What is the psychology of not being able to see the good of others?

In life, there is such a type of person.

I can't see the good of others, and I like to shape my superiority by suppressing others and ridiculing others' excellence.

When others get a decent job, they say it's useless to earn less and be decent;

Others have a happy married life, but they may denigrate others for their incompatible relationship and only superficial harmony;

Others with high emotional intelligence can speak, and they say that those people are too hypocritical and insincere.

When this kind of person talks about others, he seems to have a strong sense of self-confidence and excellence, but what is hidden behind this superiority may be a deep inferiority.

I think of Adler in "Inferiority and Transcendence": "Behind every seemingly superior person, there is an inferiority complex. ”

Once a person feels inferior, he is prone to resentment of the success of others, and in order to pursue a certain psychological balance, he will deliberately create his own superiority.

The way of manufacturing, either by suppressing others, appears to be successful; Either you elevate yourself by illusion and pretend to be rich.

No matter which one it is, when a person can't see the good of others, and will always be obsessed with the success of others, the essence is actually a manifestation of "inferiority", which is very easy to explain in psychology.

The sour grape effect".

The charm of the fable lies in its timelessness, and the "sour grape effect" originated from the famous fable "The Fox and the Grapes".

On a hot summer day, the thirsty fox went to an orchard, saw the ripe grapes on the trellis, and thought to himself, "I am thirsty, this grape is big and purple, it must be delicious."

However, no matter how high the fox jumped, he could not touch the ripe grapes, so the fox had to give up.

But in order to soothe his heart, the fox opened his mouth and said to himself, "This grape must be unripe, it must be sour, but fortunately I didn't eat it." ”

This kind of psychology of saying that grapes are sour when they can't eat grapes is the "sour grapes effect", which refers to the fact that when some people's real needs are not met and they feel frustrated, in order to relieve their inner anxiety, they make up some "reasons" to comfort themselves, so as to eliminate tension, reduce pressure, and free themselves from negative psychological states such as dissatisfaction and anxiety.

And the fundamental reason why a person does this is that he is powerless to the goal, which can only find another way, and it is a common way to show that he cannot see the good of others.

Tell me more about your situation.

There is such a kind of person in society, who likes to compare and is jealous, narrow-minded and always can't see others better than himself, all his thoughts are not used on how to work hard to achieve his goals, but on how to tear down others, watch other people's jokes, and engage in destruction, and his mind is so narrow-minded that he can't tolerate others' good, which shows that this kind of person loves vanity and selfishness. Therefore, we must not make friends with this kind of person, what we can do is to stay away