Why don t people like to hear the truth?

<> it seems to me that telling the truth may be good for the other person in the eyes of the speaker, and I think that these words can make the other person realize enlightenment, and thus become better than the original.

From the listener's point of view,It's not that we don't like to hear the truth, it's that we don't like to listen to things that ruin the joy and damage our self-esteem. Who doesn't like to listen to those who can help others to affirm themselves more and play an encouraging role?

Talking is just about getting encouragement or recognition

Actually,Many people just want comfort, encouragement, or approval when they speak, for some people who are more sensitive and easily emotionalListening to the truth means judging and even criticizing oneselfSaying that they are not doing something right in someone will hurt them.

As a result, these people will feel angry or even alienated from you, while being friends with such peopleJust listen slowly when they are talking, have interactive responses, and comfort and encourage them in time, this is the "truth" they want to get.

People who like to hear the truth exist, but there are very few

For the other kind, accept those who know themselves objectively and accept the truth of others. They may be upset when they hear the truth, but soon they will focus on your truthBecause they know that it will also be a way for them to understand themselves, and perhaps, it will also help them grow themselves.

In my own experience, my relatives and friends generally want to be comforted, encouraged, or recognized by others when they talk to each other, but there are also people who like to hear the truth in the second type mentioned above.

Truth-telling is also a language art

For example, for example, a student with poor academic performance and who often fails the test scored 80 points, and he is very happy and asks you, "I took the 80 test this time, has I made great progress?" "You say:

The progress is great, but the test is still not good, it didn't reach 85, who in your class scored 100 points, right? "Do you think she is more motivated to learn after listening to you, or is she shocked?

In fact, many times we only see one side of things, and the other side we don't know, perhaps hidden by the narrative perspective. When we step out of one side of the story and start dissecting the whole picture, people who only hope that we see one side of the matter will inevitably feel dissatisfied and therefore show that they don't like to hear the truth.

So in my opinion, telling the truth can sometimes put the topic in an awkward position, and relationships, language arts, are things that allow us to learn for lifeWhen we don't have to tell the truth, and when we have to tell the truth, also tests our ability to cope with all kinds of changes.

All in all, I think what people don't like to hear is the kind of truth that can damage their self-esteem and ruin the atmosphere, and we want to be encouraged and recognized. For speakers, each of us can be speakers, and telling the truth is also a language art.

Each of us speaks. It's an important means for us to express our ideas.

When it comes to speaking, there is a distinction between telling the truth and telling lies. ......To tell the truth is to express what you really think in your heart.

And when you tell a lie, what you say will not be consistent with what you really think in your heart.

It stands to reason that we should like to hear the truth, so that we can understand what the other person really thinks. ......But in fact, many times we don't like to hear the truth......The reasons for this phenomenon are as follows:

1. Loyalty is an important reason why many people don't like to listen to the truth.

Each of us wants to hear praise and praise.

However, no one is perfect, and each of us has shortcomings and mistakes. Therefore, in the minds of others, we will all have relevant evaluations. ......If you tell the truth, you will tell your true thoughts and point out the shortcomings and mistakes of the other person......Obviously, many people don't like to hear such words.

That's why a lot of people don't know what to tell the truth.

2. I don't like to listen to the truth because I don't want to listen to negative evaluations of myself.

Each of us wants to be affirmed and doesn't like to hear negative comments about ourselves.

However, everyone has shortcomings and mistakes, and if you tell the truth, you will make negative evaluations of each other's shortcomings and mistakes......Many people don't want to hear this......That's why a lot of people don't like to hear the truth.

3. Because I don't want to listen to words that are inconsistent with my own thinking, I don't like to listen to the truth.

The truth represents what the heart really thinks.

Everyone has their own unique way of thinking. If you tell the truth, you will express your own unique ideas ......And some people only like things that are in line with their own thinking, but they don't like words that are different from their way of thinking......As a result, many people don't like to hear the truth.

4. Vanity leads to disliking to listen to the truth.

Each of us has vanity and wants to be complimented.

Everyone has shortcomings, and telling the truth is often to point out the mistakes and shortcomings of the other party, so many people are reluctant to listen.

Since ancient times, there has been a saying that a good teacher criticizes a friend, but sometimes, when a friend speaks bluntly to you, we are often very angry, even if the other party is right, you may not be able to recognize, even if you recognize your own shortcomings, you will be angry that your friend did not give you enough face.

There are several reasons why people don't like to hear the truth:

If you don't listen to the truth, you don't dare to look directly at your own shortcomings

The famous screenwriter Li Bihua said: "The truth is the worst, and the truth is the worst." ”

You know, although lies sound good, they may not really be useful to us. Although the truth is contrary to our ears, it can make us face up to our own shortcomings.

In other words, to blindly reject the truth is to deliberately avoid one's own shortcomings.

In fact, many people don't really like to listen to the truth, but they don't dare to look directly at their own shortcomings, so they deliberately avoid it.

Everyone loves to hear good words, but only the truth can tell us what deficiencies should be corrected.

If you don't listen to the truth, you will be surrounded by villains

Just like if we don't listen to the truth, those friends who dare to tell the truth will gradually leave us.

Instead, we are surrounded by a group of liars who love to tell lies.

They have no position, no matter what happens, and their mouths are always like smeared honey, deliberately saying what we love to hear.

If you hear more falsehoods, you will inevitably have fewer truths.

If you don't hear the truth, those who tell you the truth will gradually leave, and all that will be left behind are those who love to tell lies.

Summary

An excellent life requires truth

The German poet Heine once said, "Life cannot blossom from a lie." ”

You must know that when we do not hear the truth for a long time, our growth will inevitably stop or even regress because of lies.

And when we can hear the truth and listen to the truth, life will move forward.

People don't like to listen to the truth because lies are better than the truth, some truths hurt themselves, and some truths make them more comfortable.

To understand a person's inner thoughts, you should listen to the truth. But many times we don't like to hear the truth, and this happens in the following ways:

1.We all like to hear praise for ourselves, but everyone has shortcomings and mistakes, if the other party tells the truth and points out our shortcomings, we don't like or even be unhappy, because we don't want to listen to negative evaluations of ourselves, so we don't like to listen to the truth. Advice is against the ear, so people prefer to listen to lies rather than truths.

2.Most people don't want to listen to things that don't align with their own thinking, so they don't like to hear the truth. Everyone has their own ideas, and we also hope that other people's ideas will be the same as ours.

Some people only like things that match their own way of thinking, but they don't like things that are different from their way of thinking. As a result, many people don't like to hear the truth.

3.Each of us has vanity, and we want others to be satisfied with our vanity by saying everything about us. If you tell the truth, you will point out your own shortcomings and mistakes, and your vanity will be frustrated. Because of this, many people don't like to hear the truth.

The world needs lies and truths, and as long as they do not violate morality and law, lies are white lies.

Why don't you like to hear the truth, because sometimes when a person is intoxicated with a certain feeling that he identifies himself, he feels that his feeling is the truth. Everything that breaks the sense of self, even if it is real, is just the opposite of the self-singing. He assumes that his feelings are correct, and all other information is wrong.

Online training courses, training camps. In all kinds of writing classes, most of them convey a message that if you go to your own class, in the near future, you will be able to read 100,000+ readers, and you will be able to monetize your writing tomorrow. As a senior professional writer, you can't get used to these exaggerated propaganda, and you are afraid that those former and successive whites will believe it and end up being beaten in the head by reality.

You stand up with righteous indignation and accuse those who advertise for not being sincere enough. How can writing be enlightened because of short-term training, practice over time, persist for decades, and may not be able to change when you put pen to paper.

You warn those eager novices not to be whimsical and daydreaming. You use your own experience to tell them not to have naïve ideas, and in the end, they end up with a sea of dreams. You think that your sharp words and real cases will awaken those young people with lofty ideals who are full of enthusiasm and have beautiful dreams.

Because, everything you say is the truth.

But the truth does not make others feel that you are an angel on earth, saving the public from fantasy. No one buys your account, but complains that you are bitter and mean, and you poured a basin of cold water on you before the dream began. Just like a toddler baby, no matter how ugly the gait is, you don't need to be reasonable repeatedly, because reasoning is useless, ugly falls, and after a long time, he naturally learns to walk steadily and learn to walk around the stones.

Why don't you love to listen to the truth, because there are some things that you can only experience yourself, and you have fallen a lot, and the lessons you have summed up are the truth. Your experience or truth is important, but because of your love, the passion for wanting to experience is unstoppable. Maybe the dream will wake up, but you can't stop him from doing it.

Born as a human being, true and false, follow you like a shadow. Taizhen sometimes makes people feel too blunt and not tactful and mellow enough. Too fake naturally gives birth to false friends, and there is no principle for selling fake friends.

We all advocate truthfulness, pursue sincerity, and like the truth. Turning truth into a kind of beauty, a kind of knowledge, a kind of art, is worth studying!

Because sometimes the truth is harsh.

I think there are two kinds of truth: one is unnecessary. One is exhortation.

Let's talk about the first type of unnecessary, what is unnecessary? It's that some people call it unnecessary by exaggerating the facts or deliberately satirizing your physical features, which is negative. What is counsel?

For example, Xiao Ming is doing a career, and his friend is a person who has come over, and he obviously sees the shortcomings of this career and mentions it, which is advice, which is positive, and it is also what we often say.

In the first case, people don't like to hear it, because criticism that doesn't give advice is only at the level of criticism. Anyone who doesn't like you can commit the first act, and this so-called "truth" is nothing more than an excuse to kidnap you and mock you. The second type is mostly between friends and partners, and most people can accept it, because the other party is analyzing from their own standpoint, and the starting point is completely different from the first situation, and this starting point is for themselves.

So, seriously don't you like to hear the truth? I think it's the opposite, people like to listen to the truth that is good for themselves, but they just have a strong aversion to the truth that only wants to satirize themselves. In the second case, the truth can really help you in some ways, just like the teacher's education in school.