My husband is indecisive, how can I let a man who has no opinions support your family happiness?

What should be done is to improve the quality of life and to gain autonomy and dignity in marriageThe man himself is a person without assertiveness, who is the strongest and has the strongest attitude, he is the easiest to listen to whom, in a marriage, a man is the pillar of a family, a man is cowardly, it does not mean that he does not love the woman and does not love the family, but it is a character defect, but it is this character defect that often makes women sad, on men, this shadow will be exacerbated by the inhibition of factors such as survival pressure and family responsibility, and a man's assertiveness is his backbone, It is difficult for a man without a backbone to support his marriage, help men, and gradually find his true self.

I have to ask for your opinion on everything, and I don't have any opinions, so does it mean that this relationship is unfortunate when I meet such a man, until I look for the one that they think is reasonable, they can persevere in that one thought and point of view, cultivate autonomy, a person who has no opinions, shows a lack of decision-making, hesitates in everything, and correctly encourages and guides him to express his opinions. If you want to spend the rest of your life with him, you will unconditionally tolerate his cowardice, procrastination, and lack of assertiveness.

When a woman marries, she is not only married to love, but also to marry a lifetime by cultivating her husband's sense of responsibility

It takes a woman's patience, just like a child of a few years old, with more encouragement and praise, she gradually learns to express her thoughts and feelings, don't think about the same problem repeatedly, don't put all your feelings on one person, when you encounter something, don't hesitate, you should calm your mind and face it bravely, this is the right way to solve things.

Your efforts still can't change him, then you have to maintain an optimistic attitude, do your best to help him, let him know that his wife is the best, when you find that your husband has such shortcomings, you can continue to instill opinions and suggestions to him through hard work, can take care of your dependence, one can give you a shoulder to rely on when you are frustrated. He must take responsibility for himself and have his own opinion when it comes to making decisions.

If you are indecisive, then it is very difficult for this character to support the happiness of a family, because if you are indecisive, then he will not receive the policy on the first day. I used to see a handsome guy when I was at work, this handsome guy was about a dozen years older than me, when I met him, I just went to work, and he had been working for more than ten years at that time. And then he is actually a very handsome person, but he is indecisive in doing things, and he always has to ask others what he does, to be honest, he is more than ten years older than me, and he often asks my opinion, do you think such a person can support the happiness of a family?

And when he does something, he thinks about it, so sometimes he is very rough, so sometimes he is very gentle, anyway, I have been with him for more than two years, I think he is a very good person, but he is actually an indecisive person. Maybe he doesn't know.

In my opinion, indecisive character is cultivated for a long time, in the past, many things were decided by others for him, so naturally, then in this case, you think it is very difficult for him to be assertive now, yes, one thing, because he always likes to refer to other people's opinions, if others don't give him advice, he won't make decisions, it's such a thing, so it's impossible for you to expect such a person to support the family, many people must have a decision, have his ideas, For example, my brother, my brother and I went out with his girlfriend, that time when I was with him, then the bus was crowded, and then his girlfriend asked him if we would sit on the bus, he said yes, and then they took the bus and left, anyway, this is the kind of thing, I think there must be a block, there must be an opinion, if there is a policy, it is worse.

So now let's go back to the question of your husband, your husband's personality is not a day or two, and you want to expect him to suddenly become less indecisive and more assertive now, I think it's a very difficult thing, at least not now, because I think it's a long-term process. So you don't expect him to be able to support the happiness of the family, you can support the happiness of the family, I think thank God.

You should motivate your husband more, communicate more with your husband, let your husband be more decisive, don't listen to other people's opinions, and your husband will be assertive after a long time.

You should let your husband decide some things on his own, and develop good habits, so that he can have a particularly good development.

Whether or not a person has an assertive opinion is related to his knowledge, experience, wisdom, ability to analyze and judge affairs, and it is not achieved overnight. It is recommended that you don't take care of some things in your family by yourself, try to let your husband call the shots, even if you are wrong, don't blame him, as long as you recognize your mistakes, so that after many experiences, your husband will become smart and deal with problems easily. My husband has no opinions, I can be sure that you have opinions, you are in charge of the big and small affairs in the family, the husband's inert psychology breeds, and he no longer uses his brain, and over time, the subjective initiative disappears, are you right?

In the traditional thinking of the Chinese, the average man is the pillar of the family, and the man in the family must be able to hold up the sky at home, and a husband with assertiveness and courage is what many women want. If the husband is not assertive, it depends on what the personality of the wife in the family is like. If the wife of the family has a strong personality and likes to arrange the life of the family, then it doesn't matter if the husband is assertive or not, as long as the personalities of the two people can complement each other, it is also very good.

However, if the wife doesn't like to worry too much and hopes that her husband can be assertive, this will be cultivated slowly.

For the cultivation of husbands, you should take your time and not be in a hurry. The first thing is to let the husband establish courage and confidence, generally no assertive people do not have no ideas in their hearts, but dare not face the results of their own ideas, at this time you need to give your husband some appropriate encouragement and support, so that he understands that no matter whether his decision is right or wrong, as a wife, you will definitely not complain and interfere with him, so that he can come out of his inferiority complex and dare to face his own decisions.

The second is to arouse his active thinking, the wife can appropriately put forward some difficult problems to the husband, let him help you to find a way, at this time he will unconsciously want to help you solve these problems, slowly for a long time, he will start to take the initiative to think about things.

In the end, the average person has no assertiveness and wants others to solve everything, and after a long time, a kind of dependence will be formed, in this case, his dependence will be broken, and when he encounters things, he will naturally find a way to solve it himself, and in the long run, he will be used to not relying on others. Nothing can be done overnight, if you really love your husband, you must slowly help him to be an assertive man.