How do you cultivate a good relationship between husband and wife?

The first is the attitude towards the problem.

Life experience has taught us that every family is likely to face a variety of problems at any given time. And whenever a problem arises, if two people blame each other, fight to blame, especially habitually say "blame you", or "you see how you made things like this", then you should pay attention. This situation is enough to show that the relationship between the two people is not too harmonious, and the estrangement between the husband and wife has arisen at this time.

If you want to be affectionate and intimacy, then you should change the way you communicate and your attitude in time.

Couples with good relationships tend to show an attitude of active involvement, or even self-reliance, when faced with problems, rather than using various excuses to pass the buck in order to avoid the troubles they may fall into when dealing with the problem. Mutual support and encouragement are necessary, and then we work together to find the cause, and finally solve the problem together. The most heartwarming sentence in the face of difficulties is:

It's okay, I'm there!

The second is the attitude towards the spouse.

The true attitude of the marital relationship depends on the position of the husband and wife in each other's minds. Note that "location" is used here, not "status". If the idea of "status" is generated, then it is equivalent to discriminating mind.

Such a couple is not a couple, and they don't live a life, but a face.

It's so easy to feel where you stand in the other person's mind. When you come home from work late at night, exhausted, you walk downstairs to find that the light is still on in the familiar window. At this time, you can feel that the warm light represents the other party's feelings for you.

Except, of course, not sleeping because of playfulness and swiping your phone.

When you enter the house, you will see that a delicious meal has been prepared for you on the table. That's when you know how important your place is in the other person's heart. And if this act of caring is mutual, then you should also understand that what people call a good couple also includes both of you.

When it comes to cultivating emotions, we need to give reciprocally.

It is difficult to cultivate a stable emotion with unilateral giving, and only reciprocal efforts will be rewarded. For couples in general, housework is the best litmus test. Even if some people are busy and come home late, they will squeeze out time and energy to do housework in order to "share".

And some people, even if they are idle, will not take a handle to do a little housework, and their minds are full of "escape".

But the interesting thing is that the former never pays lip service to his concern for the other person, but the latter is used to saying "I'm good for you" when he opens his mouth. So don't believe him for this kind of person who doesn't actually pay, not a word in his mouth is true, it's all lies.

Husband and wife can only get along sincerely in exchange for true feelings, this way of getting along with almost everyone understands, and it seems very simple, but it is quite difficult to do. Because this kind of behavior is not temporary, but needs to be done day after day for a lifetime.

Therefore, the emotional cultivation of a good couple requires not only attitude and behavior, but also the word "persistence".

Between husband and wife, even if there is an emotional foundation in the "early stage", they cannot let go of the cultivation of the "later stage".

Connect regularly and do things that promote affection. 1. Share your childhood.

In the childhood life of each of us, we hide the influence of our original family on us, and share our childhood with our close partner, not only to share our childhood happiness and troubles, but also to let each other enter our own childhood to experience our own happiness and sorrow.

When we understand the growth process of the other person, we can empathize with each other to the greatest extent, and we can understand why the other person has formed such a personality and temper.

It seems that this is a process of sharing, and at the same time, it is also the fastest way to let the other person into your heart.

2. Make rules for love.

Formulate love rules that belong to two people, and in this rule, it is necessary to include not only the mode of getting along with two people, but also the mechanism of stopping the war between two people.

Especially when two people have conflicts, effective love rules can help us reduce quarrels and avoid cold wars to a greater extent.

A good relationship must have its own love rules, whether or not this rule is specially formulated, but it must invisibly affect the emotional relationship between two people.

3. Share hobbies.

Girls always hate boys playing games, and boys always hate girls for putting on makeup for a long time.

Because boys' interest is to play games, while girls' interest is to be beautiful. This is the difference between men and women, and because they don't understand it, they will be particularly annoying.

Maybe when girls fall in love with games, and when boys fall in love with makeup, they won't hate this interest so much.

So share your interests and hobbies, let the other party understand deeply, he (she) can not like it, but must understand.

4. Talk about each other's view of love.

The concept of love is a very macro expression, just like we always say that the three views are different, in fact, few people can explain which three views are.

The same is true for the concept of love, it is difficult for us to express our view of love, but we can talk about our attitude towards feelings and how to deal with problems when they arise.

1. Get along honestly Love is a kind of force that makes people work hard, and the husband and wife are first of all a kind of harmony between the thoughts and feelings of both parties, and a kind of mutual compensation in psychological activities, so that both parties can produce a warm and coordinated healthy psychology. Therefore, it is more pleasing for husbands and wives to be honest with each other, to respect and love each other, and to take care of each other than to give gifts.

2. Communicate frequently Husbands and wives should often sit down to exchange opinions, communicate ideas, and pour out the joys and hardships in their hearts. Especially in times of adversity, what you need most is the comfort of your loved ones. A word of sympathy and an encouraging look will reduce the psychological pressure of the other party, enhance the confidence and strength to overcome difficulties, and truly see the truth in the midst of adversity.

3. Respect each other's personality traits A couple, even if they are childhood sweethearts, still have their own personality traits. Some husbands are active and have been wandering outside for many years, and they can't stay at home. And the wife is quiet and has a narrow social surface, and hopes that her husband will be at home with her all day long.

Every time the husband returns, the wife is unhappy, and sometimes she is a little petty, and if the husband can't stand it, there may be a quarrel. An empathetic wife or husband should respect the personality of the other person, do not impose her will on the other person, and reserve a certain amount of freedom for the other person to allow the other person to have their own social circle. In this way, marriage is not a kind of confinement, but not only to give full play to their individual characteristics, but also to be a warm home for mutual attachment.

4. Learn to be patient Husbands and wives must learn to be patient, Chekov said: "The most important thing in married life is patience." "When the other person loses his temper or sends a provocative signal, it is best to take a patient and avoid way, or put yourself in the position of understanding the cause to help relief, rather than being influenced by the other person's emotions and putting yourself in a bad emotional state.

5. Take the initiative to undertake housework After getting married, there are major matters that need to be negotiated together, but more often are the daily chores of firewood, rice, oil and salt. The equal interaction between husband and wife is manifested in the joint sharing of housework, and taking the initiative to undertake a part of the housework is a concrete manifestation of the husband's love for his wife and the wife's consideration for her husband. If you need the other person's help, it's best to replace the commanding "you do it" with a friendly "help".

6. Influence the other party Use your own warmth to make the other party get probation. For example, on a rainy day, the husband takes the initiative to take an umbrella to meet his wife at the station; The husband reads or writes at night under the lamp, and the wife quietly brings a cup of hot tea and hot milk. This kind of practice of enhancing feelings often makes the other party resentful.

Summary. 1. Learn to tolerate and trust each other. Tolerance between husband and wife is the first principle, and mutual tolerance is the most important place, mutual trust.

No matter what both parties do wrong, they must learn to ask calmly, to talk, and to learn to tolerate and reflect in their actions and words.

2. In life, when quarreling, the husband must learn to admit his mistakes and bow his head. When there is a quarrel, you must learn to be patient and calm, don't be hot-headed, two people start to quarrel, and finally make an unhappy quarrel. When quarrelling, the husband should learn to be patient, not to participate in the quarrel, and to learn to admit his mistakes.

How the relationship between husband and wife is cultivated.

1. Learn to tolerate and trust each other. Tolerance between husband and wife is the first principle, and mutual tolerance is the most important place, mutual trust. No matter what both parties do wrong, they must learn to ask calmly, to talk, and to learn to tolerate and reflect in their actions and words.

2. In life, when quarreling, the husband must learn to admit his mistakes and bow his head. When there is a quarrel, we must learn to be patient and calm, don't be hot-headed, and the two people will start to quarrel and end up unhappy. When quarrelling, the husband should learn to be patient, not to participate in the quarrel, and to learn to admit his mistakes.

3. The husband and wife learn to have a tacit understanding and communicate more. Tacit cooperation is practiced more in ordinary times, not just by speaking, tacit understanding is that two people do not need to speak, they know what the other person wants to do, tacit cooperation, tacit understanding couple, if you want to tacit understanding, you also need to communicate and communicate more. 4. Develop the interests and hobbies of both parties and find common ground.

Cultivate the interests and hobbies of both parties, so that when they are together, they can shine on the common ground and talk about a topic for a long time, so that they can be close to the inner world of both parties, and it is easier to understand both sides. 5. Remember the usual special festivals and learn to be romantic. On the day of the wedding or the day when the two parties start to fall in love, you can make a little romance, commemorate those special days, let the love continue, and let the romantic time be quietly remembered by your side.

Hello teacher, he has no feelings for me, how can I make him feel feelings for me quickly!

If it's fast, you can dress up nicely.

I don't think the fast thing you said may be realized very quickly, after all, you said that he has feelings for you, you can't be in a hurry, and the feelings are slowly cultivated to stop friends.