How do you deal with parents criticizing their children in public?

When educating children, parents must pay attention to the occasion, do not stimulate the child's rebellious psychology, and let the child become more and more estranged from his parents.

Not long ago, I saw a news item on Weibo, the content of which was that a mother in the United States took a picture of her child's punishment because of her child's mistake and posted it on the Internet, and many people have seen it. This has a serious psychological shadow on the little girl, and she is very resistant to school. But the effect of punishment is still there, and now the girl is obedient to what her mother says.

However, such an approach is tantamount to making the child's embarrassment public, does the mother take into account the girl's self-esteem?

I think this will hurt your child's self-esteem and make him feel embarrassed in front of his classmates, which may be counterproductive.

When a child is missing or his grades are regressing, parents are advised to do more self-reflection. Reflect on whether your homeschooling approach has deviated from the direction; Reflect on whether your care for your child's growth is comprehensive; Reflect on whether you have enough time with your children; Reflect on whether you are too "rushy" in your approach to education; Reflect on whether you have helped your child with a ...... of psychological disordersDon't criticize your child blindly, or even in public, otherwise, you will lose all your efforts.

During adolescence, public criticism can lead to rebellion in thin-skinned children, which can lead to greater difficulty in control. Even if you want to criticize education, you should ask the reasons behind your mistakes, and then slowly find a way to solve them! Let your child really know what to do and what not to do!

Especially when you are in a bad mood, you criticize your child in public, because you are an irrational person at this time, and it is easy to vent your bad emotions on your child. Even if the child makes a small mistake, you will lose your temper indiscriminately, and the child will face a stormy blow, so that the child will easily learn your bad temper later!

Don't educate your children when you have outsiders. It is enough to educate children as long as they are in their own homes and in the presence of their parents. Other relatives and friends are "idle people, etc., and it is forbidden to disturb them".

Introduction: Some parents like to count their children in front of others, this way is to seriously hurt the child's self-esteem, don't think that the child's age is young, he has no self-esteem, the child's self-esteem is very strong, we must learn to protect the child's self-esteem.

I don't understand why parents like to count their children in front of others, probably because of the Chinese tradition, all parents feel that they can't praise their children in front of others, otherwise their children will be arrogant, and will make others feel uncomfortable, but in front of their own children, in front of other people's parents to count down their children, will also make the child's self-esteem frustrated, which will seriously affect the child's future life, You must know that communication is the basic bridge of communication between people, parents often belittle children, will make him feel that he has no value, he will not like group activities, and do not like to appear in front of others, children will lack the opportunity to interact with others, and no one will help him when encountering difficulties, I hope parents can use the right way to evaluate their children, instead of this way of counting.

And parents count down their children in front of others, it will also make the child become very withdrawn, after each parent criticizes the child, the child's personality will change, he does not like to communicate with others, he will feel more and more lonely, and the character will become more and more autistic, in addition, the child will become very unself-confident, he is likely to look at the eyes of the parents to act, which will also cause the child to have no assertiveness when dealing with problems in the future, and the child has no self-confidence. He doesn't know which is right and which is wrong, no matter what the child does, he can't get the affirmation of the parents, and he will slowly doubt himself.

Absolutely. In this way, it will make the child feel inferior, hurt the child's self-esteem, make the child particularly rebellious, and make the child look down on himself and others.

This type of criticism can hurt the child. It will cause the child's self-esteem to be damaged, which is not conducive to the child's growth and development, and will cause the child to become particularly inferior.

Absolutely. This kind of education method makes children have special low self-esteem, and it will also make children particularly rebellious, and will make children sensitive and more autistic.

This will have a great impact on the child's heart, and the child's harm is also relatively high, and there will be a lot of problems, and there will be a lot of changes in the child's heart.

This way of criticizing education will seriously hurt the child's heart, make the child feel very inferior, and even make the child have extreme psychology, so that the child hates the parents and alienates the relationship with the parents.

This kind of criticism will hurt the child, because it is likely to cause the child's self-esteem to be frustrated, which is not conducive to the child's growth and development, will hurt the child's self-esteem, will hit the child's self-confidence, and will cause the child to be very faceless.

I think this kind of criticism will hurt the child because it is not good for the child's physical and mental health, and it can also make the child feel inferior, and it will also make the child feel sad, so I think this kind of criticism will hurt the child.

This kind of education will hurt the child, it will hurt the child's self-esteem, it is easy to make the child become very sensitive, and it will also make the child willing to compare with others.

This kind of criticism will hurt the child's criticism and make the child become very inferior, and the child will always feel inferior to others.

This way will hurt the child, this way will make the child very sensitive and disgusted, and will make the child very inferior.

First, parents should lead by example and actively understand the situation.

When a child makes a mistake and is criticized, his heart is very afraid and afraid, and at this time the child needs the help of his parents very much. As a parent of a child, you should take the initiative to communicate with others at this time. Carefully understand the beginning and end of the matter, and see if your child is really doing something wrong.

If the child did not do anything wrong, but was made a big fuss, at this time parents should dare to make it clear to others and ask others to apologize. If it is indeed their own children who have done wrong, parents should also apologize to others in a timely manner, if others hear the apology and do not pursue it, parents can quickly take the child away from the scene, and then tell the child that he did not do it right.

If others listen to their parents' apologies and still chatter, parents should immediately stop the other party's behavior and take the initiative of education back into their own hands.

Second: You can't scold your child with others.

This is the most taboo, once you scold your own children with others. The child immediately feels isolated and does not want to trust his parents in the future.

Maybe in this matter, it is true that his own children have done something wrong, and he really deserves to be criticized, but this way of criticizing his own children with others is not a reasonable means. When faced with this situation, parents should look for a reasonable way to deal with it, you can apologize with your child and let the other person stop in moderation. When you get home, you can communicate with your child well.

However, it is a very common thing for children to fight with each other, and children should not be taught too strict a lesson unless the fight is very serious. Therefore, parents do not need to be ashamed of this kind of thing, so they criticize their children with others.

Third: Tell your child that you are his solid back.

It is normal for a child to be criticized for doing something wrong. But children are generally criticized by their parents, and rarely say that they will be criticized by outsiders. When he encounters criticism from outsiders, he is actually afraid in his heart.

If others are still very fierce, this thing that was originally used to teach children to be obedient will become sour.

If it is serious, it will also cause a big blow to the child's weak mind, and he may not dare to contact outsiders casually in the future, because his heart is timid, and he will always remember the moment when he was severely criticized that day.

Therefore, when encountering such a thing, parents should also boldly tell their children that you are his solid backing, and they will face and solve it together when they encounter it.

It is common for children to make mistakes, and parents must take appropriate measures to deal with their children's mistakes, especially when others criticize them in front of you, and they must set an example and deal with them properly.

Parents should deal with it rationally, and if it is indeed your child's fault, you can make your child apologize; If it is the other party's unreasonable criticism, the parents can fight back.

If the criticism is right, it should be accepted with an open mind. If the criticism is wrong, point it out. It is necessary to seek truth from facts and correct mistakes when there are mistakes.

Parents had better come forward as soon as possible.

It doesn't matter if the mistake was made by your own children or not.

But at least the parent's behavior makes the child understand that the parents are his eternal supporter, which will give the child a full sense of security.

<> if someone criticizes your child in person, your is very important, don't be silent, parents stand up for their children at a critical time, and be a strong backing for their children, so as to give their children a sense of security!

When someone says: Why doesn't this kid greet people, so rude?

Wisdom Mom said: He is not rude, we taught him not to talk to strangers, and when he is familiar with you, he will naturally greet you!

When someone says: You are an older brother, you have to let your younger siblings play with your toys.

Wisdom mother said: We are also children, children play together, we must respect each other!

When others say, "Why is this kid so timid?"

Wise Mother said: He is not timid, he just likes to observe first, and she will try after he has figured out the situation of Qi Zhengchu.

When someone says, "This kid doesn't share toys, it's so stingy."

Wisdom mother said: he is not stingy, this is his toy, of course he can decide whether to share it with others, if you also want to play, you can ask him first, ask him and dismiss his consent.

Summary. If a parent criticizes a child in front of others, then the child's self-esteem will be greatly damaged. Therefore, parents should not criticize their children in front of others. This can affect the child's mental health.

If a parent criticizes a child in front of others, then the child's self-esteem will be greatly damaged. Therefore, parents should not criticize their children in front of others. This will affect the health of the child's heart.

So as a friend with grinding scum, I must talk to this parent quietly, so that parents can understand their children's mental health, and don't blame their children in the case of other people's emotions. Tell parents about the dangers of criticizing their child in front of others. Then parents will pay attention to their children's mental health when they know about it.

In addition, it is necessary to reassure the child so that he does not take it to heart and forget about unpleasant things.

This is also a kind of psychological counseling for the child, so that he does not live in the shadows, so as not to affect the healthy growth of the child.

But I'm that kid, and I have an opinion now but don't dare to bring it up to my mother.

If you are a child, then you have to talk to your mother about it, and you say that although you are at fault, you can educate and criticize you without others and Kai.

I don't quite dare. It doesn't matter, although you don't dare, but your mother is not an unreasonable person, and after she hears it, she will also consider your feelings.

Summary. In front of outsiders, no matter how young the children are, they must know that they all have self-esteem, and because the children are still very young, they need their parents to take good care of their self-esteem. If you criticize your child in front of many people, it will not only make your child feel faceless, hurt their self-esteem, and will not want to correct their mistakes, but will want to break the jar and break it, but also may cause the child to have a rebellious psychology and affect the parent-child relationship.

In front of outsiders, no matter how young the children are, they must imitate Zen to know that they all have self-esteem, and because the children are still very young, they need their parents to take good care of their self-surrender and respect. If you criticize your child in front of many people, it will not only make your child feel faceless, but the injured person will greatly cultivate their self-esteem, and will not think about correcting their mistakes, but will want to break the jar and break it, and it may also lead to the child's rebellious psychology and affect the parent-child relationship.

Therefore, if the child makes a mistake, parents should educate the child in a relatively private setting, which not only protects the child's self-esteem, but also corrects the child's mistake in a proper way.

The correct way to criticize children should be these two: 1. Learn to listen to children's explanations because children always have some strange ideas, and sometimes children make mistakes because of their own ideas, so parents must learn to listen to their children's explanations.

2. Learn to encourage childrenWhile criticizing children, parents must also be prepared to encourage children. For example, some encouraging words such as "It's okay, Bidan will definitely do well next time" and other encouraging words. In this way, the child will definitely not make a similar mistake next time.

Criticizing children should also pay attention to methods, smart parents are to criticize children as a step for children to grow up, so we must choose the right time and place to criticize children, only in this way, children will become more and more sensible.

Children also have to communicate with their parents and have their own principles and bottom lines.