I got a license with my boyfriend, but I haven t had a wedding yet, can I go over and visit my elder

Updated on society 2024-07-19
28 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-13

    The certificate and wedding ceremony are recognized by national laws and regulations, and the tradition and folk customs.

    From a legal point of view, if you get a certificate, you are a legal husband and wife, which is a prerequisite today, of course, you can go to see the elders of both parties. In terms of tradition and folklore, it depends on whether you still have a wedding ceremony, if you want a wedding ceremony, you will get a certificate to hold a wedding banquet, and then it is not too late to visit the elders of both sides.

    After the founding of the People's Republic of China, there was a marriage law, and the marriage registration and certificate system was implemented, so the marriage of men and women was mostly a "dual-track" system of obtaining a license and a wedding, and after the certificate was recognized and protected by the state, it was announced to relatives and people through the family wedding ceremony, which was recognized by everyone, and the traditional folk customs and national laws were not contradictory.

    In addition, this is your first time going, you should inform the other party in advance, and you should also dress up and buy some gifts for your future parents-in-law that they like and are more affordable. When you come to your mother-in-law's house, you should be generous, have a sweet mouth, leave a good impression on your parents-in-law, behave well, be courteous, and your parents-in-law will be happy to close their mouths.

    It's also smart to do this, although there is no wedding ceremony, but through your actions, your wedding is destined to be a warm, happy and blessed wedding! In addition, before speaking, you should let the words you want to say turn in your stomach three times, and understand what to say and what not to say, to what extent, with what attitude, and with what tone of voice. When visiting the elderly, you should also pay attention not to empty your hands, but to have souvenirs.

    Gifts should be chosen according to the recipient's gender, age, education, ethnic habits, etc. If you don't have a lot of money, bring your kind and sincere heart, and the effect will be just as good!

    Therefore, whether it is from the perspective of not being married or married, it is a good thing to visit your elders, which not only leaves a good impression on your in-laws, but also gives your boyfriend the opportunity to love you more and care about you. So don't think about it so much, as long as you feel right, then feel free to do it.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-12

    I think you can visit the elders, so that you can also leave a good impression on the elders, after all, you have already obtained the certificate with your boyfriend, which means that you are already part of their family.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-11

    Of course, because the wedding is just a formality, and you are already legally married after you get the certificate.

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-10

    Can't get married, this marriage really can't be married, it is the normal marriage order to hold a wedding after getting a marriage certificate, if you just have a wedding and don't want to get a license, your marriage doesn't count.

    Two people who have received a marriage certificate are legal husband and wife, which is the regulation of the state, and only a marriage with a marriage certificate is a marriage protected by the state. A marriage-only marriage is not legal, and it is also against the law, which is called illegal cohabitation. In the case of an illegal cohabitation marriage, once something goes wrong, one's rights and interests will not be protected.

    If a boy really wants to live with a girl for the rest of his life, he will definitely get a marriage certificate with this girl first, and if a boy hesitates to get a marriage certificate, he must have other ideas:

    1. This boy has a history of marriage.

    If a boy has a history of marriage, it will be exposed when he gets a marriage certificate, and he is worried that he will regret it after you know it, so he will choose to have a wedding with you first, and if you want to return after the wedding, you have to think about it. Some girls have suffered such a loss, and they held a wedding with a boy in a daze, but when they got the certificate, they found that the boy had been married, but they had to go on with it, and some would regret it directly. In fact, it is not right to hide one's marriage history, men and women must trust each other when they live together, how can a man hide his marriage history to get the woman's trust.

    If you really meet such a boy, the girl really has to think about whether she minds the matter.

    Second, what is the problem of this boy?

    Now when getting a marriage certificate, you must first have a physical examination, and if the man has any family genetic diseases, he can also find out, and he has to tell the other party. It's not right for the man to choose to hide it, and it depends on whether the girl cares about such a thing.

    3. What ulterior thoughts do boys have?

    This one is also the most hateful, this kind of boy is the so-called scumbag. I only have a wedding with you, and I want to leave the most formal to someone else. Maybe this man still thinks about someone else in his heart, and only has a wedding with you to deal with you, and if the person in his heart is willing to marry him, he will not hesitate to abandon you.

    No matter what the reason, two people are only legally married if they get a marriage certificate, and girls must protect themselves and get married in accordance with the laws of the country will be protected by the law.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-09

    No, if there is no marriage certificate, it cannot represent the state of two people as husband and wife, and it is not a marriage in the real sense.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-08

    This marriage cannot be consummated. Because this man is very irresponsible, and then the other party is not really married to you, and he is not willing to get a license when he gets married, so don't get married like this.

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    In a marriage without legal protection, no matter how loving the husband and wife are, they will break up. It is not recommended to only hold a wedding without a license.

  8. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    I think that this marriage can't be consummated, and the reason why he is unwilling to get the certificate is because he has already been married, so he is unwilling to get the certificate, because he can't get the certificate.

  9. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    Hello, then you are not husband and wife, you can tell your boyfriend that if you want to get married, you must first get a license to get married. I hope mine is helpful to you.

  10. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    Dear, if you are still unwilling to get a certificate when you are old, you still have to communicate well about the reason, I hope you are happy.

  11. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    If your boyfriend only wants to marry you and doesn't want to get a license. That must have his own thoughts, let him say it, you think about it. If there is no reason not to want to get a license, it is better not to get married in this kind of marriage.

  12. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    The boyfriend only holds a wedding and does not get a license, so this marriage can't be married. A wedding is just a ceremony, this kind of marriage is not protected by law, a man is not willing to get a marriage certificate with you, what is the point of getting married.

  13. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    If you only get married and don't get a marriage certificate, then this person must have two hearts, thinking that the two of you may not be able to go for a lifetime, and there will be a backhand.

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    After obtaining a marriage certificate, they are legally married couples. As for whether you want to be with your boyfriend in the face of his reluctance to hold a wedding, it all depends on the relationship between you, and there are often reasons behind unconventional behavior, and we can consider this matter in the sense of a wedding. There are two meanings of a wedding:

    One is a traditional marriage ceremony, announcing the fact that you are getting married to relatives and friends, and getting everyone's blessings, and the other is to give an explanation to your parents, which is also a promise to the brideNormally, a marriage without a wedding is incomplete, of course, if this happens, you still have to analyze it specifically:

    1. I really don't have money for a wedding

    I have a cousin who bought a wedding house in the city with a down payment before marriage, and almost spent all the family's savings, and there was no money for the wedding, and the salary of the husband and wife was not high, and the mortgage had to be repaid every month, and the pressure was still quite high, but the two of them agreed that the wedding plan would make up for it when they had money in the future.

    This should be excused! After all, it was the result of both people's acceptanceAs long as we work hard together, life will still get better and better.

    2. Men don't attach importance to marriage

    Maybe your boyfriend doesn't love you so much, he just wants to secretly get the marriage certificate, find himself a person who does free laundry and cooking, and is unwilling to spend so much money on the wedding, in his heart, the so-called sense of ceremony is not necessary.

    Not to mention the promise or somethingIn this case, don't get a certificate yet! Marrying a man who doesn't love you at all is irresponsible for marriage, and the life after marriage can be imagined, and it will definitely not be happy, so you need to think twice. As for whether they want to continue to be together, it depends on the attitude of the man.

    3. There is no custom of holding a wedding in the place where the man lives

    This situation is relatively rare, but it still exists in some special areas, and they may have other ceremonies to witness your love, in this case, it depends on whether the woman can accept it, at leastIt's not because of relationship problems that the wedding didn't take place, so you can consider continuing to be together.

    In general, the vast majority of women only hold a wedding once in their life, and wearing the most beautiful wedding dress is symbolic, and if there is no special reason, it is still necessary to hold it, even if it is simpler, at least without regrets.

    Wishing you happiness!

  15. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    Personally, I think it is necessary to be together in this way, because although the other party is unwilling to hold a wedding, the other party is still willing to get a certificate, which means that the other party may simply not like the sense of ceremony.

  16. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    I don't think it's really necessary to be together, holding a wedding is a scene that a girl has fantasized about all her life, I think he really doesn't want to satisfy your words, you really don't need to waste your youth with such a person.

  17. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    There is no need to be together. It can be seen that the other party is a very irresponsible person, and in such a situation, there is no need to continue to be together, don't compromise.

  18. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    If he doesn't have any money to get married, then you wait until he has enough money to get married, and if he doesn't want to do it because it's too troublesome, then you break up with him.

  19. Anonymous users2024-01-26

    There are almost no girls who don't like weddings, and if they don't get married, it will make girls feel aggrieved and regretful, after all, girls have been eager to wear wedding dresses as brides since childhood. Besides, now that the economic conditions are better, there is generally no situation where there is no wedding. Even if you don't do it, you will definitely make up for it in the future or do it in other forms, a girl asked:

    My boyfriend said that he didn't want to hold a wedding and only got a license, what should I do? It depends on what you think, but since you asked, you may want to have a wedding in your heart, and based on this consideration, I have the following suggestions for this.

    If your boyfriend says he doesn't want to have a wedding, you can just tell him that you want to have a wedding. Because it's your dream, it's important to you, and you don't want to get married without knowing it. If your boyfriend doesn't think about your thoughts at all, then you can consider whether he doesn't actually want to marry you and deliberately says that he won't have a wedding and wants you to break up.

    If your boyfriend just doesn't agree to the wedding, then you ask him to convert all the money for a wedding into a bride price for you. He doesn't want to have a wedding, but he must have an explanation, and a wedding will be calculated according to the cheapest 50,000 yuan, and let him add this 50,000 yuan to your bride price. If you don't agree, I suggest you don't marry this kind of person.

    There is also a way for you to propose a tourist marriage, convert the money for the wedding into a tour**, and play all over the country after registration, so that you will not lose face in front of relatives and friends when you get married. If he still doesn't agree with this method, then it can only be said that you have met a scumbag.

    If you have more opinions on the topic of "My boyfriend said that he didn't want to have a wedding and only get a license, what should I do", please share your real thoughts on this topic with us in the positive comments.

  20. Anonymous users2024-01-25

    The boyfriend said that he was unwilling to hold a wedding and only got a license, then you can communicate with him well, tell him your thoughts about the woman, if he insists, and you can't accept it, you can break up with him.

  21. Anonymous users2024-01-24

    If the boyfriend is unwilling to hold a wedding, this will not receive everyone's blessings, especially for so many years, and the money with it can't be recovered, if it is because the boyfriend can't get the money, then you can get together and let him borrow some money to hold the wedding, so that you can receive everyone's blessings and recover the money. If you don't want to do the wedding, you can't see any sincerity from your boyfriend.

  22. Anonymous users2024-01-23

    You can communicate with the other person so that you can solve the problem, and if the other person is not willing to do so, you should calmly think about whether you are suitable for marriage.

  23. Anonymous users2024-01-22

    It's not okay to get married without a wedding, you should talk to your boyfriend seriously about such things, and it's good to have a wedding.

  24. Anonymous users2024-01-21

    Don't hold a wedding, now you agreed, you will regret it later, which girl doesn't want to have a wedding of her own, ask him why he doesn't need to hold a wedding, the wedding doesn't give you what to do with marrying him.

  25. Anonymous users2024-01-20

    You can sit down and say some of your thoughts to each other, and I hope that the other party can respect you, everyone will only get married once in their life, and it must be unforgettable.

  26. Anonymous users2024-01-19

    Marriage is a matter of two people, you need two people to discuss, you don't have to say it alone, if you don't like to hold a wedding, you have to hold it, this is a ceremony, and it is also a respect for you

  27. Anonymous users2024-01-18

    If you are wronged, you will break up, he is willing to wronged you, what are you reluctant to do?

  28. Anonymous users2024-01-17

    It depends on what kind of idea you have, because weddings are generally held for the elders now, and the two people who get married, the groom and the bride, are particularly tired, so I think your boyfriend's mood is understandable, you can say that it is only once in a lifetime, and I want to be a little grander.

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