Why do people get along for a long time and become more and more conflicted?

Because you know too well, you will find each other's shortcomings, and the shortcomings will be contradictory when you look at them for a long time When everyone starts to get along, it is not easy to find each other's shortcomings, even if you find it, you don't care, but after getting along for a long time, there will be a period of boredom You will care about his shortcomings very much, and then you will start to complain and be dissatisfied, and there will be contradictions Or think more about each other's good, think about getting along well, don't always care about his shortcomings, what contradictions and differences can be sincerely talked about, Since you are very familiar with it, you should say something, and you can also express your feelings while joking There is friction It is normal, but you must learn to resolve the contradiction Because there are any misunderstandings and contradictions that cannot be piled up, they must be solved in time, if you carry it for a long time, it will not be good for anyone I hope you can get along well and resolve the contradiction as soon as possible! You can get along very well! Blessings are sent!

Everyone, after a deep relationship, knows each other very well. I feel that there are many contradictions, maybe it is just a momentary misunderstanding, or a resentment caused by an unhappy mood! If it is really a contradiction, it may be that you care too much about him, and then use very domineering and direct sentences to talk about the other party, hoping that the other party can understand the truth of the matter.

It's easy to contradict this way. I once had a fight with a good friend like this. It would be nice to think about it afterwards......

But if it's really a contradiction, then you should say it's an emotional crisis......

Why are there so many contradictions? This is inevitable, and this is a good phenomenon, which shows that the more contact between the two, the more you understand, the more so-called contradictions. Let's learn about dialectics.

Just ask, what kind of contradiction can you have with a stranger, it is precisely because you have more contact that it will bring about the so-called contradiction, and it is also a good thing to change the perspective.

However, I hope that the landlord can tolerate each other more, being together is a kind of fate, how many years later, looking back, you will find that some of the contradictions in the past and present are actually not a problem. In many cases, it's just a passing passerby or a sight. Think about it.

'Inclusion' is the fundamental way to solve this problem. Don't always stare at other people's shortcomings, which will be infinitely magnified.

The nature that should be bad will be exposed over time, people are not perfect, tolerance is the most important.

The longer you get along, the more you get to know each other, people will inevitably have shortcomings, as long as you find a solution, the contradiction will naturally be resolved.

Because I found the shortcomings of the other party.

Having a good friend is really a very important thing, it will make a big difference in your life, but when you live together for a long time, there will be some conflicts, so some people have this question, why do friends have conflicts after getting along for a long time? Today, I will give you a brief talk about why friends get along for a long time and have conflicts.

When we first get in touch with a friend, we will feel very much wanted to get to know this friend because of his certain advantages, to socialize, at the beginning, you may get along very happily, spend a very happy time together, but gradually you will find that you will have some conflicts, so why do these conflicts occur? First of all, I think that as we get along for a long time, we will get to know each other more and more at home, and you will find that the other party has a lot of shortcomings that you may not be able to bear, at the beginning, you will carefully maintain this relationship, and try to restrain yourself from having some inappropriate behaviors, but as the relationship develops, you will treat each other as yourself, so you will reveal many of your shortcomings, and it is these shortcomings that make you have a lot of contradictions.

The second is that friends also need to give each other a proper space, everyone needs a private space to deal with some private things, but when one of the two good friends deprives this appropriate space, at this time, the other party will feel very uncomfortable, because at the beginning of acquaintance, both parties will care about each other's feelings, can think carefully, what can be done to take into account each other's feelings? But after getting along for a long time, they will gradually go deep into the other party's private space, maybe at the beginning, most people will choose to be patient, but as time goes by, the contradiction will slowly appear.

The above content only represents my personal opinion, if there is any error, please understand.

Because friends will show each other their strange temper after a long time of contact, and they will not hide any shortcomings, so there will be conflicts.

Or is it because after a long period of contact, their shortcomings will be exposed, and then the two people will definitely disagree on some things, so there will be contradictions.

Because if we have been in contact for a long time, we have more opinions, and if we have different opinions on some things, it will be easy to have conflicts.

Because you both know each other too well, just like you and your family are not like this often, everyone grew up in different families and different environments, received different educations, contacted different people, and handled things differently, when you have different opinions about a slippery manuscript, there will be conflicts, because you insist on yours. He stuck to his. As long as one of you is willing to take a step back, I believe that your relationship will be more solid.

Because you have been with each other for a long time, you will find that many of the other party's blind shortcomings, if there are shortcomings that you can't accept, you will not be able to accept them, and thus disgusted. The important thing for two people to get along is to understand each other, learn from the reputation, and correct it. Come on!!

Why is it that the deeper people get along with each other, the more likely they are to produce a dry shield? Because the deeper the Shenyuan gets along with people, the more things they will come into contact with, and if they want to deal with different concepts, it is easy to have contradictions.

When people start dating, they will be very polite and polite, even honest and informal. But after getting along for a long time, there will be small disputes, misunderstandings, and calculations.

The reason is that some are dishonest and others, some are selfish, some love to play tricks, some love to take advantage of small advantages, some are calculating each other, and some are too small ......In short, such and such contradictions have occurred.

The problem is that no one wants to do self-examination and self-criticism, but just blindly blames the other party, pushes the responsibility and mistakes to others, and only thinks that they are completely right.

After friends get along for a long time, it is inevitable that there will be some contradictions and frictions. This is not because there is no affection between friends, but because every person has a self-sensitive personality and thoughts, and it is inevitable that there will be disagreements on some issues. In addition, everyone's lives and experiences change over time, which can also affect each other's relationships.

In the process of getting along with friends, the most important thing is to understand and tolerate each other. If you just stick to your own point of view and are unwilling to listen to the opinions of the other party, then the contradiction will continue to deepen. In addition, some small things can also cause conflicts, such as the other person does not act according to their expectations, or ignores their own feelings, etc.

To resolve conflicts between friends, the most important thing is to be honest and communicate with each other directly. If you have any problems or are not satisfied, you should communicate with the other party in a timely manner to find a solution. At the same time, respect the other person's feelings and opinions, and don't try to force the other person to accept your own point of view.

Finally, conflicts between friends are normal, and there is no need to complain or blame each other. As long as both parties have the sincerity to solve the problem, I believe that the relationship between friends will be stronger.

The two of them have been somewhat contradictory for a long time. Everyone is a person with a mind and his own ideas. If something goes wrong, it's more ordinary. What should I do if something goes wrong?

1. Learn to communicate.

After two people are together, they should learn to communicate more, find a better way to get along, and communicate to eliminate each other's misunderstandings. It is normal for couples to have friction between them, and friction is more conducive to promoting feelings. However, there are also couples who can't stand it.

Because if you contradict each other too much, you will be disappointed in each other, and neither of you will solve the problem well. However, if two people still want to be together, they must communicate well and protect each other's feelings.

2. Change your thinking.

Regardless of whether there is trouble between couples or whose fault it is, don't just blame each other. It's like adding fuel to the fire. You should think about your mistakes. This helps your rationality return.

3. Keep your distance.

The other party must be given space, and the two people must also maintain a certain psychological distance, too close will give the other party a sense of oppression and let the other party escape. Everyone must have their own independence. You can't rely on anyone else for anything.

He can give you an opinion and analyze things, but you can't rely on the other person completely. Moderate distance, increase psychological freedom, both parties will become relaxed, and this relationship will also become beautiful.

1. Know each other's concessions.

In the communication and exchange with each other, if one party's suggestions cannot satisfy the other party, or completely disagree, but one party has no intention of making concessions and must do what it wants, then the contradictions between the two parties will escalate and the quarrel will begin. So, we must learn how to be humble to one another.

2. Respect each other.

When the other party communicates with you, be sure that the other party makes their meaning clear and then expresses your opinion. The lover has not finished speaking, but is in a hurry to draw conclusions, which is not only a sign of disrespect for the lover, but also allows the conflict to develop faster. So it is essential to learn how to respect others.

3. Don't dig through old accounts.

The past is in the past, don't think that you have to catch the other person just because you know the other person. Think of this as a straw to your advantage. As long as the other person is not happy at all, repeat it several times in front of the other person.

Please understand that you figure out the wounds of the other person, which greatly affects the development of the relationship between the two parties.

4. Learn to compromise.

Compromise is not without dignity, without face, and subservience to the other party. Casual compromise is a manifestation of the mood of loving each other, giving lovers a space to say wayward things in front of themselves, and also avoiding unnecessary quarrels.

5. Remembering a lot of the past.

Remembering each other's many beautiful and happy things in the era of love, warming each other's feelings again, warming feelings faster, and having fewer quarrels. That's a good idea.

When I was a child, under the wings of my parents, there were naturally few contradictions.

When they grow up, they each have a family, each has its own interests, and the brothers and sisters have different temperaments and conditions, which will inevitably cause friction, and they will feel that the older they are, the more conflicts there are.

The key is to be inward-looking, just like in "The Legend of Bruce Lee", to make efforts inward and improve one's ability; If the ability is high, going to a broader level or space for development is like looking at the earth above the clouds, and the little contradiction in the Qingyou imitation at home is not worth mentioning.

As for the contradictions, we can generally try.

1. The cause of the contradiction under calm thinking, as the saying goes, a slap does not make a sound, everything has a process, and the process is still a premise.

2. Think about whether it is because of personal opinions on things and whether individuals are dealing with problems with emotions in the process of causing conflicts. No matter what you do, generally speaking, as long as you are doing or talking with emotions, in the end, it will deviate things from the right track, and thus create disagreements.

3. Think about how to solve the contradiction after the contradiction, and both sides can take a step back within the scope of what they can bear.

All in all, it is not terrible to have a contradiction, which is also irreversible, but the main thing is that after the contradiction, what we have to do is to solve it and deal with it, instead of running away, or ignoring it, or even intensifying it.