Why does an adult often believe the words of outsiders, but not at home, and is often deceived?

In fact, this situation will happen to each of us, generally speaking, I always feel that what outsiders say is more convincing than that of the family, and the family always can't listen to what the family says, but others only need to say it once and will remember, I think this should be a mentality problem, maybe it is because of the family for a long time Some things can not be believed or there is no way to believe easily, but for what others say is always convinced, in fact, such problems exist in each of us, But no matter what, family members always love us the most, no matter what they are, we must have the ability to distinguish between right and wrong, so that we will not hurt the people who love us and will not lose friends.

I don't have the right concept, but I believe in people outside, those people outside are like your family is not united, and the family is not good, this is their purpose. So we just can't believe the lies of people outside, and we must have the right point of view and treat our families. Only in this way can families unite and live in harmony.

An adult who often believes the words of outsiders but does not believe the words of his family is often deceived because he is too greedy.

Adults are deceived by **, first of all, they are greedy. It is to take advantage of your greed to hang a large sum of wealth on your head, so that you can exchange it for money, but you will never get this wealth.

This is a matter of attitude towards life, which can be changed, but it requires him to change this kind of thinking from the heart, and he can be guided by some things or some words.

An adult who often believes the words of outsiders, but does not believe that his family members are often deceived, indicates that his emotional intelligence is low.

The family did not give him enough security and trust.

Because the children of the elderly do not live around or do not visit often, they feel that life is monotonous and boring, lack of spiritual sustenance, and grasp the characteristics of the elderly group, carry out false care, feel that they are more concerned about themselves than their children, plus usually give a little favor to deceive the elderly. Therefore, the place of deception, of course, the elderly were deceived, and in turn, the children explained the precautions and problems of the elderly, and after being deceived, they generally did not let their children know because of the face, unless something big happened and they could not hide it, and they had to call their children to clean up the mess.

For pleasure. The elderly have nothing to do all day, and their children have no time to spend with them. Knowing that he will be deceived, it is because when he goes to those places, there are a lot of old people with him, and he will not be lonely.

So the key is still in the children, spend more time with the elderly. Think about what our parents did for us when we were young.

Due to the long-term lack of good communication between the children and the elderly, they do not care enough for the elderly. In addition, the rhetoric of ** makes the elderly feel intimate and respectful, and they will naturally believe more**.

Usually, the attitude of children towards the elderly has already made the elderly have a clear judgment, which cannot be changed by a specific matter. It's going to be a long time here, and people just have to think for themselves. The elderly are deceived by **, at least they have the capital to be deceived, and they will have a strong psychological hope, which cannot be obtained from their children.

Most of the elderly who have been deceived are more selfish, and their children's selfishness will also be inherited, so the contradictions in such a family will be more prominent. **It is an expert in drilling camp contradictions, and it exists because it has its suitable space.

This phenomenon is very common in our elderly people. For a variety of reasons. The kids weren't around.

Older people also like to listen to good words. I also like diligent children. I know that health products are not good.

Can't stand the enthusiasm of the children. and diligent. You have difficulties, shout.

And the child came. Sometimes, they are treated as their own children. That's how I feel.

Yes, too many people believe the words of outsiders, but not their own words, what outsiders say is true, what they say at home is false, and what they say at home is the same as spies, it is extremely stupid! Can someone in your family harm you? People who live to be dozens of years old are so bad that they have become a joke after tea and dinner for some people!

No matter who remembers, your family won't hurt you.

We can't blame our parents for being too simple and easy to fall for these **, but we usually ignore the feelings of our parents, and do not fulfill the responsibilities that a child should fulfill, so that parents feel lonely and helpless, and some ** just took advantage of this warm loophole and won the trust of these old people in the name of warmth. Parents would rather believe than believe in our children, and parents know that this is ** and choose to believe**, which shows that our children are really not enough, or even inferior to these**, which should be the most fundamental reason why our parents would rather be fooled. Ding Ding finally said to his classmates, take the time to come back to visit your parents more, chat with your parents more, and solve some practical problems for your parents, so that you will reduce the space and time for your parents to be deceived, and parents will not rather believe in ** than believe in our children.

I guess it's the reason why the authorities are obsessed.

Rebellious mentality, one day you will understand the words of your family.

No one can be convinced when you talk at home.

If you have any other questions, please ask.

If you are deceived, you must change your way of thinking, mistakes are inevitable, and if you make mistakes again and again, you must reflect on yourself.

Excessive kindness is tantamount to self-deception.

Alas, it may be because you are too simple and kind.

Believe in others, look at people. Only by learning to recognize people can we trust others.

Because you are still kind, you will always be polished by society.

The person who was deceived because he believed in others deceived me What should I say about him, scold him, hate him, and curse her.

Believing in people is not a bad thing. But is there a reasonable reason to trust him? I also want to see if there is any damage to myself. If the above two are correct. There's no need not to believe it!

This is determined by the individual's character.

Raid! That is kindness, and it is better for others to deceive oneself than to deceive oneself. Everything is pursued and precious, and everything can be sacrificed for the sake of others, and it belongs to a good person with a good reputation!

However, good people often encounter thankless efforts, which becomes the "trouble" of good people

A lot of the time, we're in.

After listening to what we were saying, we were accustomed to saying lightly: "This is the reality, this is the society, and this is the dark side of human nature." I want to say that such persuasion, such a summary, can always reduce the pain in the narrator's heart, but I don't know that in fact, these are useless, on the contrary, I put a big question mark on my heart:

What would I do if I was going through these things myself? "After thinking about it for a long time, the psychology is actually very afraid, afraid that the words we persuade others are completely inapplicable to themselves, afraid that the so-called human indifference will happen to themselves, afraid of the so-called reality, the society has taught us a lesson in themselves, afraid that when we really see the dark side of society, our hearts will be cold, and we will not believe it from now on.

Because they're stupid!

The answer to your question is your first half of the sentence.

This shows why the stupid man is stupid, and the stupid man thinks that the people around him are deceiving him.

The forest is big, and there are all kinds of birds; I'd rather have wolves than dogs; I would rather trust strangers than relatives around me; People lead and don't go, and ghosts lead and run around. Such people do exist.

Because he has not seen the world, and does not know that the outside world is hateful.

Women exist in this place, don't ask the facts, don't know the ins and outs of things, what others say, he believes, what the newcomer says, but he wonders, the so-called stupid people are so stupid.

is such a character, no matter how many things have been done, how many losses have been suffered, there will not be much growth, and when things are encountered, they will still trust strangers and are unwilling to listen to the advice of those around them. Advice against the ear is good for action, but not everyone can accept the advice against the ear, hey.

Otherwise, how to say that they are stupid people, strangers say a little good, he will believe it, the more his relatives persuade him, the more he thinks that you are lying to him, like this kind of person deserves to be unlucky to be deceived.

This is the so-called stupidity, it's useless to say as much as you want, only when he wakes up himself, he will have a chance, otherwise, his efforts will be in vain!

It's really stupid, outsiders regard them as their own people, and relatives are relatives after all, how can they trust outsiders.

Such a person is not stupid, but too smart, he will not trust anyone, outsiders are better to believe it, if his relatives will not believe it, he thinks that everyone is lying to him,

People who believe in others are like angels in the hearts of many people, they are so lively, and the purity in their eyes when facing others will also make people unbearable to deceive them, so that they have always lived under the protection of others. It's just because of this that their perception of the world has always been so beautiful, especially in the face of feelings, they will trust their lover very much, even if they find that the other party has deceived them, they also believe that the other party is doing it for their own good, but they don't know the reason.

The higher the expectation, the greater the disappointment, he must have been deeply hurt by others to make such a choice, not relying on distrust, this is a sign of insecurity and trust.

The most important reason is that he is insecure, and the environment in which he grew up has a deep influence on him.

I think this matter is really very common, mainly reflected in the fact that the elderly in the family are particularly easy to be deceived, and after being deceived, they don't believe that the other party is **.

My classmate's grandfather is like this, he is easy to be deceived every time, and he is always sold a lot of health care products, what health care oral liquid, health care pillows, health care soap, only you can't think of it, there is no ** money.

My classmate's grandfather always moved things home, and my classmate and her mother persuaded her grandfather many times, explaining that those people are **, don't buy things next time, there is nothing that can change the medicine for heart disease, high blood pressure, low blood sugar, diabetes, and cancer is not solved by medical means now. But her grandfather didn't believe it, he still tirelessly bought these health care products, sometimes the family would be angry and turn his face with the family when he talked too much, and then his family could only control her grandfather's economy, and other small money went with him, hoping that he would wake up one day.

Let me say, this kind of old people are really very much, they are gullible outsiders but do not want to believe their families, in their opinion, they are sober, their families are blinded, and they are quite a bit hateful to iron and steel. In fact, people are like this when they are old, the ability to judge right and wrong has declined greatly, the times are still changing rapidly, everything is relatively new to them now, they are like drowning people, desperately want to grab something, want to live, at this time they are easy to be deceived by outsiders, do not believe in their families.

There are also some old people who are stubborn, always believe in themselves, do not want to believe in their families, he always feels that he is right, so when there are outsiders who can agree with him, he will trust outsiders and not believe in his relatives, if I want to say, the old people should really see clearly, after all, blood is thicker than water, relatives are still more worthy of trust!

For the elderly, because the family does not let them do anything, especially when the elderly who live with their children with a little family background, they are afraid that their children will embezzle property (a formal problem in China), so more elderly people are unwilling to trust their family members and would rather believe in outsiders, so the family should pay more attention to the hearts of the elderly.

I remember one time: listen to what my mother said, my grandmother listened to the door-to-door salesman, and spent hundreds to buy a ** disease clothes or what, although the money is not much, but it is also a lot for the elderly, which shows that the elderly are easy to deceive, it is indeed this truth, but my grandparents are also willing to believe in their sons and daughters, because they are all very good, yes, sons, grandchildren, granddaughters are very good, such grandparents are rare, so, I feel very happy, This time, I gave a positive example to illustrate the reason why the elderly do not believe in their families, it is because their children are not filial, and if their children are filial to themselves, the elderly will believe in their families!

ps: Be kind to the elderly, after all, the elderly are their grandparents, father's parents, so it is very important to be kind to them, love them as much as our parents