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For the first three years of the old man's death, he had to go to the sacrifice on every anniversary of his death. Our general custom is that the death day of the third year of the death of the old man is more solemn, and after three years, it is not the death day to worship, generally on the Qingming Festival, October 1 of the lunar calendar and the Chinese New Year's Eve to worship it.

The third anniversary commemoration is as follows:

According to traditional etiquette, it is usually necessary to go on the day of the third anniversary, that is, not in advance or later (if there is a loved one, in order to show respect for the loved one, it should be done by the day before).

On the day of the memorial service, the children and family members (or siblings and family members) of the deceased should attend. The commemoration of the deceased usually does not take the initiative to inform relatives and friends, and relatives and friends can inform the time arrangement and invite them to participate when asked about it.

In order to highlight the solemnity of the third anniversary and the family's thoughts on the deceased, the blessing of the deceased should be decorated with flowers. At the same time, according to the personal preferences, personality, occupation, and style of the deceased before his death, the overall arrangement is carried out according to the actual situation of the park.

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Because the third anniversary of the deceased is held by the relatives of the deceased.

The child is inseparable from his parents day and night in the three years before the age of three, and everything depends on his parents, and he has been taking care of him for three years until he has left the stage of "three-year-old child", from the baby to the toddler, and can be separated from the parents.

After the death of his parents, he kept filial piety for three years, day and night, in order to repay the kindness of these three years. Therefore, the 3rd anniversary of a person's death generally follows local customs and rituals, and an official 3rd anniversary celebration is held. In the future, the annual death day is generally only commemorated in the form of family gatherings among close relatives.

In addition, the word three is also exquisite, the so-called three, the way of heaven, earth, and man. Therefore, after the death of the honored relatives, before the completion of the service, live at home, do not drink alcohol, do not eat meat, cannot marry, and cut off entertainment and communication to show mourning.

1. Flower memorial:Bring a bouquet of flowers that match the personality characteristics of the deceased or pick flowers yourself to make a bouquet of flowers to pay tribute, place the flowers in the middle of the deceased's grave, and silence in front of the grave for 3 minutes, expressing your thoughts about her and the commemoration of her birthday.

2. Gift commemorative law:Make a model birthday cake, insert a candle representing the age of the deceased, write the name of the deceased, go to the grave of the deceased to commemorate the deceased's life, and sing a happy birthday song for the deceased, and burn the model cake to the deceased if allowed after the commemoration.

3. Wine:If the deceased still likes to drink some wine, you can also buy some wine that he or she liked to drink during her lifetime, bring it to the grave, pour it into the wine glass and then sprinkle it in front of the deceased's grave, pour a total of 3 glasses, sprinkle 3 times, and use wine to commemorate the deceased's birthday.

4. You can also commemorate the birthday of the deceased in the airIn this case, on the day of the deceased's birthday, a funeral platform of the deceased is set up in a different place, and relevant birthday gifts are also placed to commemorate and commemorate the deceased's birthday in the soul.

Deceased loved ones are usually worshipped on the following days:

Days associated with the ancestors.

1. The annual birthday of the ancestors (important sacrifice day).

2. The annual death day (important sacrifice day) of the ancestors

3. The seventh day after the death of the deceased (the first seven, relatively important).

4. The fourteenth day (twenty-seven) after the death of the deceased

5. The twenty-first day after the death of the ancestor (37, relatively important).

6. The twenty-eighth day after the death of the deceased (47).

7. The first month after the death of the deceased.

8. The thirty-fifth day after the death of the deceased (May 7).

9. The forty-second day (June seven) after the death of the deceased

10. The forty-ninth day after the death of the deceased (seventy-seven, relatively important).

11. The 100th day after the death of the deceased (100-day sacrifice).

Traditional worship days.

1. The thirtieth year of the lunar Chinese New Year's Eve, Chinese New Year's Eve (Chinese New Year's Eve ancestor worship, important sacrifice day).

2. The second day of the Lunar New Year (the beginning of the year to worship ancestors).

3. On the fifteenth day of the first month of the lunar calendar, the Lantern Festival (ancestor worship on the Shangyuan Festival).

4. April 5 of the Gregorian calendar, Qingming Festival (tomb sweeping and the most important sacrificial day).

5. On the fifth day of the fifth lunar month, the Dragon Boat Festival (ancestor worship).

6. On the fifteenth day of the seventh month of the lunar calendar, the midyear festival (sacrifice to ancestors).

7. On the ninth day of the ninth lunar month, the Double Ninth Festival (ancestor worship, tomb sweeping, important sacrifice day).

8. On the first day of the tenth lunar month, the ancestor festival (going to the grave and worshipping the ancestors).

9. On the first day of the tenth lunar month, the Winter Clothes Festival (to commemorate the ancestors).

10. December 22 or 23 of the Gregorian calendar, the winter solstice (ancestor worship, important sacrifice day).

11. On the eighth day of the twelfth month of the lunar calendar, Laba Festival (ancestor worship).

1. Consult your local funeral home

Learn what you need to prepare for the funeral, such as shrouds, incense sticks, spiritual seats, etc. In addition, contact the local cemetery in time.

2. Notify relatives and friends

Once the relatives leave, immediately help wipe the body, put on a longevity clothes, and then immediately contact the funeral home to transport the body to the funeral home for preservation, and then arrange a mourning hall at home, and the children will be filial piety and keep the spirit, and successively notify relatives and friends to come to the home to mourn.

3. Discuss the time of the funeral

The family should discuss the day of the funeral and hold a farewell party. Generally speaking, most Chinese funerals span three or five days in time, taking an odd number.

Funeral Instructions

Young people can not enter the ancestral grave when they die, even if they do, they can't be in the middle of the middle, they can only be in a remote corner, and the early death of teenagers is also considered to be the punishment of the ancestors for their sins in their previous lives, out of respect for the ancestors, for those who died early can only be said to be short-lived people, belonging to wild ghosts, not allowing them to enter their ancestral graves, destroying feng shui.

Within 100 days of the death of an immediate family member, try to keep filial piety at home, do not travel to visit friends, and do not participate in other people's weddings, because you have a little bad luck in yourself to avoid affecting others.

When observing filial piety, within 100 days, you must wear white filial piety clothes, not red and green; After 100 days, you can wear black or dark clothes. In today's society, many people wear the word "filial piety" instead, but they still can't wear red and green.

The more common "exquisite" is: the third anniversary of the death of relatives is a more solemn day, blood relatives will discuss in advance to gather together to worship relatives, and at the same time, there will be a lot of "paper money", "ingots" and other things burned during worship. The focus is on a "grandeur", that is, it reflects the psychology that people pay more attention to.

In some places, after the death of an elderly person, his family and children need to change the couplets in their homes to purple and continue to paste them for a year or three years. However, in recent years, many people have stopped caring about these external rituals and have only maintained the most basic worship. In fact, the so-called third anniversary, first anniversary, tenth anniversary, and so on are just living people's thoughts about their deceased relatives.

There are many people who still worry about their loved ones in their hearts after the death of their loved ones, and they can never let go of their hearts, and this kind of concern has been accumulated in their hearts for a long time, which will affect a person's mood and physical health. At this time, it is necessary to release the pent-up emotions in the heart, so people treat some more commemorative dates with special ceremonies.

This so-called "commemorative date" makes no difference to a person who has passed away, and if you really want to be good to a person who has passed away, the best way is to miss him a lot. A famous person once said that the last trace of a person in the world exists in people's hearts, and when the last person who remembers him forgets him, this is the real death. Therefore, letting relatives live in their hearts forever is the best tribute to their deceased relatives.

As for those outward forms, they are actually made for the living. People need to express their emotions through these external forms, to express their inner accumulated emotions, to prove their "love".

On the whole, the third anniversary of the death of a loved one is actually not too particular, as long as you don't forget the past of your loved one, and then solemnly and solemnly pay respects.