Mom died, dad languished, how can I enlighten him?

Because the death of a wife is like losing a part of his body for a husband, and a part of his life is leaving. Because they had become one with each other for a long time, it was at this time that a part of his life was lost in anger, resulting in a lack of it, and he felt that there was nothing worth caring about anymore. So he lost all his feelings for the world, and your mother's departure took away all his feelings.

What you need is to reawaken his feelings.

First of all, you can persuade him that his mother will not be happy to see you so decadent in heaven, and do you want her to worry about you in heaven as well? What's more, she has not left us, she has always been by our side, she exists in memory, in the traces of our lives, she just exists around us in another form, in every corner of our room there is the smell of my mother's life, every bowl, everything has her breath. And even if she leaves us for many years, we will always exist with her.

So don't be sad, so I think your father will feel better, too.

Second, you can find out what your mother usually likes, what she is passionate about, what dreams she had, such as doing charity, raising flowers, opening a bookstore, etc., as long as you find what your mother likes to do, and then tell your father that your mother is gone, but she likes to do this, we have to continue her will, so that she will not regret it, and she will always be by our side in this way. It's a way to keep your dad busy and love it, and he'll cheer him up. In the process, I think he should be able to go back to the kind of happy life they had when they were together, and if he helps others, he will also be very happy, which is scientifically based, so that you will be freed from sadness and return to normal life.

I know that the death of a loved one is like a soul that has no support, but the dead die, and the living still have to live, and I hope that everyone can try their best to be strong at this time, and I hope that they will be well.

I was still in college when my mother died, and four years after my mother's death, my life with my father began to slowly start to get back on track.

My mother has always been in poor health, and her personality is relatively gentle and flexible, and she is the glue that binds us in this family of three, because my father and I have always had a bad relationship, and I have been noisy for 20 years, all thanks to my mother's efforts to reconcile.

My mother died in a nap center, and my father was older, and after such a blow, he collapsed, crying and blaming himself from time to time for not taking good care of his mother. I felt ten years old in an instant, and in the face of my devastating father, I took the initiative to play the role of a parent, frugally doing funerals, taking care of housework, and letting my father see that I could do everything well, that he could rely on me, and that he didn't have to be afraid. Even without my mother, I will continue to lead the family forward, using all my patience and hard work.

In the past four years, I worked early after graduation, and the economy has been much better, I rarely mention my mother to my father, try to cook some delicious food for my father during the holidays, take him out for a walk, cherish the people in front of him, this is the most important thing, let him go in the past.

It's been almost four years since my mom passed away, and it took almost three years for my dad to get back up! The process makes me cry when I think about it now!

What I want to say is to cheer up my father and father: I can only rely on my children and grandchildren to accompany him with his heart, so that he can minimize the time of loneliness, and the rest depends on time, which will make the pain slowly fade!

Time Nothing else is of use.

<>At this moment, children must comfort and soothe their mother's emotions.

It is necessary to get her out of the pain as soon as possible. After all, there is an old saying that people cannot be resurrected after death, your father has died, and your mother is immersed in the past, which is a normal situation and a normal phenomenon, but after all, it is useless, and the living still need to continue our lives.

Spend a little more energy on caring for your mother. After all, in the past, your parents worked hard for you, and now you need to be filial.

Besides, my father died young, leaving a lonely mother, and I need you to spend more energy, understand her feelings, and help her get out of this period of pain as soon as possible.

Taking my mother on a trip to participate in various cultural and recreational activities such as singing, sports and fitness is also an effective way to divert attention and get rid of the memories of the past as soon as possible. If you stay at home every day, it is not easy to get out of the pain of the past.

If you have the money, buy a new house for your mother to live in, and let your mother stop seeing things and get rid of the memories of the past as soon as possible.

If your thinking is avant-garde enough, you can also encourage your mother to find a new wife, only peers can really solve the knot of peers, which is probably a truth that conforms to the true feelings of the world, so you can also ask her if there is such a favorite object in her heart. This kind of thing needs to be done naturally, and it cannot be forced to be difficult.

Concluding remarks:

In this situation, I am afraid that many times it is not possible to solve it materially, so it is more important to think of ways from the mental, emotional, and psychological aspects of being a child. As long as you are a caring person, there is always a way.

The sadness and loneliness of parents need to be measured by children's hearts!

I think first of all, you should reason with her, and then care for her from life, tell her that although your father has passed away, there are still you, and only in this way can you effectively persuade your mother.

This kind of thing takes time to digest slowly, and all you can do is spend more time with her and help her through this time.

Spend more time with each other. There is no way to persuade this kind of thing, after all, it is the sudden departure of someone who has been with you for half your life, and what you can do is to accompany you more.

At this time, we must comfort and soothe the mother's emotions well, so that she can get rid of the pain as soon as possible, spend more time and energy to accompany her, or take her out for a walk and divert her attention.

Your father passed away this year, so of course you should go back to your parents' house for the New Year this year, and now your mother's mood should be very sad, and you, as a daughter and son-in-law, should go home for the New Year and accompany your mother.

As their children grow older, especially after entering primary school, there is less communication between parents and children, and the relationship between them even becomes stranger. This situation is not only due to the fact that the characteristics of children's development are changing, but also that the relationship between parents and children has not been adjusted in a timely manner. Therefore, how to promote effective communication between parents and children is an urgent problem to be solved.

Understand your children and communicate with them on an equal footing.

In real life, when parents communicate with their children, they often have a condescending attitude, putting themselves in a position of comparative advantage, and do not regard their children as an equal and independent individual, but only as a natural person without thoughts and ideas or as their own vassals. Therefore, in the process of getting along with children, they are accustomed to giving orders, communicating with them in a tone of lessons, and demanding that their children have no doubt about their language and behavior, and must follow them. Therefore, their mantras are often "no", "no", "you should", "you must", and are often associated with criticism, reprimand, admonishment, and negation.

Children may eat their parents when they are young, but after entering primary school, they begin to have their own thoughts and ideas, and parents' behavior is very easy to cause their rebellion, some will use silence and non-cooperation to fight, and some will even have direct confrontation with their parents, resulting in unsatisfactory communication results.

Therefore, when parents face their children in primary school who are becoming more and more self-conscious, they should be able to learn to empathize, think about what they think from their children's point of view, think about what they think, and give them enough understanding, so as to look at and solve problems from their point of view. Criticism and punishment can help them correct their mistakes, but the education of love can make them better.

Parents and children should understand and trust each other, and try to be friends with their children, so as to build an effective bridge for effective communication with each other, so that children will be willing to take the initiative to open their hearts to their parents and speak their hearts. In this way, parents can have a deeper understanding of their children and can give them timely and effective guidance. When communicating with your children, try to use a consultative tone and use more sentences like "I think so, what do you think", so that children can feel that their parents understand and respect them, so that they will be more willing to communicate with their parents.

Viewpoint 1: Mom is completely free from suffering and happy. The world is originally a place of suffering, and when you leave, you leave.

Viewpoint 2: Life becomes a family, it is fate; Leaving this world is fate; The law of nature is the Tao; What can't be modified, can't be done by man. In this case, if you are always concerned about it, if there is another world, it will also affect the happiness of your mother in another world.

So, what's wrong with letting mom go free and having fun. It's about caring about her. Also, even if Dad is uncomfortable all the time, it will only affect Mom's happiness.

Why not let go and make both parties happy?

Idea 3: Think about what you need to do, and you won't feel bad when you do it. You can work hard for your mother's unfinished business, which is the greatest help.

Persuading people may not be able to completely dialectical materialism, and spiritual matters still need some spiritual guidance.

In a word, let go when it should be put down, and pay tribute when it should be sacrificed, this is not a contradiction. Speaking of which, we who are alive, think about our parents, or when they are alive, let's do a lot of filial piety. When the old man is gone, no matter what you think, it can only be a pity.

Do more filial things and do more things for the elderly, you will have peace of mind, so that you will not be so sad, otherwise, you will regret a lot.

That's all. I couldn't think of any other way to persuade me for a while.

Expressing condolences, I want to work hard, I want to be diligent, I want to fight all day long, how long do you want to last?!

You are the shadow between them, you are your mother who left your father, and your father should be glad to see the shadow of his wife in you instead of nothing.

Tell her to participate in more activities, such as practicing Tai Chi, dancing, and take her to travel when she is free.

Quietly accompany your mother, take care of your mother's life, what your mother needs is long-term care and love, and after a while, you can take your mother out for a walk, travel to beautiful places, don't often mention your father, let your mother recover slowly! Bless Mom!

Tell your mom. Don't you still have me? Don't be too sad, I'll be filial to you.

Quietly accompany. Tell her you're going to be aggressive!!

Then you have to be strong like an adult, and love your mother even more...