How should children treat early love? How to treat children s early love?

The post-10s have begun to rule the junior high school, how do the parents of the post-80s and post-90s deal with the children's budding early love emotions?

Puppy love is a normal phenomenon, a student's normal novelty for the opposite sex, and a manifestation of a child's desire to grow up. We don't have to get too nervous. Children who are in early love may be rebellious or precocious because of different environments, and children at this stage are more of a novelty of love, and an awakening of self-consciousness that longs to be paid attention to by the opposite sex and more people.

They have not yet realized the responsibility they need to bear in love, so we should strengthen the cultivation of their sense of responsibility when facing the problem of early love, rather than blindly and rudely prohibiting it.

According to the personality characteristics of your own children, you should be kind and guide them at all times. Don't make fun of your child's feelings, protect your child's ability to love. But you have to make demands, you can't hurt the physical health of others and yourself, you can't affect your studies, and so on. Once set, don't lower your requirements.

In fact, as long as there is a clear bottom line, early love is not so terrible. It's even beautiful. I had a table mate in high school who said he liked me.

We talked a lot in class, and he would sometimes hold my hand, which was the closest thing we had. Sometimes when we change seats, there will be an aisle between us, and we will pass notes in class. Our teachers saw it, but we didn't care.

Because we didn't interfere with learning. Later, I was admitted to a key university, but he didn't do well, and after a year of repetition, he was still admitted to a very ordinary university. And we're not in a city.

Slowly, we became just friends. To this day, he still talks about his high school days and says that it was the best time of his life.

Puppy love probably refers to falling in love before the concept of love matures, so parents need to guide the correct view of love Please don't be rude to children, this is also a way for them to slowly understand the world, and this is also the time to educate children.

This is just a normal phenomenon, it will be fine after a while, what adults need to do is to protect the development of the child's marriage sensitive period, but too much blame the child and the like.

Early love is good, and with the right guidance, it will be the most precious experience in life. Anyway, I think it's a good thing that I don't object to early love.

Don't reprimand. It's easier to get them to bottom**. Instead, you should learn to communicate. At this time, you can also find out by the way, how your child's boyfriend and girlfriend are.

As a well-behaved child who has missed early love, I dare to say very seriously: children who do not have early love are not because they are well-behaved, but because they look down on themselves, and they don't look down on themselves.

I know that there will be certain drawbacks to love in middle school, but it is undeniable that love at that time is really beautiful. You only have one life, and I don't want my children to miss out on such beautiful things.

If it's a boy, teach him to wear a condom, and if it's a girl, break her boyfriend's leg.

Normal, modern means of communication are well developed.

Late and coarse love between teenagers should be discouraged in time to maintain a normal classmate relationship so as not to cause harm. First of all, the damage to physical and mental health, early love will inevitably consume a lot of time and energy, and fear of being discovered by parents and teachers, psychological pressure and burden are relatively large, damage to physical and mental health, is not conducive to the development of adolescents, adolescents are emotionally unstable, easy to be impulsive, poor self-control, prone to some deviant behaviors, and even pregnancy, causing irreparable physical and mental damage. Second, it affects a person's future.

To a certain extent, early love is time-consuming, distracting, affecting learning, and leading to a decline in grades. As a result, a person cannot fall in love and has no hope of getting into higher school, which affects his future. Third, the pain of love failure, early love is mostly failure, and falling out of love will eventually lead to personal psychological trauma and mental pain.

2 Students who fall in love in high school do not have the economic income of the town, which will lead to asking their parents for money, which may increase the burden on their parents. I know this very well, I was in school at that time, and there was a couple who were in love, and every day I saw them holding hands together, holding a lot of food gifts and so on. It was so expensive that I couldn't even sell a chicken steak for my living expenses at that time.

So in this case, you really can't do this, if you really want to fall in love, you have to save some money.

In China, early love is generally opposed, but in fact, this is a manifestation of children's psychological and physical maturity, and parents need to carry out some correct guidance, not blindly prevent it.

It is generally believed that adolescent love will bring many problems, such as affecting the physical and mental health and academic performance of adolescents, especially for girls, but generally not too serious impact. Puppy love often ends in failure, and it is rare that puppy love can stay for life; Some people also believe that early love is an exploration and learning of the relationship between men and women by teenagers, and should not be excessively forbidden or suppressed in preparation for future love and marriage.

In adolescence, while forming intimate friendships among people of the same sex and age, sexual initiation leads to attention and love feelings for the opposite sex, and this attention will continue to increase, so that it is natural for a particular person of the opposite sex to develop affection. Parents should trust their children, talk to their children as friends and on an equal footing, and help children deal with emotional fluctuations, which can cultivate children to consciously restrain their actions and lives.

When a child has a problem with puppy love, you can use the following methods to adjust:

1. Appropriate tolerance does not necessarily mean that you have to accept the problem of early love. Because the child has entered puberty, sexual physiological development is relatively normal, and it is also a natural physiological law, rather than denying and rejecting, it is better to properly tolerate and accept, but also to communicate with the child on an equal footing to understand the reasons for the child's early love.

2. Actively communicate and encourage children to have more sense of responsibility. Communicate with your child on an equal footing and explain to him the dangers of early love, such as endangering learning, distracting oneself, and endangering interpersonal relationships. Encourage them to mature as soon as possible, improve their level of awareness, be responsible for love, and recognize the harm of early love, and turn the problem of early love into motivation for learning.

1. Affirm the child's strengths. The child's early love shows that the child has a certain attraction and blind power. Adolescent children will be attracted because of the good looks of the opposite sex, or because the other person has good grades and personality.

Therefore, parents need to affirm their children's strengths and make them feel confident in themselves.

2. Strengthen children's emotional education. Parents can instill some correct views in their children who are not deeply involved in the world, and recommend some books on youth cultivation, such as "Psychological and Health Readers for Middle School Students", so that children can understand that love is not simply opposites attract, it contains noble sentiments and a fulfilling spiritual life, so as to calmly analyze the existing love affairs.

3. Remind children of the importance of learning. Parents should let their children understand that they are students and that their main task is to learn. Falling in love will affect learning, and it will also affect future development.

Let his current relationship be unstable at all, and he may not be together when he grows up. Only by studying hard now can you attract better people of the opposite sex in the future.

4. Cultivate hobbies. Divert your time and energy to intense study and develop hobbies in various areas. Pay more attention to national affairs, participate in more collective activities, talk more about literary masterpieces and philosophical articles, think more about your own progress, think about your future career, and think about how to open up and forge ahead in a complex society in the future.

5. Help children transfer emotions. You can guide children to shift their time and energy to intense study and healthy extracurricular hobbies, care more about national affairs, participate in more group activities, talk more about literary masterpieces and philosophical articles, think more about their own progress, think about their future careers, and think about how to open up and forge ahead in a complex society in the future.

The problem of early love among middle school students is a common social problem. Puppy love is not dirty, it is a normal emotional need and expression, more simple and simple1. As a class teacher or teacher, you should treat your students wholeheartedly, respect their personality, protect their privacy, and let students know that you are their bosom friend and their safe haven, so that students can confide in you and trust you2.

In addition, it is necessary to correctly distinguish the boundaries between male and female classmates and early love, and avoid positioning too close interaction between men and women as early love, which makes the fake come true.3 Finally, parents should also set a good example for their children to prevent their children from having a real early love2. It is the responsibility of each of us to educate children to have a correct view of early love and guide them to grow up healthily.

It is normal for children to be curious and ignorant about love, but not wide search books can deviate from the right track. So we should have a correct understanding of this problem, first of all, we can tell the child Shen Hongzi about the pros and cons of early love, and what impact it will have on the child, remember not to be very resolute, because in this way the child is more likely to have a rebellious heart, and the extreme must be reversed. Secondly, you should ask your child as a friend about this question, ask your child how he thinks about it, what kind of feelings he feels in his heart, and respect his child on the basis of guiding him.

Finally, it's normal to have a good feeling, but it's okay to be friends and make progress together. The most important thing is the attitude and opinion, and make it clear to the child. This age is learning, and you should focus on learning.