Why is it that the better you are to people, the less you are valued by others, and where do all the

Why is it that the better you are to people, the less attention you are to others, and where do all the good people go? As the saying goes, when the forest is big, there are all kinds of birds. In real life, this phenomenon does occur.

Some people are like this, the better you are to him, the more you are not treated, others still think that you deserve, not even a word of thanks, and gradually become a habit, form a dependence, and wait for you to satisfy him nine times in ten things, and the last time is not as good as he wants, or one day when he is in a bad mood, when he has a slightly worse attitude towards him, he feels that you are not good to him, and begins to hate you in his heart, and even speaks ill of you everywhere.

In the end, it is not as good as those who ignore him and only occasionally do him a little good, but he is grateful that the person is very good to him, flattered, and feels that you are a good person.

I had encountered such an example in my workplace before, ......So, why are there such people? I think there are three key reasons:

First, the concept and consciousness are different, in reality, although most of them like to be kind to others and are willing to help each other. But there are also many more selfish people who believe in "being courteous for nothing, either treacherous or thief", so he is subconscious.

thinks that you are kind and courteous to him for no reason, there must be something else, and naturally you will not be so important;

The second is that the difference in demand is different, if you give him help, he thinks that you have a surplus, so you should help him, and he also helps you solve the inventory backlog, so he does not have the heart to pay;

Then there is no way to help, to give excessively, to be cheap and humiliating, to make people think that you are such a person who takes pleasure in helping, so it doesn't matter what gratitude and gifts.

So, if we want to change this, we need to learn the above lessons and do the following:

First of all, there is a difference in aid, see the object clearly, whether it is worth our help, it can be regarded as a teacher of the past, and the future will not be forgotten;

secondly, there is a degree of mutual help, no help; Cut in a hurry and be cheap. To make people understand that no one in this world should be good to you except your parents, and others should be good to you, you must learn to be grateful.

The last reminder is that people, there is no need to be a good person, if you can't receive a response to your previous kindness to people, you should stay away from such people, there is no need to get hurt again and bring humiliation on yourself.

Because of the unequal status between himself and others, he did not put himself in a fair position, so the better he was to others, the less he was valued. Good people generally disappear, they no longer learn to take the initiative to care for others, and they become apathetic.

Why the better you are to people, the less attention you are to others, this is because others have understood your habits and temperament, not where good people go, but everyone's heart is like this, so you must pay attention to a degree when getting along with people.

Good people have been met by others, all you meet are scum, and all you meet are good people.

I feel like I have to be myself and don't change my attitude because of others!

Pleasing emotional intelligence, you can't be too nice to people, and dogs can't be overfed.

Human nature is to seek advantages and avoid disadvantages, to be good to you, others feel that you have interests for him and there is no threat to them. Instead, focus only on those who are a threat to you.

That's a nose kick in the face.

So it's okay to be nice to people.

But there must be a bottom line of principles.

Kindness also has to be sharp.

This requires you to learn to believe in others, and think about others in the right way, and it is recommended that you can think in your heart: if I am deceived by others, it will not lose much, but it will make me recognize this person, and I will not be deceived in the future! In this way, you can relax your heart, and you will find that there are many things around you.