Why does the warm man use one, and what does the little warm man mean

Mr. Luo, I read your article on raising boys, and it was very rewarding. You should know the term "warm man". It's highly sought after by women.

But my opinion is, aren't all warm men grown up as little boys? How did a warm man come to be? I'm a boy, so I think about it.

Is it too early to consider your son's future love and marriage now? and so on.

That's an interesting question. Warm men are loved by everyone, so is it okay for our boy to be an excellent little warm man? If parents are easily misled by the literal meaning, it is actually dangerous to blindly raise their children according to the popular standard of "warm men".

Warm male standard 1: hard-working, know how to consider others everywhere.

Hardworking, not selfish, considerate, and knowing how to consider the feelings of others, these are some of the words that people are used to when they mention warm men.

I once knew a man who was very nice and considerate to people. Relatives, friends and even strangers, as long as they need help, he will definitely come forward. After my girlfriend broke up with him, she told me: He is indeed very good, but he is ......

He didn't seem to be able to say clearly, so he just shook his head.

What's the problem? He is a good man, he is down-to-earth in work and life, hard-working, and can be regarded as a "warm man", but why are women reluctant to have it?

On a moral level, he is a very good person. I think about others very much, and I rarely think about myself. Even if you are ready to go on a date with your girlfriend, you will sacrifice your dating time to help others because you see that others are in need.

His friends, as well as those who are familiar with him, all who know him have rave reviews of him. Only my girlfriend can't stand it.

We also often see a lot of philanthropic people in the news, some of them are living in very poor themselves, and some of them are even poor and sick, and they are completely absent in their own families. They don't care about their children and loved ones, just to help other poor strangers. They are often portrayed as role models and tear gas.

But what they lack, their families, their children, no one sees.

There's a term in psychology called "false altruism." That is, sometimes you do your best to help and satisfy others, perhaps just to fill your own inner sense of helplessness, incompetence and low worth. The root cause is a lack of self-confidence, fear of rejection, fear of being rejected.

When someone says they're bad, then they think, "I'm really bad."

Going deeper, these people are basically replicating the patterns they used to get along with their parents and other significant others when they were young. A child is accepted only when he or she does what his parents think is "right". Otherwise, it will be denied and suppressed.

As a result, their ego is squeezed into an unknown corner.

When they grow up, they often can't distinguish between what is "me" and what is "mine". Don't dare to say "I want to". Inability to look directly at complex emotions such as needs, desires, anger, and pain in your heart.

Because there are very few warm men now, it may be used to indicate its scarcity, so I think it's good to have warm men.

Because a person's words represent one, the teacher will use a warm male expression to use one.

Grandma a grandma, you can all use it, it's just that some people like to use one to show the cuteness of this grandma.

I think if we don't have happy seedlings, we won't be motivated.

If a man is emotionally single-minded, after chasing a girl, he can be a responsible and responsible person, and get along with you with a grateful attitude, then he will have enough motivation to fall in love with you, which is a kind of luck.

It refers to a sunny man who cares for his family, loves his family, knows how to take care of his partner, loves his family, and can give warmth to his family and friends.

Warm men are usually meticulous and considerate, can take care of their families, can cook, and more importantly, can understand and empathize with other people's emotions well, and their appearance is mostly clean and delicate, comfortable and decent, and will not look too impetuous and exaggerated. Xiao Qingxin emphasizes the external image, while the warm man in the same series emphasizes the inside. At the same time, he is also called Gu Jianuan.

Nowadays, a warm man should have three functions:

The first is hard work. A woman can be coquettish in the face of this man at will, lose her temper, and do whatever she wants, which requires a strong argument to stare at her. Holding means that I can hold you when you're hurt, and I can hold on when you're making trouble.

Good embrace, warm and safe. In the face of women's incomprehensible emotions, they can stand up, and they can always be cheeky and big-minded, and they will not be scared away.

The second is to be able to translate the deep thoughts of a woman's heart. There are more and more female men in society, they don't know how to express their vulnerable parts, and tend to use male ways, such as attack, anger, tossing and other powerful ways to satisfy their inner fear and vulnerability, which is called reverse formation in psychology. A real warm man has the ability to translate this meaning, and to see that women cover up their inner and heart's true desires in a very bad way.

For example, men have to work overtime, and women say, don't do it. If a man is stupid, he will try to reason, and if he doesn't go, he will be fired by the boss.

But the more the man explains, the more uncomfortable the woman becomes. They don't understand that what women actually want is an attitude, not a debate at the level of facts. When women lack the ability to express themselves, and men lack the ability to understand women, the phenomenon of ditches but not communication occurs from time to time.

The third is the function of leadership. Warm men not only need to be able to understand women, but also need to insist on their own ideas, and at the same time let the family have a new direction, not to say that everything is too peaceful if the woman is the center. A warm man can't be a soft man, like plasticine.

In the same way, women still don't feel safe.

Love is a medium that brings two strangers of the opposite sex together from not knowing each other; Falling in love is a way to release the hormones that two people match each other to the optimal ratio; Love infiltrates love early, which is a kind of emotional release that can always accompany you even if you are incompetent.

That time I was sick, I had a serious feeling, a fever, and I met my aunt again, Hong was uncomfortable, and almost fainted to death in the dormitory, fortunately my roommate found out early, but I was a woman, or a strong man, my roommate couldn't move, my boyfriend actually climbed in the window to avoid the dormitory aunt, and carried me out, but when he carried me out, he completely ignored the aunt's warning, and was stunned to carry me to the school infirmary, the doctor said that fortunately it came early, otherwise the dehydration would be serious and he would have to shock and coma. The story is not over, he knows that I can't do housework, I am sick and I can't eat school meals, he knows that I like to drink fish soup, so he took the risk of tripping in the dormitory, and cooked bowls of fish head soup for me, in order to avoid the "surveillance" of the dormitory manager, he had to sneak into our dormitory building every time when my aunt went out to get food, help me bring fish soup and meals, help me wash my clothes, serve me properly, and finally had to sneak out when my aunt went out to wash the dishes, I was sick for 7 days, He's coming for a week. Later, I learned that he didn't know how to cook rice and soup at all, and that bowl of fish soup was made by him after skipping class a few times, burning a few pots, jumping a few times in the dormitory, and burning a few fuses.

In addition to these, my boyfriend is not only a warm man, but also a Pisces boy who knows how to be romantic! On my birthday, in order to celebrate my birthday, he tried all kinds of personal relationships to help me capture the school's radio station, the radio station that evening, ** songs are my favorite to listen to, and the songs I like to listen to are the type he doesn't like, the radio station that day, the supporter did not say a word, the whole audience was talking about it, the radio station of that day, there are common memories since we fell in love for 1 year and 5 months, from meeting, acquaintance, acquaintance, to love, mutual deep dependence, everything, everything is in the radio that day, To the whole school**,At that time, I was caught by the teacher who managed the radio station.,I thought the teacher would demerit and criticize the education.,As a result, the teacher was because he felt our love.,In fact, it's mainly because of my boyfriend's heart-warming behavior.,And didn't punish it.,On the contrary,I gave us a big thumbs up!

Our story continues, the future love life continues, his warm heart still warms my heart, his sweetness, still sweet my heart, I believe that ten or eight years later, when I see this question and answer, I will be moved by the words I wrote at the beginning, warm love.