But love is not a defect, the important thing is how to behave in writing?

Love is enjoyment, the weak are often lacking love, the weak need love, the lack of love needs self-improvement, who has not been left out, the self-improvement is great, the weak become stronger, the strong love the weak, is the civilization of life, more love in the world, create a civilized family.

To love is not a defect, the important thing is that if you are a person, you should look at the new character.

In our life, whether it is study, work or entertainment, are inseparable from the cooperation between people, especially in modern society, the competition is becoming increasingly fierce, so it is more necessary for people to carry out a wide range of multi-faceted cooperation, if a person lacks the spirit and ability to cooperate with others, he will not only make achievements in his career, but even adapt to the society will feel difficult. A psychologist in the United States believes that the success or failure of a person's career lies in the quality of his character, and he listed "sincere cooperation with colleagues" as one of the major factors of success, and "being withdrawn in words and deeds, and not being good at cooperating with others" as the first of several major elements, so if a person wants to gain a foothold in society and make a difference, he must learn to cooperate with others. How can I learn to be a human being?

First of all, we must learn to appreciate others, and think more about others. In the junior high school textbook, there was a cartoon of "Look at this family", in the first picture, the middle family installed a sink on their door, and when it rained, the water flowed to the left and right doors; In the second painting, the left and right sides are also equipped with sinks, but the seats are lower than those in the middle, so that the water in the two sinks is poured on the door of the middle one, and the third painting shows that the three sinks are parallel to the same, and the rainwater is diverted to the outside. Looking at these three paintings, it is not difficult for you to imagine the pros and cons of them:

The meaning of thinking for others in everything. To learn to be human is to learn to cooperate with others. When there is a conflict or a difference of opinion with others, on the one hand, you must learn to stand in the other person's position and think about what you would not be like if you were in this situation.

If you think about the difficulties of others and the interests of others, you may be able to understand others and continue to work closely together while seeking common ground while reserving differences. As the saying goes: "It's easy to make money, it's hard to divide money", when starting a business, the goal is the same, but when the career is successful, they go their separate ways, each thinks about their own things, and the ultimate goal is to get the maximum benefit, so they are calculating, selfish, and want to be alone or take more of the fruits of victory, resulting in not being able to cooperate well, at this time the word "people" will be less calligraphy and painting, and people will not be people.

Life is like this, there are contradictions, opinions, and differences everywhere, but at this time, we must learn to be people, be capitalized people, and learn to coordinate the relationship between people.

"The Analects of Confucius made me understand how to be a man", and many of the philosophies in the "Analects" are close to common sense, but they are still profound, and there is loftiness in the mundane, and greatness is seen in the ordinary, which is the spirit of Chinese culture represented by Confucius. Reading the Analects is like having a dialogue with Confucius through the millennium, and it has taught me that we should value the value of the individual to the family, the country, society and history!

Lao Tzu is based on the dialectic of "softness", Confucius is based on "middle", and Legalism and military advocate "rigidity", which is the three legs of Chinese culture. After reading the Analects, I admired Confucius's "golden mean" and "benevolence" spirit even more. As the so-called Confucius said Chengren, Meng said to take righteousness, as a classic reading of Confucianism, "Analects" can be said to be the most incisive interpretation of this spirit.

Confucius once said: "The Mohist family has love, but it is fatherless; Although this sentence is biased, it makes me understand that only by putting the individual in the ethical system of the society can the personal value be truly reflected and the individual's personality can be demonstrated. Zi said:

If we learn without thinking, we will be reckless, and if we do not learn, we will perish." This is to educate us to combine "learning" and "thinking" in our study and life, and to study diligently, so that we can achieve success in learning. Just like the explanation of Cheng Zi in later generations: "Erudition, interrogation, prudence, discernment, and dedication are five things, and one of them is abolished, and it is not learning."

A copy of the Analects has given me a lot of insights, and many of the truths and spirits in it are worthy of reference for our descendants. In particular, the "golden mean" is in line with the harmonious society advocated today. The kind of morality and function of Confucianism can become the destination for people to settle down and take spiritual refuge.

As mentioned in the "Analects of Yongye", "quality is better than literature, literature is better than history, literature is courteous, and then gentlemen."

How to behave in the new era? As a new era, it is how to improve some of the qualities of people, how to help people, and how to be a good person.

How to behave in the new era? I haven't read this essay, and I won't write it.

How to be a person in the new era is to write it through your own imagination.

I think, in this life, just a few decades, one day even life will have to give up, so what else can't be seen? People who know how to give up are often more relaxed and happier than people who blindly pursue fame and fortune. The road of life is very wide, however, for the government and the people, with or without money, you can live with and without taste, the people have the happiness of the people, the sorrow of the officials and officials, the joy of the poor and the poor, and the sorrow of the rich and rich, all of these are just different ideas.

Everyone's mirror is different, but there is really no need to deliberately pursue things that don't belong to us.

Of course, the ordinary mind is not something that ordinary people have, it is a kind of spiritual perception and a spiritual sublimation after experiencing hardships and setbacks. Pampering and humiliation are not shocked, to leave the will of heaven, it is very easy to say, but in fact it is very difficult, the diversity of the red dust, the colorfulness of the world makes everyone excited, Lilu is what you and I want, and can only not worry or fear, not happy or sad? Otherwise, there wouldn't be such a person who spends his whole life!

Fame and fortune will not have so many people frustrated and discouraged. Only when you are not shocked by the humiliation, go to leave the will of God, and if you can have a peaceful mind, can you achieve progress and look at life with a smile.

In real life, everyone can live easily, happily, and happily, but then again, some people are never happy, relaxed, or happy all their lives, so why? The reason is that it is suppressed and entangled by something, that is, fame and fortune, in the eyes of these people, fame and fortune have become the realm of life, and it seems that the richer the fame, the more wonderful and nourishing life is. However, they know that fame and fortune will bring happiness to them.

If you don't know, fame and fortune will also bring pain, for fame and fortune, they work hard, they work, old gods, for fame and fortune, they run, they plan, they are busy. For the sake of fame and fortune, they deceive, they conspire and schem, and they do everything.

To suck up. On the issue of the pursuit of fame and fortune, the opposition between gains and losses is particularly obvious. However, in fact, the two are always transformed into each other, gaining means losing, losing means gaining, and even losing not only fame and fortune, but also one's own life.

In fact, fame and fortune are just a net woven by flowers, don't care too much, blindly chasing fame and fortune is a major weakness of human beings, which is harmful to others, but also harmful to themselves, for me, actually living in this world, should laugh at the pain and joy of life, to pursue a real career, to take every difficult step of the road, to create a brilliant road, then we will live happily, live a chic life.

I'll give you a piece of material for this writing**: Once, when Gaidar was traveling, a schoolboy met him and carried an empty box for him, and the schoolboy saw that the suitcase was very shabby, so he said: "Mr. is the famous Gaidar, why is the suitcase used casually?"

It's so incongruous. "Isn't it coordinated? Wouldn't it be worse if the suitcase was famous and I was casual," Gaidar said with a laugh.

The schoolboy looked at Gaidar and smiled. Analyzing this material, we can extract the central meaning that this material expresses the truth that things outside the body can be casual, but life cannot be casual, by writing about the famous Gaidar and schoolchildren about the dilapidated suitcase.

Based on this, students can extract the following two views: (1) being a person should not be casual; (2) To be a person, we must be a person with real talent and real learning, and we cannot be vain. Let's organize your own language, I hope you can succeed!

That is to be a serious person and do things seriously.

You can't be casual

People have a lifetime of time, and maybe it should be better to do something meaningful. Every hearty day, every quiet night, is enough for my heart to grow. But I'm ashamed to say that in the past 20 years, I haven't suffered anything, and I have a reason to be disappointed, which is purely vexatious.

It is true that it can be heartless in the face of reality, but what can really fill people's hearts is permanent comfort, not that short-term relaxation.

Many small problems were unwilling to make up their minds to change before, and I always thought that everyone couldn't bear to blame, but in fact, I knew that I had spoiled myself. If one day all the dependencies are gone, I am really afraid that I will suddenly not be able to adapt. Today, I'm willing to work hard, lose my innocence, and never be cute again.

Whether it's cheating or coquettishness, one day it will be boring and worthless. People can't be a child forever, and good experiences can never be repeated.

Maybe some people are calm, don't cry or make trouble, don't go crazy and don't laugh. But character is character, in fact, I still hate a boring life, which is quite comfortable to say, but it's actually very sad. It's better to have some suffering, and it's better to live a lifetime without pain.

If you do a big job, maybe life can be very different from what you imagined. I don't think it's possible to be born in sorrow, but it is only a matter of time before I die in peace. Once a person has no pursuit, the heart will also lose the motivation to move forward, and there is no difference between living and dying.

As the saying goes, if someone is alive, he is dead.

People have to have expectations, but what many people yearn for often only appears in dreams. Longing is just longing, reality is still reality. Thoughts can go anywhere, but the pace is so heavy and slow.

Although we cannot serve our hearts, we must carry this skin, and there are still many obstacles.

There is a kind of happiness that can only be earned by oneself, so why not strive for happiness for oneself and at the same time give others a little touch and warmth. When you are alone, don't be disappointed and don't be angry.