I have low self esteem and hope someone can help me feel confident.

Low self-esteem is the embodiment of human character, you should learn to change, find self-confidence and you will be happy. People's character is largely determined by the environment in which they grow up, family factors, social factors will affect the development of a person's character, self-confidence is a part of people's character, plays a decisive role in the growth of people, if there is a lack of self-confidence in the character, the road of life will be very difficult, so you can not be without self-confidence. The country is easy to change, the nature is difficult to change, and the character of a person is difficult to change, but there is nothing difficult in the world, only afraid of people with a heart, and some methods must be tried to know.

My cousin is seventeen years old this year, and he has been introverted since he was a child, which is related to his living environment when he was a child, his parents are busy with work, rarely take care of him, and give him too little care, so that he has a withdrawn personality, is not good at expressing himself and communicating with others, and is confident that he does not know anything to him. Seeing that her grandchildren are about to become adults, my grandmother is worried about her cousin, and she blames herself, she always says that if she cared more about her cousin when she was a child, she wouldn't be what she is now. Grandma is really worried about her grandson's future life, and the family also tries to help his cousin, let him talk more, exercise his courage and thick-skinned, and everyone firmly believes that his younger brother will find self-confidence.

Grandma is a person with a lot of ideas, and he has heard people say that things that open the light can bless people, drive away the bad luck in people, and make people healthy, happy and full of confidence. Grandma has no culture, but she is still very researched about these things, and asked me to help find things that open the light, I am not interested in these superstitious things, but grandma's orders have to obey. I'm lazy, and I won't go to temples, ancestral halls and other places to find it, I think the network information is so developed, there will be something I'm looking for on **.

I really found it, in the store that helps you make a fortune, there is a kind of blessing bag for opening the light, the shopkeeper Fan Fei and Yuan Ying said that their wish bags are all opened by the masters, which is absolutely true. I don't know if it's true or not, but it's really necessary to buy one, this thing looks quite spiritual, and I have to buy one for my cousin anyway. My grandmother put the bag of wishes I bought under my cousin's pillow, and there were words in my mouth.

I soon forgot about it, but when my cousin asked me how to pronounce the English word confidence, I was suddenly dumbfounded, I couldn't believe my eyes, is this my cousin, and there seemed to be a little smile on my face. Gradually, the family members noticed the change in their cousin, became more cheerful, dared to express their thoughts, and spoke with a kind of confidence. The happiest is grandma, one day suddenly came to make me my favorite cola chicken wings and plum cabbage button pork, of course I know why, this is a secret between me and grandma.

Low self-esteem is the result of comparing yourself with others, so you have to compare it with whom, right? As the old saying goes, there is more than enough than the top, and it makes sense, and it is to make us proactive on the basis of contentment. Let's take a closer look:

Everyone's origin, education, living environment, habits, etc., are unchangeable, which is destined to everyone's starting point is different, this is the objective fact that we have to accept, especially some ways of thinking that have been formed, have a far-reaching impact on your life, is it fair?

It depends on the definition of the value of life. Life does not bring, death does not take away - any material things. This is not to say that the end of life does not mean that there is no continuation.

People miss you for your quality, your charisma, and the help and joy you bring to people. It is more appropriate to define your worth in terms of what you give to the world and the changes you bring to the world than in terms of how much wealth you get. Obviously, it has nothing to do with where you come from, and besides, more training is a priceless asset in life, if you have the ability.

Since the starting point can't decide anything, let's realize the value of our life. Do you have a goal? No matter how funny or ridiculous it may seem to others, or if it is a fantasy or a daydream, leave it alone, and those who do not pursue it will not understand the meaning of dreams.

Believe that the stage is as big as the heart. Let's take the most perfect and impeccable self as your own goal to achieve, and laugh at me for not understanding the difficulties of reality?

As mentioned earlier, low self-esteem stems from comparison, and you may feel that you are inferior to others in some aspects, and you do not have the confidence to face life. This is all because you look at the problem one-sidedly with the way of thinking you have developed in the past, so you can only get a wrong conclusion. The feedback is definitely different from the angle.

With the sun on your back and forever chasing your own shadow, why not turn your head and welcome the sun's bath? This so-called direction is more important than speed. Based on these, are those aspects of your low self-esteem still problematic?

With a goal, with a direction, we just know what we want, life is the process of constantly overcoming hardships to achieve goals and realizing self-worth, are you still worrying about the sky? The past is unfortunate enough, and you still have to lose today's fortune? Wake up and act fast.

The goal is concretized and implemented in stages, and the current situation is analyzed, the gaps are identified, and the improvement is made step by step. Don't feel unachievable, that's the bad psychology of self-denial, you must tell yourself, I will succeed, because I am always working hard to prepare, a little change every day can be, the important thing is to persevere, accumulate a lot, gather sand into a tower, step by step out of their wonderful life!

You are the same as others, parents love you very much, in order to give you a good life outside the hard work, if they do not love you will not choose such a hard work, may live a quiet life at home, even if there is not much communication, parents will always have only you in their hearts, there is nothing to be inferior, you are not worse than others at all, study hard at home, earn money in the future to let your parents enjoy happiness, and live together as a family.

<><1. Actively self-suggest and believe that you can do it.

Benign use of the subconscious mind will benefit us immensely. If others can do it, believe that you can do it, and believe that what others can do, believe that you can do it. Always tell myself 'I can do it' and I'm the best.

2. Manage and optimize your appearance.

Find your own style, keep your appearance clean and fresh, stand in the crowd with elegance and brightness, and when you are praised by others, your self-confidence will come naturally.

3. Try more and find out.

Try to do something more. The growth of self-confidence is based on the success of one thing and the success of another, you can have an excellent person is your goal of progress, but don't blindly compare with others.

In this world, there are many excellent people, but there are very few confident and excellent people, and you will never be able to compare. Learn to see the good in yourself. Compared to yesterday's self, don't be too embarrassed about yourself.

4. Look at the other person when talking to them.

Not being afraid to look up to others usually means: "I feel inferior, inferior to others, or I have done or thought of something that I don't want you to know; I'm afraid you'll see through me as soon as you look into your eyes.

Face up will tell the other person: I am honest and above board, my words are true, and you can trust me.

Thou shalt let thy eyes work for thee. This not only increases your self-confidence, but also earns you trust.

5. Speak actively and learn to express yourself.

When participating in the discussion, don't feel that your statement is insignificant and dispensable. Learn to speak actively, don't think about what you're talking about, speak up, and don't be afraid to say the wrong thing. As long as you dare to say it, just like that again and again, your self-confidence will keep growing.

6. Learn to smile.

Most people know that laughter is the driving force, and it is a good remedy for the lack of confidence of writers. But not everyone can do it. Real laughter, unbridled can not only ** your own bad emotions, but also resolve the hostility of others.

If you genuinely smile at someone, will someone be angry with you? Always giving a smile to others, genuinely caring, and affinity are among the most attractive temperaments.

7. Travel regularly.

By going to different places, you will continue to accumulate your own experience, and become a capital to talk to people, or you will not be embarrassed to talk about it the next time someone talks about it.

At the same time, in the process of going out to play, you will meet all kinds of people and communicate with them, you will find that everyone has their own troubles, and they also have their own wonderful, there is no need to feel inferior.

8. Learn to praise yourself.

Learn to praise yourself, accept yourself, and not blame yourself. Self-confidence is an important condition for maintaining a pleasant mood, and praising yourself appropriately can also help boost self-confidence and increase happiness. Spend a minute a day talking out loud about your strengths and praising yourself in the mirror to boost your self-confidence.

9. Do more of what you want to do.

Life is your own, what others ask you to do, you may not be happy when you do it, but you have to do things yourself, you will be happy when you do it, and after a long time, you will slowly identify with yourself and feel that you are really good.