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In the process of growing up, we will encounter more or less such problems, and many times, we think that this is called loneliness, but in fact, it is just a kind of grinding! Only those who can stand the test can achieve great things! Only those who can endure loneliness can become masters in the future!

You may feel lonely, but you may not know that there are countless people around you who have been silently caring for you and loving you. I'm sure you'll be happy again! Come on!

It's true that everyone has a lot of questions to think about as they grow up.

However, everyone always puts interests ahead of friendship and is based on interests.

Although I can't throw it in the mall like a commodity, let people choose anywhere.

But we have the right to do it ourselves;

If you're a precious ceramic like those made thousands of years ago, they can't turn a blind eye.

Therefore, don't feel lonely, let yourself progress and progress while being lonely, as long as you progress, you will be able to mature, and someone will abandon your interests and make a friend who is more precious than ceramics.

Let them be proud to know you.

In today's society, interests are all in charge. What like-minded people are there?!

Actually, I'm just like you, but I think it's better to keep a little distance because my personality might hurt my friends. I will give you a little advice: turn to a topic they like, if you don't like it, you can cultivate that topic you like or let your friends like the topic you like, don't talk about it alone, don't talk about another topic quickly, and learn to forgive and tolerate among friends, and find someone who suits your personality to make friends.

But it's up to you, and I can only make a few suggestions.

There are always people who quietly care about you, and when you give them sincerity, you will feel it....

When I was young, most people had a lot of good friends, but due to the increase in age, many friends would leave everyone with the passage of time. Not only that, but when it comes to social development, we even find that sometimes we don't even have a good friend who speaks sincerely, so can it be said that people will grow up and become more lonely in the process of transformation? If that's not the case, then why are the people around me getting lower and lower?

In fact, for many people, this is a regular situation, when they are young, they live close to each other, they don't have to study, they don't have so much trouble, they can get together and have fun every day, which is why everyone has a lot of good friends when they were children. However, due to the increase in age, everyone has to study gradually, and some people will not study at a university, which will reduce the contact between them, and some good friends will flow out of the country after that. But along with studying, you will also get to know a lot of new good friends, so the time of coming and going is also increasing, and good friends are also being replaced.

But that doesn't seem to make a good friend a detract from it, why don't you have a good friend by your side when you grow up?

In fact, apart from school, you can make more good friends because you live together and play again, but the good friends you know in a certain time frame are not necessarily friends who will accompany you for a lifetime. In some cases, they may be separated from everyone due to the passage of time, and some people will be further and further away due to the pressure of studying. There are also people who will slowly lose contact after going to school, due to the dispersion to every Tiannanhaijiao, which is a normal change in the exchange between people.

Even after work, a large number of people do not have time to face so many kinds of albums due to the pressure of work, and customers themselves may be overwhelmed with the emotions of friends, and there are also many people who have lost contact with their classmates due to marrying and having children. It's the situation that everyone goes through in their life, but if the best friends are but not as good as some sincerity, then what is the use of having so many good friends? Maybe when we grow up, we have very few good friends, but our friends are all bosom friends who can wait for us to go for a lifetime, and that may be really worth living together.

Many people are passers-by in our lives, and we need to treat them appropriately and sensibly, not because we have lost a good friend. We need to approach the world with full condition. It is also necessary to treat the emotions with classmates differently.

In addition to the coexistence between people, the coexistence of people also needs to go through a long period of time, and in the long river of time, these good friends left behind can usually be hand in hand for a lifetime.

That is true. When I grew up, I realized that there are really not many friends who can speak to my heart, but a few are enough.

No, as you experience more, you think about a lot of things, you can't be honest with others, and you also have things you don't want to talk to people.

I think it's like this, as I get older, many friends don't keep in touch, and then I am alone, and I can't get psychological comfort, so it's relatively lonely.

When the psychological motivation of posting on Moments becomes more and more difficult to be satisfied, I don't like to post.

It's like drinking seawater to quench your thirst, the more you drink, the more you can't quench it, so you don't drink it.

When I was a freshman, I joined the department of the student council.

Every time I finish an activity, I will be swiped by the department's ** circle of friends.

Everyone posted it, wouldn't it seem like I was out of place if I didn't post it?

So I also followed it and received a wave of praise from the same department.

Am I feeling a sense of belonging? No, it only satisfies the vanity of collecting praise for a while.

I still feel like I'm hypocritical, and I'm agreeing, which isn't cool at all.

Sending a very sad circle of friends is to hope to be cared for.

I'm sure most people don't know how to comfort people.

opened the chat box but began to hesitate, they are not very familiar with each other's relationship, will such care seem gossipy.

wrote a lot of heartfelt words in the circle of friends, wanting to be understood.

There are a lot of flags because of the desire to be encouraged.

But in exchange for a bunch of ridicule and denial, no matter whether it is good or malicious, I can't wait to never say it.

Sharing highlight moments is about telling yourself and others that every step of the way is achieving your ideal self.

But in exchange for the impression that he likes to show off and love to pretend, it has become a ridicule after dinner.

likes to post moments, but also to brush up on the sense of existence and reduce loneliness.

But every circle of friends seems to have been automatically blocked by others, like a stone that quietly sinks to the bottom of a lake.

Everyone in this world is busy, and no one is obligated to meet your psychological needs.

I'm hurt, and posting on Moments can't comfort me;

I confided, and no one understood me on Moments;

I struggle, and posting on Moments can't inspire me;

I'm successful, and I can't recognize me by posting on Moments;

I'm lonely, and posting moments can't warm me;

The circle of friends can't satisfy me with anything, why do I still want to post?

Personally, I think it is a normal phenomenon, and it can be regarded as an inevitable experience of growing up. There were fewer and fewer people traveling with me back then, and I had to walk the road on my own.

The human heart is becoming more and more difficult to guess, and it is not as simple as it was when it was younger.

True friends: start from interest, conform to the three views, respect personality, and be long-lasting. Not all people are suitable as friends, and we should know some precautions for making friends.

One writer wrote in his book: "Life is actually like a road that leads from a vast plain to a forest. On the plains, companions can walk in groups, happily pushing forward and helping each other; Once in the forest, small grass and thorns get in the way, and the situation changes, everyone pays attention to their own path and finds their own direction.

Some friends, when they meet, think it will be a lifetime; As we walked, we drifted in a sea of people. It is only in the end that we can understand that true friends often begin with interest, temperament, respect for character, and outlast the years.

For friends with different points of view, giving up may be the best option. The three views are the farthest distance between people. Two people who are not on the same channel will eventually drift apart.

In life, it is a kind of fate to meet friends with the same three views, and it is a blessing to be understood by the other party. There are many reasons why people come together. They may have the same magnetic field, or they may have the same three views.

But no matter what it looks like at the beginning, the most important thing that can make everyone together in the end is "good characters", and when you are honest with each other, you also want them to be honest with you.

get along, rely on sincerity; Deep friendship, relying on character. Bacon said: "A man should not be judged by his wealth and origin, much less by his learning, but by his true character." "Character is the most valuable pass for a person, and it is also the most important quality to get along with others.

The road knows the horsepower, and the people will see it for a long time. True friends will definitely not just pay lip service, they will help you and accompany you when you are in danger, when you are soaring, it may not be the icing on the cake, but when you are in trouble, it will definitely be a blessing. This kind of friend who can withstand the precipitation of time is the most precious wealth of our life.

When making friends, you should first look at whether the three views of two people are the same, whether the two people have common interests and hobbies, whether the two people have a common circle of friends, but also whether the person is good to you, see whether the personality of the two people is suitable, and have a bottom line when making friends, and never always tolerate each other unconditionally.

We must keep our eyes open, we must find friends who match the three views, in the process of making friends, we must have common hobbies, have common topics, and we should not give up the feelings in front of us for the sake of interests at any time, we must be sincere and sincere.

I think we have to make friends who share the same interests, and we can't be too far away from our friends, we have to keep in touch often, and we have to be careful not to explore privacy when we get along with each other.

When we grow up, we will experience a lot of things, some things that cannot be explained, can only be buried in our hearts.

Because when you grow up, no one is always with you, and no one can have a common work experience and emotional journey with you, so most people don't know you anymore, and your new friends will feel that their friends are drifting apart because of their short time and difficult to understand you.

Because the older a person grows, the more interests are involved, and no matter how close his friends are, as long as interests are involved, there will be great hatred.

Like-minded people, it's hard to find. In fact, people still have to rely on themselves, you shouldn't have no friends, but no one understands. I am also such a person, I always feel that the people around me don't understand me and don't believe me.

You should have heard of mountains and rivers, you just have a few soulmates. It's hard to find a bosom friend, and you don't need a lot of bosom friends. In the Spring and Autumn Period, there was a man named Yu Boya in the Chu State, who was proficient in music and rhythm, and had superb piano skills.

But he always felt that he couldn't express his feelings about things in a way that was not yet expressive. After the teacher found out, he took him on a boat to Penglai Island in the East China Sea, so that he could enjoy the natural scenery and listen to the sound of the sea. Boya saw the waves surging and splashing; Seabirds are flying and chirping; It seems to sound in my ears the harmonious and beautiful ** of nature.

He couldn't help but play the piano, the sound turned at will, and the beauty of nature was integrated into the sound of the piano, but no one could understand his **, he felt very lonely and lonely, and was extremely distressed.

Overnight, Berga took a boat trip. In the face of the breeze and the bright moon, he had a lot of thoughts, played the piano, the sound of the piano was melodious, suddenly he felt that someone was listening to his piano sound, Boya saw a woodcutter standing on the shore, that is, asked the woodcutter to get on the boat, Boya played a tune praising the mountain, the woodcutter said:"Majestic and solemn, like the towering Tarzan!

As he played the surging waves, the woodcutter said:"It is vast and vast, as if you see the rolling water and the boundless sea! "Boya said excitedly

Bosom friend. This woodcutter is the Zhongzi period. Later, after the early death of the child, Yu Boya learned about it, and smoothed the last piece of his life in front of the grave of the Zhongzi period, and then broke the strings and never played the piano again.

The story of the Boyazi period has been passed down through the ages, and the beautiful music of the mountains and rivers still lingers in people's hearts and ears, and the kind of stories that are difficult to find and difficult to find have been staged from generation to generation.

There are too few bosom friends in the world, such as Boya and Zhong Zi. Meng Haoran once sighed"If you want to play the piano, you hate ignorance";Yue Fei also said in the sleepless night"If you want to put your heart into Yaoqin, there are few bosom friends, who will listen to the broken strings? "Su Shi compared himself to Guhong and wrote"Picking up all the cold branches and refusing to perch, lonely Shazhou is cold"Sentence.

Jia Island is"Two sentences for three years, a groan and two tears. If the bosom friend is not rewarded, he will return to the old hills. "of bitterness.

And that Yu let"The soldier dies for the confidant, and the woman is the one who pleases herself"How rare is generosity? Bosom friends are hard to find, and they are hard to find, whether they are red or blue"It's enough to know everything! "It has become people's eternal thoughts.