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Anonymous users2024-02-131. The rebellious period is a bit like the feeling of coming out of the cocoon, he is in a transition stage, because his own coordination is not too good, the contradiction of the self exacerbates the contradiction of external interpersonal relationships.
2. This is not a person's personality problem, but a critical period of internal and external contradictions, which requires more care and more attention, and family and friends should help him get through this dangerous period, do not think that he is disobedient because of temper or personality problems, or he has changed, and especially alienate him, this period needs more love to resolve this contradiction, but to lubricate this conflict.
3. In fact, children have always wanted to be recognized by adults from the bottom of their hearts, and parents also hope to have prestige in the minds of their children, in fact, everyone wants to love each other; It's just that many times we can't express our thoughts correctly, and make behaviors that everyone can recognize, so as to truly and effectively achieve the satisfaction of both parties.
4. Parents sometimes need to adjust their mentality, we can't use a method for more than ten years, with a kind of thinking, with a caliber to treat the changing growing children, they have changed, your education methods, your relationship with him should change, many times adults have been using stubborn authority to face children, resulting in "rebellion" is inevitable, if there is no rebellious period, adults will never realize their complacency, without this period, children will never become adults.
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Anonymous users2024-02-12Due to the rapid changes in physiology, adolescent children have a variety of psychological reactions, most of which are manifestations of self-awareness awakening. It's normal for them to try to break through constraints and discipline, and even making a few mistakes is the price of growth.
How to deal with the daughter's rebellious period
1. For adolescent children, parents should pay attention to letting their children be independent in life, fully tap their children's self-care ability, and let them develop the habit of dealing with their own trivial matters.
2.Again, do what the child likes to do, be patient and persistent, approach the child, find strengths, give encouragement, learn to "show weakness", create opportunities for the child to surpass the parents, and the child does well (not limited). In terms of learning), it must be praised to further guide the child's learning.
3.Let the child learn to take responsibilityThe adolescent child has the ability to discern things on his own. If parents do not notice the changes in their children and blindly guide their children to follow the route they designed themselves as before, it will naturally cause dissatisfaction among their children. , deliberately confronting the parents. To get along well with their children, parents must get to know their children correctly and let them learn to take responsibility.
4.Parents want to "love" On the issue of "love", many parents only fulfill the obligation of "giving", not talking about "taking". In this way, over time, such a concept will be formed in the child's mind - the love of parents is well deserved.
Therefore, it is necessary to ask children for love so that they learn to be grateful.
5."Giving orders" without opening their mouths Adolescent children are particularly sensitive, so parents don't say it and give orders, "You should .......""You can't ......"In this way, in the child's heart, you are just a leader. In fact, the adolescent craves to be treated like an adult and for him to feel respected.
6.Change your child's bad behavior. Changing a child's bad behavior doesn't happen overnight.
In fact, it is increasingly critical that the mindset of parents must be changed. The parent-child relationship is interactive and interactive. It's like the way we treat our friends, if you treat him well, the other person must have no reason to be hostile to you, you respect him, and the other person has no reason not to respect you.
In conclusion, conflicts and power struggles are almost inevitable in adolescents' quest for autonomy. However, most children and parents are able to overcome these differences and realign their relationship with their parents to be more equal while maintaining positive feelings for each other. And behind those particularly rebellious children, there are often parents who stand still and refuse to grow up.
So, no matter how old the child is, it is crucial for parents to remain self-aware and grow.
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Anonymous users2024-02-11First, see if the child has signs of early love; second, give your child a little more love and companionship; Third, get to know your child's friends to avoid being taught badly.
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Anonymous users2024-02-10Parents should communicate well with their children, care about their children, understand their children, think more from the child's point of view, and communicate with their children from the perspective of friends, so that the children will not be particularly rebellious and can communicate well with their parents.
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Anonymous users2024-02-09During the rebellious period, the child should be respected. It is still necessary to think from the child's point of view and understand the child, so as to prevent the child from becoming more rebellious.
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Anonymous users2024-02-08Don't care about me anymore", "I don't want to talk to you now", "I just want to do it against you", I guess your children often say these things to you when you read this article! Why have children become so affectionate and cold? Are we parents who don't give enough to our children or are we spoiling too much?
None of them are right, and that's because there's a big problem with the way you communicate with your child.
The reason why children will have a rebellious psychology has a lot to do with the way parents educate, how to help children get through the rebellious period safely, Mr. Lin sorted out the characteristics of children during the rebellious period, and you can refer to it when educating children.
Characteristics of the child during the rebellious period.
1."Lead your child into the rebellious period of adolescence, don't let your daughter close the door to you", people often say that adolescence is a period of psychological problems, and dealing with these problems requires not only the psychological adjustment of adolescent children, but also the care and guidance of parents. Of course, parents can only prescribe the right medicine if they understand the rebellious psychology of adolescent children.
2."Understand the characteristics of the rebellious period of adolescence and guide children to shape a sunny character", the personality of adolescent girls has not changed much, unlike the previous good girls. Parents should understand that it is normal for their daughters to have some changes in their daily lives, which is the embodiment of the psychological changes in adolescence, and parents do not need to pay too much attention and worry, and should not be overly suppressed for some unrealistic thoughts and actions of their daughters, otherwise it will cause emotional estrangement between their daughters and their parents and increase the psychological burden of their children.
3."Analyze the behavior of the rebellious period of adolescence and guide the rebellious and unruly daughter", adolescence is the process of children moving from naivety to maturity, and they will inevitably experience a lot of pain and trouble. What parents need to do is to be patient, not to "intervene" everywhere and all the time, and to give children the opportunity to think and make decisions independently.
Adolescence is the time when children are most likely to rebel, so as parents, you must have patience to teach your children so that they can go through adolescence healthily.
4."Master the key points of education in the rebellious period of adolescence, choose appropriate methods and do not compete with children", in daily family education, the education of girls and boys is very different, and there are many conceptual misunderstandings about the education of girls, which parents need to avoid. Especially for adolescent girls, parents need to pay more attention to educational methods, and don't compete with adolescent girls.
1. Communicate with your child.
Adolescent children have a high speed of mental and physical development, and at this time they will have a lot of ideas about the world, and girls' hearts will be softer. Parents should actively communicate with the girls about things in life, and also actively communicate with the children's teachers, and pay more attention to the children's ideas. >>>More
1. Communicate more than parents, learn to combine feelings and reason; 2. Learn to be friends with parents and communicate more when you have questions; 3. Correctly handle interpersonal relationships and think about others in the face of conflicts; 4. Cultivate self-esteem, self-confidence and social responsibility.
The sensitivity of the little boy You should tell him that his father and mother are very concerned about him, tell him not to think too much, and his sister is also very concerned about him, try to give him warmth. If you can, ask your mother to try to tell your dad about it, communicate with your dad and ask him to ask for two bowls of water, don't just spend your mind on the younger brother, after all, the eldest brother is also his own You can also communicate with your dad, dad generally listens to his daughter very much, you tell him that he will understand. I hope your family will be harmonious as soon as possible
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Almost this age.
Things always have a reason, it doesn't happen for no reason, I suggest you learn more about the child, all aspects, including the state at home, the state at school, and the child's friendship, you have to be his friend, not just his parents, you have to empathize, to understand her, to guide him, I was also rebellious in junior high school, at that time it was because I didn't study well, I felt that I couldn't pass the test, and then every day the teacher said, I couldn't understand it at all, and the class was a kind of torment, My classmates look down on me and don't play with me, I feel that the whole world doesn't belong to me, what about my parents, but I don't understand these, I only know that I am enrolled in this make-up class, that make-up class, in fact, for me, it's not love, it's torture, but it's okay, then I chose to paint, the only way to comfort me, and now I'm in graduate school, looking back, I can completely understand the rebellious children, it's not that we choose to rebel, but the environment makes us have no choice, I can understand what the teachers, classmates and parents did to me at that time, But at that time, I have no way to understand it, because they are all torturing people, so it is recommended that you communicate with your child more, establish an effective communication channel, understand his situation and psychology, empathize, and guide him through a special period in his life. >>>More