have the urge to enter marriage. Therefore, people who have a strong desire to be single do not want to have friends of the opposite sex. For example, I know a girl who is close to her old age, but she is not in a hurry to find a boyfriend, because she doesn't want to get married or fall in love.

Because she feels that being single can be free and free, no one cares. And when I got married, I was bound and had no free time, so I didn't want to get married. That's why I've always been single.

I think so! Being single is very free, but if you don't get married, what seems to be missing in life? For example, there is less warmth.

For example, the warmth of eating together as a family and going out to play together as a family. Because I didn't get married, I couldn't experience that kind of family happiness. So I think that if you meet the right one, you might as well choose marriage, and there will be happy moments.

In short, there are many reasons why older young people are reluctant to socialize, such as home, introversion, low self-esteem, getting used to loneliness, and ......having a strong desire to be singleand many other reasons, all of which are reasons why older young people are reluctant to associate with the opposite sex. However, it is difficult to find someone who suits you if you continue like this, so it is recommended to change your life status, such as going out more often, and maybe you can meet the right one.

1. Actively show your single status and the best value of your circle of friends. The high requirements of many women make many suitors prohibitive, and everyone thinks that this girl is very difficult to chase. In the face of such a situation, you need to release your single status to the potential pursuers around you, you can find a restaurant that is very suitable for couples to go on a date, so that you and your girlfriends can go on the weekend.

There are really a lot of couples there who are dating, this is just a material that can show their single status, take a few ** and caption: This restaurant is great! The atmosphere, food and furnishings are perfect for a couple's date, and if I have a male ticket in the future, I will bring him here.

Look at this way to show your singleness status with a high-quality life, which is natural and will not seem lonely. 2. Increase the number of chats with boys. Many people feel that they can't take the initiative to chat with boys, even if the other party asks them to watch a movie, they can't go, which will undoubtedly lose a lot of love opportunities.

Boys in love will account for the cost of rolling the group, if my investment does not return, then I am not willing to invest, just like in Zhihu there is a girl who asks everyone, why many boys chase after not chase, and there is a line at the bottom that has attracted everyone's attention. The answerer said you should give a progress bar. In the process of contact with a boy, you need to constantly release your interest in him, so that the boy may continue to pursue you, and chat happens to be a good way to release interest indicators.

If you increase the chat with the boy Li Zhe, and even chat with the boy to ask questions, the boy will know that this girl has a good impression of me, and if I chase her, I should have a great chance. And in the process of chatting, the boy feels the satisfaction of being needed, and your advice gives him the opportunity to show his talents, and in the process of giving you answers, he has to disturb the orange to the pleasure.

That's what I experienced. I was single in my 30s, but I was already lonely by then. I found that although I was very free, every night when I came home and faced an empty room, I felt a sense of loneliness.

At that time, I suddenly felt that I would not wake up tomorrow morning, and no one would know. Since then, I know that I am a person who likes to be lively. I realized that I was afraid of being alone. No matter how good a friend is, he can't accompany him every day from day to night.

So I decided that I was not a person who could be single for a long time, and that I had to find a partner to be with me, even if it was to chat, it was better than talking to the air alone.

I think humans are probably creatures who naturally like to live in groups. Gathering is probably a biological instinct of human beings.

So I decided that I had to find a partner, to be together for life, to be ready to make friends, get married, and have children. In order to escape loneliness, you must vigorously form a family, and you are not a person who can be single for life. I am afraid of facing loneliness and am not suitable for being single.

Because people reach a certain age, there are only two choices if they want not to be lonely:

Either start a family (philosopher, artist, traveler.........Either start a family (marry a daughter-in-law to live).

You can't do any of them, so be alone!

Is it because you've been single for a long time or because you're older?

Loneliness is always there, it's just big or small.

Being single for a long time is a person's loneliness without companionship.

When you are older, it is the loneliness of external pressure, and maybe watching others get married and have children and enter a new stage of life will be more lonely.

In fact, I also have greater expectations for the future and the other half, so I magnify the loneliness.

This is a big problem in real life. When it comes to the younger generation to talk about marriage, there is no suitable partner for a long time, high is not enough, low is not enough, the age is increasing year by year, but the marriage period is postponed day by day, the urging of parents, the removal of friends, an invisible pressure on the body, let me breathe.

So, where is the root cause of this? Aside from spiritual problems (such as emotional intelligence), material is the main root, for example: marriage needs to buy a car, buy a house, and the auspicious number of bride price is also one of the obstacles to marriage.

Looking at the people of my age who are all married and starting a business, a sense of loneliness arises spontaneously, day after day, year after year, my friend has a child, and I am still playing bills, how can this not make people sad?

Whoever has a way to solve this sorrow, please give your valuable advice, thank you deeply!