How do you deal with the people in your life who are not on the outside?

In today's society, everyone has two sides, one side is the deep feelings in their hearts, and the other side is the self with a mask in the face of others and society. Give yourself a disguise. It is used to protect yourself and protect yourself from being hurt by others.

Like the thorns of a cactus.

It is generally used to indicate that this person pretends to be very kind, sunny and righteous on the surface, but the heart is calculating, dark, hypocritical, and uses the way of hurting others to protect themselves and safeguard their own interests.

But in today's society, we have to face some people on the surface, we have to face them, to contact them, what should we do when we face robots?

First of all, no one likes people who are different from the outside, but now in this society, we have all smoothed out the edges and corners, we can contact them less, and have a good relationship with them on the surface, at least on the face, don't make enemies, generally people who are different from the outside are scheming, and making enemies with them is not a correct choice. Not a smart man's choice.

Of course, it's not for you to accept that they like him and become like them, because some of their powers want to compliment them, keep their own hearts, and maintain their sense of justice.

The most important thing is that in this real society, this dark society, we must keep our hearts pure, kind, and full of a sense of justice. Don't fall into the abyss, don't become a person who is different from what is on the outside, and become what we hate ourselves.

I hope we can all maintain our purest selves in this dark society.

We can't change others, we can't change very lightly, we can only say change ourselves, try not to let ourselves become such a person.

Generally ignore. Sometimes I can't just make a scene on the spot, after all, I pretend to turn a blind eye to the performance with them. If you really don't have a shame, you will slap him in the face...

Strictly speaking, no one can be the same. Each person's outlook on life, values, and worldview comes from the level of his or her own moral standards, and each person's moral standards depend on the grasp of their own conscience. Although conscience is the innate nature of each person, but everyone's conscience is very different, the good and the bad are uneven, coupled with the innate desire characteristics of human nature, so that human nature can not be the same as the inside and the outside, and the same is the beautiful yearning of human society from beginning to end!

27 People who read books late at night tend to have these three manifestations.

These people generally do one thing in front of them and one thing behind their backs, and they often say bad things about others behind their backs, and they are also very selfish and do things without thinking about the consequences.

In life, I often lie, I am very insincere when I communicate with people, I say something as I want, I don't care about everyone's feelings, I am very selfish to people, I always ask others to pay a lot to myself, but I am not willing to give anything.

The most obvious manifestation of people who are different from the inside and outside is that what he says is completely different from what he does, and they are completely two extremes, so we must be careful when dealing with such people.

is particularly interest-oriented, likes to be an afterthought, and often hypocritically praises others, likes to play official, and says things that never take a stand.

People who are different from the outside pay special attention to interests in life, and will do whatever it takes to achieve their goals; I especially like afterthought, I don't express my opinion when I encounter things, and I see what others say; I like to speak in an official tone, and I never really express my opinion.

People who are different from the outside will do things in front of you in life. Behind the scenes, talking and doing things, often different from the heart, this kind of person seems to be easy to get along with, but it is actually difficult to get along.

The words spoken were very frivolous. Don't keep your word. It can blow the cow into the sky. Love to belittle others. Always lying. Doing things irresponsibly. Good at seeing the wind and making the rudder. Doing things unreliable.

On the surface, there is a set of things on the surface, and I don't know what I do at all, I don't think about doing what I did before, and I don't know what I did.

There are two types of such people, one is only different from the individual, for example, he is different from you, so this kind of person, of course, it is better to stay away, because we can't afford to provoke and hide; The second type is that his personality is like this, he is different from everyone on the outside, and he should be more careful when getting along with such people.

Because at the beginning, everyone must not be able to find out her bad, if only you target him, then the spearhead will be pointed at you, so for this kind of person, you must learn to be patient, there is a sentence "endure the calm for a while, take a step back and open the sky".

For the first type of person, the way to deal with it is relatively simple, this kind of person is only aimed at you, then you can completely avoid her, no matter what she does, what she says, you can just ignore her, and avoid contact as much as possible in life and work.

As for her saying bad things about you behind your back, don't pay attention to it, the clear person will clear herself, and those who believe in you will not misunderstand you because of one-sided words.

For the second group of people, there are some ways to deal with them.

1. This kind of person is out of sight, try to avoid getting along with such a person, if you accidentally meet, don't show your dislike for him too obviously, and it's better to stay away from his polite smile.

2. Don't take the initiative to get along with people who are different from the outside, it will disgust you, the right thing to do is to stay as far away from them as you are.

3. People who are different from the outside take the initiative to talk to you and chat, you just deal with it, and you don't take what they say to heart, most of them are not nutritious, bragging, don't count.

4. People who are different from the outside are hypocritical, you have to be vigilant against this kind of person, if you don't do it, they will stab you in the back, always guard them, don't let them hurt you.

When you meet someone who is different from the outside in life, you should be strong in your heart, just know it, and you must not tell him this, otherwise he will be dismantled by you and will be annoyed and angry and frame you.

Stay away from her, speak in a roundabout way, hide a knife in a smile, and then flatter. I just have to laugh at this kind of person, get along with her for a long time, speak around the corner, hide a knife in her smile, and then flatter. I just have to smile at this kind of person, and after getting along for a long time, everyone will understand what kind of person she is.

The best way to deal with this kind of person is to be nice to him on the surface, but secretly to guard against him. If he is engaged in all the official business of his work, he shall hold a meeting to discuss collectively and invite the person concerned to attend; Other official information is avoided. At the same time, try not to associate with him, and keep your personal privacy and even the secrets of other friends tight-lipped.

As long as you can do it seamlessly, he will be helpless against you.

It's best to stay away from him, because such people don't accidentally reveal their inconsistent nature, but they are such people, easy to change, difficult to change, and really tired to be with such people.

When you meet someone who is different from the outside, you can't get along with him with sincerity, and you must be careful in what you say and do, and it's best to be a fool in front of these people.

Stay away from such people. People who are different from the outside are very complicated, and they say these things on the surface, but they actually do something else. This kind of person does not deserve the trust of others.

Keep a certain distance. Learn to protect yourself. If it hurts you, be sure to fight back appropriately. Don't show mercy to such people.

Now there are too many people who are inconsistent, and if you meet them, you can know what you know, and there is no need to debunk them and make people unable to get off the stage.

I think this kind of person, you should stay away from him, because you really don't know when he will bite you back and pretend to be innocent.

27 People who read books late at night tend to have these three manifestations.

The inconsistency between the inside and the outside can be understood literally, but what is shown is not what is really in the heart.

In fact, even the most "straight" people will be duplicitous for some reasons, such as politeness, not wanting to worry their families, and duplicity. Therefore, the judge of whether a person is "inconsistent from the outside" is not to see whether he has this kind of behavior (which all people have), but to look at the frequency of this kind of behavior. If a person's behavior is often inconsistent with what he or she thinks, then it can be defined as a person who is not the same as he or she is.

Inconsistency, like the camouflage of animals, is a way of behaving in the world. As an approach, there is no positive or negative aspect of it. Since it is neutral, it cannot be said that it is good or bad. And it is not necessarily related to the pursuit of monetary interests.

Many people who are greedy for profit behave quite the same as they do on the outside. For example, some robbers, they want to get something for nothing, and they end up robbing decisively. Psychology and behavior are fairly consistent.

Similarly, some people who are weak in heart do not have a strong pursuit of financial gain, but they are well versed in the inconsistencies between what is on the outside and what is inside. The reason why they get along so well with the people around them is not because they know how to behave. If there is something in the neighbors that they are not happy about, they can pretend not to see.

Now why "inconsistency" has a pejorative connotation, it is because people have narrowed down its meaning. Everything that involves good, well-intentioned actions that are inconsistent is grouped under the category of good-faith acts. Only those acts that harm others and benefit themselves and hypocrisy are still included in the inconsistencies.

In fact, as long as you observe carefully, you will find that the real people around you actually have many things that are duplicitous, but they are just kind.

27 People who read books late at night tend to have these three manifestations.

Hello, people's inner and outer world are not consistent, and in order to adapt to the surrounding environment, some compromises have to be made, and this compromise is often a kind of disguise. For example, people can't vent their desires directly, because the social environment doesn't allow it, so they disguise it. For example, there are introverts who are extroverted, which is also a disguise.

In the final analysis, camouflage is when the heart does not match the environment, and one of the needs to adapt to the environment is that the correct approach should be to strive to understand and transform the environment, so that the heart and the environment can achieve unity.

In fact, inconsistencies are not necessarily bad, and each of us will have some inconsistencies to a greater or lesser extent. Just imagine, if the world is full of real people, and the world has no lies, what a terrible world it is.

Let's talk about how to deal with people who are different from the outside, first of all, he can make others see that the inconsistency is his failure, this kind of person is not terrible, what is terrible is those who you think are sincere but secretly make them bad. You can't have the heart to hurt people, and you can't have the heart to let people go. Nowadays, the predators in society give people the feeling that they are very sincere, you don't think that he has always been like this, most of them are sincere when they were young, to the rebellion of their youth, to the cunning of their youth, to their calmness in middle age, and finally to return to sincerity.

These are the inevitable stages of life, and some people may skip the middle stages, but in the end they all return to sincerity. Most people stay in the stage of calmness and even cunning.

Protect yourself One day he won't protect himself.

How to face it"There is a difference between what is on the outside and what is on the outside"is actually a challenge to one's own interpersonal relationships.

If you handle it properly, you will be friends, and if you don't handle it properly, you will be like an enemy and make your life very hard.

In the face of such people, we must always be vigilant, try to provoke as little as possible, and avoid head-on conflicts. Protect yourself at all times.

Remember not to talk too much, which is sometimes caused by too many words"Woe comes from the mouth"and thus making trouble on the body.

People who are different from the outside can be seen everywhere in life, especially at work, there is always no shortage of villains. Many young people who are new to the workplace always have a headache when they encounter such two-faced people, and they don't know how to deal with their relationship. In fact, there are skills in dealing with this kind of person, so let's learn it quickly.

First of all, you can only be skeptical of what this kind of person says. In the workplace, if you find someone in front of others, and after others, then you can only believe half of what he said to you in your dealings with him, you have to have your own judgment, especially what he teaches you at work, you had better think twice, try to think about it comprehensively, and ask yourself if it is feasible to do so, or you can also ask for other people's opinions, so as to avoid falling into the trap of the other party.

Second, give him a small advantage. For this kind of duplicitous person, if you can't avoid it and have to deal with him, I think you can appropriately let him take advantage of it. If you sacrifice a little bit of yourself and let him take advantage of it, for example, you can do some things for him, or invite him to afternoon tea, these small favors may make him be kind to you.

Anyway, you try to maintain a friendly relationship with him on the surface, so that he feels that you are on the same page as him.

Again, if there is not much intersection, stay away from this kind of person. There is a saying that you can't be provoked, but you can hide. It is said that for this kind of villain, as long as he does not conflict with your interests, then we don't need to spend too much thought about how to get along with this kind of person, as long as we stay away from this kind of person.

In short, in life, don't conflict with this kind of person head-on, because he is a villain, you can never calculate him, you either maintain a good relationship with him, or stay away from him.