Women must not cohabit before marriage, what are the five harms of cohabitation before marriage?

Premarital cohabitation is unnecessary.

Living together before marriage means that two people live as husband and wife in the name of love, enjoying the sweetness of love without having to bear the responsibilities of marriage. In the name of beauty, it is said to reduce the risk of trial and error in marriage, but as everyone knows, marriage is not a science and cannot be experimented, cohabitation and marriage are two completely different psychological states, and the result of cohabitation is either to get married naturally, or to break up miserably. And a large number of facts suggest that the latter is more likely.

Yang Hui and Shi Renbing, from the School of Sociology of Huazhong University of Science and Technology, used the tracking data of the "China Family Dynamics Tracking Survey" from 2010 to 2014 and used the time history analysis method to focus on whether premarital cohabitation occurs among young people and the impact of temporal debate on the risk of first marriage. The study found that the occurrence of premarital cohabitation increased the risk of first marriage among young people. The younger the age at which young people enter premarital cohabitation, the higher the risk of first marriage; Young people who enter premarital cohabitation at the marriageable stage have a higher risk of first marriage.

You see, scientific research has shown us that cohabitation before marriage increases the risk of first marriage, not decreases it as we think. Of course, I personally think that it is debatable to conclude that premarital cohabitation will increase the risk of first marriage based on past data alone, because this conclusion ignores the differences of individuals, and there is a difference between those who choose to live together before marriage and those who choose to marry directly. By the time this option was placed in front of me, my heart burning for love was already half cold.

Liu Donggang, director of the Psycho-Educational Counseling Center of Chongqing Normal University, put forward the theory of "cohabitation cost", and in his research case, the five costs of women are high, and some women even pay a heavy price, while the cost of men is almost zero.

I think it's necessary, but there are a few things that have already been met before cohabitation.

1. Both parties are engaged or both parents have met and agreed to this family business.

2. Both parties have decided to get married and have planned a time.

3. It's okay to live together for three months, don't take too long.

4. Don't let both parents know about cohabitation.

I know that some people will doubt the above points, and I will also say that I am still so conservative and feudal in the 21st century, so let's take a look at the root of this problem, why live together, cohabitation is to understand each other's living habits at a deeper level, three months is enough time to understand whether the various habits of TA are acceptable to you, I have seen a divorce case before, because the two parties squeeze toothpaste in different ways, one from above, one from below, and then neither party will let it, and it will be divorced.

This is just one of the things, other things such as sleepwalking, not brushing your teeth and washing your feet before going to bed, smoking in the room, often Zheng Ze is called out by friends to drink and comes back unconscious and has no other ability to act except vomiting, can you call Qin Peng to accept?

Marriage is made up of trivial things, compared to a person's life, married life is more down-to-earth, and cohabitation is to pave the way for future married life, not to let people only enjoy the pleasure of possessing each other without responsibility, are not protected by the law, or do less.

Finally, don't let the parents of both sides know that the matter of cohabitation, no matter what, is still more unfriendly to girls, not to mention that it perishes early in the morning, girls are always the disadvantaged group, China's thousands of years of traditions and habits, not overnight, nor can it be changed in time to the 21st century, and the preference for sons over daughters cannot be changed, let alone others.

So are there many advantages or disadvantages to living together before marriage?

Benefits: Trying to get married before marriage can effectively avoid regrets after marriage.

We know that the basic purpose of premarital cohabitation is to try to get married, and then decide to carry out the legal formalities by observing whether all aspects of life, physiology, psychology and other aspects can be reconciled with each other.

Although China has always promoted equality between men and women, there is still a lot of pressure on women when it comes to morality. In other words, there is zero cost for men to live together before marriage, but there is a high price for women.

Disadvantages: 1. Consumption of youth.

Women age earlier than men, and at the age of 25, their bodily functions begin to decline.

It is possible that after living together for a few years, the man is still not ready to get married, and the woman can only wait, after all, she has been waiting for many years.

The most tragic ending is that the woman waited for many years, wasted several years of youth, and finally broke up.

Second, the cost of physical health.

Young and strong two people, living together, it is inevitable that there will be physical contact, in case the baby comes, do you choose to get married and give birth to the baby or find another way?

Because there is no legal marriage as a guarantee, and the man does not agree to give birth, the innocent child can only choose to have an abortion, and frequent miscarriages must first bear the pain on the operating table, and secondly, it may lead to lifelong infertility because of the unsuccessful operation of **.

So before living together, girls must think about this issue clearly, because in this matter, you are the one who will be hurt in the end.

3. Causing psychological trauma.

The vast majority of unmarried women choose a cohabitation partner, most of them are based on the premise of true love or marriage, once they are ruthlessly abandoned after living together and having a ** experience, this will bring great harm to women emotionally.

Even when dealing with the next relationship, they are more inclined to get married than enjoy love.

Nowadays, it is inevitable that young couples will choose to live together before marriage when they are in love, but I still recommend that before that, you must consider all aspects of the problem.

Premarital cohabitation is a trendy lifestyle for many people, but it is a matter of thoughtfulness for the girl next to Huachang. Some girls think that through cohabitation, they can get to know each other better, and then enhance their relationship; Some girls believe that cohabitation increases emotional risk and instability, and at the same time has a negative impact on family ethics and social morality. So, what is the importance of premarital cohabitation for girls?

First of all, premarital cohabitation can detect and solve problems in advance. Many people sometimes hide their true thoughts and emotions when they are in love. However, cohabitation allows you to get to know each other better, including understanding each other's lifestyles, habits, temperaments, etc., through which potential problems can be identified and resolved in advance, avoiding unexpected difficulties after marriage.

Living together will not only expose your relationship with your partner, but will also make you more aware of each other's preferences and strengths and weaknesses, which will help you make reasonable choices and ensure your happiness in your marriage.

Secondly, cohabitation before marriage can increase the fulfillment of married life. Living together can make it easier for you to adjust to married life and eliminate the strangeness and discomfort between newlyweds. After experiencing cohabitation, you and your partner will get to know each other better, and good communication and cooperation will make the two of you more harmonious, and in married life, there will be less strangeness and suspicion between you, and more trust and intimacy between husband and wife.

However, there are some drawbacks and risks that we also need to consider when considering premarital cohabitation. For example, cohabitation before marriage increases the risk of sexual attraction and emotional bonding to the other person, potentially putting you and your partner in a relationship crisis before you really get to know each other. It can also lead to irresponsible behavior, such as unwanted pregnancies, etc., which can increase social and moral hazard.

To sum up, cohabitation before marriage is something to think about for girls. Before deciding on a decision about premarital cohabitation, you should first carefully consider your own pros and cons, and then seek advice from family, friends, etc., to decide whether you need to engage in premarital cohabitation. All in all, don't blindly follow the trend of living together before marriage, and choose the way that suits you after careful consideration.

For guys, living together too early can also make you lose your sense of mystery about your girlfriend and the relationship. Because she eats, drinks, and sleeps together every day, she loses her freshness and PS filter, and you get what you like. No matter what I do in the future, I feel bored and can't lift my energy.

Everyone has a urine nature, that is, the easier it is to get an object, the less likely it will be to cherish it. The same is true of relationships, the more effortlessly you get her, the less likely it is for you to cherish her and cherish your feelings.

If you live together for a long time, you will easily lose your sense of proportion, you will think that she is your woman, think that she will not leave you, and think that you can ...... anythingOnce this kind of psychology is generated, it is very easy for people to die without admitting their mistakes, doing something to hurt her, and causing irreparable trauma to your feelings.

As mentioned earlier, it is very easy for him to lose his sense of mystery after living together for a long time. At this moment, your carefulness and tolerance will be reduced to a minimum, and a little thing can get you in place**. It's all because you've developed a boredom mentality, and if you form that mindset, you're just one step away from breaking up.

Couples in love, time and energy are infinite, especially when they just live together, they wish they were glued together 24 hours a day. In this case, if the preventive measures are not in place, it is very likely to cause the woman to become pregnant, and you may have to worry at that time.

No matter how intimate a relationship is, it needs to be private, and the same is true for lovers. Since everyone is an individual, there are many things that need to be done besides falling in love. Living together too early can squeeze your privacy and prevent one person from doing other things, which is extremely harmful to you.

Living with your girlfriend, eating and living are all money, as a boy, I believe you can't wipe your face and AA with her, right? As long as you don't AA with her, it means that all your previous expenses need *2, which you can bear.

Living together means that there is nothing to say, and the two only need to stay together for a long time, and of course there will be conflicts. In the long run, everyone will look down on each other, deliberately find each other's faults, and take revenge on each other, so as to satisfy their desire to win.

After living together, many boys will find that their girlfriends are not as extreme as they imagined. In turn, you will see her flaws after flaws, and there are some flaws that really make you unbearable. When he thinks of having to live with such a person for the rest of his life, he will be afraid of marriage.

Couples have been living together for a long time, and they have invested a lot of money in both spiritual substances and chemical substances. If you want to break away from this, there is no doubt that there will be a lot of reluctance and unwillingness. In case you really make a big fuss and want to break up, I believe you will have to slow down for a while before you can ease up.

1.Loss of freshness 2Cherish her no longer 3

Easy to lose sense of proportion 4Boredom 5Increase pregnancy sharing 6

Reduce personal space 7Causing economic pressure 8Easy to quarrel and break up 9

Fear of marriage 10The breakup is too much to lose.

It is easy to lose sense of proportion when living together before marriage, and the two may not necessarily be together in the end, and if they fall in love again, the other party will also have a pimple in their hearts.

There is no universal answer to the question of whether a woman should live together before marriage, because everyone's situation is different, and it needs to be considered and decided according to personal values, economic status, marital concepts and other factors.

Some people believe that women should live together before marriage, mainly for the following reasons:

Get to know each other better: By living together, you can get to know each other's living habits, personality, values, etc., more deeply, which can help you make better marriage decisions.

2.Prevent marital failure: By cohabiting, potential problems can be identified before marriage and resolved in a timely manner, thus avoiding marital failure.

3.Financial considerations: Living together can save a certain amount of living expenses and help to better prepare for married life.

In addition, there are also people who believe that women should not live together before marriage, mainly for the following reasons:

Ethics: Some people believe that cohabitation before marriage is contrary to traditional morals and may have a negative impact on the individual.

2.Family pressure: Some families may have different attitudes towards premarital cohabitation, and the woman may be subject to family pressures and adverse influences.

3.Uncertain future: Premarital cohabitation may lead the parties into marriage prematurely, and the uncertainty of the future may be overlooked.

To sum up, whether a woman should live together before marriage needs to be decided on a case-by-case basis based on the individual's circumstances. If both partners believe that cohabitation can get to know each other better and contribute to the stability of the marriage, premarital cohabitation may be considered. However, it is understandable that if there are differences in personal values and family values, it is understandable not to agree to cohabitation before marriage.

Many people talk about their partners, and they will have a question, that is, should they live with their partners before marriage? In response to this problem, I think there are pros and cons to living together before marriage.

Let's talk about the disadvantages first, I think there are three bad effects of living together before marriage:

1. During the period of cohabitation, unplanned pregnancy may occur, and the harm of unplanned pregnancy to girls is self-evident, because she originally did not plan to have children during this time period, it is possible that her current career is just in its infancy, and it is possible that her current work is very stressful, and she has no ability and no plan to have a baby.

2. If you break up in the future, your future partner may care about your "cohabitation history", which will make you passive when choosing a mate, and you will bear some psychological pressure. At the moment of free love, many people still have a narrow psychology to look at the fact that girls have lived with other boys, and I myself am very opposed. Why is it that a man can cohabit with a girl before marriage, and a girl cannot cohabit with another boy before marriage?

Falling in love itself is something you want to do.

3. Getting along frequently will wear down the intimacy of love, which is not conducive to the construction of the emotional foundation, and getting along intensively will produce a lot of contradictions, if two people don't know how to deal with it, it will accelerate the breakdown of the relationship.

But there are also pros to cohabitation, and overall, I think the pros outweigh the cons.

The necessity of cohabitation lies in the fact that during a relationship, two people often look at each other with a filter, deliberately ignoring each other's shortcomings, and only seeing the shining side of their partner. You can't see the real person.

And living together, you can't hide each other's shortcomings, you can see his life pattern, and know if he is like in ordinary life; When there is a conflict, you will be able to see how he handles the problem and can make an objective judgment.

You can see both his good and bad, and they can run in with each other, although they may break up, it is better than two people who can't get along and divorce after marriage.

I think the real meaning of cohabitation is to test each other's ability to get through the run-in period, too many feelings can't survive the run-in period, and after one or two years of marriage, there will be contradictions in the relationship, and it can't go on.