What makes you feel that your wife doesn t see you as a member of the family?

My mom helped us with the kids, quarreled with my mom, and ended up scolding her for ugly swear words in front of my mom. What makes me feel that she doesn't see me as a family at all, she only sees the children and her mother's family, and I feel hopeless about this kind of relationship between husband and wife.

She still has 60% of the loan of about hundreds of thousands of yuan that has not been paid off, and I proposed that I pay the final payment, so that she does not have to pay the monthly payment every month, but she clearly refused, saying that she should not hit her house idea, and said that I would use my own money to buy another school district house in the city.

After my daughter-in-law got married, her attitude towards me changed a lot, she often had a lot of things to do, she didn't want to spend time doing housework, and she didn't like me to disturb her, which shows that she never regarded me as a family in her heart.

Before the divorce between the husband and wife, all the property is considered the joint property of the husband and wife, and either spouse has the right to know the income of the other party, you should be the closest person in the world, but she is unwilling to tell me about her income, which means that she is guarding against me.

Although my wife doesn't say that she is dissatisfied with what my parents or I do, in fact, it seems to me that there is a complete difference in the way and method, and there is no satisfaction or dissatisfaction at all. For example, when I have a child, my wife posts on Moments, always saying how good her parents are to the child, and never mentioning my parents.

My wife is always like this, no matter what decisions she makes, she never consults me and doesn't inform me, so it means that she doesn't treat me as a family member at all, and she doesn't care about me as a husband at all.

The affairs of the family are the affairs of the husband and wife, no matter what decisions are made, they should let the other party know, she can not ask my opinion, but at least tell me, not all of them know, but I, the person next to the pillow, is the last to know.

We have been married for a year, we have just gotten married and have a child, and now the child is more than 3 months old. Although there is no obvious disagreement between me and my wife, I think that my wife's usual speech, expression, and between the lines, express the feeling that my wife and her parents are family, and my parents and I are outsiders.

She began to frequently accuse me of my shortcomings and my inadequacies in front of outsiders, which showed that she no longer loved me. She was no longer as tolerant of all my shortcomings as she used to be.

No matter what happens to me, just like I'm afraid that I'm going to harm her, this kind of person even talks to me half-truths, and I need to go through other people's mouths to know whether what she says is true or false.

I don't think that's the deciding factor. You treat her family as family because you are prone to take the initiative to close the distance between people. She can't treat your family as family, which is normal, after all, she has only known your family for a short time, and can she live with her family for many years?

Whether you can marry her or not depends on how deep the relationship between you is, and whether her heart is kind and ......You can't treat your family as family, it's just an initial relationship problem with your family, as long as you don't ignore your family, don't be too demanding of her at the beginning. You should have heard that the most difficult thing in the world is the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, right? It's too harsh to force her to treat your mom as her own.

Other. First, when the relationship is not in place, whether you treat her family as family or not, any woman will treat your family as an outsider.

Second, you feel that you treat her family as family, but you are not her family, you may not know how other people's families treat their family, and vice versa, you can't demand other people according to your own family's standards.

Third, when it comes to your job, you don't plan to give the other party a chance, so what kind of family is it about, you just say that you are not satisfied with the other party and don't want to marry, this is your freedom, and you don't necessarily have to rely on smearing the other party to rationalize. Check out the follow-up questions.

If it were me, I wouldn't marry.

If you don't know how to honor your relatives before marriage, you will have a 1% chance of repenting after marriage.

A marriage is related to the happiness of several families, so you have to think carefully about your other half.

A woman who is fit for love is not necessarily a good wife, and vice versa. Everything will have different answers from different standpoints, and the key depends on where you stand and watch.

It is possible to marry, but it may be necessary to put more effort into the coordination of the relationship. Your daughter-in-law may have a dispute with your family in the future, and you should consider this beforehand, and then it is up to you to play the round. Then, what you like is that woman, you can't give up just because she doesn't treat your family as your own, think about it, how many people in the world can really love you?

Men's social image and family responsibilities have been stereotyped in history, despite repeated emphasis on women's rights. Only incompetent men lose their temper with their families, and capable men have to work hard and establish prestige outside. As for women, home is a place where women can restore themselves, and they don't have to worry too much.

A woman can be at home with a face to the sky, but she can come out very glamorous. In front of outsiders, you have to maintain a dignified and virtuous, reserved and introverted high-quality image, how can you be like a shrew to outsiders? Unless she has no culture and no connotation.

Summary. Hello, did your husband do something sorry for you or is there something wrong? Can you tell me more about that? So that I can help you with your analysis.

Does such a husband treat you as a family, and what does he mean?

Hello, did your husband do something sorry for you or is there something wrong? Can you tell me more about that? So that I can help you with your analysis.

His cousin brought him food, I was with his mother and the three of him, he only asked his mother if he ate and never asked me, what does it mean? He never cares about my feelings when he does things, he doesn't help me with anything when I'm pregnant, and he doesn't consider my feelings, or still go his own way, just care about his own happiness and happiness, outsiders know that now is a special period and he doesn't care about himself, he doesn't think about you, he still does his own thing, he doesn't consider your pregnant women's feelings when he does anything, and he calls you all day long, knowing that you like to be clean, playing games or talking loudly, and turning up the volume of your mobile phone to the maximum. There are too many such things!

I now feel the urge not to have sex with him. His parents let Xiao Leak hold him and do whatever he wanted, I called him, he didn't move, if I had some conflict with his parents, he would definitely help his parents to be hostile to me, what did he mean? He never took my mother's affairs seriously, and when he bothered him, he said that he was a tool, all kinds of complaints, all kinds of complaints, did Bangqing treat me as a family?

I was a stranger to his family when I first married, and he was only on his own, so he didn't help me adapt to his family at all, and he never understood me.

I think if that's the case, it's probably really his fault, and he really doesn't treat you very well.

That's right. To tell you the truth, do you think you can entrust such a person to the end?

Coming over, almost forty years old, the child thirteen this year, write some struggle experience:

1. Don't get divorced! If you believe me, don't leave, and the woman will regret the divorce! I have to admit that the woman's value depreciates greatly as she gets older. It's not easy to find it again. Of course, if you are Zhang Yuqi and the like, I didn't say it.

2. Don't live with your mother-in-law! You can live in a neighborhood, upstairs and downstairs, but don't live together! I've seen too many contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law! Trust me, distance produces beauty!

3. Communicate more between husband and wife, draw a red line, and write a good scale for those who need to act, and the other party always steps on the line. For example, quarrels do not do hands, red lines. Another example is who did it wrong, the first to get angry to wash the dishes, wash the clothes, etc. Set a rule.

4. Read a lot of books, such as the University of Minnesota's "Oak Marriage Quality Assessment", he analyzes the deep contradictions in marriage from the marital expectations, sex life, personality compatibility, sharing and communication, conflict resolution methods, financial management, leisure activities, family and friend relationships, role equality, religious beliefs, and children's education, and learns some ways to control emotions and promote communication. The two of them are still easy to communicate!

5. Don't be too sensitive, some small offenses, just bear with it! Generally, as long as you don't live together every day, there are really not so many contradictions!