How to enlighten a married son who makes a mistake?

Dear Son:

Today, you called me from school and said that you forgot the test paper you were going to use in class today, and you hope I can help you pick it up and send it. To be honest, I'm free. And, before I rejected you, I had a mental struggle, and in the end, I let you go home and get it yourself, because that's supposed to be your business.

Whether you go home and pick it up or not, it will have an impact on your class today: if you go home, it means that you will give up the class time; If not, you can't take the exam with this paper. However, I hope you can understand a few things from this:

First, no one is your babysitter, not even your parents who love you the most. Parents are the ones who give you life, they are the teachers of your life, and their obligation is to raise you before you are a minor, teach you what is right and what is wrong, teach you life skills such as eating, brushing your teeth, tying your shoes, etc., and never do everything for you. Your parents weren't your babysitter when you were a minor, and certainly not later!

Therefore, you must learn all life skills from now on, learn the ability to arrange your time reasonably, develop good study and living habits, and give up all the idea of having your parents pave the way for you, whether it is for future study or work. This is the so-called independence, and only independence can make a difference in your future life! Because in this world, no one is obligated to be your babysitter, and never will be!

Clause. Second, we must learn to take responsibility. Anything you do, anything you say will have consequences.

If you do things and speak beautifully, the consequences will be perfect, otherwise, the consequences will be bad. No matter what the outcome is, please have the courage to take responsibility, because this result is born because of you, and you have no reason to let others carry the blame for you, and there is no reason for others to clean up the mess for you. Remember:

Only a man who dares to take responsibility can be called a man!

Clause. 3. Don't fall twice in the same place. There is no one in the world who can guarantee that he will never make a mistake.

But for everyone, there are two things we should remember: the first is not to find excuses for mistakes. Any mistake has its own subjective reasons, and finding reasons to excuse you will only make you complain; The second sentence is not to make the same mistake.

As the proverb goes, a fox cannot catch it twice in the same trap, a donkey will never fall twice in the same place, and only a fool will fall into the same pond a second time. A lesson for a wise man is worse than a hundred scourges for a foolish man.

People are not saints and sages, who can be without fault, and can change after passing, and the good is great. I think you're a smart guy, you'll know how to do it, right? If you read my letter, then your gain today should be greater than your loss.

Even if you make a mistake, then tell him that people always make mistakes, and the important thing is to make mistakes and then change them back, so that the most important thing is to say this.

You can talk about the things he did wrong, and the mistake lies in how he should do it. When encountering such a thing, don't make similar mistakes again, and let him know the mistakes he made and the harm caused to others.

Children make mistakes at school, parents should do this:

1. Thank the teachers for their efforts.

No matter what the reason for the child's mistake, parents should first thank the teacher for their efforts and apologize for the trouble caused to the teacher by their child when they come to the school to see the teacher. You can say something like, "Teacher, you have worked hard for a while, thank you for your dedication to the child's military record, and today the child has caused you trouble again." "Parents' words of gratitude can add more confidence to the teacher in dealing with problems.

2. Understand the reasons for making mistakes.

Since the teacher invites parents to come to the school, it means that the child's mistake is more serious, and the parent should ask the teacher and the child about the reason, process and result of the mistake. Intentional mistakes should not only be held responsible, but also bear the corresponding compensation; If the mistake is made unintentionally, the responsibility can not be pursued, but the corresponding compensation is still needed. Only by giving the child the opportunity to explain can the truth of the matter be clarified.

3. Discuss ways to correct mistakes.

Whether intentional or unintentional, mistakes must be corrected immediately, and parents should discuss with experienced teachers how to correct them. If your child makes occasional mistakes, you just need to be kindly reminded. If they refuse to change their ways, they should be seriously criticized and ordered to write a letter of guarantee to urge them to make corrections at an early date.

In a child's learning career, it is inevitable to make mistakes from time to time. When a child makes a mistake, as a parent, he must first show sincerity to communicate with the child's teacher, so that the teacher can let go of the mustard.

Remember not to protect children and shirk responsibilities, but to communicate with teachers with a grateful heart, so that children who make mistakes can correct their mistakes as soon as possible and become good children in the eyes of teachers, classmates and parents.