What does a mother become that makes her feel inferior, and what can mothers do to avoid it?

The mother always blames the child's behavior and degrades the child personally, which can make the child feel inferior. When a mother encounters a problem, she must communicate well with her child and praise her child more.

It may be because the mother has been blaming the child, and then the child has become very inferior, and at this time the mother should avoid hitting and scolding the child.

I think that if the mother has been blaming the child, the child will have low self-esteem, so at this time, we should avoid scolding and blaming the child.

Before talking about this situation, let's share Wang Xiaobo's clear sentence: All human suffering essentially comes from anger at one's own impotence. Bringing up children is really tiring, and it is difficult for people to control their emotions under the premise of being very tired.

So some mothers are getting more and more grumpy due to taking care of their children for a long time. As soon as the child makes a mistake, he will directly and gradually reprimand the child without talking about the cause or the whole process. Exhaustion is understandable, and it's understandable that carefulness is slowly worn out.

But no matter how angry you are, don't vent your temperament to your children.

Because the mother is short-tempered, it will make the child more and more inferior, weak and timid. Mothers think about it seriously, is it because the child is wrong or is it caused by their bad mood? If the latter is the case, the child has done nothing wrong, but has been slandered by evil words.

Over time, will it destroy students' self-confidence and make them feel worthless and nothing? A mother who is short-tempered and likes to scold her children for no reason, can't make her children identify with herself, and will become more and more inferior.

First of all, there must be no doubt that mothers give a lot to their children. Secondly, this payment is based on the premise of reciprocity, I grow up with you, and you grow old with me. In short, raising a child is not a charitable activity, but an early investment, and a benefit in the middle and later stages.

This shows that the relationship between parents and children is relatively equal.

As a mom, I know that raising a child does have to give a lot. Like some mothers, they quit their jobs because they need to take care of their children. But we need to be mothers to figure out that all this effort comes from our own self, not the luxury of our children.

Therefore, we don't need to "threaten" children because of our own efforts.

Just like some parents, they often pay attention to their own contributions in front of their children, how I do for you, and how I give you. I have said it many times, but there are only two conclusions. First, let the child resist, parent-child communication declines:

Do I want you to pay for me? Second, the child has even more low self-esteem, because the mother is actually just tying up the child when she says something like that. But those kind-hearted children feel that they have lost a lot of their mothers, so they feel more and more guilty and have a heavy psychological baggage.

I have always believed in one sentence: there is no mother in the world who does not love her children. Mothers love their children so much, but not all mothers can speak. Some mothers often speak with "" and are unable to express their inner thoughts in appropriate words.

For example, when the child is unsuccessful in one thing, the mother's original intention is to motivate the child, don't mind. But as the old saying goes, the entrance and exit becomes: just say you can't do it, and you won't succeed in the future!

If you want to remind your child that you don't have to fall, opening your mouth becomes: You are so stupid, don't fall, and let me wash your sheets! This kind of ** mother's judgment before the mother has to say will make the child question himself, feel that he is really stupid, really can't do it, and thus become more inferior.

The first is that the mother often denies the child, and Fan is hungry and does not communicate with the child well, which is easy to make the child's state of mind to talk about it, and even say that the child will become very inferior.

Break the previous deadlock, communicate well with your child, let your child understand your difficulties and ideas, start to change yourself after talking, and let your child supervise you, and slowly let your child become open, hungry and confident, and willing to communicate with you.

often belittles the child's IQ, saying that he is not beautiful, not handsome, and not smart.

Raunchy, scruffy mom

Xiaowen's mother is a typical example of Brother Peichun, there are many mothers who work during the day and take care of their children at night, which is more difficult, so it is very different from prenatal time, they don't dress up, they don't care about their image, and they even dress sloppily. Maybe mothers think that this has nothing to do with it, but this will make the child unable to raise his head in front of his classmates and friends, and after a long time, he will become inferior.

2. The mother who drills the horns

Some mothers are more worked, and Sen Heng likes to gain a sense of existence through "doing", and often quarrels with her husband because of trivial things regardless of the occasion, but ignores the feelings of the children. When the mother does it, the child's heart is ashamed in addition to fear, and the child feels ashamed, and gradually he will feel inferior.

3. Nagging mother.

Almost every mother likes to nag, but some mothers' nagging is to hope that their children can get better, and some mothers' nagging is to vent negative energy, spread pessimism to their children, and dump their emotional garbage to their children. Such children are generally negative and vulnerable, and at the same time will become more and more selfish.

4. A yelling mother.

If the mother often loses her temper and vents her emotions without considering the feelings of others, it will not only cause the father's disgust, but also make the child afraid of the mother and make the family disharmonious. Most of the children who grow up in a discordant family atmosphere are sensitive and inferior, and the mother's "words and deeds" will also make the child a selfish person who does not take into account the feelings of others.

5. Mothers who ignore their children.

When the child encounters some problems and asks the mother for advice, the mother responds to the child with the words "I'm busy" and "play by myself", which will make the child feel abandoned and bored, which is not conducive to the child's self-confidence. Children's inferiority and selfishness are formed in the later stage, and most of the cases are because of the education of parents.

Finally, it is suggested that parents should accept their children's strengths and weaknesses, communicate more with their children, and teach them to be optimistic about things.

The first behavior: the mother is irritable.

I once saw such a scene, and I still remember it vividly.

The little boy's mother wanted to take the child home, but the little boy was having fun in the play area at this time, and he didn't want to go home at all, so he chose to ignore his mother's shouting.

Seeing this, the mother yelled at the little boy without saying a word, and the sound resounded throughout the play area.

The little boy may have been frightened by his mother's outbursts of emotion, and he cried on the spot, and the tears could not be stopped. The mother didn't want to comfort the child at all, so she just put the little boy in her arm and walked back.

Looking at the backs of the mother and son, I worried about the little boy.

The second behavior: Moms like to hit their children.

Look at Tongtong next door, why are people so smart, look at you, why are you so stupid? I won't be able to answer such a simple question. You don't hear that very often.

How do you feel when you hear these words?

Do you feel very motivated and courageous? Or do you feel like you're so stupid? Nothing is as good as others.

From the mother's point of view, she must be for the good of her children, and she feels that through this kind of contrasting behavior, she can make her own awareness of the gap with others.

As everyone knows, the mother's good intentions are the most hurtful blow in the eyes of the child.

Often give the child a negative influence, hit and scold the child, and yell loudly.

Some of the practices of parents may have a negative impact on the child's self-esteem and self-confidence, causing the child to become inferior. Here are some parental practices that can lead to low self-esteem in children:

01 Criticism and blame:Constantly criticizing and blaming your child's words and actions, making them feel like they are not doing well or being accepted by their parents, can weaken a child's self-confidence.

02 Compare and compete: Comparing your child excessively to other children, or encouraging your child to compete excessively with others, may make your child feel that he or she is not good enough or deserving of affection.

3. Overprotective: Overprotective children and not giving them the opportunity to try to regret and face challenges may make children feel that they are not independent and cope with difficulties, which can lead to low self-esteem.

04 Not supported and not recognized: If parents lack support and recognition for their children, and do not value their children's efforts and achievements, children may feel that they are not valued and recognized, and have an inferiority complex.

05 assertion authority:Placing too much emphasis on parental authority and not giving children the opportunity to express their opinions and ideas may cause children to have an inferiority complex and think that their opinions are not important.

6. Verbal violence: Parents who use derogatory, ridiculed, or insulting language towards their children can seriously damage their child's self-esteem and self-confidence.

07 Do not accept the child's personality:If parents overemphasize that their children's behaviors and interests should be in line with their own expectations, and ignore the child's personality and strengths, the child may feel unaccepted and develop an inferiority complex.

In order to help children build good self-esteem and self-confidence, parents should encourage, support and recognize their children's efforts and achievements, respect their individuality, give them appropriate autonomy and responsibility, and guide their growth with love and understanding.

Parental love and support have a very important impact on a child's mental health and development.

Generally speaking, parents who are more controlling and use guilt-based education will raise children with low self-esteem.

1. Parents who are too strong will suppress their children's personalities

The child is a grown, independent individual, but many parents do not understand this, regard the child as their precious nucleus, keep a firm eye on the child, and control everything for the child.

If you don't give your child understanding and respect, and your child can't make decisions about things, then your child will never learn to think independently, and will feel that she is dependent on her parents, and her personality has been suppressed, and she can't express her heart, so she will become introverted, and finally become doubtful and inferior.

Under the education of strong parents, children live like marionettes, unable to feel the joy of life at all, unable to fully comprehend the growth of life, and will become ruined, thoughtless, and self-confident.

Second, parents with guilt-based education cannot raise self-confident children

Guilt-based education refers to parents making their children obey their own arrangements and orders through means such as showing weakness, complaining about grievances, and self-abuse, or achieving the goal of educating themselves to a certain reason.

How much hardship and ...... have my parents suffered for you”

As long as you study hard, your parents are willing to work hard and tired...”

Many parents think that through these means, their children can experience the difficulties of their parents in advance, so as to work hard or remember to be grateful.

In practice, children feel more self-blame or self-doubt, which may be able to achieve the goal in the short term, but if the child is taught in the long run, the child will be bored, sensitive, and inferior.

If the child is in self-blame and guilt for a long time, it will gradually affect the child's thinking and thinking logic, and he will easily retreat when encountering difficulties, and he will feel that he does not deserve it when he encounters good things, and finally lack self-confidence and be full of inferiority complex.

3. How to cultivate confident and cheerful children

A good way of education is not super control, nor is it blind pay and sacrifice, so that the child understands that his arrival makes his parents full of joy, and raising children is a matter of the parents' hearts, hoping that the child will grow up healthy and happy, and find his own dreams.

A good education is inseparable from communication with children, in the communication to truly understand the child's inner thoughts, is really good for the child, respect and understand the child's feelings, be friends with the child, set an example for the child, let the child think about what kind of person he wants to become, rather than imposing his own goals.

Good education needs to be constantly learning and changing, not a constant, copying thing, to grow together with children, learn together, and explore educational methods and methods together.

Parents with overly strong personalities and parents who adopt guilt-based education will raise children with low self-esteem, and good education is inseparable from communication with children, and it is also inseparable from continuous learning and change.

<> a child's self-esteem and self-confidence are important foundations for success, and parents are one of the most important influencing factors in a child's life. Parents' words and deeds often affect the growth of children, and if parents lack perfect education methods and correct guidance, they are likely to raise children with low self-esteem. Here are some parenting styles that can lead to low self-esteem in children:

1.Overprotective.

Parents are overprotective of their children, overly concerned about their children's lives and safety, and do not allow their children to try new things or complete tasks independently. This kind of education can lead to self-doubt and a sense of distrust in one's own abilities, believing that they are unable to complete some basic tasks and challenges.

2.Excessive demands on children.

Parents are too demanding of their children, and sometimes even unrealistic, often forcing their children to be what they expect them to be, which can easily lead to low self-esteem. Because the child may feel that he is always unable to meet the requirements and expectations of his parents and thus consider himself a failure.

3.Criticism and punishment.

Parents often criticize and punish their children by focusing too much on their children's mistakes and shortcomings instead of seeing their strengths and efforts. This kind of education can make children feel that they are not able to express themselves properly, that they have been hurt unnecessarily, and that they will have low self-esteem from being stupid.

4.Lack of attention and support.

Parents lack attention and support for their children, do not understand their thoughts and feelings, and are not concerned about their children's behavior and performance. This type of parenting can make children feel lonely, not understood, and doubt their own abilities and worth.

5.Poor communication with children.

Parents do not communicate well with their children, do not understand the true thoughts and feelings in their children's hearts, and do not try to understand their children's actions and thoughts. This can make children feel unresponsive and supportive, and lack the confidence to communicate with others, which can lead to low self-esteem.

In short, the parent's education style and attention style will directly affect the self-confidence and self-esteem of the child, and some bad education methods may develop the child's low self-esteem. Therefore, parents need to guide and pay attention to their children correctly, respect their thoughts and feelings, and help them explore and realize their potential, so as to cultivate their self-confidence and self-esteem.