Why do some people always look down on others?

In this world, there are people who are very jealous. He can't see that the people around him are better off than him. The people around him can only be worse than him, then he feels very comfortable, as long as everyone around him is better than him, he is very jealous, he is uncomfortable.

It's a kind of jealousy at work.

He always can't look down on others as good, others are not necessarily bad, but he will get worse and worse. A jealous person will not live happily. The more jealous a person is, the more miserable his life becomes.

If a person is not jealous, she wants everyone in this world to live well, even better than herself, and if she has this mentality, it is the best. Maybe others may not be doing well, but she hopes that others will get better and better, and she herself will definitely live better and better.

Why? Those who have evil thoughts in their hearts will get worse and worse. The kind of person who always can't look down on the good life of others, he will only get worse and worse.

His thoughts are evil thoughts, and a person with good thoughts in his heart, he always hopes that others will get better and better, then he himself will get better and better.

So we don't always look down on others, but hope that others will get better and better, as long as he wants others to get better and better every day, you don't believe it, slowly he will get better and better.

The first reason why I can't see the good of others: jealousy.

From a psychological point of view, when a person sees another person succeeding, he will have a feeling of loneliness, which is a very normal thing, but if others succeed and still show off in front of you, then this loneliness will escalate to self-esteem frustration and jealousy, especially the better the relationship between the two, the more jealous this jealousy will be, and even at the expense of the next means to lose both. As the saying goes, a beggar will not necessarily be jealous of a multi-millionaire, he will only be jealous of a beggar who earns more than him.

This is a typical jealousy mentality, and it is dangerous to have people who are often extreme.

This kind of jealous mentality, in Buddhism, is the hatred in the five poisons of "greed, hatred, ignorance, and slow suspicion", which is absolutely unavoidable. So how to get rid of anger and let people have a more peaceful attitude to look at the good and success of others? This point is very clear in the Taoist classic "Tao Te Ching".

The second chapter of the Tao Te Ching: "The world knows that beauty is beauty, and evil is evil; We all know that what is good is good, and what is not good is not good. Therefore, there is no symbiosis, difficulty and ease are compatible, the length is comparative, the high and the low are inclined to each other, the sound and sound are harmonious, and the front and back are followed.

Beauty and ugliness, good and evil, existence or not, difficulty, length and shortness, high and low are all relative and can be transformed into each other. This kind of thinking is to tell us that everything is a combination of yin and yang, two sides of the same body.

Beauty and ugliness, good and evil, high and low, ......Contradictions coexist. Like, there is an angel and a devil living in everyone's heart, and if the angel dies, the devil dies too!

There are many differences between people. There are always some people who are more jealous, and happiness is obtained through comparison and victory, and such people really can't look down on others. It's good to treat them differently.

In fact, this is human nature, and everyone is the same. The closer you get, the more familiar people are, the more they can't see that the other person is better than you. Some words are inconsiderate to each other, and peers are enemies, all of which describe the more familiar they are, the more enmity they have.

It shows that this person is more jealous, and it is normal.

Yes, there are many such people. So when people ask you how you're doing, you'd better say it's miserable, it's okay to be miserable.

No one is perfect, who can be without fault, and only when you know your mistakes must be changed can you reflect a person's excellence. There are two sides to everything: right and wrong, more and less, success and failure.

In fact, these are only general concepts, and if you really understand and analyze, the conclusions drawn may be the manifestation of the essence of things.

First, figure out what is good and what is bad, and how to define it. All these conclusions are relative, conform to the needs, trends, and laws of social development, and are recognized by the public, rather than following a person's wishes, then that person's behavior, speech, and style of dealing with others are correct, respected and learned.

Then this is his merit, and those who are not recognized by the society and the public, any behavior that causes adverse effects or consequences to people, that is the bad side, we should abandon it, and strive to improve ourselves, so that we can become a real member of the society, altruistic and self-interested, serve the public and achieve ourselves, that kind of life is valuable and meaningful.

Let's get down to business, let's talk about the cause of the problem.

1.He is not good enough in himself, and he needs to enrich and improve himself. When you reach a certain level, you will naturally know the difference between advantages and disadvantages, and you will correctly understand and guide the standardization of personal behavior. Don't misunderstand others or miss opportunities.

2.His personal ideology is not accepted by the public, and he is more alternative, perhaps because he is stubborn about the prejudices of various people, resulting in an ignorant behavioral orientation.

3.Misunderstanding or incomprehension of others leads to a one-sided view of people, things, and things, resulting in wrong conclusions.

4.Arrogant and arrogant, thinking that he is smarter than anyone else. High-spirited, arrogant, arrogant, invincible, cynical, etc., will never see the advantages of others, let alone affirm and learn from the advantages of others.

Lao Tzu is the first in the world, and there are many people with this kind of person. Therefore, he will never succeed, nor will he get any joy and harvest of victory. As the so-called self-respect for others, if you don't respect others, will others respect you?

It's just that you don't respect yourself.

Your personal mentality directly affects the correctness of your attitude, methods and methods in dealing with the world.

If you look at the strengths of others, you will know your own shortcomings, and change and improve yourself in time to get the hope of success. Not seeing the good in others proves that you have strayed in the right direction, and it will eventually affect the length and distance of your life path in the future. Don't be stubborn, prejudiced, and ignorant about everything, and learn to change and adapt to the environment, only in this way can the meaning of life become more valuable.

I think it's a matter of mentality, some people just see the bad side of others, as if they are better in this way; There are also some people who do not see the good of others, but are unwilling to admit the good of others, and this kind of person will only try to find out the bad side of others; In the end, it may be jealousy.

This kind of person is generally narrow-minded and calculating, and in their eyes, they turn a blind eye to the good of others, while the fault of others is magnified a hundred times.

This kind of person looks at people with prejudice. They only want to see the bad things, and turn a blind eye to the good side.

If you don't change the key in life, you will avoid people who hate you, who love to laugh at you and belittle you. In this **, you will find five suggestions. When the annoying person starts to be noisy, let them know that it's not that important.

First, ignore them. Picky people are usually looking for some kind of response. When you ignore them, they're likely to give up. You don't have to laugh at their jokes; You also don't have to defend yourself or respond.

Second, the unexpected. Someone who wants to be sarcastic about the way you dress will pretend to be sincere. When you hear an exaggerated tone say, "The clothes are so beautiful!" You can: "Thank you, I'm glad you liked it." "It forces people who hate us to say what they actually mean or to make concessions.

Third, be brief. "It's good that you make decisions for you, and I can make decisions for myself as well. If the roles were reversed, it would sound like we would both be unhappy. They left immediately.

Fourth, don't argue about the facts. When the people around you say: you are doomed.

Them: "yes, it probably won't work. But I like what I do, and I learned a lot.

When you narrate the emotional reasons for doing something, people tend not to attack you.

Fifth, find a group. Nasty people who want us to stay the same forever, even at the expense of our growth. Go find a circle you like, for example, if you like to draw, go play with an illustrator; If you want to be an actor, go to a local club and learn improvisation.

This is the weakness of human nature, don't expose everything you have to outsiders, no one in the world except your parents really bless you, this is human nature.

Human nature is to hurt people for fun, and he will be unhappy when he sees hello

Wen Shiyuan. There is such an effect in psychology: the crab effect.

The crab effect describes that with an open rattan basket to load crabs, a crab is easy to climb out, and after a few more, none of them can crawl out, not for other reasons, but because of the result of pulling each other's hind legs, suppressing each other, and fighting.

In layman's terms: I can't see that you are better than me, you are better than me, then I will suppress you, envy you, and even frame you.

Speaking of which, everyone must hate such people, in fact, after careful analysis, you will find that such people are actually quite sad and even pitiful.

Often people who don't have sugar in their hands will envy people who have sugar; If you live an unfortunate life, no one loves and no one hurts, and you will feel jealous of the happy life of others; If you don't have much ability, you will be jealous and slanderous about others' ease of doing things.

Therefore, looking at it the other way, those who suppress behind their backs, speak ill of others, and envy others are because they are not doing very well, or they are not capable of people, which is actually quite pitiful.

When we think about it this way, we can also accept the slanderous behavior of jealousy, because they envy us for having what they don't.

Smile indifferently, let those people go, we continue to grow ourselves, live our own lives, and live happily, which is to be on the right track, and the most important thing to do.

No one is perfect, everyone has seven emotions and six desires, greed, hatred and resentment, and no one can escape.

We practice in the human world, cultivate our minds, and thus calm our hearts when encountering problems, that is, we hope that we will not be stumped by the troubles of the world, including envy and jealousy of some 'bad' emotions that are better than our lives.

In fact, everyone will have these emotions, as long as they are not excessive, it is a normal emotion. So, it can't simply be called 'bad'.

So if we have such emotions, how should we adjust and regulate?

Go back to the beginning of the article, know the origin of jealousy, and know that the antidote is in**.

That is to love ourselves, grow ourselves, and let ourselves have the ones we envy, as long as we have the ones we envy, we will not care about what others have.

For example: I'm tired of eating sugar, how can I envy people who have sugar? I ate sea cucumber and squid once, and I didn't feel very delicious, and I don't envy those who eat and drink the sea every day, and it's better to ...... the ordinary life I have

In fact, many times, the ones we blindly envy may not be suitable for us.

Create more of the life you want, cherish the life you have, and live your own life well, so that you don't have so much extra energy to envy other people's lives.

Summary. If you have a normal attitude towards yourself, look at others equally, don't be jealous of others, don't compare with others, don't envy others. Be open-minded and make good connections, be impartial, and people will also see that you talk and laugh with others, and have many friends.

A mountain looks like the mountain is high, and it turns out that the mountain is comparable, but it is just an illusion. Although the mountain is still high, it is left to be admired. The earth is not jealous of the high sky, and the sky is not jealous of the thickness of the earth.

Everyone lives a wonderful life, self-confidence is still important, please build your self-confidence, you can shine at any time.

If you have a normal mentality towards yourself, look at others equally, don't be jealous of others, don't compare with others, and don't envy others. Be open-minded and make good connections, be impartial, and people will also see that you talk and laugh with others, and have many friends. A mountain looks like the mountain is high, and it turns out that the mountain is comparable, but it is just an illusion.

Even if you change the ear, the mountain is still hungry and high, and it is respected by others. The earth is not jealous of the high sky, and the sky is not jealous of the thickness of the earth. Everyone lives a wonderful life, self-confidence is still important, please build your self-confidence, you can shine at any time.

We envy the lives of many people, because those are the lives we have never had, but we may not be able to see what kind of price we have to pay for living a life that we "envy". Because of the unbearable and bitter side behind it, others will not tell you about this, maybe Lu is looking at our current life, and the other party is also envious.

We must also have things that others do not have and envy, and these are the things that we should grasp tightly. Every stove person has his own life, and has a happy, beautiful and warm side. What we need to do is to live our life of seclusion and cherish what we have now.

This is human nature, people will always be jealous of others, and slow rulers will always not see the good in others. The reason for this is because there is always a notion in people's minds that people will compare. As a result of comparison, people who are not as good as others will have an imbalance in their hearts, a psychology of jealousy, and a psychology that is difficult to control.

This kind of psychology is a very unhealthy psychology that will make a person unhappy and unhealthy. So, if we want to change this situation, we have to overcome this jealousy. "We have to learn to appreciate others, to see the good in others, to disturb and show the good in others.

We need to learn to appreciate others, instead of always finding fault in others. "We have to learn to see the good in others. "We need to learn to appreciate others and not always find fault in them.

We need to learn to appreciate others instead of always finding fault with them.