Is it true that as people grow up, they will drift away from their former friends?

Updated on psychology 2024-07-18
14 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-13

    Yes, especially when my classmates and friends grow up slowly, there will be more or less changes due to various reasons such as the environment, people and things encountered, and we are also changing, and there will be fewer and fewer common topics, and sometimes I feel that there are a lot of things I want to say to my former friends, but after we really meet, there will be nothing to say.

    I remember when I used to go to school, there were three very good friends, and then I came out to work and they went their separate ways, usually I miss them very much, and I look forward to meeting every day, but I don't know what to say when I meet during the Spring Festival, hey, that feeling is really, it's better to think about it every day, at least there is someone to worry about.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-12

    No more, no less. Because people grow up, in fact, their ideas and everything will be different from before, and there may have been common topics before, but now it is not necessarily.

    Also, distance is an obstacle. Although a strong friendship will not be afraid of this thing, his influence cannot be ruled out.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-11

    No, no matter how long it takes and how far apart the friends in the heart will always remember, they will still be good friends as soon as they meet, and they will not feel alienated!

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-10

    I'm going through this process right now.

    Friends, classmates, and after getting married and having children, they slowly got in touch less.

    In addition, the places where we live and work are different, the environment is different, and the thoughts are slowly different, so there is a lot less common language.

    But people always have one or two good friends, like I have a friend I met in elementary school, I haven't seen him for ten years, and now I have a connection, and the relationship is as good as if we have never separated.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-09

    Good friends don't stay distant because of the length of time.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-08

    It's normal, because you have a career, so you have to stay away. Forced to be helpless!

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    Well, that's right.

    I used to change my mobile phone number in order to help my former friends break off. b Khan.

    Now I want to get in touch, but I find that I have forgotten their mobile phone number.

  8. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    When I grew up, I grew up and my former friends are now drifting apart, mainly because of the lack of intersection between work and life, as well as differences in ideas.

    Some of the reasons why you are drifting away from your former friends may be due to distance. Because the two are separated from each other, there is a lack of intersection between each other's work and life, and the friendship slowly fades. When I was in graduate school before, I had a classmate and friend, and we talked about everything, and we had similar temperaments and hobbies.

    We often talk about life and ideals together. But after graduation, because of the distance of thousands of miles, there was interaction at first, but now there is very little.

    In addition, there are some childhood friends who have different growth paths from study and work, especially after participating in work and entering society, each other's life philosophy and hobbies are very different, and the two sides increasingly lack a common language and cannot integrate into each other's circle, so they are gradually drifting apart.

    Of course, there are also problems that arise because of mutual contradictions, and they drift away without repair. In addition, there are some who are busy with work and the fast pace of society, so they don't have time to maintain friendships between them.

    That's my opinion, I hope it helps you. I wish you all the best and a happy life.

  9. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    After growing up, the reason why I am drifting away from my former friends, I personally think that the most important thing is that after growing up, I stepped into the job, and more time and energy were spent on work, therefore, I had less and less contact with my former friends, and after the career was stable, I often entered the palace of marriage, had my own family, and spent more time and energy on my own family, especially in the education and training of my children, which consumed a lot of my time and energy, naturally, he gradually drifted away from his former friends. Of course, in addition to these factors, when we and our former friends are not much different in work and career, it will also make us lack more and more common topics with each other, and there will be certain differences in each other's views and opinions on the same thing, and even disputes will arise about this, and naturally the friendship between each other will no longer be as deep as before, because real friends should be based on like-mindedness, when there is a disagreement between their life goals and their friends, thenIt is difficult for such a friendship to continue to be maintained, but nevertheless, we should still learn to cherish the friendship between our former friends, communicate as much as possible, learn to respect each other, and empathize, so that we can maintain the friendship between our former friends as much as possible, after all, such friendship is hard-won and worthy of our care.

  10. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    When you grow up, you will definitely drift away from your former friends, because everyone has their own family, and everyone has their own life. Therefore, the relationship with former friends will gradually decrease, and the relationship will gradually drift apart. In the dead of night, I always want to find a tranquility, find a space to be alone, and then let my thoughts drift with the wind, and escape for a while in the tranquility of cranky thoughts.

    When the soul can't bear the load of life, it can only send a signal to the sky that it is tired, too tired, and this feeling of tiredness is not something that ordinary people can imagine. Every day I want to find peace in my soul, however, it is really difficult.

    There is nothing in the world, and mediocrity disturbs itself. Maybe I'm just a philistine. Why look for tranquility in anything?

    In fact, I want to hope for peace, in this extraordinary and bad day this year. I reflected and reflected. Most of the time I don't understand what I'm doing.

    Kind of life. Kind of always tugging at people's minds on certain days. When it comes to the tranquility of seeking, everyone expects to have this moment.

    For me, it may feel a little heavier in moments of solitude, but it's not absolute. Sometimes, although people are in a noisy and noisy environment, but the heart has already flown to the realm of not knowing what kind of, I often smile on my face, and I have seen through all the complicated things in my inner constancy. People sometimes pretend to be a master of the world, but in fact, it is not the case, and the appearance of all this is also due to countless times of crawling, and then the end of reflection.

    There is no real excitement of benefits, no real heartfelt reverence for life and nature, no gratitude and appreciation for life and the world, no kind and transparent understanding, no kind and susceptible heart, no final awakening, and no natural tranquility and detachment. In many cases, the motivation to seek tranquility is far greater than the force caused by all external things, and it may also be a process of excellence in the pursuit of tranquility for each individual. Why is that?

    I asked myself with a smile. For a person who is truly integrated into life, will sigh at the wonder of the creation of the world. The heartfelt reverence and concern for life and nature is a kind of sincere gratitude and admiration.

  11. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    When I was a child, I had a lot of good friends and friends, but when I grew up, I gradually drifted away from my former friends, mainly for the following reasons.

    One. I don't understand the world, I can't do things, and I offended my best friend.

    I was very poor for a period of time, so I could only borrow money from my best friend, and I borrowed the money, but I couldn't pay it back for a long time, and my friend was very angry. Later, I finally saved enough money, and when I saw that my friend was busy, I gave the money to my friend's wife, and my friend was very angry when he found out, and he never had anything to ......do with himself again

    Two. As I grew older, my good friends all went out to work, or worked, and the distance was too far, and I could only contact them occasionally during the Chinese New Year, and slowly drifted away, and I didn't even want to contact them anymore.

    Three. Many of my friends had a very good time when they were young, but they were very busy when they grew up, and they slowly became less contacted, and they became unfamiliar.

    Without communication, without the exchange of interests, he is of no use to others, and he is gradually distancing himself from his former good friends.

    Four. When I grew up, I and my former good friends were in different circles, even if I had time to drink tea together, I couldn't talk together, my thoughts and daily life were too different, I felt very strange, and slowly drifted away.

    Five. As I grew older, my mentality also changed dramatically, and I was reluctant to make too many friends, feeling very annoyed and tired. For those friends who drink and meat, I feel that I am wasting my time and energy, so I am drifting away from many of my former good friends.

    Six. When I grow up, my interests and hobbies have changed too much, I don't have common preferences, and I don't have much intersection in life, and I feel bored when I get along together, and sometimes I even feel particularly tired.

    A person's life is very long, no matter how good a friend is, he can only accompany you for a period of time, make new friends, and don't forget old friends, this is what everyone should do.

  12. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    The reason why I grew up and drifted away from my former friends.

    Because, when you grow up, you will spend less time together, and if you don't have a common topic, you will drift apart.

    On the other hand, because each other's pursuits are different, we are all working in various directions, and there is no meeting point between the two, so the former good friends will become strangers.

  13. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    There are three reasons for this:

    The most direct reason is that the distance is too far to see each other often. No matter how good the relationship is, as long as you don't see each other for a long time, even if you keep in touch through the Internet, at most, you will be slowly estranged.

    The best way to maintain a relationship is to find time to meet and have a chat at least once a year, no matter how busy you are. Otherwise, it's a friend, and it will slowly disappear.

    The second important factor is the environment and income, when you go to school, everyone is in the same environment, which is not very much, but when you go to school, work, go abroad, etc., the difference between the environment between the two sides is getting bigger and bigger. Especially after a very big change in income, when chatting, you will find that the concerns of both parties will be completely different, and you will start to find a common language, and then you will find that the values start to conflict.

    Chatting and chatting, a person slowly disappeared. For example, when we were in school, we always played games together, and the topic of conversation always revolved around games. When a person is at work, he will find that he is getting busier and busier or getting married, and he has no time to play, and sometimes he doesn't know what to talk about.

    The income of two people is particularly large, and it is particularly obvious that an ordinary income has to work hard every month to live, and every penny is considering the cost performance. The other is in the Internet and financial companies, hundreds of thousands or millions a year, and it is hard to have a little time, buy good or use money to save time. These two kinds of people can talk and chat, and then they will slowly disappear.

    Not to mention, the family conditions are good, and ordinary people are the same.

    Hope mine is helpful to you!

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    Many people will have this feeling, and the friends who grew up together gradually drifted apart, and even became disconnected from each other in the end. Why is this so? Obviously, when we were young, we were very good, and we even talked about everything.

    How come people change when they grow up, and there is nothing to say about being together?

    In fact, this phenomenon is very normal, because when I was a child, there were very few interests involved, and they just played together, so there was no fundamental conflict at all. In addition, people have different experiences in the process of growing up, and there is nothing in common in the future, so naturally there is nothing to say.

    1. When I was a child, the relationship was very simple, but when I grew up, the relationship involving my own interests faded.

    The most valuable thing in the interaction between children is just a little food and play, they don't care about these things, and parents don't care about it. Therefore, children can generally reconcile quickly if they have a little conflict. But when you grow up, it's different, no matter how close your friends are, once it comes to money, it will soon be conflicting.

    No matter how close the relationship is, it can't harm the interests of others, and if two people get along with each other if one person is more selfish, then it won't be long before the relationship has to be broken.

    Second, the growth experience and the things faced are different, and when I grow up, there are fewer and fewer common topics, so I am naturally estranged.

    While the starting point may be the same as when you are young, the process of growing up may not be the same. Everyone has their own unique life experience that cannot be replicated by others. Two people who have had a good relationship since childhood can't still be together after going to school and work, and there will be fewer and fewer common topics between each other after separation.

    In the end, these two people have nothing to say when they meet other than basic greetings, so what is the need to stay together.

    Your friend may be smarter than you and better mixed than you, then you will have low self-esteem in the face of him, and you will not even want to see him. And if he is not as smart as you and mixed well without you, then you can't help but have a sense of superiority in the face of him, which brings harm to him.

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