How much does the divorce affect the child?

In fact, it doesn't necessarily have much impact, my classmate's family is like this, but he is just as happy.

But if you want to know what this maximum limit is, I can tell you. My parents divorced when I was 16 years old and left me at the most inopportune time. It was my dad who ruined other people's families and deceived me and my mom after 4 years and decided to abandon us to chase his happiness.

He was happy, but it hurt me and my mother. I don't have the heart to study anymore, and people have become withdrawn. I'm very tired, it doesn't matter what I have to pretend to be every day, I look very happy to make my mother happy, so that my mother doesn't think about those sad things, which sad people.

But in the dead of night, I can only cry secretly, every day. I knew then how helpless I was to wear a mask. I remember that my father used to smoke a lot before he left, and he said:

Idle tea, stuffy wine, ah let's smoke (very depressed meaning). Ever since he hurt me and my mom, I've been secretly smoking so that I can feel closer to my dad. Now, five years have passed, but the damage he has caused me has not diminished at all.

He never cared about me, and once when I was lying in the emergency room waiting for the first aid, he actually said to the doctor, I don't have any money. I can't even describe how I felt at the time. It's his words, I know that now, I can't be angry, I will get sick when I am angry, the same as when he said that sentence at that time.

I also saw the essence of a man in him, so I was afraid of marriage, afraid of cheating. I've also become more extreme, and my temper is getting worse and worse. I remember the first Chinese New Year's Eve he left, and his mother happened to need to work overtime.

I sneaked to my grandmother's house to see my father and say a happy new year to him, but after waiting at the door for so long, I saw that my father had brought a woman and a daughter who was not related to him home for the New Year. He doesn't even want to think about how I spent the New Year, cold leftovers, alone at home, watching others laugh, I was crying. People say I'm strong.

But I was very fragile and had attempted suicide three times. Until now, I can't accept the reality and live bravely. The gossip of others, the malicious curse of grandma and grandfather, the cold eyes of my stepmother, and the indifference of my father have made me almost collapse.

Think about it, the person who can hurt the most fragile person in your heart, that is, your dearest relatives. I hope that this kind of thing will not happen to anyone, and I hope that people who are facing family fragmentation will persuade your parents not to cause irreparable shadows in the next area.

I remember hearing before that children whose parents divorced have certain flaws in their hearts, which actually makes sense. The divorce of my parents is quite common now, I am one, my mother didn't want me when I was very young, I was a girl but I grew up without mother's love, this is a very painful thing, but I hide it very well, no one knows my suffering. A child of a single parent will be more sensitive and will need more care, he may not show it, but he is more eager to be loved than the average person.

If you're talking about you, it's nothing, adjust your mentality, there are many people who are less fortunate than you, don't give up on yourself, I believe that there are still many people in this world who love you deeply, although your parents are separated, but they all love you, which is very fortunate, at least happier than me. Right?:)

If the person you are talking about is your friend, then give him more care and love, don't show pity for him, accompany him and tell him that it's nothing, that he has nothing to lose in his life and that it will be more and more exciting. In short, there are two sides to everything, you just have to guide him to think on the bright side.

Good luck :)

Of course, the divorce of parents has some influence on how many children, but from another aspect, I think about it, rather than letting him be a father. Mom grew up in a strange environment, it is better to let him grow up in an independent environment, I am also a child of divorced parents, although I thought it was better for my mother and father to be together, but I think about it or feel that since there is no emotion, why force them to be together again, it is better to let them pursue their own happiness, I also think that there is no need to worry so much, you can also learn to be independent, isn't this the best of both worlds?

It's big, big, and I think it's all negative. Cowardice, abnormal personality, low self-esteem, sensitivity, etc., it's not good anyway.

If you develop independently, you will make a difference.

If you snuggle up to a single parent, you will be extremely withdrawn.

The first depends on the attitude of parents and the method of education. The level of care for the child.

Second, look at the child's mentality, an attitude towards the divorce of parents.

I'm just a kid with divorced parents, and it doesn't matter.

Here's an answer to that question for you. First of all, as a child, it is acceptable for parents to divorce. It is also acceptable for parents to divorce and choose to remarry. Because parents will also have troubles, there will also be deviations in choice.

First of all, the reason why some children do not agree with their parents' divorce or remarriage is because children will worry about whether their parents will no longer love them as much as before after remarriage, and some children are not willing to adapt to the changes in the family after their parents remarry, and are unwilling to accept new parents, so there will be resistance and rejection. In fact, the happiness of divorced parents has little to do with their children. Of course, it is not denied that some divorced parents regard their children as everything, and the happiness of their children is their happiness, and parents have the right to remarry whether their children support Qingqi or not, because you have to remember that children are only people who accompany their parents for a period of life, and only they can accompany their parents to go on.

The second is that parents usually choose to remarry or not remarry because of their children's feelings, but as a child, do you consider whether she will be lonely from the perspective of parents, and will she need companionship, and also want someone to share with when she encounters something?

For divorce and remarriage, some people believe that as a reputation for children should support their parents, single parents themselves are not easy, in order to pull the child to do everything on their own, and always want to give the child the best life security, so that many ignore their feelings and happiness, then if parents have this idea, we as children must understand the difficulty of parents and support parents to find their own happiness.

We may ignore the feelings of our parents because we are busy with work, they are often bored at home alone, and they also need care and love in their emotional life, but we always have our own things to do, so it is easy to ignore their feelings, so when they have the idea of remarrying, we should give their parents support, so that there can be someone to help us take better care of our parents and give them greater fun in their later life!

I hope I can help friends in need.

The family has a great influence on a person, and those parents who are divorced, reorganized, and quarrelsome will affect their children's future love and marriage to varying degrees. Some children of divorced families grow up to lack confidence in love and marriage, and even dare not love someone easily. There is also another possibility, that is, after the children grow up to be sensible, they will take warning and cherish their marriage and family more, depending on whether you have established a correct and positive view of love.

The original family cannot become a stumbling block on your way to chasing happiness, your parents' marriage is your parents', yours is yours, everyone's life is something you can grasp, and your feelings are also managed by yourself, and you will not become a copy of your parents. Everyone's upbringing is different, and their attitude towards feelings is also different. Children who grow up in happy families will be more bold and natural emotionally; Those children whose parents have quarreled for a long time or who have grown up in single-parent families will have more or less wrong perceptions and panic when facing love and marriage.

Parents' desire to control, family relationships, and the suppressive style of elders will affect children's personality and handling problems. "Since I was a child, my parents have made decisions, and I have developed a kind of decision that I will not make my own decisions, I am afraid that this decision is wrong, and no one will help me bear the consequences" "People just have to find themselves in not admitting defeat, and any true self is interesting" If your family is unhappy, it is really difficult to trust or rely on other people, and we have been influenced by our original family since childhood, which will form a kind of self-characteristics, such as lack of love, obedience, insecurity, avoidance, etc., these characteristics will also appear in intimate relationships.

In fact, this situation is not uncommon, and many families are experiencing it. As the divorce rate increases, so does the number of children from divorced families. The impact of parents' divorce on their children has also attracted more and more attention from all sectors of society.

So what are the psychological characteristics of children with divorced families?

Pay attention to psychological changes.

1.Aggressive behavior. A child's sense of security lies in the trust they place in their parents and the trust and understanding they give to their children. The divorce of parents will make the child's heart lack this strong sense of security, and the child will protect himself through some aggressive behavior.

2.Anxiety. Children naturally crave the love of their parents, and if this need is not met, anxiety will arise. And anxiety will not disappear for no reason, it will remain there, and for how long it is not comforted, this anxiety will stay for as long as possible.

3.Become sensitive, vulnerable. Mood swings are very large, and when you encounter the slightest frustration or something that someone else says, you will immediately get angry.

4.Inferiority. Divorced children can easily blame themselves for the failure of their parents' marriage, which can easily lead to character defects with low self-esteem.

5.Rebellious and cowardly: After some parents are divorced, they often pin their feelings and hopes on their children, especially hoping that their children will become successful and show that they are good at teaching their children, so they are too tightly bound and disciplined by their children.

Over time, the psychological burden of children is too heavy, and they will be antagonistic to their parents, or afraid of disappointing their parents, so they simply escape, become timid and afraid, and cowardly and retreat.

First of all, the divorce or remarriage of parents is their own decision and life choice, and we should respect their decision and not impose our own emotions and opinions on them.

Second, divorce or remarriage may bring some changes and challenges to families and individuals, and we should allow the needy to face and adapt to these changes positively, and support and help ourselves and our family members to adapt to the new situation as much as possible.

Finally, regardless of whether our parents are divorced or remarried, we should try our best to maintain family harmony, love and support our families, and continue to pursue our dreams and goals to become independent, confident, and responsible people.

In conclusion, the divorce or remarriage of parents is a very personal and sensitive topic, and we should approach it with openness, understanding and support, and try to keep our families in harmony, love and support as much as possible.

The impact is very great, causing a shadow in the child's heart, rebellion, bad temper, and all kinds of confrontations.

The environment of the family of origin has a great impact on the growth and development of children, including the development of their ability to love others. However, it cannot be generalized that children from bad families of origin will lose the ability to love others.

The pain of the original family requires a lot of love, knowledge, and faith.

I don't think it can be said that they don't deserve love, but people who lack love in their original families don't know how to express their love, and they don't know how to accept the love of others.

First of all, if the family of origin brings some bad memories to the child, then the person will be more prone to extremism when he grows up, such as me. I once pinned all the love that I didn't get in my original family on my boyfriend at the time, I hope he loves me, I hope he can give me a warm family, I hope he has me in his life plan, and the final result is that I scared him away. Then I went to the other extreme, I needed a lot of security, no one could give me security but myself, and I began to reject all intimacy, including friendship, affection, and love.

Of course, this is just me and not everyone.

Isn't there a saying that the lucky have a lifetime of childhood, and the unfortunate have a lifetime of childhood.

But sometimes there is still a little hope in life, maybe you will meet the one who is willing to love you a lot. Of course, the best doctor is yourself. Share.

Regarding the meaning of the existence of parents, Mr. Lu Xun said: "The meaning of the existence of parents is not to give their children a comfortable and prosperous life, but when you think of your parents, your heart will be full of strength and warmth, so that you have the courage and ability to overcome difficulties, so as to obtain the real joy and freedom of life." ”

Yes, parents are the first teachers of their children, words and deeds are better than words, and the words and deeds of parents and the spirit of parents will affect the child's life.

Therefore, a happy child will use his childhood for a lifetime, and an unhappy child will spend a lifetime of childhood.

As a parent, giving children warmth from an early age and giving children strong spiritual strength is very important for a child's life, and building a strong spiritual home for children is far from being comparable to material.

Strive to become a parent who can give their children a happy childhood, children are growing, parents are also constantly groping forward on the road of educating children, I hope that myself, and all parents, will work hard to learn to communicate with children in the right way, and be a peaceful parent, and children will feel warm and powerful when they think about it. Childhood seems to be short, but it is like a brand, and it will linger when it is engraved.

A good childhood is like opening a garden in my heart, full of colorful flowers, the garden fence is neatly trimmed, the sun is shrouded, bathed in fragrance, and I always want to share its existence with my friends.