Will a girl who hates her father ever since she was a child be happy

1. Since childhood, I have been hurt a lot by my father in the family, and I have grown up all the way, I can feel your resentment and disappointment towards my father, and now my parents are ready to divorce, and you feel that the division of family property is very unfair to my mother, and the house is hard work of my mother, and you think that your father has not fulfilled his responsibilities as a family member to your mother and daughter, and should not take away half of the property.

2. I can understand the anger in your heart very well, the scars that have been left in your heart since you were a child have not healed, and the scene of your father hurting you is still vivid. The way your father treats you is indeed very wrong, but the division of property in divorce is still carried out in accordance with the relevant provisions of the law, if the property is still divided to your father in the end, you are very helpless, you feel that your father once owed you mother and son have not been paid back to you, you don't know how to face the pain of the past, you may feel that "the wicked have never received the retribution he deserves", which makes your heart particularly unbalanced.

So let's talk about how to deal with "harm".

1. Accept the past.

There is nothing wrong with the person who was hurt, it is not your fault that you are not able to protect yourself and the people around you, it is the person who hurt you who is wrong, those who embarrassed you in the past, but you are not at fault, you don't have to complain that you are not strong enough to fight in the past, even if you have been hurt, you are still the person who loves your family, has a sense of responsibility, and deserves to be loved.

2. Heal yourself.

You were also a part of your life in the past, and in the future, you can still heal yourself, meet friends who care about you, meet partners who love you, and have more knowledge and social resources to protect yourself. These will become your armor and slowly heal your scars over time. Maybe you are still scared when you think about the past at a certain moment in the future, but by looking at the people around you and looking at yourself, you can find a real sense of security.

If there is really no way to fight for your interests, then choose to let go, hug yourself, embrace the people who love you now, you will support each other and start your new life.

Generally not happy, girls who grow up in this environment have low self-esteem and high self-esteem, fear of being hurt, social phobia, and always suspect that others will harm themselves! Doesn't easily trust anyone, a girl who can't get her father's love never consults with her family when she does things, makes her own opinions, and will arbitrarily brew bitter fruits, and the consequences are unbearable!

Xiaohan, my father's girl, I think he has grown up, and his character is also flawed. It's not going to be very happy.

Happiness is that your future husband, father-in-law and mother-in-law will compromise and sacrifice for you for that family. Contribute.

Put it down! Child, then hate him is also the person who gives you life, although there are regrets, but the role of the father is indelible, my daughter is a girl who has no father's care, it can be said that there is no father, I have always been to persuade her not to hate, hate others and hate for a long time, they will be hurt, there will be no love, and the hated person will not know how much pain you have, to live happily, the happier the happier is the most important thing, come on ha, child.

Hello, 01, asking for love from parents does not become hating this type of children and hating their parents, mainly because their parents are patriarchal, or parents always like to favor a certain child, they want to make their parents proud of themselves, but they find that no matter how hard they try, they begin to hate their parents. is like Su Mingyu in "It's All Good", does she hate her mother? There is a little bit in her heart, because when she was a child, she thought that when she was crying, her mother could hug her into her arms and comfort herself.

But she tried a lot, but found that the other party always loved her brother more than herself. So Su Mingyu began to stop looking forward to her mother's love, and even wanted to cut off the relationship with her family, she worked by herself to support herself, and finally she successfully owned a big house, but her heart still longed for her mother to love her, and it was only because of her mother's dislove that Su Mingyu hated her mother. 02. Attribute your unsuccess to your parents, why do some children hate their parents?

It's not that his parents aren't good enough for him, it's that he feels that his parents can't help him, and that his success is due to his own efforts, and his unsuccess is due to his parents. Fang Tianyi in the TV series "Happy Family" is like this, in the eyes of outsiders, he is a doctor who has returned from studying abroad, and his father may have been proud of him. But he said that when he got married, he broke off the relationship with everyone in the Fang family.

Fang Tianyi even hated his father a little to a certain extent, and he couldn't help himself, so he made himself suffer so much to get to this point today, so instead of thanking his parents for their efforts, he resented his father for not helping him more. There are also some people who hate their parents, because they didn't succeed, because their talents are not worthy of their ambitions, but after failure, they don't want to reflect on themselves, thinking that their parents don't educate them enough, and even think that it is because they are too lenient with themselves. If it is because of the preference of parents to hate their parents' children, we can still understand our posture, after all, they used to love their parents very much, and they only hated them because of their parents' partiality.

Those who attribute their failure to their parents seem a little less forgivable. Your parents have given you life, even if they have controlled you too much, is it that at the age of 18, you don't have the ability to distinguish at all, and it is clear that it is your own cowardice and incompetence that leads to failure, but you still want to try to blame others for all the faults, so this kind of person who attributes his failure to his parents is destined not to succeed, after all, they can't even put their mentality right, and what courage can they have to challenge their own life, so they are doomed to be a loser, unless they are willing to review themselves and work hard, will become a winner in life.

First of all, because for the older generation of Chinese people, there is often a patriarchal mentality, so in the environment where girls grow up from an early age, parents often have no way to give them enough care, more often parents will focus on the cultivation of boys, and some families will dote on boys, so it leads to the psychological imbalance of girls from an early age.

The second is that girls are often more calculating, mainly because girls themselves are more sensitive to changes in the external environment, and at the same time, they hope to be cared for by their relatives.

Girls need more care and love from their parents in the process of growing up, so that children will think that their parents value themselves, but in the actual process of dressing, many parents ignore their feelings in the process of growing up.

Precautions for girls who hate their parents:

1. You should try to reconcile with your parents, and take the initiative to let go of some unhappy things in your heart, because sometimes parents can't do a very comprehensive job in life to meet their children's development needs.

2. We should take the initiative to achieve the effect of self-reliance, so that we can complete ideological independence on the basis of economic independence, and economic independence is the greatest dignity of an adult.

3. You should correctly look at the impact of the family growth environment on yourself, and more often you should take the initiative to realize that there is no absolute fairness and absolute unfairness in the world, and you should actively behave in the world, so as to gradually achieve your own expected development results.

The reasons why the girl hates her father more and more when she grows up are: 1. The father lacks care for his children; 2. The father's personality is stronger; 3. Dad is not good at expressing his inner feelings.

1. Fathers lack care for their children.

After children go to school or participate in work, mothers are generally more worried about it, asking all kinds of questions, caring about this and that. And fathers often lack love for their children, I believe that they also love their children, but the expression is not as delicate as mothers, so children will be more willing to communicate with their mothers.

2. The father's personality is stronger;

When the child grows up, he becomes independent, has his own ideas and practices, and does not want his parents to interfere too much. The father's interference seems to be tougher and stronger than the mother's, so it is easy to arouse the child's disgust.

3. Dad is not good at expressing his inner feelings.

When children are young, fathers are more open-minded, so they will be closer to their children. As the children grow up, the father will become more calm and serious as he grows older, and the children will be intimidated and less willing to get close to the father.

How to improve the father-daughter relationship

1. It is necessary to increase communication with children.

There is no doubt about the importance of communication in life, when fathers realize that their children are not close enough to themselves, they can find an appropriate time to tell their children about their father's love for their children, and let children know that although their father's love for their children is not as delicate as that of their mothers, they will not be less than their mothers.

2. Get along with children on an equal footing.

Treating the child as an equal "person" with oneself will make the child feel the respect of the father in the process of getting along with the child, and the child will be more willing to be close to the father.