Is it generally possible to be happy to get married in an upside down door?

Is it generally possible to be happy to get married in an upside-down door? Most people will not be happy, but they are not absolute, and there are happy ones.

It is easy to divorce and difficult to get married in the reverse door, because many places have this tradition, maybe they feel that this way can show the strength of their family, and many male friends have no say in this regard, so it is very difficult to divorce after entering the woman's house through the inverted door, because you basically have no rights in all aspects. But I think that no matter what kind of family it is, what kind of family emerges, both parties must be equal or respect each other, and don't just because the other party's conditions are not good. Bullying each other arbitrarily, so that the woman will not be happy.

Marriage is a matter of two people, and if it is really so strong, the man will definitely find a way to escape. Maybe it's just a matter of time. Marriage requires mutual respect and understanding, and there should be equal rights to speak and choose.

The phenomenon of inverted doors is still relatively rare, most boys do not agree, it may be for the sake of face or self-esteem, but there may be such a situation in some places, such boys are very inferior and may be a helpless choice.

On the one hand, the poor family conditions, many children, and the sky-high bride price required for marriage now make some families choose to be other people's sons-in-law! On the other hand, because the woman's family has no son, especially in the late 70s, the implementation of China's family planning national policy made the family with only one child occupy the vast majority of the social composition. In this way, as parents, they want to find a son-in-law to complete the family inheritance and pension.

Then the question arises.

One is that in the traditional idea of male superiority and inferiority of women, the man in this kind of marriage is very unable to raise his head, and he has no face among the neighbors and villagers, so only some really difficult families will choose this way to complete the marriage for their children, which is the most important event in life, which creates the man's inferiority complex, and even the economic difference makes the woman look down on the man from the beginning! Over time, the contradiction has reached the point of irreconcilability, and the only step can only be divorced.

Second, the issue of the child's surname and title after birth is also a point of contradictory distribution. The man agrees that the surname can follow the mother, but there are differences in the title, such as the question of the child calling grandparents, the question of calling grandparents, whether it changes or does not change, it is reasonable to change, but many of him is unreasonable, so it will be very unpleasant!

Third, who plays the dominant position in the family is, to put it bluntly, the dispute over who is in charge of the house is continuous. The man wants to be faced, he wants to be the head of the family, if he doesn't let you be, he just doesn't trust me, the woman thinks that you are a hundred people who come to the door and the son-in-law is in charge, you are still honest and obedient!

The fourth is the lack of understanding of quick flash marriage. The poor foundation of marriage between a man and a woman is also an important reason for divorce.

The fifth is the word money, everything starts from money and profit, which has penetrated into all aspects of the marriage relationship, so that the marriage is mixed with too much fame and fortune and copper smell.

In the end, what the author wants to say is that since you have chosen this way of marriage, you must accept it in your heart, and both parties should have more understanding and trust in it, and you can't blindly enter the marriage hall. If your husband and wife are in harmony, you can live a happy life!!

Marriage is voluntary, divorce is free. This is the basic principle of marriage in China.

It is not difficult to divorce, and at most the agreement cannot be sued.

Swallow your anger, look at people's faces, everything has to listen to your wife, there is no sovereignty, it's difficult! Unless she doesn't live with her parents

It's uncomfortable, it's angry, I'm just, divorced.

Introduction: What about a wedding with an upside-down door? Although the inverted door has been criticized, there are many men who choose to marry in the inverted door, and there are more and more men who make pure rational choices. How to hold a wedding with an inverted door? Let's give you a brief introduction!

The inverted door is also the so-called door-to-door son-in-law, which can also refer to the man living on the woman's side, or migrating to the woman's side with the household registration, but the current inverted door rarely changes his surname as in the past.

Today's inverted door weddings are mostly no different from ordinary weddings, but some rural areas have also retained the customs of the past, so the specific inverted door wedding depends on where you "marry".

1. Marriage ceremony

In the old days, on the day of entering the house, the female family prepared a four-person sedan chair, and used a pedestrian deacon to welcome the groom, commonly known as "raising the head of the lang". Or the day before pressed by the woman's house, staying in the new house, on the first day, the sedan chair is advocated, carrying the bride to the god side of the side, like the man's family to marry, to the door of the church.

Marriage ceremonies are usually simple and not extravagant. But there are also overseas Chinese or wealthy families, first let the rich man come to live at home, and let the daughter go to the grandmother's house to live, to the auspicious period of marriage, there is still a sedan chair to the grandmother's house to greet the relatives, still bear the dowry and drum music accompaniment, the family still arranges the queue of the newlyweds, with the warm sound of cannons to welcome the bride entry, according to the ancient practice of kicking the sedan chair door, please get out of the sedan chair, lead the newlyweds to the hall to pay respects, the same drum music and cannons shook the ground, feasted relatives, friends and guests, with a lively scene to cover up the form of the redundancy, so that the man marries in a grand manner, The daughter still sits in a sedan chair to "get married" and be the bride.

The men who are rich are often selected by the daughters themselves, and in this respect, they are better than those marriages arranged by the girls who are kept in the dark and rely solely on the "orders of their parents" and "the words of the matchmaker".

Second, the custom of entering the house (top room).

Another type of situation is the "top house". Just like between the brothers of the same generation, there is a room without male or female births, and there is no heir, so in order to pass on the ancestry, he raised a girl. When the girl grows up and becomes a girl to be married, a man with more brothers is chosen from among the brothers of the same clan to marry the girl.

As for whether the wedding is solemn or not, it is decided by the economic situation of both parties, especially the woman's family, but no matter how simple the wedding is, this procedure must always be fulfilled and this ceremony held.

From ancient times to the present, there are many traditional customs in our country. For example, after marriage, children take their father's surname, and women live with their husbands. The son got married and had children just to pass on the lineage.

If the couple marries and lives with his wife, it is called an inverted door. After the founding of the People's Republic of China, some incorrect traditional customs have been gradually abandoned, but in modern society, some families are still influenced by traditional customs. In modern society, everyone is equal.

After getting married, the newlyweds can form an independent family, which is definitely not an accessory to the parents' family. They can live with their husbands or their wives, and there is no such thing as inverted doors.

In modern society, young people can choose their own way of living after getting married.

Traditionally, the concept of marriage is practiced, and if a couple forms a family and lives with their wives, it is called an inverted door, and a man is called a son-in-law. In modern society, young people have to form a new family after marriage, and if they can afford it, they will buy a house of their own and will not live with either parent. If they have limited financial means, they can choose to live with their husband's family or with their wife's family.

Living with the other parent's parents is bound to be a bit confusing.

Whether to live with the wife or with the husband is a personal choice for the newlyweds. Everyone has some conflicts when they live with their parents, let alone with their wives or husbands' parents. However, because the other party is the lover's parents, even if there is a conflict between one party and the other parent, he or she will generally choose to compromise, which will naturally bring trouble to life, which requires the wife or husband to mediate in the middle.

There must be some contradictions when young people choose to live with each other's parents after marriage, but as long as they are mentally and financially independent, then they are just some minor contradictions. Young people should be more tolerant of their elders in the trivial matters of life, but they should stick to their own personal principles for irreconcilable conflicts.

The inverted door will bring a lot of trouble to the life after marriage, because it is very inconvenient to live with the parents-in-law, and the private space of the two will be lost, which is very troublesome.

There will be contradictions after getting married upside down, and the three views of the two people are also inconsistent. If you insert the door upside down, it will make the man very low in self-esteem, and the man's own psychological pressure is also relatively large, and the two people will not be happy when they live together, and there will often be contradictions, and the man thinks more and more. The mind is more sensitive.

They will have a great impact on the life after marriage, after all, you are under the roof of someone else's woman, you will feel that your head will always be lower than him, no matter how much effort and dedication you make, you will feel that you are a person under the giant, so no matter how good the relationship is, don't go upside down.

It will not be respected, this is also a kind of thinking of people, they feel that this is a kind of irresponsible performance, and they also feel that it is particularly worthless, I think it is not necessary, the most important thing is the happiness between two people.

In this way, the boy's status will be lower and lower, and then he will not have the initiative or voice in family life, and this kind of relationship will not last for a long time.

It may lead to problems in life, life will be very depressing, and it will be very unfree, feeling not respected, and there is no way to choose the life you like.