I know that the man is a scumbag, but I still miss him very easily, and I can t restrain myself, wha

Although you know that he is a scumbag, you still have to think of him from time to time, and you can't restrain yourself because you really love him very, very much in your heart, so I think you can change him, use your gentleness and wisdom to change him, if he really belongs to the kind of person who can change, I think it's worth it.

Go find the next stop, as long as you find the next stop, then you can transfer your feelings to the other party, and you won't think about that scumbag anymore.

This shows that you are too infatuated, you spend too much time and energy in love, you need to withdraw from your emotions, find some other hobbies, read a book, and chat with friends.

is called a scumbag, that is, a man with a very poor character and irresponsible feelings. If a man truly loves you and is willing to give you 100% love and sincerity, then you can consider cultivating a relationship with him.

If a man is a typical scumbag, he is neither single-minded nor responsible for his feelings, he always steps on two boats, and he does not have a word of truth in his mouth, then no matter how much you love him, you must stay away from him as soon as possible.

For a woman, it's not terrible to fall in love with a scumbag, but it's terrible that you know he's a scumbag, but you're still reluctant to cut off relations with him.

In general, if you accidentally fall in love with a scumbag, a really smart woman will deal with it like this.

1. Will decisively cut off with the scumbag.

If you accidentally fall in love with a scumbag, a really smart woman will definitely break off with the scumbag and never get along.

Scumbags tend to wear thick masks, and he always disguises himself well, and you may not be able to tell for a moment how scumbag he really is. However, time washes everything. After a long time, the scumbag will naturally show his true face.

When a man is a liar, he always contradicts himself when he speaks, then after a long time, you will naturally know that he is an unreliable man.

When a man often cheats on your feelings, it is best for you to cut ties with him as soon as possible. A really smart woman, if she accidentally falls in love with a scumbag, she will definitely stop the loss in time, and she will not let herself continue to maintain close contacts and relationships with the scumbag.

If you are always too kind and soft-hearted to the scumbag, as long as he cries, makes trouble and kneels down to you, you can't help but forgive him, then you will be in an extremely passive situation and situation in this relationship, and you will never be able to get rid of the scumbag's control over you.

You know it's a scumbag, but you still can't let him go, what should I do?

Actually, it's very simple, break up. I'm really drunk, he doesn't care about you at all, he treats you as a kitten and a puppy, he gives some love when he's happy, and starves you for a few days if he's not happy, is it fun to be together? I've seen too many girls around me like a boy who has no responsibility, and then hurt themselves, and finally I think, if you meet such a boy, then let it go.

If you don't let go, it will be more painful later than now.

There are many people in this world who are worthy of your love, you must learn to let go, and don't wait until you are very hurt to think about the beginning.

So. You need a different man.

That's the only way. to get out of his control.

I always feel like you're being PUA. Hope.

The most heart-wrenching thing I've ever heard is that a girl said: If only he was a complete scumbag, a scumbag to the end, a scumbag is hopeless, a scumbag is angry, he never thinks about me, he does everything to hurt me, then I shouldn't be so miserable.

I also corrected her at the time: dear, not really.

When you really love deeply, when you love very deeply, many people often have such a feeling: the original sparkle is the spine of him, and the later turbidity is also him.

But you will find that you actually love him as a person, not his light or anything.

Even if you already know this person's character, and find that he does not conform to your original preset other half, but you are still persistent like an old ox pulling a plow, keeping your head down and moving forward, you can't hear any sound around you, and you don't want to listen, your heart and eyes only have this piece of heaven under your feet.

When you think of the other party, you still remember the good performance of those scenes.

So, you go on to assume that he still loves me—if he doesn't love me, he doesn't do something, he doesn't say something.

Oh no, when you have such a thought, you will find that there have been countless moments when you thought that you finally no longer liked him, and even a little disgusted, began to completely disappear, and you began to miss, you found that all the good things you had preset and still wanted to complete with him.

How ridiculous, hiding from everyone, in fact, you still quietly like him.

Have you ever thought about it, even if he is a scumbag, why do you still can't let go of the other party so much? Based on some of the current situations I have seen in my life, I have summarized the following four reasons.

Your "unfinished plot" will continue to add weight to this relationship after the breakup;

What is an unfinished episode? To put it simply, if you don't want to end your relationship and you still love each other in your heart, then in your heart, there will always be one or more unfinished things.

For example, eating the last meal, seeing the last face, something that two people wanted to do in the past, but never did until the end of the relationship, will become a knot in your heart.

In fact, when is the deadline for Sakura Search to reach the end of these things?

The answer is never.

Of course, there is one more premise to be added here, if you haven't put it down, there will be no expiration date. So, the key point at this time is actually on yourself - you have to avoid continuing to fall into this kind of thinking, in order to have the first step of hospitality.

Because you haven't thought of a method, you have to pay attention to the means to deal with the villain and defeat the strong with the weak, learn women's self-defense techniques to hit the vital point, sweep the eyes with anti-wolf water, and there are countless ways to harm the scumbag, in short, you can't be hard, even if you are a scumbag, he doesn't care about beating women, so he can only use yin tricks.

Because you're cowardly and afraid.

Honored to have your questions.

Let him summarize by himself how many exes he has, break up with his ex every time, and then compare it with another scumbag, which should make him realize that he is a scumbag.

The best way is to let himself be dumped by others, or find someone more scumbag than him to attack his current girlfriend, or to his important female friend, let him see if what he does is different from others.

Tell him directly about the harm he has done to others, some of them are indeed unconscious scum, tell him bluntly, let him recognize himself; Some scumbags are pretending to be deaf and dumb, what do you do, he doesn't think he is a scumbag.

When I broke up with him, I gave him the example of those guys who are good for girls. This will cause him to think and it will also affect him deeply.

I think you can just say it and tell him how scummy his behavior is and how much harm he has done to others. Because some people don't actually know their scum, someone still has to say it.

Find out all the behaviors he has done to hurt a girl, and then let him see what other scumbags have done to hurt girls.

Tell him directly that you are a scumbag. For the behavior of the scumbag, you must not tolerate it, speak out boldly, don't be afraid.

Tell him which of his behaviors are very scummy and very annoying to girls. However, most of the scumbags I know also know that they are scumbags.

He has done to you something that makes you sad, and you do it to him again, telling him all the crimes he has done.

My method is not to glance at him from the corner of my eye!