Am I looking vain? What is vanity?

Women are very good at getting by, they know what to buy and what not to buy, and they like to buy things when they are on sale at the mall, because they know that it is not easy for men to make money. Girls are usually very fashionable, belong to the "moonlight family", are famous brands all over their bodies, use Lanko's cosmetics, wear Baozi clothes, and use LV for bags, can quickly accept new things, and always rush to the forefront of fashion When falling in love with someone, they will more or less empathize, because they care very much, take the initiative to empathize, and will not blindly consider their own needs and ignore the feelings of the other party. In fact, in the relationship, every time a man speaks cruelly, every time he is indifferent, he hurts the woman, and it is imperceptibly affecting the relationship between two people.

When a man loves a woman, he will definitely care about her feelings, care about her mood, and will not be very selfish in everything, even when they quarrel, they will not only care about their own pleasure. In getting along, if a man can care about your feelings, and when he sees you frowning and his eyes are red, he will coax you well, and he will not be ruthless to you when he gets angry, every decision he makes is related to you, and everything is discussed with you, which is also a manifestation of not treating you as an outsider. In getting along, if a man doesn't care about your feelings, scolds you if he doesn't agree, and dislikes you to find a sense of superiority for his own pleasure, he actually doesn't love you.

How much a man loves you depends on whether he can do it, very accurately. Love is precious only when it is divided, many people don't know how to cherish it, and only when they lose it do they see it, in fact, the most familiar is the most precious.

Sometimes, love is also a way to hurt the cruel person, choose to hurt others, and the kind person chooses to hurt himself.

I walked away with all my love, just a breakup, holding back tears and looking at your back, I want to hug you one last time.

The air that has been drenched in the rain is tired and sad, and the fairy tales in my memory have slowly melted.

Since love, why not talk about the entrance, some things are lost and they can't be returned.

Falling in love is a feeling, when this feeling is no longer there, but still forcing yourself, this is called responsibility! Breaking up is a kind of courage! When this courage is no longer there, but still encouraging yourself, this is called tragedy!

Personally, I think the biggest manifestation of vanity is being very envious or even jealous of an item that exceeds one's consumption level or purchasing power, but very much wanting to own it. For example, a person with a wealthy family and a higher education wears famous brands, listens to operas, drives famous cars, and goes to high-end restaurants and cafes every day.

And those who love vanity do these things to show off themselves or to satisfy their vanity.

This is also the essential difference between the aristocracy and the grassroots nouveau riche. The aristocracy has a good family education, and the cultivation of the aristocracy needs at least three generations, all the consumption habits, food, clothing, housing and transportation are cultivated from an early age, these ordinary people seem to be tall things, in the eyes of the aristocracy is as natural as drinking boiled water, which has become a part of their daily life, they themselves are completely unaware, so they will not deliberately show off, let alone in the circle of friends, space, Weibo frequent swiping screen. Only those who come from the grassroots, or those who have not received a good home education, will show off.

vanity, is a Chinese word, pinyin is xū róng, meaning to appear glory; False fame.

Vanity is harmful to people, and teenagers need to overcome it if they have a love for vanity. So, how can the vanity of teenagers be corrected?

1. Accept yourself. There is no greater tragedy in life than not being able to accept yourself. By not accepting ourselves, we tend to base our self-esteem and life values on two mistakes:

One is the shortcomings of others, and the other is the affirmation of others. When you find that you are better than others, or when you are affirmed by others, you will find that you are better than others, or when you lose the affirmation of others, you feel useless. And accepting oneself means basing one's dignity and worth on one's own merits, which is a form of self-affirmation.

2. Know yourself objectively. We should have an objective understanding of our strengths and weaknesses, and neither overestimate ourselves nor ignore our shortcomings. Strengths are not necessarily better than others, and weaknesses are not necessarily inferior to others.

And, the advantages and disadvantages are often complementary to each other, and there are no absolute advantages and disadvantages. If we can understand ourselves objectively, even if we are inferior to others or despised by others, we can slander ourselves and gain psychological balance, so as not to use exaggeration or evasion to protect our self-esteem.

3. Correctly treat social differences. There is a hierarchy in society, and we students also have a hierarchical concept. Treating each other as equals and respecting each other is our ideal, but despising the weak and respecting the strong is an objective phenomenon.

A poor family background is indeed despised by others, and if we care about this contempt, others may despise us even more.

On the contrary, if you don't care about it, you will have less trouble, and you will not do anything to hurt your relatives or yourself.

Fourth, grasp the degree of comparison. People live in comparison, and it is unrealistic to get rid of comparison completely. But excessive comparison is often the starting point of vanity, such as cool, crazy, eating, wearing, using, scores, honor, parents, relatives, appearance, effort, ability, level, etc., no matter what the content, if you go too far, you may go crazy and pursue false fame.

5. Strengthen self-cultivation and do not pursue illusory satisfaction. From scientific lies to cheating in exams, behind vanity is the problem of cultivation and sentiment. Qu Yuan said

Goodness is not from outside, and the name cannot be false. "Good inner cultivation and noble sentiments are the rock to curb vanity. With this rock, we can face ourselves squarely, control the flood of our vanity with strong concentration, and achieve "not to be happy with things, not to be sad with ourselves" and not to be fascinated by external things.

Therefore, it is very important to strengthen one's own moral cultivation.

Vanity is a psychological state of human beings, whether ancient or modern, Chinese and foreign, whether men, women or children, rich and poor, rich and low, all have self-esteem, if self-esteem is distorted, it is vanity. Vanity is a distorted self-esteem, it is an excessive manifestation of self-esteem, it is a character defect that pursues hypocrisy, it is an abnormal social-emotional and psychological state that people exhibit in order to achieve honor and attract universal attention.

Vanity is manifested in behavior, mainly blind comparison, great joy, excessive emphasis on other people's evaluation, too strong desire for self-expression, strong jealousy, etc.

Manifestations: 1. People with strong vanity have strong dependence, lack of independence, and think they are "lacking" in ability.

2. People with vanity have stronger self-esteem than ordinary people, but due to dependence, they do not have enough self-confidence, outwardly manifested as excessive self-esteem, overly sensitive to certain things, concerned about others' evaluation of themselves, and internally manifested as inferiority, do not believe that they can achieve their wishes through hard work, and hope to obtain what they want through a quick way.

3. This kind of dependence is caused by the incomplete and incorrect education of parents, often parents also have vanity and dependence without knowing it, generally this kind of parents pay attention to the cultivation of children's morality, but do not know how to cultivate children's ability, or their ability is not very strong.

A negative emotion that arises from the human heart, which makes the heart extremely inflated. Vanity refers to superficial glory and false glory. It's a good thing that doesn't exist in itself.

It is a kind of pursuit of false appearance, and it is an abnormal social emotion that people show in order to obtain honor and attract universal attention. Vanity is a state of mind in human beings.