Can love and career have both? My boyfriend is in a city and I work in a city, how do I choose?

If not in a city, love is unreliable. It is true that men are lustful.

If the two want to get married, they must work in the same city, otherwise they will end up breaking up.

If you want to stay together for a long time or get married in the future, it is recommended to work in the same city. Long-distance relationships are unreliable.

If the relationship is strong enough, or if it is not a long-term separation, you can try. However, generally speaking, the person who asks this question may have some kind of uncertain factor psychologically, and it is recommended that you do not separate easily, and if you can be together, you will be together!

When choosing your career, you have to take care of yourself first. Don't rely on men. Work hard to earn money, and don't let love hold you back while you're young.

This is a love that does not belong to you, it is not yours, let it go. In the future, you will have the ability, be self-reliant, and find your own happiness.

1. You love him very much, are you confident that your boyfriend really loves you too? If you love each other and work in the same city with him, your parents will disagree, and you can convince him. And you want to be with him too.

"Distance produces beauty" refers to a brief parting. Besides, you only see each other three or four times a year. It is important to know that distance will also wear out people's emotions, and after a long time, it will cause emotional fatigue, and love will also be diluted.

Being together every day, grinding your ears and temples, you can see and touch it, isn't it more realistic to face to face in reality? The little bit of love before marriage, when I think about it after marriage, isn't the relationship stronger? Thinking back to the beginning, when the two of them shared weal and woe along the way, their hearts must be sweet.

You can go to his city to find a job that can make a living, first stand firm, and then find a way to find a better job. So you should be with him. You don't want to get married now, you can live as a husband and wife, try to accept each other, and no one can do without each other, and marriage is a natural thing.

I wish you all happiness!!

It should be together, after being separated for a long time, the relationship will fade! It's going to be rusty, but the final result is still up to you, and whatever others say is just a reference, so weigh it yourself!

Let's live together, since they have reached the point of talking about marriage, the two parties are more together, observe each other and run in with each other, you can see that you love him very much, and the work depends on his ability, how to help you find it. No matter how much you love, you have to get married, if he doesn't love you very much, you can find out in getting along.

It is certain that career first and then family, after all, family needs to be based on economy, so separation is for a better life in this world in the future;

I don't say "separation is for a better reunion in the future", because fate is really hard to say, who knows who we will meet in our respective lives? Who made you incapable of maintaining this "family" when you got to know each other?!

Take your own feelings as the standard, so you won't regret it later.

To love, please because it is not easy for two people to meet in the vast sea of people, to cherish each other, once you miss it, you will regret it, and you can't adopt it.

Both are major life events, and how to choose is really tangled. At the crossroads of life, a few suggestions for you::

1. Career is the foundation of feelings and the guarantee of future life.

2. The more rational your choice, the happier your future life will be.

3. There are 1,000 people in any major, which does not mean that they must not be shortlisted; There are only a dozen people in the major, which does not mean that they will be shortlisted. Rational choices are probable.

4. Your choice of career does not mean that your feelings are not firm, I believe your boyfriend will understand5. If you choose feelings, it will lay the groundwork for future contradictions and grievances6. If you succeed in finding a job in another city, you can still apply for the position where your boyfriend is located On the whole, it is more suitable for you to apply for a position in another city that meets the major, but it is just a suggestion, I hope it can help you!

This question of yours seems to be a contradiction in your job choice, perhaps it is a contradiction and uncertainty in your heart about your feelings. Because you are still in a boyfriend and girlfriend relationship, you are not very sure if he can give you an emotional belonging, a stable family, and you may be worried and worried about whether you can live a stable and happy life with him, which may be the reason for your hesitation now. If you think that he is the object of your marriage and live with him, you will feel down-to-earth and stable, then it doesn't matter where you work, after all, you are a woman, work is not the first, family and feelings are the first.

Do you report that other relatively less competitive will definitely pass? Not necessarily, I was reluctant to go with your man, there is no suitable one this year, you can do other work first, and next year there may be a suitable position the year after next, even if there is no career editor, it's OK. What is important to women, career or family, not to mention how big a woman's career can be, it is also a huge exchange for becoming big in time.

Far away, this is a good choice.

Hello, this problem is easy to solve, it depends on whether you are ready to really put your future on your boyfriend, if you are ready to get married, and you have discussed how to develop in your boyfriend's city in the future. Of course, it is good for you to be by his side, even if the major does not meet the requirements and makes less money, but being with a lover is a hundred times better than a long-distance relationship.

If you don't dare to bet that you can marry him for the rest of your life, then you plan more for yourself than think about him.

Hope to adopt, thank you! ··

Rationality and emotion are taken into account.

First of all, work is the main thing.

At work, if you miss an opportunity, it will be difficult in the future, or it will be very late before such an opportunity will appear again.

In love, not so.

If two people have a good relationship, then they can work and slowly come together again.

I'll give you two examples: my cousin, with my cousin-in-law, fell in love for three years in college, after working, two years in a different place, got married at the end of 2012, my brother-in-law quit his job at Shenzhen Huawei for my cousin, and went to my sister's place, of course, Changchun work is also good, FAW-Volkswagen. The two are very happy.

Another example, my classmates: both men and women are my college classmates, in 2006, they fell in love, and in May 2012, they also got married.

We graduated in 2009, male students were sent to Nankai graduate school, female students were not admitted to the graduate school entrance examination, twice, they were not admitted, and later, female students went to Beijing first to find a job, and male students went to Beijing after graduation. (ps: The job of the female classmate is not very good now, and she has changed several units.)

Because I missed out on the best opportunity to find a job when I just graduated. I took the graduate school entrance examination, I took the exam, twice, and I didn't get in. ）

Therefore, I personally recommend that you focus on your career first and take into account your feelings.

The national examination is helpless, first: are you sure that you will be admitted to the limited major? The odds are much smaller than those of any major. Second: Are you and your boyfriend really in love? It's love to be together. It was I who considered choosing any major, both love and career.

Let's be professional. It also depends on how your boyfriend treats you.

It's up to the two of you to see what you two think of this relationship.

In different cities, they will definitely break up within a year.

I always believe that there is no endless way, as long as you work hard, all difficulties will pass, and it is not difficult to live, but it is really difficult to find someone who shares the joys and sorrows with you, since you have found it, you have to work hard for your future life, although it is very poor now. But I believe that you will see the light as you move forward. In fact, my situation is the same as yours, my girlfriend and I are also barely making ends meet, we don't dare to buy clothes or go to the street, we have to buy groceries every day as much as possible to buy the most cost-effective, a penny is like a dollar, and we stay at home on Sundays.

But we have to be strong, because you have no way back now, and if you take a step back, you will lose everything.

I hope you can stay strong and get through this together.

If you can control it, then there is nothing, just wait for later.

Those who have climbed out of hardships and hardships are nothing more than anyone else, but only a little strength and unyielding quality.

It's useless to think about anything now, the most important thing in work is to take action, and let the rest be.

As long as there are hands. You won't die of hunger. Now this society. It's hard to say it's difficult, it's not difficult to say it's not difficult.

It's really hard to live now, but to believe in your love, you can ask your boyfriend to get a temporary job in your city first.

Why do you have to ask a relative to arrange a job? Won't you look for it yourself! It was only announced a few months later, but what job is so important except for civil servants!

There's nothing to be anxious about, and there's no result of exhaustion, so what's wrong with going back to his city to live?

Only when you have a career can you have a foundation But the evaluation of long-distance relationships is not high, so consider it yourself.

If you love him, you will go to his city.

Careers can be redeveloped, and no one can succeed casually.

Hopefully you have relatives who are also in that city.

If only it were just talk.

Then you'd better divide it.

Better a finger off than always aching.

Either he changes his career, or you give up your job, as if there is no third option.

You have to think clearly, do you want love or work? If you want both, it's better to find a more convenient job for your boyfriend**! In the name of love.

I also don't like long-distance relationships, so if his career is important, go to him! I'm so glad I voted for this relationship, and I wish you the best of luck.

Love and bread can't have both, you see what is more important, whether he is willing to come to this city for you.

Then you have to think about it, can you go to his city for him?

1."If you go to work in a relative's company, you don't have to worry about anything, just do your job well" Can I tell from this sentence that you are not a career-oriented girl? I think so.

2."I haven't been with my boyfriend for a long time, and I've reached the age of talking about marriage, so I should go home."

In fact, you mainly think about whether you have the dedication to fight...

If so, it's the same in any city, because gold always shines, so why do you have to go to a relative's company?

If you just want a more stable life, just share a city with your boyfriend, and it's easy to find a stable job now.

If you don't feel good about rejecting a relative, you can be tactful and say that your boyfriend needs you more now, you want to spend more time with him, and if there is anything you can help with in the future, you will be on call.

There is no best of both worlds, it just depends on how you choose! Whatever the decision is, it is a process of choosing to give up.

Even if you are in a dilemma, you still have to choose, maybe there will be regrets after the choice, but not choosing is also a choice, such a choice is negative.

Feelings and work, either he comes to you or you go to him, and there must be a need to abandon the current "model". If you are not so obsessed with each other, I think you can suggest that he come over at the moment, or just "separate sides of the world" for a while, so that you can get to know each other better! It's good for everyone.

Good luck to you! Go with the flow, be at peace with what happens, and do your best to obey the destiny of heaven.

If you are a sensual girl who is in love first, you can first take love as the main theme, after all, you can find a job again, and the only person is the only one; If you are a rational lady who puts work first, you can weigh which job is more suitable for your own development and preference, if you really love someone, you will not be separated because of distance! I'm more inclined to the latter.

I think it's better to be with your boyfriend. In this way, you can know his character and get to know him better. It's better to get along. After all, it's about to talk about marriage. As for the relatives, it's easy to say. Anyone will understand.

Don't you go home when you go to work?

However, if the two of them haven't been together for a long time, I personally recommend that it is better for the two of them to be together!

Work is important, but a sincere relationship is more important than work!

If you really want to work, you can talk to your boyfriend, now that technology can be developed, the two of you can keep in touch often!