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Almost this age.
Things always have a reason, it doesn't happen for no reason, I suggest you learn more about the child, all aspects, including the state at home, the state at school, and the child's friendship, you have to be his friend, not just his parents, you have to empathize, to understand her, to guide him, I was also rebellious in junior high school, at that time it was because I didn't study well, I felt that I couldn't pass the test, and then every day the teacher said, I couldn't understand it at all, and the class was a kind of torment, My classmates look down on me and don't play with me, I feel that the whole world doesn't belong to me, what about my parents, but I don't understand these, I only know that I am enrolled in this make-up class, that make-up class, in fact, for me, it's not love, it's torture, but it's okay, then I chose to paint, the only way to comfort me, and now I'm in graduate school, looking back, I can completely understand the rebellious children, it's not that we choose to rebel, but the environment makes us have no choice, I can understand what the teachers, classmates and parents did to me at that time, But at that time, I have no way to understand it, because they are all torturing people, so it is recommended that you communicate with your child more, establish an effective communication channel, understand his situation and psychology, empathize, and guide him through a special period in his life.
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In general, there are several phenomena that occur when there is rebellion.
Educational characteristics – students with poor academic performance are more rebellious than students with good academic performance.
Trigger characteristics - mainly manifested in fierce confrontation between parents and children or teachers and students.
Behavioral characteristics - most of the rebellious teenagers do not care about the consequences of their behavior, and do some very extreme things, such as long-term Internet cafes, and may even wander and beg, gamble, carry out illegal and criminal activities, etc.
You see if the child has such a situation, if there is such a situation, you should pay attention, you can slowly talk to her, understand the reason, and then guide the child back on track.
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Rebellious education for 11-year-old girls: refuse to fight violence with violence, be patient enough, and communicate more with children.
1. Refuse to counter violence with violence
When a child behaves rebelliously, parents should remember that they should not respond to violence with violence, which will only aggravate their child's rebellious mentality. The correct approach should be to focus on communication, supplemented by education, take the initiative to discover children's ideas in the process of talking with children, and then get along with children in the way of making friends to help children solve problems encountered in life.
2. Be patient
Many parents are easily agitated in the face of their children's rebellion, and even yell, which is also wrong to treat their children in this way. Parents should be patient enough to sit down with their children and talk to them about what they want their parents to do, and if necessary, ask their children about their own shortcomings, and then correct them in time.
3. Communicate more with your children
Most rebellious children lack family communication, and because parents are busy with work and don't care about their children's lives, it will lead to rebellion. It is recommended that parents spend more time with their children and communicate psychologically during the process of play, which can help ease the parent-child relationship.
In pre-adolescence, parents must re-examine their relationship with their children, and rebuilding parent-child trust is a top priority, as communication is everywhere and every day. Rational parents will change the way they used to be unquestionable about their children to seek their children's opinions on everything, and let the children make their own judgments and choices.
If parents find that their child has deviations, they can give reasonable suggestions. When children find that their parents respect their choices, they naturally respect them extraordinarily. When children have enough trust and respect from their parents, they will feel a sense of security deep down.
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The 12-year-old girl, because she was dissatisfied with her parents' criticism and education, smashed the curved TV that she had just bought at home that cost 10,000 yuan, which shows that there has been a serious problem in family education. Although it was exposed, it caused property damage, but the sooner the problem was exposed, the better, this time it was only the property damage, and the next time maybe he ran away from home, jumped off the building, or was like the 12-year-old little boy who killed his mother, causing irreparable losses. Therefore, first characterize this matter as "breaking the fortune and eliminating the disaster", and the parents' peace of mind will help solve the problem.
Characteristics of the rebellious period.
11-12 years old is just entering the rebellious stage, girls may be experiencing menarche, hormonal upheaval, boys will be a little later, will also experience physical and psychological drastic changes. Abroad calls this stage the "manic period" and "difficult period".
In addition to the huge changes that are taking place physically, children also have to bear a lot of pressure on going to school and interpersonal relationships psychologically. Entering adolescence means that the aura of omnipotence of parents gradually fades, and children realize that their parents are just ordinary people, even ordinary people with many shortcomings. At this stage, children will try to break away from the influence of their parents, gain autonomy, and initially shape their own worldview.
Because of these characteristics, children in the rebellious period especially like to argue with their parents, talk back, and highlight their sense of rebellion.
Misunderstandings of parents when dealing with rebellious children.
1. Excessive harshness.
Some parents feel that their children have suddenly learned to talk back, be disobedient, and have a bad attitude, so they will increase discipline in order to get their children back on the "right track" through high-pressure control. Spanking and scolding don't work for adolescent children, or at best only superficially. When a child is under high pressure, the first thing must be to close the door of positive communication with his parents, and bury many thoughts in his heart from then on.
Or they may move some activities from the ground to the ground, gradually alienating themselves from their parents.
2. Excessive spoiling and indulgence.
This kind of parents are indulgent to their children since they were young, and when they reach the rebellious period, the child's temper grows, and the parents' attitude will soften. The more the child is tempted, the more he finds that his parents have no bottom line at all, and the child who has lost his sense of boundaries will become more and more excessive.
Both of these educational misconceptions may lead children to act as radical as smashing the TV. Parents are too strict, and the child's frustrated dissatisfaction is getting worse and worse, and it will explode through drastic means. However, generally this kind of parents will not come to the Internet for help, their methods are simple and rude, and they believe that family ugliness cannot be publicized, and they will only intensify the beating of their children.
Children of indulgent parents can also engage in aggressive behavior. Because when they lose their temper, their parents will not do anything to them except to whisper and complain, so their methods will continue to escalate. This type of parent is characterized by always not knowing what to do with the child.
What's the worst-case scenario? It is a pair of parents who have a combination of doting + strict in the family. And the worse combination is that the parents don't care about it since childhood, throw it to the grandparents who dot on the child, and then pick it up when they are older.
These two situations are the most problematic.
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1. Don't blame the child's rebellion, because the more you talk about him, the more he resists.
2. After the child enters the rebellious period of adolescence, parents should pay attention to delegating various rights to them to help the child transition from ignorance to maturity.
3. Avoid "mantras" such as "you should", "you must", "what do you know", etc.
4. Respect the child's privacy, if the child really does not want to communicate with you, do not be too forced, respect the child and win respect for yourself.
5. When contacting children, try to find as many children's strengths as possible, and encourage them more to reduce their resistance to you.
6. Don't always talk about academic performance when communicating with your child, which will only make your child have psychological pressure to doubt your "sincerity".
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Rebellious, you just follow her, adolescence, normal interaction between male and female classmates is allowed, you need to pay attention to remind children to not affect their learning, besides, it is not so complicated, they are only children, life is very lonely, so you need friends, in order to prove the value of each other's existence, as a parent, you can stand in the perspective of children, consider for them, but also do a good job of a psychological adjustment, the doll grows up, needs a private independent space, you trust her, she will treat you as a friend, the more nervous you are, there are many things, she doesn't mean that, and she rebels into that meaning. Communicate, communicate, understand her thoughts, understand her.
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This varies from person to person, and the key is that you have to find out why he is rebellious, and then channel this feeling in a reasonable way.
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This question depends on a number of factors, one is their own understanding and growth of the problem, and the other is the communication between the family, especially parents and children, which will have a great impact on whether the child can transition safely.
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Children are generally ten to eighteen years old, rebellious in the middle, after eighteen adulthood, they know more things, they will understand the difficulty of their parents, it will be good, children are generally ten to eighteen years old, they will be rebellious in the middle, after eighteen years old, they will understand more things, they will understand the difficulty of their parents, they will be fine, children are generally ten to eighteen years old, rebellious in the middle, after eighteen adulthood, they will understand more things, they will understand the difficulties of their parents, and they will be fine.
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It is normal for children at this age to be rebellious, and it is generally good for them to be a little more mature in their thinking around the age of 17, during which parents try to guide her correctly.
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It depends on what kind of situation it looks like, and love is given right. Fit is not for him. Some people have been rebellious all their lives, some will be better if they marry elders, and some will be better at the age of twenty, depending on people's qualifications and education level.
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Due to the high quality of nutrition in life, today's children mature earlier than previous children and reach puberty earlier. Generally speaking, about three or four years, if you guide it correctly, it will pass quickly.
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Generally, at the age of fifteen or sixteen, it will return to normal. But this is also related to the guidance of parents, the rebellious period of the child hates the most long-winded parents, so it is necessary to be friends with the child first, understand her intentions, which can be conducive to correct guidance and dredging, and soon can get through the rebellious period.
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The length of the rebellious period varies from person to person, and some people feel the love of their parents when they encounter difficulties, and they are transformed. Some people know the goodness of their relatives when their conscience is blamed or frustrated, and they change their minds, and they generally don't become grateful until they become adults. ,
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There is no absolute uniform time for when to return to normal, some are 16-17 years old, and some are after the college entrance examination. This time is the time to guide correctly.
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Friends, children, will have a rebellious mentality at this age! We parents should communicate with our children, make friends with them (them), so that children can slowly get out of the rebellious mentality, which is also a hurdle in every child's life, friends must be treated correctly, come on you are the best!!
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It depends on the maturity of the individual's mind, but during this period, what parents should do is not to use scolding or extreme methods to educate their children, which will only make him more and more irritable. Personal experience, children will slowly get better, and parents should also do a good job of supervision.
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This age is the child's adolescent rebellious period, normal! Parents don't worry! Generally 16-17 years old is fine.
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It is normal for girls to start rebellious by the age of 12. Wait until he grows up. I know that it is not easy to be a parent.
Now he's still young. He's a little older. It will be much better if you are sensible.
You need to be fifteen or sixteen. Then you have some obvious and some not, which every child has. Be good to drip.
Otherwise, he will become more and more rebellious. Find a classmate to guide him well. He also listened to the teacher very much, so that the teacher could also talk about his heart, which was better.
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Normal, teenage little girl rebellious. But you have to be in your 20s normally, and you have to see if there is someone to educate and who to be with. Judge everything!
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When it is time to be sensible, to know that it is not easy to make money, and to know that you are responsible for your wrong behavior, and you have to bear it, then the child will grow up.
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Generally, the right and right will return to normal in three or four years, but this is also related to the correct guidance of parents, first make friends with the child, and then try to guide correctly. It's going to be over quickly.
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From the age of 12, when you encounter this kind of child, you have to have a 12-year-old child start to rebel. This age is normal. When it will return to normal, it depends on the individual's situation.
Normally, it will return to normal after the age of 16. However, some children have a longer rebellious period. It may not be until the age of 20 that it will return to normal.
So communicate more with rebellious children. Communicate more. Make friends with your child.
Don't stiffen. And so it will. Fast recovery.
When encountering this kind of child, you should be patient and communicate with her more.
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