Can a man who doesn t smoke mix, and a man who doesn t smoke and drink is a good man

I'm this kind of man, and in the eyes of the world and my hometown, I don't mix well. Every time I go back to my hometown, I always hear others whispering in my ear how big an official so-and-so was, how much money he gave his parents and brothers, what cigarettes he smoked, what alcohol he drank, what kind of car he drove, and what ......I was silent.

But I also know that outside of the world, there is a world of Buddhism, and that is a world of cultivation that welcomes people who do not smoke, drink, prostitute or gamble. In this world, people's worldview is no longer distorted, and a man who can be pure for life must be a good man; A man who smokes, drinks, prostitutes, and gambles is bound to be a bad man in this world.

In the eyes of women, the judgment of this kind of man will also vary from person to person, and there are completely different standards. Women who like fame and fortune and are greedy for pleasure don't care about their men's smoking, drinking, prostitution and gambling, what they care about is the power and wealth that their men bring to them.

But there is also a kind of plain woman who loves a man who does not smoke, drink, prostitute or gamble, and who is full of wealth or has a profession that can earn money to support his family. They live a plain and low-key life without quarrel with the world, they never care what others say about how their man is mixed, they only care that their man is responsible for the family, himself and his children.

The world's vision is like this, and good things are not necessarily popular. Men who don't smoke, drink, gamble or prostitute, no matter what others say, continue to go their own way!

Men who don't smoke can mix well, but in fact, whether they mix well or not has little to do with smoking.

The role of smoke:

fromFrom the perspective of interpersonal communication, I personally thinkSmoke justJust a tool. On some occasions of interpersonal communication, handing a cigarette and chatting while smoking is undeniably able to shorten the distance between each other. Therefore, many men who do not smoke will also carry a pack of cigarettes on their bodies, which can come in handy for necessary occasions.

In addition, smoke has a good partner"Wine"。The existence of tobacco and alcohol culture still promotes interpersonal relationships.

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However, not all occasions are suitable for smoking, and some high-end places are not suitable for smoking and communication, especially when there are ladies, smoking can even have negative effects.

What do men rely on to mix well:

From my years of work and interpersonal interactions, I personally feel that men mix well mainly by the following three points:

Communication skills

What kind of words are said on what occasions,In our work and communication, we often face different occasions, and some people have a rough idea of what kind of personality the other party is and what kind of communication style is suitable after exchanging a few words with each other. Speak to the point. Chinese is one of the most complex languages in the world.

This complexity also shows its richness and diversity, and the same point of view can be expressed in many ways. It is more effective not to use negative words in communication than to use negative words because using negative words can give the impression of command or criticism. Although it clearly states your point of view, it is not easy to accept.

In addition, there is also listening attentively, being good at expressing agreement, and knowing what euphemism is.

Adaptability

What kind of things to do in what situations, also take smoking as an example, in what kind of occasion is suitable for smoking, and at what time is suitable for handing out cigarettes. It also requires a person's ability to observe and adapt. In terms of interpersonal communication, there will always be many opportunities for you to get closer to each other or promote a cooperation, and we also need to seize the opportunity to win what we want.

Be honest and honest

MenciusIt is said that "there is faith in words, and people do not pay without faith".。To win a full house of friends, we must first be honest with others, and only in this way can we gain the trust of others and become friends with them. As long as you learn to be honest, you can be more proud of the benefits than the tens of millions of dollars you can bring.

However, few people can truly understand the importance of integrity in building people's popularity. Most people unintentionally set up some unnecessary obstacles on their way to expanding their popularity. Their dishonesty often disappoints those who are interested in becoming close friends with him.

Therefore, you must be honest, when you are recognized as a trustworthy person in interpersonal communication, it means that you have half the success. On the road in the future, when others have any opportunities, they will also give priority to those trustworthy friends.

Finally: smoking is not like drinking, it requires a lot of alcohol.

People who don't have a smoking addiction can also wait for a little smoke once in a while, and smoking less is good for their health and that of their families. As long as you can use the tool "smoke" well. It doesn't matter if you smoke or not.

Xie Ao. Personally, I think that there is no connection between coming out and smoking, you don't necessarily smoke if you mix well, and you don't necessarily smoke if you mix badly. Smoking is only used as a way of distraction, but now some young people regard smoking as a cool or status symbol, so can this kind of imagination be said to be good or bad?

All in all, because you must have seen young non-smokers become leaders, and you have also seen salarymen who are about to retire and smoke for decades, so do you think these two are necessarily related?

So if you don't smoke and don't have that habit, you can insist on not touching yourself, because in fact, there are not too many people who will laugh at you or what, improving your ability is the best way, instead of smoking, it is better to think about how to improve yourself.

There are also a lot of men who don't smoke in society now, this is a very normal thing, there is nothing that cannot be mixed, it is too common.

Cigarettes are a communication tool, but they are not necessary. And smoking is bad for your health, so it's better not to smoke. A lot of people don't smoke or drink, and they just do the same.

Whether you mix well or not depends on your ability, eloquence, personal charm, and so on. You are capable, you don't have to please others, it is others who please you. You have a good personal charm and can naturally attract people.

There is another way, that is to care more about people, caring for people is different from pleasing people, you always care about people, naturally many people respect you. If you are cold to people, naturally no one cares about you.

When men grow up, they always have to go out into contact with society. That is to say, the so-called mix. But can you mix well without smoking?

In fact, as long as you treat people sincerely and sincerely with your friends. I think it's better than a friend like smoking and drinking. Smoking and drinking are just a means of communicating.

Treating people with sincerity is the best one. Therefore, as long as you are promising, you can mix well with others. It has nothing to do with smoking.

Not all men smoke and like to smoke, and sometimes hospitality will take a piece of salt and hand it to the other person as a sign of respect; Sometimes people who have not smoked salt feel embarrassed and helpless and can only hold it and not smoke, and can only apologize when encountering this situation, in fact, non-smoking can socialize with non-smokers, which is more practical, just like their own interests and hobbies and personalities are similar, not necessarily embarrassing.

Men who smoke can still mix, as long as you are strong enough, there are still excellent people who are close to you.

Turnip greens have their own loves, each has their own talents, and you can't deny other people's lives like this, mainly rely on yourself to struggle.

If you don't drink or smoke, can you be considered a good man? Is he a good man who is not responsible for his family? So it's not right to measure it by that standard.

That's not necessarily, for example, the same person, who doesn't smoke and drink, is better than who doesn't smoke and drink, who doesn't smoke and drink, who doesn't drink well, who is not well-educated, who is careful, who is stingy, let me choose, I choose the former.

Men who don't smoke or drink are mostly maverick men, and such people may have other hobbies. As for the standard of a good man, it depends on the aesthetic standards of other people. A good man at least has a relatively high level of personal accomplishment.

If you don't smoke or drink, you may have other problems. Gambling, prostitution...

Character is not measured simply by smoking and drinking.

I can understand your cautious attitude, but I still doubt your age and emotional feelings about this childish question you asked.

It may sound impulsive, I hope you are happy.

Not necessarily, the most important thing is to be good to you, but also to be self-motivated, know how to earn money to support your family.

Everyone's definition of good is different.

There are girls who like to be handsome, as long as they are handsome, it is good.

Some girls like to be rich, and being rich is good.

And there's no such thing as a perfect man, so I think it's too one-sided to judge good or bad based on these hobbies.

For example, if a man doesn't have these hobbies, he spends his days messing with flowers and grass, is he still a good man?

No, the definition of a good man is different. You have to understand that a person who does not smoke, drink, or gamble is incapable and useless. And a person with strong ability, money and status, but smoking, drinking, and prostitution, no one will say that he is a bad man.

Don't gamble and don't cheat.

My dad doesn't smoke or drink, he works at home actively, diligently, and has a sense of family responsibility.

It depends on what you want, some men don't smoke or drink but they don't behave well, and they are not good men.

But men who don't smoke or drink must have a certain amount of self-control and principle, otherwise it's easy to get contaminated.