How can parents nurture children who lack judgment skills?

The strength of judgment is an important criterion for measuring the strength of a person's thinking ability. Having a keen judgment ability is the embodiment of a person's agile thinking ability, and it is also the basis for reflecting the person's ability to quickly, decisively and accurately grasp the essence of things and make correct decisions at critical moments. Everyone knows how important it is, so let's talk about how to develop children's judgment.

In a child's world, most of the elements are simple. Many times, children can't make decisions, not because they don't have ideas, but because they think too much, their little heads are full of all kinds of whimsical ideas, which leads to hesitation. Respect your child's rhythm and don't keep pushing him impatiently.

With hasty decisions, it is easier for children to rush out with only one goal, regardless of the dangers of the surrounding environment.

Simply agreeing for or against an adult's opinion will not develop a child's judgment. Even if it is troublesome, give your child 2-3 more options at a regular time, provide them with materials to think about, and let them organize their thoughts in their heads. Repeatedly subjecting children to this kind of training can help children develop the habit of thinking and gradually form their own judgment.

Even if your child's choice is not the best, respect your child's decision and give him appropriate encouragement. Children feel that their own opinions are useful, which can cultivate children's self-confidence, and when they encounter things in the future, they will naturally think more and reduce impulsiveness.

Life is education. Many of children's judgments about things start by imitating adults. What adults do, whether right or wrong, is initially "right" in the eyes of children.

For example, when an adult eats a banana, he will peel it first, and a child will learn to peel it off. If he doesn't taste the banana peel himself, or if the adult doesn't tell him that the reason for peeling the peel is that the banana peel is not tasty, his judgment of the banana peel will stop at "The adult doesn't eat it, so I don't eat it either." In life, parents should explain the "why" to their children, encourage them to try to find answers in their own safe ways, and gradually improve their judgment skills.

A person's judgment is not developed naturally, and can only be gradually perfected and perfected through conscious or unconscious training and cultivation. The cultivation of judgment comes from the little things in life, the development and the patient guidance and careful teaching of parents. When children do not rely on their parents to make correct judgments and can accurately state the reasons, the "judgment education" of parents can reap the sweetest fruits.

For children who lack judgment ability, parents should let children make more decisions on their own, and parents can give advice or guidance, but let children express their own thoughts and opinions more, so as to better cultivate children's judgment ability.

It is necessary to let the child do some training tasks from an early age, let him complete some things independently, and be able to command others to obtain some leadership skills, so that he can have the formation of judgment ability.

Give your child more opportunities in life and let him make some decisions on his own. Let him take responsibility for his mistakes, so that his child's judgment can be cultivated.

Parents should cultivate their children's ability to be independent from an early age, respect their children's ideas no matter what they do, and tell their children what is right and what is wrong, so that it is okay.

When doing anything, let children have their own opinions and ideas, let them boldly express their inner truth, and enhance their sensitivity.

Parents should not make decisions for their children, whether it is big or small, parents should let their children make their own decisions, whether the decision is right or wrong, we should encourage children to have their own decision-making, and should not decide everything for them.

Most of the time, parents should let their children have their own judgment ability, so as to improve their children's independence, and at the same time, they should also let children make their own decisions on some things, and do not often deny.

Parents should test their children more questions, so that children can learn to take the initiative to judge some things, and after exercising for a long time, children naturally have the ability to judge.

Parents can do it first, tell their children how to do things, cultivate their children's abilities in this area, or ask a professional teacher to cultivate their children's abilities in this area, and they can slowly get better.

At this time, parents should establish the right awareness for their children and let them make more choices. Nurture them with that ability.

Lu Jiuyuan, an expert and scholar in the Ming Dynasty, once admonished students: There is no doubt about learning, and if you are suspicious, you will make progress. Only by having the courage to question can we solve the confusion, and only then can we continue to excel and make progress in learning.

There was once an 8-year-old boy in Fuzhou who was on the hot search list for questioning Chinese textbooks. When she was preparing for the textbook "Nine Days of Yi Shooting", she read this sentence: The land resources have been scorched, and the water in the rivers has been evaporated.

But the plot of the story is: he crossed the ninety-nine great rivers and rushed to the East China Sea. The boy was puzzled, even if the water of the river was also boiled dry, how could he still pass through the ninety-nine great rivers.

The mother also asked about the residence, but she did not reprimand the child for doing too much, and helped to post the question on the Internet to ask for it. The problem eventually led to a high level of attention and replies from the People's Education Press, who praised the children for giving good questions and promised to make appropriate changes. In fact, compared to right and wrong, more worthy of praise means that boys do not blindly follow adults and authority, have the courage to question, and have the courage to pronounce their own opinions, which is very worthy of encouragement.

A child who has the courage to question has ample development potential to develop into an ideal and capable person in society.

All in all, the courage to question is a child's ability, and parents should be encouraged and supported. Parents should create a family atmosphere for their children to have the courage to question, know how to listen to their children's thoughts, be good at communicating and exchanging with their children on an equal footing, and encourage children to explore and discuss their own opinions. Continue to think, reflect and make progress on the road of truth-seeking.

Dale Carnegie mentioned in the book "The Weakness of Human Nature": "In fact, all joys, sorrows, and sorrows are human nature, and it is impossible to make one's daily life without a little trouble, the key is how to correctly regulate and control one's emotions, and be the real master of life and emotions." It can be seen that learning to manipulate emotions is a necessary part of the curriculum for everyone, and the same is true for children.

I once taught a student who lost his temper easily for no reason, and it was difficult to control his emotions when something unpleasant happened. During the event, the students accidentally bumped into him, and he began to lose his temper. When I was in class, I was criticized by the teacher, and I talked to the teacher about "basic theory".

Some teachers said that this student is like a balloon, flammable and easy. In the long run, many blind students were afraid to avoid him, and they didn't want him to have a certain touch until they had to.

Obviously, this classmate is obviously led by emotions and doesn't know how to manipulate emotions, so how can he control his life? Everyone's personal behavior is mostly affected by emotions. Emotions are a magic barrier, and if you don't manipulate it properly, it will engulf you.

Therefore, parents should create a calm family atmosphere for their children, and remember that the influence of parents' speech and behavior and the family atmosphere they create on their children is deep-rooted. Teach children to manipulate emotions and learn self-restraint so that children can go further.

The ability to do things independently, the ability to learn, the ability to think logically, the ability to communicate, the ability to adapt, these are easy to be ignored by parents.

Interpersonal relationship. Interpersonal relationship is a social relationship formed by people in a variety of daily activities, and for socks children, reasonable coordination of kinship, friendship, classmate, teacher-student relationship will have a huge impact on their future development.

Work something out. That is, when a problem arises, people will use the knowledge, experience, and skills they have learned in accordance with the established goals to solve the problem through the non-stop operation of thinking.

Parents can ask their children's opinions before doing things, so that they can exercise their judgment. And give your child more opportunities when doing things, so that he can think about whether he has something he wants to do. When children have a judgment ability, they will decide what they want to do, and they can also decide some of their own small habits in life.

Learn to ask for children's opinions when doing things, and never directly arrange the results for children, otherwise children will not only lack judgment, but also lack a sense of responsibility.

Moreover, because the child is not rich in knowledge, his thinking ability is not mature, so he cannot make correct judgments directly. However, after the physical and mental growth and the increase in knowledge, the child can make judgments, and at this time, do not restrain the child. Learn to give your child the opportunity to make their own choices, because children can only gain a good judgment if they accumulate through experience.

Give your child the opportunity to practice, but in the process of practicing, your child may make a mistake in judgment. Don't blindly deny the child, you can tell the child that you have done something wrong after the child makes a mistake in the judgment, and when the child has a good improvement, they will make a new judgment. And parents must always encourage their children, parents themselves in the process of doing things, to let the children participate in it, more importantly, to let the children understand that many things in life need to be decided by themselves.

Parents can put forward some opinions in a timely manner, and after communicating with their children, children will have more strength to dare to judge. Parents must not be in a hurry in the process of educating their children, because one bite can not make a big fat man, if you ask too much of your child, then it will not only make your child unable to achieve her goals, but also make your child regress. Therefore, it can also be seen that learning to let children judge is to let children make their own decisions.

Parents can consciously guide them not to interfere in their children's affairs, so that children can form the habit of making their own decisions and making their own judgments.

Parents should set up a correct three views for their children, set a good example for their children, and then should also improve their children's independent ability, let their children judge independently, and improve their children's opinions.

Do anything and let the child choose for himself, so that he can know whether the child has some judgment ability and have a clear understanding.

1. Thinking: think twice before acting.

As children grow up, they become more and more receptive to new things. As parents, we should treat our children in a good and sincere manner, pay more attention to our own words and deeds, and set a correct and rational example for our children.

2. Action: must not be procrastinated.

In family education, parents should stand at the height of their children, strengthen their children's ability to act, guide their children to do things that they dare not do, do not want to do, and are not easy to do, develop children's action in specific actions, and promote children's healthy development. In daily life, parents must do what they promise their children, lead by example, and do the things that need to be done immediately, don't procrastinate. If there is something that cannot be done, explain it to your child and promise him when he will do it.

Cultivating children's ability to act is not something that can be achieved overnight, but it is necessary to teach them slowly, starting from the small things in life, and develop the habit of being vigorous and resolute.

3. Self-control: Don't indulge yourself.

Many parents feel that their children are not self-reliant, especially when it comes to learning. But where children are interested, self-control is too good to laugh or cry. For example, you can play games for hours without resting, run like crazy, and continue playing even if you are tired.

This shows that children also have self-control, but in different ways.

When a child encounters something he likes, he or she becomes very self-controlled. If it becomes an obstacle due to internal reasons, parents should not blame their children for not having self-control, but should find reasons and think of ways to cultivate children's interests, hobbies, confidence, and appropriate self-motivation, and at the same time pay attention to helping to analyze the causes of the problems in advance and solve them in a targeted manner, so that the problems that disturb parents' children's self-control will be easily solved.

4. Justice: The award is rewarded, and the penalty is punished.

In the process of a child's growth, the necessary criticism contributes to the healthy growth of the child and is the promoter and catalyst for the child's success. Appropriate rewards can also make children have better interests and increase their love for new things. However, if you reward when you shouldn't be rewarded, or when you should be punished, you have the idea that your child is still young, ignorant, and grows up, and it will have a great impact on your child's development.

What parents should do is to supervise their children together, distinguish rewards and punishments, restrain each other, and guide their children to learn to be fair and just, so as to be more conducive to their children's healthy physical and mental growth.

5. Preparation: Everything is pre-planned.

Many parents feel that it is not important for their children to develop the habit of "setting up for everything", but in fact, it is not the case that they should be prepared for everything they do from an early age, and that many things can be solved by planning well in advance. Come to think of it, when children experience the importance of preparation, they will definitely "sharpen their tools before they want to do their jobs well."