You only need to look through the 3 manifestations of the mother to see whether the child is good or

According to the mother's mood and the mother's current state, as well as the mother's clothes. The state of the figure can be seen, whether this child is good or not.

1.Look. The child is easy to bring, and the mother's complexion will become better than before.

2.Mom loves to dress up. The child is well-behaved, and the mother has the energy to dress up.

1.See if Bao Ma is physically and mentally exhausted; 2.See if Bao Ma is nagging; 3.Let's see if the mother is full-time with the baby. Nowadays, many children are more naughty and not very easy to bring.

The first mother usually behaves very calmly and will not have impatience and irritability, the second mother will not complain about her children in front of others, and the third mother has time to do her own things.

1. Get old. Some mothers have a better complexion after giving birth, and a big reason is that the confinement is done well, because "the confinement is done well, and the mother is not afraid of getting old". When the confinement is done, the mother's body will recover quickly, her complexion will be better, and she will look younger than before giving birth.

And whether the confinement is done well or not is actually directly related to whether the baby is good or not.

2. I don't like to dress up. There are many mothers who don't like to dress up after having children, and the whole looks even a little sloppy, and you can see at a glance that they are middle-aged women. This is because mothers put too much effort into their children, and they focus all on their children, so they naturally don't pay much attention to their image.

In addition, the child is not easy to bring, and he has no heart to dress himself.

3. The relationship with my husband is not as good as before. Children are the crystallization of love between husband and wife, and after the crystallization of love, the relationship between husband and wife should warm up. But after some couples have children, their relationship is not as good as before, why is this?

This is because mothers are too tired to take care of their children, and many women feel too tired in the process of taking care of their children, and hope that their other half can share some of the pressure of taking care of children, but most men think that taking children is a woman's business and are not willing to take on the responsibility of taking care of children. This is easy to cause conflicts between husband and wife, if the child is easy to bring, then this problem can be avoided, because the mother can worry a lot less.

Not long ago, I looked at a group of comparisons on the Internet**, and I still remember that the name of ** is: the child brought out by the mother vs the child brought out by the father. I think I'm happy after that, because the difference between the two with children is too big, I transferred this ** film to a friend who is a teacher at school to see, and asked if this is actually the case, she said that the specific situation is basically like this, and the child who is worn by the mother in the kindergarten can be seen at a glance, because of these characteristics.

1. Fashion trends.

With the rapid development of the whole society, everyone's quality of life continues to improve, mothers in parenting, the careful thinking of capital investment is more and more, and every mother wants to give their best things to their children, usually in addition to caring about children's health, cultural education, but also pay great attention to the image of children, usually buy clothes for the baby, will require not only cold and warm, and beautiful, must work hard to dress their baby as a princess or the little prince movie or something design style, The children brought out by the mother are generally very fashionable.

2. Pay attention to politeness.

Now this year's Qingbao mothers, all of them are the post-80s or post-90s generation, most of them have received a better education, and the literacy level is still relatively high, so when they teach their children, they will become very concerned about the method, and the children brought out are usually very polite, and they deeply understand the truth that "habitual children are like killing children", so they will not be very presumptuous and pampered children.

3. Pay attention to hygiene.

It may be that the living standard of the previous era was not very good, therefore, some of the elderly in the family did not do well at the level of personal hygiene, usually not bathing frequently, not washing bed sheets, if the elderly take children, this bad habit will also be conveyed to the children, resulting in children in the personal hygiene level is not so good. But if it is a young mother with a child, it is different, the living habits of most young mothers are very good, therefore, this kind of mother can clean up the child very neat and neat, and it will also make the child develop the habit of washing and bathing frequently.

From the details of the child's dress and etiquette, it can be seen that the mother should take the child more carefully.

Because the children brought out by the mother are very clean, special foreign, and very sensible and very obedient.

Mothers with babies look "safer", and mothers with children are more likely to show a strong sense of dependence

Dress simply, dress modestly. The bag on the back has a relatively large capacity, and most of the bags in it are baby supplies. And shopping is super fast, not slowly.

Most of them don't like to dress up, and their bodies are more out of shape, and at the same time, they are particularly picky, selfish, and feel particularly decadent.

It must have been very tiring, and I didn't have time to clean myself up, and I felt like I was getting ugly.

Mothers are important people in establishing a sense of security for their babies, and when they are alone with their babies, they will inevitably be distracted by miscellaneous things in life. It is possible that when the baby needs the mother the most, the water in the kettle is boiling, or the vegetables in the pot are about to burn, and the mother's short departure will make the baby's sense of security instantly reduced. And a family with a baby can avoid such a situation, there are more people, these life chores are naturally shared, the mother can take care of the baby wholeheartedly, give the baby more care, the baby's sense of security will be stronger.

2. The difference between strong and weak dependence.

When only the mother takes the baby alone, the baby will be particularly dependent on the mother, and sometimes the mother will cause the baby to cry for a short time, so it is very hard to take the baby alone, and the mother will almost take the baby to the **. On the one hand, it can attract the baby's attention and reduce the baby's dependence on the mother, on the other hand, the baby feels the existence of different people, which is very helpful for him to learn to get along with others.

3. Differences in personality.

The baby's perception of the surrounding environment is very strong, and the baby brought out by the mother alone is generally biased towards the mother and is relatively single. As the baby grows up in the caring of the family, his personality will be diversified, and he will often be more cheerful and expressive.

Fourth, the difference between laughing and not laughing.

Laughter is a manifestation of the baby's inner joy, and the mother's energy with the child alone is very limited, and she will miss a lot of details of happy interaction with the baby. Sometimes the baby wants to play with the mother, and the mother can only drag the tired body and barely look at the baby, so how can the baby have fun? If the family plays with the baby, the chance of the baby "squeaking" and laughing out loud is much greater.

It is said that babies who love to laugh will be very smart, so when they have energy, they still need to interact with the baby more and make the baby laugh.

Many parents believe that their children can be handed over to their elders before they are 6 years old, and they can take their children back when they are in elementary school. This seems to save a lot of worry, but in fact, it is a lot of debt. When the child comes back, it will become difficult to get along with his parents without an emotional foundation, and he will also be particularly disgusted with the discipline of his parents.

Even when such children go to school, they will not listen to their teachers.

As the saying goes, parents are the best teachers for children, if parents do not nurture children well before they are 6 years old. After the child goes to school, it will seem a little backward, and the thinking of grandparents and grandparents is definitely not as good as the thinking of parents, so we can't let children lose as soon as they enter primary school.

Children who are not accompanied by their parents will be lonely.

Whether it is grandparents or grandparents, no matter how much they love their children, they cannot replace the love of parents for their children, and children will still feel very lonely in their hearts. The relationship between the child and the parents is the most intimate, if the parents cannot be by the child's side often. Children will be very lonely and insecure.

For a long time, there is only one person with the child, the child lacks the opportunity to communicate with others, even if the mother will interact with the child, but the mother will be tired, tired will not want to do anything, ignoring the child has become a normal phenomenon, in the long run, the child from the initiative to interact with the mother, into a fear or passive interaction with the mother.

When children come to their house to play, they are scared, afraid to speak, and may even hide in their rooms and not come out. Mothers don't ignore this matter because the child is shy, in fact, the child's character has become the inner character.

The liveliness and introversion of the personality are related to the child's social skills.

Suggestion: Even if the mother is alone with the child, she should interact with the child, or often take the child out to play, let him take the initiative to play with other children, take the child to the mall, let him shuttle through the crowd, to overcome the inner tension and rejection.

2. It will be too clingy.

If the child is taken by one person for a long time, then his social circle is very small, except for his mother, everyone else is a stranger, and there is no relationship of trust between him and strangers, and he does not dare to talk to others. The only person who trusts is my mother, so I dare to do everything only when my mother is by my side.

There is a strong sense of dependence on the mother, and once the mother is not seen, the child will feel anxious and sad. This is contradictory to making children a good, independent person.

There are a lot of clingy situations in life, because children will only be willing to be with people who have been with them for a long time, and are unwilling to contact new people or things.

Mothers who go to kindergarten may have experienced that when sending their children to kindergarten, children are reluctant to go to kindergarten in various ways, and the heart-rending crying makes many mothers unbearable, feeling that their children may have suffered a lot of grievances in kindergarten, or they will cry so much in kindergarten. But in fact, most children behave very well in kindergarten.

As another example, mothers can recall why they lost their temper when they were in love? Do you lose your temper with someone you don't love?

Children are actually the same, they will choose a relatively safe environment or people to be naughty and disobedient. This is because naughty and disobedient are the process of the child's self-reliance, and through these behaviors, the child understands what can and cannot be done, and it takes a lot of courage for the child to challenge and destroy.

So they often choose to be naughty and disobedient in front of the person who is the best for them, the person who accommodates them the most, and the person who has been with them the longest, and this person is generally a mother!

Therefore, mothers must not think that their children do not like themselves, or really feel that they have spoiled their children, which just shows that the relationship between mothers and children is very good, because only when children feel enough love and trust, they are willing to show their truest side, which is actually no different from what adults do.

On the contrary, there are some children in life who are very sensible and accustomed to winning attention and love by pleasing others, and psychology calls this kind of child's personality "people-pleasing personality".

Because these children can't feel the love and attention of their parents, or the family environment is relatively bad, such as a bad relationship between their parents, divorced families, second-married families, etc., children who live in such an environment since childhood, they will win the attention and love of their parents by slowly becoming obedient, so those children who are very sensible since childhood are generally very pitiful.

There was once a big data survey that hoped to find out what parents of those successful children had in common with some samples. One of them is that mothers have lower levels of anxiety, which means that the better the temper and the more emotionally stable the mother, the more positive the impact on the child.

Therefore, in the face of naughty and disobedient children who are naughty and disobedient all day long in front of themselves, mothers need a very, very strong heart, and they need to deal with it with a smile no matter what people outside say, and treat our own children with love and rules, after all, mothers can only hold their children back if they stabilize themselves.

This is because mothers will be very tolerant of their children, and will also unconditionally support their children, so many children are very dependent on their mothers, and at the same time, they will be very well-behaved in front of their mothers.

1.Because he is too familiar with his mother, the child's nature is released, so he will be a little carefree and unscrupulous. 2.

It may also be related to the way the mother usually teaches, so the child will be like this. 3.Usually, if the mother blames too much, the child will form a resistance and come against you.

Because the mother will spoil the child, the child will be overly dependent on the mother. If a mother dotes on her children, she will take care of everything; And the child is dependent on the mother, and he cannot be independent.