It is said that marriage is a matter of two families, why do you say that?

Powerful people in ancient times or now are accustomed to marriage, because the relationship of in-law will bring the power of the two families closer together, thus forming a greater force, so they rely on marriage to achieve their goals. And in marriage, our old saying is that "the right person is the right person", which is the existence of truth, so marriage is a matter of two families.

The increase in the restrictions on gender relations between men and women also represents the socialization of gender relations. In other words, the union of men and women is no longer just a matter for men and women, but is endowed with more social significance. Men and women, families, families and societies.

Ancient thinkers put forward many theories about what kind of structure and what form of society should exist. Whether it is Yao, Shun, Yu, Tang, and Zhou Gong advocated by Confucianism in later generations, or the rule of inaction, Mohists all pay attention to both love and not attack, which is essentially a theoretical construction of society. Then this involves marriage!

For 2,000 years, the mainstream values of society have basically been constructed by Confucianism, which also attaches great importance to the marriage of men and women, and has established a complete set of marriage etiquette.

Marriage is a matter of two families, that is, with the third generation of the elderly, they will be very happy and loving, and those who are able to harm their children will naturally help take care of them and share the pressure of young couples. But taking care of children is really tiring, and relying on her to take care of children will become a kind of pressure for the elderly, so both mother-in-law and mother hope that there is another mother to help them, otherwise the elderly with children will be resentful, feeling that the in-laws or in-laws do not care about the children, and those who do not help them will be blamed, and over time they have to swallow some arrogance. This kind of kinship relationship is not good either.

So, marriage is a matter of two families. They both want to help each other and rely on each other after marriage. But what about so many civil servants and the elderly?

There are so many old people who have money and time? This leads to a young couple who either rely on an old man or a family that does not depend on someone else.

When you are in love, only two people are involved. Marriage is the union of two families, and both families have responsibilities. His parents become your parents, and your parents become his parents.

Although they are married, after all, parents love their children very much, which will inevitably cause some friction in life. It is better to meet reasonable old people who will not interfere in your life. When you encounter unreasonable people, you can only turn to self-help.

Because when two people get married, the families of these two young people will be integrated with each other, and the families of the two people will have a lot of contact.

Because after getting married, we need to take care of two families, and our family needs to come and go, so I say this.

Because after getting married, the two families need to communicate and communicate, so it is a matter of two families.

I think this is because after two people get married, there will be contacts between the two families, and after two people get married, because the lifestyle of two people comes from the education of two families, so marriage is a matter of two families.

It means that marriage is the union of two families, and it is the mutual tolerance of two families, and only when both families recognize the couple, the newlyweds will be happy.

Because when two young people get married, they need the integration of two family cultures, and it is also necessary for the two families to work together, so as to make the marriage smoother.

1. Marriage is a matter of two families, because when they get married, the woman will go to the man's house to live. The man's parents may not like the girl to be their daughter-in-law. It's going to be less than perfect in the days to come.

2. At the same time, the man will also go to the woman's house, his words and deeds will be paid attention to by the woman's parents, if the woman's parents do not like the boy to be their son-in-law, then in the end, there is no joy.

3. In tradition, it is more about the recognition of others, for example, if both parents are not optimistic about each other, then this family composed of marriage will not be happy. It's like a dog's bones, like both parents on both sides, and like a husband and wife in the middle. Both parents are like two sides of the story, and the couple will definitely be separated.

4. The issues considered for marriage are very comprehensive, so it is a matter of two families.

Marriage is a matter for two families, not for the two of you. Because it is two people who form a family, and the two families become one big family.

One. Without your union, this family will not become a big family, we have a lot of relatives, there are more people to love us, this time is the big thing for the two families. You are happy, and both big families are happy.

Two. Domino effect. It is to tell us that if there is a rift in your small family, or if there is a conflict in the family, the two families will shake together.

These two families will not be at peace, they will persuade you to reconcile, and the two families will come forward to let you calm down and talk. Who wouldn't want to see such an outcome? After all, home and everything is prosperous.

Three. The happiness of this family and the living conditions of a small family directly affect the elderly of the two families and their lives. Children are relieved, and parents will enjoy their old age in peace.

Don't think that if I'm doing well, it's my own business, if I'm not doing well, I will divorce and have nothing to do with anyone, then we will be too selfish and judge filial piety. We are all treasures in the eyes of our parents, parents want their children to be happy and safe, but once your family breaks down, you will become a loner. Who doesn't want to see such a tragedy of their children being separated from their families?

Because of this blow, you are not happy, and your parents will not be happy. Therefore, this kind of pain cannot be borne by the elderly in every family. Therefore, he is responsible for his own marriage, and Nian Chong is also responsible for others, and marriage is a matter for two people, and it is also a major event for two families.

Be cautious. Same as I thought, so be it!

Marriage is a long stream, and love is a thousand years.

So I think the most important thing to get married is:

1.The family conditions are relatively consistent, and the parents have met and communicated harmoniously. Because marriage is partly a matter of two families.

Parents are an inseparable part of our marriage, and both parties in a marriage have each other's parents to take care of, or they may have to go to each other's homes to live for a while. At this time, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law and family atmosphere are more important links, which may determine whether the marriage can be maintained for a long time. And it is also very hurtful to talk about money between husband and wife, both parents need their children to pay, if one of the two parties is partial and mean, then the other party will feel uncomfortable.

2.It is necessary that both parties to the marriage have the same three views, and their personal habits (work and rest, etc.) are similar. Marriage is not just a matter of two families, but also of two young people.

It is necessary for two people to feel suitable for themselves, not to blindly identify each other, and not to blindly deny each other, no one is perfect, everyone has advantages and disadvantages. The most important thing is the run-in between the two people, the appropriate tolerance, acceptance of potato spring and help correct each other's shortcomings.

Emotional expert, lover of the emotional field.

Concern. The topic of marriage is a cliché.

And the most controversial thing about marriage is, for us, is marriage a matter of two people, or a matter of two families?

I still remember that in "Please Refrigerator", Papi sauce's view of marriage and love was also on the hot search at that time.

She thinks that marriage is a matter for two people, not only does she think so, but she also does it. She has been with Lao Hu for ten years, and she has been married for 5 years, but she has not held a wedding so far.

Papi sauce also revealed that she has never returned to her hometown in Shaanxi with her husband, and she has gone back to her own home for the New Year, thinking that her children are the most important thing for her parents, so she has not met her in-laws for 5 years of marriage.

Why is it on the hot search, because this concept itself has broken many people's fixed views on marriage.

I have a friend who is about to get married recently, and she told me that marriage is really not just a matter of two people, there are many things involved, and you have to confirm all kinds of details with the other party's family, and if you are not careful, it will make both parties very uncomfortable.

We girls seem to have been educated from childhood to adulthood, and we need to find someone reliable and the family conditions are not bad when we get married, and now we have added a clause that the other party's parents must be sensible, so that the life after marriage will be more harmonious.

It seems that marriage is a matter of two families, and they have to go through the marriage ceremony, set up a banquet, buy three golds, and even live with the man's parents.

But because of this kind of life, divorces abound.

So for marriage, is it a matter of two people or two families?

I think it varies from person to person, but there are very few people who can think about their marriage so thoroughly as papi-chan.

She knew what she wanted, what her marriage should look like, and she knew she could manage her life and her marriage.

She also knows that she can make her own decisions about her life. So such a person must not have a bad life.

And for us, it's the same. It doesn't matter if it's two people, or two families. Life is first and foremost one's own, you can live well, you can control your life, and you can live well with others.

People who don't even have a good life on their own will not necessarily be happy with anyone.

In the normal concept, we all think that marriage is a matter of two families, involving father, mother, relationship mode, etc., but I always feel that these are secondary conditions.

The real main condition is what the person we want to marry is like.

Whether he can be independent, whether he will be responsible, whether he is willing to pay for the family, whether he can have the ability to earn money, whether he is willing to tolerate and understand his lover, whether he can live his own life and so ......on

To sum up, it is just a matter of whether he can trust to be the master of his own life and be in control of his own life.

Marriage can be said to be a matter of two people, and it can also be said that the wheel is a matter of two families.

But more importantly, do both of these people have the ability to live their lives well?

Only if you can live your own life well, can you live the life of two people, and even more so the life of two families.

Marriage is a matter of two people, both of them have to leave the original ant errand family that talks about each other, and then jointly build a small nest of their own, and the two people will have friction, adaptation, tolerance, and so on.

Marriage is a matter for two people, and it is also a matter for two families. Parents on both sides, brothers and sisters, should get along with each other.

It's not just a matter of two families, but the sum of the interpersonal relationships between the young couple and the two families.

Falling in love is a matter of two people, and marriage is a matter of two families, and that's right! Therefore, when you are in love, you have to observe your boyfriend's family style, and you must know that there is truth in the saying that you marry and look at your mother-in-law. Whether a marriage is happy or not is not only whether the husband and wife can manage the marriage well, but also is affected by external forces.

Now that the divorce rate is still high, why is the divorce rate so high? Is it really that two people who love each other very much when they are in love, and they don't love each other after they get married? Personally, I don't think so!

A very sweet couple in love, if there is no influence from external forces, they will continue to be happy after marriage. However, once there is an external force, the man will fall into the most unsolvable problem in the world, choosing a mother or a daughter-in-law. Don't think that there is no such mother-in-law, such a mother-in-law is not uncommon, some distorted mentality, and it is very difficult to see that your son and daughter-in-law have a good relationship.

Therefore, if you want not to lose in marriage, before you get married, you must see the man's family clearly. As the saying goes, people can pretend that they can't live for a lifetime, so we must stretch the front line of love and see it clearly before getting involved in marriage.

Help if the man's family style is good, and his character is valuable. The woman's family is not inferior, and her character is valuable. Then, when such a lover is united and enters into marriage, it is undoubtedly possible to reap the help of both families.

Husband and wife have two families to help them, and their small lives are naturally prosperous, and the relationship between husband and wife is naturally deeper, and husband and wife are naturally together for a long time.

Many women are very tough, and they always feel that they are marrying a man and living with a man, and it has nothing to do with his family. You have to know that his parents gave birth to him and raised him, and his whole life is closely related to his parents, how can you have nothing to do with his parents? So, don't be too naïve, marriage is really not as simple as you think.

Marriage is indeed a matter of two families, so we should investigate more and do not get married in a flash.

Especially right, and when getting married, in addition to considering the feelings of two people, you also need to consider the family of two people, and this is also a combination of two families, and it must be the right one.

Absolutely. Falling in love is a matter of two people, but marriage is a matter of two families, and marriage must be cautious.