The elderly always favor children, what should I do?

You can reason with the elderly. The old man does not know the concept of parenting in the new era, and what kind of education you should give her is beneficial to the child.

In the face of such a situation, we should learn to learn from each other's strengths, and we should also balance the educational concept, develop our strengths and avoid weaknesses, and seek common ground while reserving differences, so that the elderly can not favor children.

Be sure to communicate this problem with the elderly in the family, tell the elderly that this is very bad for the child's growth, and let them understand the disadvantages of doing so.

In the face of such a situation, we should tell the elderly not to be partial to their children all the time, but also to balance the educational concepts between the two, and not to let the elderly unconditionally favor their children.

At this time, parents should stand up and take the initiative, and they should educate their children by themselves, and they should not let the elderly always favor their children, which is not conducive to the growth of children.

Introduction: Sometimes in the process of educating children, the elderly inevitably have to intervene, but the elderly always like to favor their children every time, do not directly conflict with the elderly, which will have a bad impact on the growth of children, in addition to communicating more in private, try to let the elderly interfere less, and they should also take a more gentle way in the process of educating children, so that they can avoid the influence of the elderly on their own educational effects, so how to look at this intergenerational education?

In fact, the relationship between family members is very helpful to children's education, if family members can communicate and communicate with each other in harmony, children will feel that their family atmosphere is very good, and children can also handle the relationship between people. Therefore, it is still advisable for parents not to speak ill of family members in front of their children, and not to quarrel with members of the state in front of their children. This will cause some damage to the child's cognition, and it will also make the child feel that there is a big difference between the family relationship and the family relationship in the textbook.

Parents must treat their children strictly, do not spoil their children, and then they should also communicate with the elderly, do not let the elderly spoil their children, should form a consistent educational concept, and create a good educational atmosphere, so as to promote the growth and progress of children.

You have to educate your children yourself, don't educate from one generation to the next, and when educating your children, you must cultivate your child's independence and ability to resist pressure.

We must communicate with the elderly, do not let the children stay with the elderly for too long, strengthen the education of the three views, strictly regulate the words and deeds of the children, and let the children become better and better, and have the ability to distinguish between right and wrong.

You can have a good talk with the elderly, and tell the old people that this kind of education is not right, which will only spoil the children, after all, everyone hopes that the children can get over as much as possible.

Because of the parents' work, many families are brought up by the mother-in-law to take care of the children, although the mother-in-law with the children is a lot easier, but the old and the reputation of the people always protect the children, the children are more and more disobedient to discipline, sometimes want to educate the children The mother-in-law is always protective, in the issue of educating the children, it is almost collapsed. Living with mother-in-law, then we must communicate more on the issue of children's education, learn from each other, parents hope to raise children scientifically, but it is undeniable that the older generation has rich experience in raising babies, so learn from each other's strengths and weaknesses, and make some compromises and concessions between each other, so as to create a better growth environment for children.

Although the child is young, this is an important period for him to develop good habits and character, so as a parent, we should communicate more with the elderly, so that the elderly understand that caring for children is not doting, and they cannot be too indulgent to children, and indulgence will only harm children. When encountering problems of principle, parents must insist and must not back down. You must know that your concession will only boost the prestige of the child, so you must let the child know which bottom lines are untouchable, and you must stick to your own point of view when educating your child, and don't give up education because your mother-in-law does not allow it, which will only make the child think that he has found a backer.

Of course, you should communicate with your mother-in-law in time afterwards to avoid conflicts with each other. The so-called flexible education is to avoid the elderly to discipline children. I have to admit that disputes between parents and the elderly over the education of children will also affect children.

Therefore, if the elderly are more stubborn, then the mother may wish to educate flexibly and skillfully choose the time to educate the child.

But what you have to remember is that when educating children, don't say that what the old man says is wrong, and educate flexibly. On the issue of educating children, all members of the family must reach a united front, and parents must not be busy disciplining and the elderly should be dismantled. Parents and the elderly should reach a consensus, when disciplining children, it is best for the elderly not to interfere, and strive to maintain the majesty of parents in front of children, so that children will not be self-respecting and know how to respect their parents.

Secondly, even if there is a disagreement between the two parties, do not expose it in front of the child, which will only make the child have a trace of luck when he makes a mistake.

I think it should be directly put forward in the file Hu Xingban to put forward the educational concept that he agrees with, when the father and mother are different from their own education methods, they should be directly proposed, don't say it because they are parents, and the concept of the older generation is relatively feudal, and there will be some doting on children, and in the long run, children will be raised into flowers in the greenhouse, but the flowers in the greenhouse cannot withstand the wind and rain.

Parents should communicate with the elderly about some things, so that the elderly do not overly favor the children, and tell the elderly that this is not good for the growth of the children.

Parents should tell the old man in his family about this matter, and hope that the old man can pay attention to it in life, because Qi Qing is not doing this for the good of the child but for the bad child.

Parents should communicate with the elderly, telling them that if they always protect their children, it will be easy for them to become very willful.

As a parent, you should communicate more with the elderly, so that the old and bad books can be returned to understand that caring for children is not doting, and you can't be too indulgent with children, and connivance will only harm children. When encountering problems of principle, parents must insist and must not back down. You must know that your concession will only boost the prestige of the child, so you must let the child know which bottom lines are untouchable, and you must stick to your own point of view when educating your child, and don't give up education because your mother-in-law is hungry, which will only make the child think that he has found a backer.

You should tell the old man that after you are a hundred years old, the child is educated by us, but good habits should be cultivated from an early age, if you feel that you are protecting the child, the child is still young, then in the future, others will scold us Oh search and block, not the child, so as the old man, there should be the duty of the elderly, you can help us manage the child, but for the management of some aspects of the child's behavior habits are what we adults should do.

Communicate with the elderly in a timely manner. Explain the harm caused by protecting your child. Jointly formulate a life plan and goals, so that children can implement daily behaviors according to the Wang Qi plan. In this way, the child will get better and better.

The most important thing is to change the rough patience is reasonable communication, after all, the nuclear spring has its own square stool touching style and method with children, and it can't be said that anyone must be wrong. Communicate and correct in a timely manner, after all, it is for the good of the child.

The old man always favors the child, and the child is getting more and more excessive, I think parents can communicate with the old man first, and then do a good job of Changlun's own communication Sen Xun method to let the child realize that what you are doing is right.

I think parents should bring their children home because this is the only way to solve this problem.

As the first authority in the hearts of children, on the one hand, they will feel irrational distress for their children, and on the other hand, their own values are out of touch with modern society.

The child is squeezed in the middle. If there is a conflict between families, it is even more terrible.

Emotionally, the child is more identified with the person raising him/her. But in reality, children must obey their parents.

It's hard for a child to get caught in the middle. It is also possible to develop a little cleverness as a result. One is to take advantage of the contradictions between adults, evade their responsibilities, and find a protective umbrella when something happens. One is to close yourself off and resist change.

If the questioner has already formed what the questioner said, "The child has developed a body of hair tremor and spine disease, how to change it?" ”

What to do? First of all, start with the rebuilding of the relationship between father and son, mother and son. How much influence you want you to have on your children, how persistent and unconditional your dedication to your children must be.

The more you accept him, the more you identify with him, and the more you understand each other. When trust is reached, many problems can be solved naturally.

At the same time, it is necessary to convince the old man to withdraw from such a relationship. Of course, the elderly are usually reluctant to withdraw at the moment, because it is very good to be attached to the child by the child, and the elderly need such a relationship at this time. I can only take my time and gradually make them less close.

Parents also want to open up some of the problems that you think are bad things, (you have to think about it seriously, I don't know a child who didn't have a lot of bad things when he was a child!) When Mark Twain wrote his own biography, he himself was simply a heinous little villain! Maybe not so serious.

It may be a manifestation of a specific age segment. The child is not an adult, and what she needs most is love, recognition, and acceptance. This process is completed from the root, and the so-called bad disease is cured without medicine.

Therefore, parents, as the backbone of the family, are also the pillars of the most educated, starting from their own psychological construction. Go up, gradually replace the elderly as the emotional center of the child, and go down, establish a deep connection with the child.

Come skillfully, give yourself time, give your child time and space. Spend more time with your children. Knowing more about the child (it is true and patient) and relying on strong authority to suppress the lesson will only be counterproductive.

At this time, we should communicate well with the elderly, so as to solve this problem, so that we can better protect the child and be good for the child.

This situation is relatively common, the old man does ask to bring more eccentric children's parents, but if you reason with them, they can also understand, it is best to communicate with Jian Ji in a timely manner, and explain the reason for the first reason.

After such a situation occurs, you should communicate with the elderly, and you should not let the elderly interfere in the education of your children, and you should also manage your own children.

When I don't understand the reason, I am extremely disgusted in my heart, especially if I am not the one who is favored.

But when you know the reason, you will still understand that your family, your parents, and your children will be as good as your children, but when faced with a choice, they have no choice.

When looking at the behavior of family members, you must think about why you are doing it from the perspective of your family!

Summary. In fact, parents are not partial to other people's children, there are no parents who do not love their children, that is just a politeness, don't be angry about it.

In fact, parents are not partial to other people's children, there are no parents who do not love their children, that is just a politeness, don't be angry about it.

Parents are not partial to other people's children, but feel that they should praise other people's children after going to other people's homes, so how to praise other people's children to praise him, naturally is to belittle their own people, so he will behave like this, in fact, the parents' starting point may be no problem, but they don't pay attention to the way and method, he ignores that when he praises others for hitting his own children, it will make you feel bad. In fact, in our lives, what we need to do is to talk to our parents about our own Yinzao's inner thoughts, and tell him that I feel very unhappy when I hear this, and I need to get my parents' love for me and support me, instead of you sending my son to praise other children. As a sensible parent, I believe that he can understand your feelings, and will respect your ideas, and I will pay attention to my words and deeds in my daily life, so that you will no longer have that bad feeling, after all, parents love us.