There are too many questions, I don t know what to ask, confused? How can you not be confused?

Is it the future or love? That's not good.

The old way is to ask experienced people for advice, relax, go for a walk, see a psychiatrist, etc.

The following is a personal experience, mainly used for confusion about the future. You don't have to.

Find a blank piece of paper (be sure to have no words), write down your questions slowly, write down all the swear words you want to swear, what you want to say to other people, and plan and wish. When you write, you don't have to be so regular, just write it casually and make a mess. Throw it aside when you're done, and then slowly think about what you just wrote, don't look at the first piece of paper, write another one, think as you write, think a little deeper, the farther the better.

Think about it and then find yourself motivation. I can't find a motivation goal, so I hypnotize myself, I have to do something. Take a look at the news** good TV series and find the answer from it.

Finally, confide in others and discuss and exchange ideas with others.

Everyone is confused, how many people in this world are sober? We are not gods, masters. We are all in the game, and confusion is inevitable.

Listen to Li Zongsheng's mortal songs) Everyone lives with confusion, and what should be is what it should be. If you really don't understand it, let it be, maybe one day in the future you will understand.

Questions about you can only be cursory, so let's ask them again if necessary.

Calm down and think about what you need.

One, who am I?

As the saying goes, it is easy to know people, but it is difficult to know yourself. In life, you must put yourself in a clear position and don't forget your original intention. Only when you have a clear understanding of yourself will you not be confused by temporary interests and drift in the clouds; Only when you have a clear understanding of Fan Hui herself, can you not lose yourself in the comparison with others, feel sorry for yourself, and have nothing to do.

I am who I am, fireworks of different colors, although I am not very good, not perfect, but I am unique and cautious. I have some strengths, I have my advantages, I can exert my energy in a certain area of society, and create value for society. In fact, everyone is like this, even if they can't compete with the sun and the moon, they can shine like stars.

Two, who am I going to be?

This is a question about ideals, people must always have ideals, ideals are a beam of light that can lead us out of darkness and confusion. What kind of person do I want to be? What kind of life do I want to have?

Don't be afraid to think about it, it's not that you can't do it. Of course, the ideal is not an illusion, the ideal is the actual goal obtained after weighing the reality, which can be achieved through hard work. Establish a firm ideal for yourself, you can divide the ideal into clear small goals that can be achieved in the short term, firm steps, and approach it in success with a sense of accomplishment bit by bit.

3. How to realize the ideal?

It's a question of methods and paths. All roads lead to filial piety and prudence, you have to choose opportunistic shortcuts, but there are risks; Or do you want to pursue your dreams step by step, although it is hard, but there is no worries? What do you have to do to achieve your dreams?

Who do you have to meet? Which place do you have to go? If there is one, you should act immediately, as long as you act, you will not be confused.

Know yourself, accept yourself; Have ideals in mind and firm goals; Choose the path and keep your feet on the ground. Life is like a road, whether you want to or not, you have to go on, there are too many passers-by, those who have a high starting point are running non-stop, how can we have time to be confused? Once you've figured out these three questions, act quickly.

Do you appreciate who you are now?

Mine:At this stage, I am more satisfied with myself, because both life and work and emotions are going uphill, but forFamily of originBut I have been haunted by the fact that I am a victim of the incident but I cannot be forgiven by the abuser, when I can use itKnowledgeWhen I go to help others, I am happiest, and I feel that I am valuable and meaningful.

Now, what do you feel?

Mine:At this moment, I feel relieved and uneasy, relieved of a PUA my boss, made achievements but is still suppressed, this is not a healthy workplace environment; At the same time, I am uneasy about my unknown career, and I am afraid that I will lose my competitiveness and not be needed by society.

What are the things you want to give up and throw away?

Mine:I want to throw away the character that is too serious and serious; Want to give upThe burden of filial piety；Wanting to get rid of the habit of finding safety in intimate relationships; Trying to throw away the inertia mode of being too anxious to solve the problem has brought me harm, and I can't release myself to live a thorough life.

If all dreams could come true, what would you want to achieve?

Mine:Want to beTeach and solve doubtsPeople who can contribute to their lives, maybe my dream is to be a writer once a date orTeacherThe thing I forgot about time is to write a PPT for a speech and do countless rehearsals just for those dozens of minutes, I love to use itKnowledgeFocus your gaze.

What do you live for?

Mine:In order to live in vain, I hope that my elderly self will not regret my choice, and I hope that my life experience can beMotivate others, want to experience the process of playing a bad hand well,ChallengesA life that coexists with happiness!

Who do you want to be?

Mine:Thinking can help you understand a certain category quicklyKnowledgeThrough their own efforts to help others to have an epiphany, the analogue is like a universal version of the dictionary, you can look up anything you can't understand through me.

What do you want to challenge?

Mine:I want toChallengesWhat is impossible in other people's mouths, the process of turning the impossible into possible, from nothing.

What benefits can I bring to others?

Mine:The difference between me and my surroundings is that most people don't do things, I can see the value of it, have a holistic view and forward-looking, and be happyTeaching for learning；I'm not afraid of others taking away what I've done, because I'm deeply aware that I'm in iteration.

What can you do to make the person in front of you happy?

Mine:Very patient listening and giving solutions, the ability to help others solve problems, and the ability to channel others' emotions.

What's on the other side of the troubles?

Mine:There is no way to escapeFamily of originbut can choose to be filial and act in accordance with their own principles; Unable to achieve the principle of work, completing the dismantled part of the quarterly goal every day, and occasionally exceeding the target.

Two people's hearts can't go together, I think you still have to let go, the family is thinking about the house and the car, your idea is right, two people work together to be able to feel what happiness is. And his idea is that he doesn't want to drag you down, so as not to make you regret it in the future, and the long pain is better than the short one.

Love isn't all smooth sailing. You should believe in your own heart and true love, not in the words of others.

If you are confused, it means that your love for him is not very firm, in this case, it is recommended that you break up, of course, materially, you can help him.

When people are confused, they should be more calm, and they should listen to the opinions of others.

Love is a kind of responsibility, but also a kind of perseverance, need two people to pay together, if you have love, he has love, two people walking together is the best result.

But love never needs charity, much less sympathy, and don't choose love for the sake of sympathy. Everyone has the right to have or give up love, but once you have it, it's hard to let go.

When people are very confused and don't know what to do, this is the time to calm down and read more. Read more stories of successful people, and then you have a direction for yourself. Take your time to learn a skill or do it in your own direction.

Hey, seriously. This problem is difficult to solve by the gods, every family has a scripture that is difficult to read, if you don't marry this man, then he is likely to be a bachelor for a lifetime. If you marry him, you are doomed to poverty for the rest of your life.

Because poverty leads to quarrels for no reason, quarrels for no reason.

So, I think it matters if you feel like you're out of sympathy or love for him.

Think again.

Your parents will definitely take pictures of you, and it's useless for others to give advice on things like love, it's up to the two of you.

Persuade you to break up, you may not be willing to accept this feeling of love, it is inappropriate for parents to disagree with marriage, they have much more experience than us, you don't want to be carried away by love, life is not dependent on love to live, be realistic, girl.

In fact, you should have a little answer in your own heart, no one can guide you to how to do it, follow your heart, love why not leave regrets for yourself, and listen to the elders more They may not be all right, but life experience must be a little richer, in the end, no matter what choice you make, look back and think about it as long as you don't regret it, I hope you can get through this period of confusion smoothly and continue to be happy.

It depends on whether you care about it yourself, if you are with him, you can accept it, you don't have a car, no house, and you love it enough not to be afraid of the gossip of the people around you. If you can't do it, don't delay each other's time, and cut through the mess quickly.

If you are confused, calm down and think about what happened, what you have done wrong in the past, what needs to be improved or made up, you should seriously reflect on yourself, you will know what you want, what your plans are in the future, and then set a short-term achievable goal, and carefully adjust your mentality and state to meet a new beginning.

If you like someone, try to take a few steps towards her. But if she sees you coming, she never wants to greet you. Then you stop and stop trying to get close to her and impress her.

Many things can be achieved by struggle, but love cannot. Love depends on two people attracting each other, not one person's efforts.