How to maintain a good relationship, how to maintain a good relationship?

It has a lot to do with whether the two of them are managing this relationship with their hearts. The disagreement of two people's views also plays a decisive factor, and if one party does not have a strong ability to solve problems, then the relationship will not last long. How can you manage a relationship for a long time?

1. Common progress, two people want to manage their feelings well, they must have the consciousness of common progress, if two people do not progress together, then the party that makes rapid progress will get rid of the other party who is standing still, one person is moving forward, the other party is not moving, the gap between the two people is getting bigger and bigger, and the distance will become farther and farther, which is not conducive to the development of feelings. 2. Don't rely too much on each other, even if you love that person again, you are an independent person first, love yourself first, and then love each other. Have your own independent personality, no matter how much you can handle all aspects of your life, you can handle it well.

3. Trust each other and learn to give yourself a sense of security. In many things, leaving the choice to the other party will have unexpected gains. If you restrain the other person in everything and let the other person do what you want, so that you can feel at ease, it is a big mistake.

Some things can never be controlled, and they will only add unnecessary contradictions to the two of you. "In the eyes of the lover", his smile and every move exude a unique charm, you try everything to get closer, and the relationship that is quickly established is established, at this time, the emotional road begins to diverge to both ends.

At one end of the spectrum, the freshness is not there, and the hormones come and go quickly. At one end is the emotion of "indescribable", and finally it turns into the attachment between family members.

I think the way is – a good fight.

Seeing this question, I couldn't help but answer the question, my boyfriend and I have been together for 9 years+, and the relationship has been very stable, if there is no accident, I should be able to enter the marriage hall smoothly. I think there is also some experience to share this question.

The most important thing between lovers is communication, communication, and communication.

There are many ways to communicate, and the common one is the usual chat, whether it is face-to-face or online, it is an effective way to communicate. But for me, I think the best way to communicate is to have a healthy quarrel every time there is a return, a return and a collision.

What is a healthy fight?

There are several characteristics of a good quarrel:

One. A healthy quarrel can release one's bad emotions.

I believe that many people have experienced cold violence, and some people even think that cold violence is more terrible than hot violence, and hot violence can at least have two people collide and touch; And cold violence makes you doubt yourself and escalates the contradictions.

Problems are always ignored and there is no time to solve them. A good quarrel can allow us to release our emotions and make the other party feel their grievances and dissatisfaction. Only with communication can there be a solution, and cold violence will only cover up one's emotions and make the conflict more fermented and worse.

Two. A benign quarrel allows us to see each other's character and three views better.

Everyone has a time when their emotions are out of control, and it is at this time that a person's behavior and morality can be better seen. In the early stages of a relationship, we will maintain a good image of each other in front of the couple, polite, beautiful and kind.

When our emotions are out of control, we can't help but expose our truest side, and irritable people can't restrain their tyrannical habits; Indifferent people are cold and violent towards you, refusing to communicate and ignoring you; The prodigal person turned around and complained to a confidant of Lan Yan or a confidant after a quarrel, and did not think of looking for you to solve the problem; People who don't care about you easily tell you ...... break up

Quarrels are a necessary test for couples, and a healthy quarrel is like a test paper to test the emotional problems between us. The unfit couple lost the test; And the right couple will only get to know each other better through testing, know that ** can be improved, and become more and more incompatible with each other.

Three. Benign quarrels can be retracted freely.

This is the most important point of a healthy quarrel. Clearly know that the essence of quarrels is to solve problems and get along better.

So no matter how fierce the quarrel is, how confrontational and disagreeable each other's points of view are, but because they know that they will not be separated, because they know that it is to solve the problem, they will all reconcile in the end. It's not a question of who bows his head first, it's that both of them know that the quarrel is to better run in with each other, so if they quarrel, they will take it back.

Chat communication on weekdays can certainly help us understand each other, but just like the answer can solve the problem, our reactions and practices when there is a quarrel can really let us understand each other more deeply.

May every couple be able to grasp every benign quarrel, and since they have chosen to hold hands, don't let go easily.

Love is a matter of two people, and only when two people give to each other can the intimacy be balanced and develop for a long time. There will inevitably be some bumps and bumps on the road of love, but these are the processes of running in with each other, a good relationship requires two people to manage it carefully, and if it is managed well, it is very likely to have a good result. It's not easy for two people to meet, since they're together, they have to take this relationship seriously, cherish it, and don't regret it after they lose it.